Adewale1603:

my question is what is the difference between sex and masturbation ? Why is masturbation dangerous as they claim and sex is not. In my own perspectives masturbation and sex are the same thing, it is the acts that is different, sex involves two people in the act while masturbation involves only one person in the act, one person stimulating himself or herself both masturbation and sex leads to the same thing, Orgasms. Every thing becomes bad when it becomes an excessive thing, an addiction that is now affecting you in your normal every day life, your academics, job, career, studies and progress

A few differences here and there. Sex involves sharing and responses while masturbation is a one way street, even if both are aimed at achieving same - orgasmic release.
The tissues of sex organs are soft, succulent and pliable but the tissues of the fingers are hard. When the sex organs get used to the hard, forceful pressure of the fingers or other tough
or mechanical objects like vibrators, they respond less to soft tissues and that causes a lot of problems during interpersonal sex like weakly stimulated sex organs and lack of orgasm leading up to prolonged, unfulfilling sex and loss of interest mid-action during interpersonal sex. Reason why seasoned masturbateurs run from interpersonal sex, romance and partners in general.
Aside that, to masturbate, most people needs mental stimulation. Porn tend to fill the void most times but there is always an underlying paraphiliac ( unusual sexual stimuli preference) tendency. Sooner or later, this trait will manifest, bringing shame. Frottage, voyeurism, exhibitionism, pedophilia etc.are only a few of such paraphilia.
All in all, controlled, moderate masturbation is never a problem. In fact, its as healthy as donating blood once in a while. However, when it becomes obsessive, compulsive and the exclusive way of achieving sexual satisfaction, it becomes a problem. Plus, stereotypical and outdated outlook towards masturbation from religious, moral and cultural point can generate a huge mental downside like guilt, claims of health problems, feeling of ungodliness, feeling of supernatural influence etc.

Masturbation alone is okay according to science. But masturbation coupled with porn is a very good combo to Bleep up your life. And it's very hard to masturbate to fantasies in your head. You'll wanna explore. So you enter your fave porn site and watch countless videos before jerking off to the right one. This bleeps up your brain. Your brain is constantly releasing dopamine. As in very much. After releasing, your dopamine levels drop more than normal and you need to watch more porn videos and masturbate more than usual. That's why porn addicts experience anhedonia, loss of interest in what they used to do eg talking to people, exercising, reading etc.

It really messes you up.

Meanwhile sex is natural and a present moment thing. During sex, you're present with your partner(s), you can't just click to another video during sex thereby causing dopamine spike. Sex is natural. PMO isn't. Well motisoroju

Adewale1603:

my question is what is the difference between sex and masturbation ? Why is masturbation dangerous as they claim and sex is not. In my own perspectives masturbation and sex are the same thing, it is the acts that is different, sex involves two people in the act while masturbation involves only one person in the act, one person stimulating himself or herself both masturbation and sex leads to the same thing, Orgasms. Every thing becomes bad when it becomes an excessive thing, an addiction that is now affecting you in your normal every day life, your academics, job, career, studies and progress

Am fed up with threads as this giving people the platform to post garbage comment about how masturbation is a sin, has ruined their life bla bla.... It's getting boring, silly and irritating.

As far as I am concerned its a healthy practice with no known side effects. However, if anyone disagree then they should cite any scientific evidence to support their argument.

Talentuex:
So we have move move from


Transsion vs Xiaomi

To

Masturbation now

Every thread now Na so so masturbation

My brother i tired for nairalanders oh!

Parablesonmarble:


A few differences here and there. Sex involves sharing and responses while masturbation is a one way street, even if both are aimed at achieving same - orgasmic release.
The tissues of sex organs are soft, succulent and pliable but the tissues of the fingers are hard. When the sex organs get used to the hard, forceful pressure of the fingers or other tough
or mechanical objects like vibrators, they respond less to soft tissues and that causes a lot of problems during interpersonal sex like weakly stimulated sex organs and lack of orgasm leading up to prolonged, unfulfilling sex and loss of interest mid-action during interpersonal sex. Reason why seasoned masturbateurs run from interpersonal sex, romance and partners in general.
Aside that, to masturbate, most people needs mental stimulation. Porn tend to fill the void most times but there is always an underlying paraphiliac ( unusual sexual stimuli preference) tendency. Sooner or later, this trait will manifest, bringing shame. Frottage, voyeurism, exhibitionism, pedophilia etc.are only a few of such paraphilia.
All in all, controlled, moderate masturbation is never a problem. In fact, its as healthy as donating blood once in a while. However, when it becomes obsessive, compulsive and the exclusive way of achieving sexual satisfaction, it becomes a problem. Plus, stereotypical and outdated outlook towards masturbation from religious, moral and cultural point can generate a huge mental downside like guilt, claims of health problems, feeling of ungodliness, feeling of supernatural influence etc.

