Please I need advice and also bashing because I want to make a decision of a lifetime.
I am in love with a girl who adore me in every sense of words
She is working while am still in school.So basically it's just true love.
Yesterday we had a conversation,I told her we have an age long tradition in my place ( Akwa Ibom State) If you cheat in your husband house, either you die, or your husband die or your kids.
She wasn't comfortable with it at all.
Her reason is because it only affects women not men.
Should we continue in this relationship or go our separate ways?
She suggested blood covenant that will also kill me if I also cheat.
Please I need advice.
Please note: I don't believe in anything diabolic or some tradition that regards women as slave but I know marriage unfaithfulness has consequence in my place.

Sirjames001:
Please I need advice and also bashing because I want to make a decision of a lifetime.
I am in love with a girl who adore me in every sense of words
She is working while am still in school.So basically it's just true love.
Yesterday we had a conversation,I told her we have an age long tradition in my place ( Akwa Ibom State) If you cheat in your husband house, either you die, or your husband die or your kids.
She wasn't comfortable with it at all.
Her reason is because it only affects women not men.
Should we continue in this relationship or go our separate ways?
She suggested blood covenant that will also kill me if I also cheat.
Please I need advice.
Please note: I don't believe in anything diabolic or some tradition that regards women as slave but I know marriage unfaithfulness has consequence in my place.

. She is putting the relationship on hold, until she make up her mind if to go ahead with me or leave.
I will accept any of her decision though I love her but what is important to me now is self development. I believe love come when a man is ok.

Why only women??
I just don't fancy 98% of some traditions here.

Sirjames001:
. She is putting the relationship on hold, until she make up her mind if to go ahead with me or leave.
I will accept any of her decision though I love her but what is important to me now is self development. I believe love come when a man is ok.

I'd run and never look back if I were her!
What manner of diabolism!
Age long tradition y'all's black asses!

it is fear used to prevent women from cheating in those days. it foes not work

Sirjames001:
Please I need advice and also bashing because I want to make a decision of a lifetime.
I am in love with a girl who adore me in every sense of words
She is working while am still in school.So basically it's just true love.
Yesterday we had a conversation,I told her we have an age long tradition in my place ( Akwa Ibom State) If you cheat in your husband house, either you die, or your husband die or your kids.
She wasn't comfortable with it at all.
Her reason is because it only affects women not men.
Should we continue in this relationship or go our separate ways?
She suggested blood covenant that will also kill me if I also cheat.
Please I need advice.
Please note: I don't believe in anything diabolic or some tradition that regards women as slave but I know marriage unfaithfulness has consequence in my place.

I believe she is trying to tell you that she wants to be an EQUAL partner in your marriage relationship.

Since you have your 'age old tradition' which is one-sided, her blood oath suggestion is meant to even the playing field so she is not left out in the cold, tradition-wise, should you two choose to agree to move forward in the relationship.
Your woman is wise there...

.

The same Akwa Ibom I know? And all the married women in that state are not yet dead?

Yes! I mean what I'm implying!

annex1:
The same Akwa Ibom I know? And everyone in the state is not yet dead?

Yes! I mean what I'm implying!

yes it exists but it depends on the part of Akwa Ibom

NerdyRudeGyal:
If your story is true, then her suggestion is only fair.

. I don't believe in those tradition but but suggestions doesn't sit well with me

Kobojunkie:
I believe she is trying to tell you that she wants to be an EQUAL partner in your marriage relationship.

Since you have your 'age old tradition' which is one-sided, her blood oath suggestion is meant to even the playing field so she is not left out in the cold, tradition-wise, should you two choose to agree to move forward in the relationship.
Your woman is wise there...

. I believe in equity so I don't see reasons why she is panic

mumumugu:
it is fear used to prevent women from cheating in those days. it foes not work

. It does work believe me

mariahAngel:


I'd run and never look back if I were her!
What manner of diabolism!
Age long tradition y'all's black asses!

. If you don't plan to be unfaithful in your marriage, then no cause for concern

StacyO:
Why only women??

I just don't fancy 98% of some traditions here.

. I am not in support of it but it is what it is.

Sirjames001:
. If you don't plan to be unfaithful in your marriage, then no cause for concern

Abeg!
No be the same Akwa Ibom wey dey throway children say dem be winch?
Very diabolical set of humans.

mariahAngel:


Abeg!
No be the same Akwa Ibom wey dey throway children say dem be winch?
Very diabolical set of humans.

. Not everyone. Stop the stereotype.

Sirjames001:
. I believe in equity so I don't see reasons why she is panic

This can be twisted right back at you:

If you believe in 'equity', do the blood oath while she does your traditional stuff.

EOD.

.

Sirjames001:
Please I need advice and also bashing because I want to make a decision of a lifetime.
I am in love with a girl who adore me in every sense of words
She is working while am still in school.So basically it's just true love.
Yesterday we had a conversation,I told her we have an age long tradition in my place ( Akwa Ibom State) If you cheat in your husband house, either you die, or your husband die or your kids.
She wasn't comfortable with it at all.
Her reason is because it only affects women not men.
Should we continue in this relationship or go our separate ways?
She suggested blood covenant that will also kill me if I also cheat.
Please I need advice.
Please note: I don't believe in anything diabolic or some tradition that regards women as slave but I know marriage unfaithfulness has consequence in my place.

