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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by merieam16(f): 2:08pm On Sep 13
dacillin:
Op, are u male or female? U posted dis in 2017 https://www.nairaland.com/3561596/looking-serious-relationship#52637480.
Neva belive any story NL
gringringrin our Fbi
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Shukusheka(m): 2:09pm On Sep 13
proclinician:


I am "shut-up-simp" years old.
She is asking for advice before taking a life-changing decision. She is not asking to be attacked by broke little kids for seeking help on what she knows little about.

GTFOH.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Gabe427: 2:12pm On Sep 13
she's waiting for NYSC ......next she would wait for JOB next shes a wife next she's pregnant next she has two kids
lady stop making excuses ......build yourself learn a skill and be responsible for your future if he mess up your Good
which one is all this your yanning about your future is at stake cause he is earning 25K earn your first then I know your serious

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by BornSnner9: 2:12pm On Sep 13
Some union bring blessings..

You might be so scared of the future and get married to a rich man that may end up losing everything.. it happens
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by themaestro08(m): 2:13pm On Sep 13
vikkimimi:
[/s]Why are most guys on this forum so unfortunate...eh?
She came here for advice and not the trash you all are dishing on here. it's obvious most of you that commented trash are broke and pained that's why simple advice without abuse can't come out from ya'll mouths....if you've got nothing meaningful to say why not shut your mouth, she's obviously not the reason for your frustration.
Why will a guy earning 25k per month want to get married in the first place, abi him no get sense?
Isn't he aware she's waiting for NYSC and currently not working before coming up with such proposal, abi he's blind not to see she's still about to start a life...

Bae please tell oga to remove the thought of marriage from his head first biko, he should use the saved up money to start the business first while you on the other hand can look for something doing first if you can o, because the present day Naija nobody go send you till you serve finish.
Just Keep dating, and prolly you'll be serving then...shine your eyes because tomorrow when e go red for you all of this nairaland guys no go dey there... you guys should build up a little more before talking marriage because ' HAD I KNOWN IS ALWAYS AT LAST' [s]



I can't stand the double standard and bias in this comment - so disgusting and toxic.

Thanks to social media for giving every idiot the platform to type trash.

You should be ashamed of your self.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by baralatie(m): 2:15pm On Sep 13
Moyinoluwa35:
am 25 years and I love my fiance and we are planing to get married next year april but am scared he is earning N25,000 as salary right now but am scared about his income but he keep telling me things will get better, but I don't wanna marry and suffer please as any one been in this show before how did you work it out..
okay let us see here........

your current bf earns #25000 per month.no problem
obviously he leaves in a one room apartment.no problem
he wants to marry next year.no problem.

you have just graduated with B.sc(hons) no problem
you will go for nysc till next year.no problem
currently you are not working.problem
if you get a job and your salary is 250000 per month.problem
if you get pregnant now with his 25000 per month.problem

I think you both should stabilize financially just a little bit more before next year attains

likewise,you decision of a yes to marriage should wait till after your nysc first!
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by proclinician: 2:27pm On Sep 13
Shukusheka:
She is asking for advice before taking a life-changing decision. She is not asking to be attacked by broke little kids for seeking help on what she knows little about.

GTFOH.




Did you say a "life changing decision"? Haha you amuse me. Here's what a life changing decision looks like " pls I have graduated from college, I'm waiting for NYSC and while I wait, I need something doing like a job, or a gig, that can help me save some cash as I am about entering into a relationship that might lead to marriage". This is a classical life changing decision but she won't ask that you know why? There are men like you on this forum. Men that think that until they start earning 250k weekly they do not deserve to be with a woman that earns zero monthly. Men that think that every length and breath of their hustle is to make themselves acceptable to a load of shit that earns zero. As a result, men like you give these women so much validation that you see a woman that earns nothing proudly call a man that earns 50k a month or less a broke man because men like you are always there to give her all the validation she needs to make her point stick. It's as bad as it can ever get.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by mikeget804: 2:33pm On Sep 13
The truth is that, d guy no get sense to be thinking of marriage with 25k take home.

You shld be d one begging for marriage not him. Let him know I said, marriage will not add any value to his life.

Infact, call the guy for me, I have something for him.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Shukusheka(m): 2:37pm On Sep 13
proclinician:


Did you say a "life changing decision"? Haha you amuse me. Here's what a life changing decision looks like " pls I have graduated from college, I'm waiting for NYSC and while I wait, I need something doing like a job, or a gig, that can help me save some cash as I am about entering into a relationship that might lead to marriage". This is a classical life changing decision but she won't ask that you know why? There are men like you on this forum. Men that think that until they start earning 250k weekly they do not deserve to be with a woman that earns zero monthly. Men that think that every length and breath of their hustle is to make themselves acceptable to a load of shit that earns zero. As a result, men like you give these women so much validation that you see a woman that earns nothing proudly call a man that earns 50k a month or less a broke man because men like you are always there to give her all the validation she needs to make her point stick. It's as bad as it can ever get.
Rubbish drivel.