Do you know that some married couples do masturbate And help each other masturbate before having sex, pre-intimacy is also a form of masturbation. Masturbation helps you understand your body psychology better, what turns you on, what that can arouse you and your partner leading into a fulfilled sex, satisfying your partner. not a 40seconds man because you will be able to control your ejaculation as when you like. You will be able to help your partner reach orgasms

Firstandonly:
am yet to hear of a woman complaining on how masturbating have destroy her life or how she can't enjoy sex because of it and how masturbating makes her loose her confidence in public. it's that the bad affect of masturbating doesn't affect women?

first of all ladies don't like admitting they Masturbate or watch porn how do you expect them to talk about it destroying their sex life? secondly Ladies have destroyed their kitten that it takes alot of hard work to satisfy most of them how can I Bleep a lady for 10 minutes and she'll say she's not satisfied? that's all I can do take it ir leave it your fcking cunt is broken! besides It shouldn't be more than 5 minutes but I have to Push the limits to make her feel it.

Adewale1603:
Do you know that some married couples do masturbate And help each other masturbate before having sex, pre-intimacy is also a form of masturbation. Masturbation helps you understand your body psychology better, what turns you on, what that can arouse you and your partner leading into a fulfilled sex, satisfying your partner. not a 40seconds man because you will be able to control your ejaculation as when you like. You will be able to help your partner reach orgasms

Yes, mutual masturbation is more commonplace than reported. Couples, married and unmarried, do that all the time. And yes, it gives more control but after exploration for first few years of sex life, an individual has a fair idea of what he wants sexually. It does not change the idea that mental stimulation is just as important as physical stimulation in sexuality. As a matter of fact they reinforce each other. Its the mental part that is a big deal to some people and not the physical part.
Some believes that mutual masturbation, as healthy as it seem, can be a precursor to open relationships, swinging, dogging and cuckoldry in adventurous couples, all which may not be exactly healthy for relationships in the long run. I guess Will Smith can attest to that with the recent Jada Pinkett- Smith's 'Entanglement Saga'.
My argument is not that masturbation is bad in its entirety. I absolutely agree with you that its a mean to an end and that the end justifies the mean. I only buttressed your point that anything done in the extreme may not turn out good.

Parablesonmarble:


Yes, mutual masturbation is more commonplace than reported. Couples, married and unmarried, do that all the time. And yes, it gives more control but after exploration for first few years of sex life, an individual has a fair idea of what he wants sexually. It does not change the idea that mental stimulation is just as important as physical stimulation in sexuality. As a matter of fact they reinforce each other. Its the mental part that is a big deal to some people and not the physical part.
Some believes that mutual masturbation, as healthy as it seem, can be a precursor to open relationships, swinging, dogging and cuckoldry in adventurous couples, all which may not be exactly healthy for relationships in the long run. I guess Will Smith can attest to that with the recent Jada Pinkett- Smith's 'Entanglement Saga'.
My argument is not that masturbation is bad in its entirety. I absolutely agree with you that its a mean to an end and that the end justifies the mean. I only buttressed your point that anything done in the extreme may not turn out good.

Yes

vanida6:
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Kabir5643:
Masturbation alone is okay according to science. But masturbation coupled with porn is a very good combo to Bleep up your life. And it's very hard to masturbate to fantasies in your head. You'll wanna explore. So you enter your fave porn site and watch countless videos before jerking off to the right one. This bleeps up your brain. Your brain is constantly releasing dopamine. As in very much. After releasing, your dopamine levels drop more than normal and you need to watch more porn videos and masturbate more than usual. That's why porn addicts experience anhedonia, loss of interest in what they used to do eg talking to people, exercising, reading etc.

