Greetings, It's been a while.
Recently met a lady and having my mind fix on marrying her not more than this year, no time anymore. She claims she loves me but am not convinced because she sometimes uses disrespectful words on me like : 'this boy self', 'where is your sense', 'its not my duty to wash your clothes'. I have warned her against using such words as I never even bother to impose my house choirs on her. Even before meeting her I normally take my clothes for laundry and I don't cook, I eat out and my room is always clean cos I give the keys to my neighbor who's my friend to relax whenever he feels like, he's the landlord's brother. Every month I give her money for food and her personal stuff though she earns hers as well.
Am cool with her hard-working and neatness but she undermines me even though am the one providing for us.
Am just thinking what if am not capable that means she'll do worst right?
Though she's a little older but am not looking at that, I just want to settle down this year.
Thanks

Though she's a little older but am not looking at that, I just want to settle down this year


A likely cause...


don't rush pray about it and listen to God

Iamgrey5 your attention is needed here o

Run before it's too late, a woman that love you can't use those word , I'm telling you

Though she's a little older but am not looking at that, I just want to settle down this year

A likely cause...

don't rush pray about it and listen to God

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Palema007:
Iamgrey5 your attention is needed here o

This matter is heavy for me to Judge

Hmmmmmm


She talks to you that way because she is older than you na...


what I my even saying self.

Iamgrey5:
This matter is heavy for me to Judge

Lol help op out now, in anyway you can.

Collinsemegreat:
Though she's a little older but am not looking at that, I just want to settle down this year


A likely cause...


don't rush pray about it and listen to God

You be correct gee.. abeg manage this

Bennysam:
Run before it's too late, a woman that love you can't use those word , I'm telling you

Bad advice


women can play jokes at times and its left for you to either take it serious or take it as what it is.



marriage and tolerance is like 5 and 6


if can't learn to tolerate people then you are not yet ready for marriage.

Nobody is perfect everybody has flaws and errors you just have to pick what suits you.

Collinsemegreat:
Though she's a little older but am not looking at that, I just want to settle down this year


A likely cause...


don't rush pray about it and listen to God

Thanks

You wouldn't know what disrespect is even if it slaps you in the face. You're exaggerating and seeing what is not there. This is a case of you having a fragile ego but if you believe otherwise then you both need to sit down and talk about it.

Palema007:
Lol help op out now, in anyway you can.

I don't think the gf sees op as her equal or perhaps she not ready to be submissive

I can't really judge because op didn't give enough info.

Bennysam:
Run before it's too late, a woman that love you can't use those word , I'm telling you

And she's not far from crying. I remembered she offended one time and I threatened to break up, come see cry that day. I even pity her that day

Ningen:
You wouldn't know what disrespect is even if it slaps you in the face. You're exaggerating and seeing what is not there. This is a case of you having a fragile ego but if you believe otherwise then you both need to sit down and talk about it.

Exactly. Op, you need to calm down. Don't be in a haste to get married.

you want to carry a load bigger than you,go on but be prepared for the outcome.You better wake up,don't come and add your own to the increased number of divorce rate.

Tell her u don't like those jokes. If she no gree comot body. I wonder why nice men of nowadays like getting trampled on by some desperately unworthy women just because their brains are being clouded by emotions. Be logical for once and see how unwell she mean for you

XXXXTENTACION:
Bad advice


women can play jokes at times and its left for you to either take it serious or take it as what it is.



marriage and tolerance is like 5 and 6


if can't learn to tolerate people then you are not yet ready for marriage.

Nobody is perfect everybody has flaws and errors you just have to pick what suits you.

True. I can actually tell she loves me.
Like today I have not spoken to her since morning cos she offended me but she still dished my food, we ate together no talking but she still calls the usual 'honey', heat water for my bath and tea. But I didn't talk since morning. She's sleeping soundly beside me right now

Omo me self go marry one day
And zini can condole the attitude of this bitches wtf am I gonna do

Zzor:
you want to carry a load bigger than you,go on but be prepared for the outcome.You better wake up,don't come and add your own to the increased number of divorce rate.

I don't pray for divorce but if need be I'll go for it. Can't die before my time.

Darius990BC:
Tell her u don't like those jokes. If she no gree comot body. I wonder why nice men of nowadays like getting trampled on by some desperately unworthy women just because their brains are being clouded by emotions. Be logical for once and see how unwell she mean for you

Actually she wants the Best for me. From the way she carry herself anytime we're walking to things she buys for the house though it's my money not like she's spending hers. But I can tell she mean well

loyal girl wants you to tie the knot first before she react°°

Me: There is fire on the Mountain

OP: Run Run Run Run

Iamgrey5:
I don't think the gf sees op as her equal or perhaps she not ready to be submissive

I can't really judge because op didn't give enough info.

Op should let her go. She sees him like a younger brother..

Palema007:
Op should let her go. She sees him like a younger brother..

Most likely

She sees Op as immature.