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Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by richfriendsng: 10:36am On Jul 21, 2020 |
This is why I hate religion. Very hypocritical set of delusional adherents. Op your parents has done their part by bringing you into this world, you don't expect them to make decisions for you throughout your life time. If they make the wrong one, you live by it when they are gone, so you see, you suffer for it. Mary whomever you heart desires, we were once humans before race, religion and other affiliations divided us. Mary that lady, nobody should deter you from that decision. Let me tell you, by the time you realize that in this world, you are on your own, the better for you, not even your parents can root for you when death comes knocking. 1 Like |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by Mirror97: 10:37am On Jul 21, 2020 |
I'm surprised when Christians say they can't marry a particular tribe. What happen to the body of Christ we belong to? We really don't love ourselves. OP fight for what you want you only have yourself after they are gone. 1 Like |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by bigpicture001: 10:44am On Jul 21, 2020 |
missawele: You only survived a peaceful not divisive home cus your dad is igbo...... If the man were to b yoruba.. Ur mum for done run as all her tribes people will continually yab the man(kinsman) till he eider marries another or dumps ur mum... For me in the subject matter.. The OP, shldt hate his parents they take caution from experiences, but if I were his dad I will allow him only because the said lady is coming to my house and not the other way round 1 Like |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by spymaster(m): 10:51am On Jul 21, 2020 |
You just have to convinced them. I married from another tribe and I have to say it was one of the best decision in my life. My in-laws are great. My mother inlaw was skeptical at first. She even cried on the traditional marriage day saying we might treat her daughter like "Omo Igbo". However the wedding has been so splendid. The two families is getting along. Since you all attend the same church, talk to your Pastor or Area Pastor who will then call your parents to talk to them. I know that they being Deacon and Deaconess in RCCG, they wouldn't want to be labelled tribalist in the church. Except they have a valid physical or spiritual reason why you shouldn't get married to a Yoruba lady 3 Likes |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by superemmy(m): 11:22am On Jul 21, 2020 |
spymaster: Thanks. It almost felt like I was the only person in this type of situation 1 Like |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by Kobicove(m): 11:29am On Jul 21, 2020 |
superemmy: Emeka! Emeka!! Emeka!!! I have called you 3 times...what an elder sees while sitting down a child will not see even if he climbs the tallest tree around! 1 Like |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by gnykelly(m): 11:45am On Jul 21, 2020 |
same reasons Peter of p square was hated in his family. why do Ibo people don't like their people getting married to other tribe. how do we acculturate 3 Likes |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by BeLookingIDIOT(m): 12:02pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
What if she was a Yoruba Muslim |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by Emmanuelcann: 12:45pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
superemmy:If you're a Christian, prayer is your recourse, and if it's meant to be, it will be. |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by ImaIma1(f): 12:50pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Phenom10101: People also think the same of igbo women. And also that they are rude, materialistic and wicked. There's really no winning in this tribal wars. Everyone has their flaws and good sides individually. 2 Likes |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by ImaIma1(f): 12:56pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
We have to learn to love each other beyond our tribes. And parents need to free their children from their own bias. There's nothing wrong with marrying from another tribe. My bro married a Yoruba lady and it's over 12 years. My sis married Hausa. My parents were liberal people especially my mum who wasn't as educated as many mothers who limit their children. Please you need to fight this. Tribe should not be their basis for refusal. It is not enough. 4 Likes |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by danduchi(m): 1:04pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
OP, report your parents to Pastor. Adeboye 1 Like |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by drnoel: 1:13pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
superemmy: Stay strong bro. If u are sure that the lady in question is the one then let no person, family, friends or parents convince u otherwise. Stay strong. I am also of Igbo descent from my father's side and my mom is of Yoruba descent. I married a deltan. One would have thought that with my parents being of two different cultural heritage they would have been more understanding. But no. My parents fought me all the way especially my mom who had personally handpicked wives for my eldest two brothers from her horde of friends. I was even told the lady I was to marry had been handpicked over 3 years ago to the date of that incident. ofcos my dad supported her with how wayward deltans are and how they don't keep family or stay in their husbands home. I ignored them. I even got threats of disowning me forever. I ignored them. My dad slowly came around after a longtime. We had a heart to heart conversation. I told him my mind. He listened and gave me my way after about 2 years. My mom turned around after seeing my dad had changed his mind. OP I suggest u speak to ur parents separately. Take ur old man out and speak with him heart to heart. Attempt the lady in question meeting ur dad without ur mom ofcos after u are sure u have softened him. Make sure u show u ain't budging from ur position. Parents would usually give in after a few years. Mine took 2 years altogether from when I told them my intention. Ofcos not counting from when they knew I was involved with her. On the other hand, a colleague of mine from rivers had to wait 12 good years to marry her heartthrob, an igala man. Parents can be dense. 1 Like |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by Edyice: 1:22pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Papa and Mama from nowhere will just be frustrating persons decision .. I don't understand Which kind WAHALA be this 1 Like
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Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by Nobody: 1:33pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