It really messes you up.

Meanwhile sex is natural and a present moment thing. During sex, you're present with your partner(s), you can't just click to another video during sex thereby causing dopamine spike. Sex is natural. PMO isn't. Well motisoroju

There are masturbation and there are masturbation, we only tends to generalise it, masturbation means different thing to different people. There are people who do masturbate and there are people who are addicted to masturbation, the former are the normal people in the society while the latter are the one creating threads on nairaland about masturbation and sharing their testimony, are the one who needs help. There is difference between masturbation and addicted masturbation.

Westernlove:


Lol lefu you have time, When most Nigerian males open their useless mouth and start talking. You think It's a normal human being with stable faculty of reasoning Is talking?? lol. 80% of Nigerian males are supposed to be Incarcerated or returned back to Sugar Cane farm and factories. They are the lowest of the lowest of male beings In the Universe. Very useless people.....

haba wetin naija guys do u nah

lefulefu:
haba wetin naija guys do u nah

Lol Naija has gone to the dust honestly, Mesef no understand the males of this Shiithole again. The way they reason these days no be here. Poverty and frustration don eat their brain finish.......In a sane country, Should a graduate be collecting 30k for a whole 30days If no be say them don mad finish.......All of them dey here dey shout No Fapping lol, Them no Tackle where their realest problem originated from......

Firstandonly:
am yet to hear of a woman complaining on how masturbating have destroy her life or how she can't enjoy sex because of it and how masturbating makes her loose her confidence in public. it's that the bad affect of masturbating doesn't affect women?

bkos they don't have sperm...your semen is life and when you waste it,you testosterone level decreases which makes you look or feel less masculine..

Westernlove:


Lol Naija has gone to the dust honestly, Mesef no understand the males of this Shiithole again. The way they reason these days no be here. Poverty and frustration don eat their brain finish.......In a sane country, Should a graduate be collecting 30k for a whole 30days If no be say them don mad finish.......All of them dey here dey shout No Fapping lol, Them no Tackle where their realest problem originated from......

so u kinder saying na frustration dey make some of these guys to dey addicted to fapping ..hmm seems u have a point

Asekhamid:

bkos they don't have sperm...your semen is life and when you waste it,you testosterone level decreases which makes you look or feel less masculine..

but the semen can get replenished nau if ur diet is ok.if fapping can make u lost ur testoterone so we will safely assume that sex can also make u lose ur testoterone abi? u guys arent even talking about certain things we do that really reduce our testoterone like taking excess alcohol and living a sedentary lives or being overweight as a man.These habits are even sure testoterone killers than even the fapping u talking about.Many naija guys drink to excess and maybe this could be reason their testoterone is reducing not masturbating.Guy even if u dont masturbate and u dont do sex but u drink alchohol a lot and ur lifestyle is too sedentary for comfort ol boy u will still have a very low testoterone and a very high oestrogene level.

witnezHD:
My brother i tired for nairalanders oh!

braine:
It actually affects them, but they probably dont know it.

Some women won't have sex with you until you have some level of stimulation/masturbation with or without the man's help.

I really dont think they suffer memory loss as badly as men do, they have too much memory to lose any.

They experience the fatigue too but they generally dont feel it like men who actually need that energy to drive their daily activities.

I noticed this to bro.....sadly I'm so chronic

Does the memory loss get more better if you stop masturbating

BigJoe19:
Masturbation doesn't affect anyone, only stupidity affects when you believe masturbation is a bad act then your mind won't be at rest

I think it does. I am just realizing that it leads to memory loss.
I remember studying the whole pack for an exam, but keep mixing up some formulas. Mind you, on a normal, I am a very intelligent student.
I remember writing the exams, saw same questions I practiced earlier, but still mixed the answers somehow. I knew my memory was failing me but I never knew this is the reason

Oghenerobo2002:

I think it does. I am just realizing that it leads to memory loss.
I remember studying the whole pack for an exam, but keep mixing up some formulas. Mind you, on a normal, I am a very intelligent student.
I remember writing the exams, saw same questions I practiced earlier, but still mixed the answers somehow. I knew my memory was failing me but I never knew this is the reason

It is not masturbation that caused it, stop blaming masturbation.