You want her to know the consequences of being in an unfaithful marriage, in other words, you want her to be faithful, good

She wants a blood oat from you so that you too will be faithful to her and you are scared of it, good

My question is, within you, are you ready to remain faithful with just only her in your marriage?

If you are ready, take the oat with her and she will keep by the tradition of your people

If you know you can't help it, just let her go and get a woman from your town who understands the tradition while you have your freedom to cheat as a man

StacyO:
Why only women??

I just don't fancy 98% of some traditions here.

In the olden days, men made somany traditions to put women under their control and dictates, which made married women to be under their authorities

Men knows that they will always cheat and don't want any man to cheat on their wives, simply because they don't trust their fellow men

Now, all those things are fading away.

Children of this generation are born and raised outside their village culture and traditions and doesn't understand why all those silly traditions on women should hold in the first place

Men on the other side are not really faithful to the traditions their fore fathers set because it comes with some rules and they are not really ready to keep the rules

So it's a two way action

frozen70:


You want her to know the consequences of being in an unfaithful marriage, in other words, you want her to be faithful, good

She wants a blood oat from you so that you too will be faithful to her and you are scared of it, good

My question is, within you, are you ready to remain faithful with just only her in your marriage?

If you are ready, take the oat with her and she will kerp by the tradition of your people

If you know you can't help it, just let her go and get a woman from your town who understands the tradition while you have your freedom to cheat as a man

. If I have to go under oath to prove my faithfulness and love then I don't have problem with it.

frozen70:


In the olden days, men made somany traditions to put women under their control and dictates, which made married women to be under their authorities

Men knows that they will always cheat and don't want any man to cheat on their wives, simply because they don't trust their fellow men

Now, all those things are fading away.

Children of this generation are born and raised outside their village culture and traditions and doesn't understand why all those silly traditions on women should hold in the first place

Men on the other side are not really faithful to the traditions their fore fathers set because it comes with some rules and they are not really ready to keep the rules

So it's a two way action

you are right

Sirjames001:
you are right

Thanks

Kobojunkie:
I believe she is trying to tell you that she wants to be an EQUAL partner in your marriage relationship.

Since you have your 'age old tradition' which is one-sided, her blood oath suggestion is meant to even the playing field so she is not left out in the cold, tradition-wise, should you two choose to agree to move forward in the relationship.
Your woman is wise there...

. I am not against taking oath with her but 1 to a learned mind, it doesn't make sense
2: what if I don't meet up with financial obligation in time?

Sirjames001:
. I am not against taking oath with her but 1 to a learned mind, it doesn't make sense

Last, I checked, the female species in Nigeria are still regarded as sub-humans in Nigeria, so what I see that she did is try to 'secure' her future should you later change your mind about your 'age-old' tradition. I have heard enough stories of Nigerians going back on their claims in the name of tradition myself, so I believe that taking the oath to reassure her or you could sign an affidavit of sorts to disavow every traditional and cultural idea that creates inequality between your person and your wife. But yeah, I think your wife to be is wise on this one.

Sirjames001:
2: what if I don't meet up with financial obligation in time?

What financial obligation? You mean to marry her? Have you two considered registry marriage at all?

Sirjames001:
. I believe in equity so I don't see reasons why she is panic

Then you should open your eyes. Do you know that a majority of your Nigerian men believe in equality but they will never sign to have it made law?

All hogwash. Juju is 98% based on fear. If it doesn't work as usual they will say the woman was ontop and confused the oracle. Nonsense

Kobojunkie:
Last, I checked, the female species in Nigeria are still regarded as sub-humans in Nigeria, so what I see that she did is try to 'secure' her future should you later change your mind about your 'age-old' tradition. I have heard enough stories of Nigerians going back on their claims in the name of tradition myself, so I believe that taking the oath to reassure her or you could sign an affidavit of sorts to disavow every traditional and cultural idea that creates inequality between your person and your wife. But yeah, I think your wife to be is wise on this one.
What financial obligation? You mean to marry her? Have you two considered registry marriage at all?

I must do traditional marriage before registry marriage if not her parents won't give consent

Kobojunkie:
Then you should open your eyes. Do you know that a majority of your Nigerian men believe in equality but they will never sign to have it made law?

. I think that has to do with fear of unknown. I am positive about life so I am not afraid of a lady having equal rights with me or some sort of equity

Kobojunkie:
Last, I checked, the female species in Nigeria are still regarded as sub-humans in Nigeria, so what I see that she did is try to 'secure' her future should you later change your mind about your 'age-old' tradition. I have heard enough stories of Nigerians going back on their claims in the name of tradition myself, so I believe that taking the oath to reassure her or you could sign an affidavit of sorts to disavow every traditional and cultural idea that creates inequality between your person and your wife. But yeah, I think your wife to be is wise on this one.
What financial obligation? You mean to marry her? Have you two considered registry marriage at all?

. This particular tradition works in my State

Sirjames001:
. This particular tradition works in my State

So? Then choose, will you continue to remain tied to that which you claim to be against?
You know that there is a psychological element to these ideas and beliefs we surround ourselves with. If you are against it, then cut yourself completely from it in all ways possible... distance your person and identity from it, not in what you say, but in deed.

Kobojunkie:
So? Then choose, will you continue to remain tied to that which you claim to be against?

. Even though I don't believe in it, I still can't change anything