who does inter-tribal marriage this days. OP better listen to your people, as elders will say "what an elder see while sitting down, even if a child climb the tallest of all iroko tree, he/she cannot see it. A marriage that your people don't agree to, you wan carry person Pekin go suffer all in the name of love.Ask your self, apart from business transaction that go on between Yoruba and igbo, how does the two cultures relate. |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by Nobody: 1:42pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
most nigerians who are deeply religious are even amongst the highest hardcore tribalists but then i bet this ur same parents wont raise an eyebrow if na white girl u bring cos chances of getting dollar or moving to yankee or europe 1 Like |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by Nobody: 1:43pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
chatinent:only one good thing i respect about jehovah wintnesses |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by womenareapes: 2:28pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
superemmy:your family are wise whereby you are not . that Y tribe got a lot of issues especially there women. very dirty unproductive sexually immorality very useless self entitlement mentality. and also very very dirty. your family are seriously trying to protect you from that bitchh but cheap dirty sex has covered your brain |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by Nobody: 2:38pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Simply put, your parents are impostors who don't represent any part of Christ's body.. They use it as a cover up without knowing that Jesus Christ will use the light and power of God's love through inter-tribal and inter-racial liberty to expose their hate-filled and other dark spots in their lives. They are serving two masters i.e God of heaven and god of tradition, but they are fanatically loyal to the one they love most (tradition). Op, splash this profound truth right before their eyes and God shall abase them! God is no respecter of any parents who don't admonish themselves in the way of the Lord, rather than way of hellish tradition. Op, God can use any person or thing to expose the fake followers who are only interest in what He can do for them. God is using you to expose your parents! "He cause you both to will and do His good pleasure.~ Jesus Christ" Please God, not your parents, its your own cross which your parents can't account for. My advice is don't be rude to them but be static and rigid.. 1 Like |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by superemmy(m): 2:42pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
womenareapes: My girl is the exact opposite of all the points you listed above She's neat Very productive, hates idleness Not sexually loose. I met her a confirmed V. Very useful Not self entitled Very neat Why judge all people same brother? Why? 3 Likes |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by womenareapes: 3:08pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
superemmy:that's the one she wanted you to see. marry that biitch and see her true colour women are the real definition of shake |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by ChiChilolo(f): 3:14pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
womenareapes: Nna that's too harsh |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by BlackfireX: 3:17pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Op I am a a.combination of Yoruba and Igbo , and I live and love it ... Now you have to convince your parents not confront them They trust you, but not your girl, it is left for you and your soon wife to prove it to them Yes they will hate her now, but in the future they will be best of friends. Seriake Dickson former govnor of bayelsea state grand mother 'bola' was from ijebu ode ... Let's make love not war |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by OnyeMmeri: 3:35pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
chatinent: Lies. Jehovah's witnesses discriminate a lot, they can only marry their members. |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by OnyeMmeri: 3:40pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
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Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by Adeife05(m): 3:44pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Op Good afternoon, THIS LIFE NO BALANCE AT ALL, But sha let me teach you one scope, since ur mother has accepted the fact that ur girlfriend is pregnant, if you truly love ur babe and you see that she is worth the fight, just kukuma give her belle true true by the time she born the first one, born the second one , even born the third one , Them no go get choice, na them go give up up las las. Na so you go just end up marrying ur babe Ooo. 2 Likes |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by Mr2wealth: 4:06pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Phenom10101: That is why other tribes or people cannot marry women from your tribe. They are worst than the adjectives you used in describing the Yorubas! Your jingoistic attitude will put you in trouble one day. If you cannot marry them, short up! Don't discourage other people or tribes from marrying them. After all, one man's meat is another's poison. 1 Like |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by chatinent: 4:59pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
OnyeMmeri:Yes we only marry our members. How will you justify the OP's case: both families are Redeem! |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by womenareapes: 5:00pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Phenom10101:this revelation is only for the wise! |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by Torie8(f): 5:03pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
superemmy:A marriage where either of the family is against it will not last. Listen to your parents |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by OnyeMmeri: 5:06pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
chatinent: I quoted you cos you implied in your earlier comment that JWs don't discriminate. But you guys shun people from other religions or Christian denominations when it comes to marriage. And the OP's parents discriminate based on ethnic differences. Discrimination is discrimination in whatever guise; whether religious, ethnic, etc. |
Re: My Family is Tribally Prejudiced Towards the Lady I Want To Marry. Please Help by chatinent: 5:09pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
OnyeMmeri:We believe the bible as God's authority and marry only people who share our beliefs. It's called obedience. But one thing is certain, we love our neighbours, even those who don't share our beliefs (that's why we come knocking on your door whether come sun or rain). |
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