Her fiance is putting pressure on her for marriage, she wants to know if it is a good idea to especially since she is jobless and her fiance is earning little. She then asked if anyone with similar experience can share so she can learn.


Get the f**k out of here with your insecure broke-ass misogynistic thoughts. Talking as if the lady doesn't know she needs a job or as if you would advise your own jobless sister to marry a man earning 25k salary. angry

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by lekbel09: 2:40pm On Sep 13
Shukusheka:
Rubbish drivel.

Her fiance is putting pressure on her for marriage, she wants to know if it is a good idea to especially since she is jobless and her fiance is earning little. She then asked if anyone with similar experience can share so she can learn.


Get the f**k out of here with your insecure broke-ass misogynistic thoughts. Talking as if the lady doesn't know she needs a job or as if you would advice your own jobless sister to marry a man earning 25k salary. angry
Well said bro, honestly that monicker called "proclinician " is always fond of jamtalking.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Shukusheka(m): 2:43pm On Sep 13
BornSnner9:
Some union bring blessings..
This statement is why most young family in Nigeria fail. You both know you are not financially stable to marry but "some union bring blessings".

6 months after husband is beating wife because he feels disrespected and frustrated because wifey won't stop nagging about the N500 he drops daily for food.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by proclinician: 2:47pm On Sep 13
Shukusheka:
Rubbish drivel.

Her fiance is putting pressure on her for marriage, she wants to know if it is a good idea to especially since she is jobless and her fiance is earning little. She then asked if anyone with similar experience can share so she can learn.


Get the f**k out of here with your insecure broke-ass misogynistic thoughts. Talking as if the lady doesn't know she needs a job or as if you would advise your own jobless sister to marry a man earning 25k salary. angry

Haha ewu. She has problems with another man salary and not hers. Ode. Go and hustle off your ass to the grave to be acceptable to a woman na. Mumu

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Shukusheka(m): 2:47pm On Sep 13
lekbel09:
Well said bro, honestly that monicker called "proclinician " is always fond of jamtalking.
Thank you o.

The babe is just asking for advice from people who are married but started with little earnings how they managed to cope.

These broke-ass kids are out in their numbers shaming her about being jobless without offering any advice whatsoever. As if she is the one proposing the marriage. Wtf.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Shukusheka(m): 2:49pm On Sep 13
proclinician:


Haha ewu. She has problems with another man salary and not hers. Ode. Go and hustle off your ass to the grave to be acceptable to a woman na. Mumu
Not another man you donkey, the man who she is going to live with forever and who would be the father to kids. How old are you again?
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by BornSnner9: 2:52pm On Sep 13
Shukusheka:
This statement is why most young family in Nigeria fail. You both know you are not financially stable to marry but "some union bring blessings".

6 months after husband is beating wife because he feels disrespected and frustrated because wifey won't stop nagging about the N500 he drops daily for food.
lol.. Don't get it twisted love is a beautiful thing

Even some so called rich men beat their wives
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by proclinician: 2:53pm On Sep 13
Shukusheka:
Not another man you donkey, the man who she is going to live with forever and who would be the father to kids. How old are you again?

Didn't I say I am "shut-up-simp" years old? This is an era of equality boy. If she said she earn like 50k and then this guy earns 25k I will say it's unfair but not impossible. But here she earns nothing and in her own standards a man that earns 25k is a broke man and she is asking you if it's okay to marry a broke man. Eeeh u de bark like dog.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Shukusheka(m): 3:05pm On Sep 13
proclinician:


Didn't I say I am "shut-up-simp" years old? This is an era of equality boy. If she said she earn like 50k and then this guy earns 25k I will say it's unfair but not impossible. But here she earns nothing and in her own standards a man that earns 25k is a broke man and she is asking you if it's okay to marry a broke man. Eeeh u de bark like dog.
The emboldened, is the topic about what is fair or what is right?

Won't be indulging you again though, you obviously have nothing worthy to contribute here. We are discussing real life family problem here, If you want to engage in useless online gender supremacy battle, na you sabi.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by proclinician: 3:07pm On Sep 13
Shukusheka:
The emboldened, is the topic about what is fair or what is right?

Won't be indulging you again though, you obviously have nothing worthy to contribute here. We are discussing real life family problem here, If you want to engage in useless online gender supremacy battle, na you sabi.

Just keep giving women the validation to insult hustling guys eeh.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by iamadonis2(m): 5:03pm On Sep 13
Moyinoluwa35:
I just graduated am currently doing nothing waiting for my nysc, am really scared what if I accept is marriage, how we gonna feed and pay house rent

Case closed. OP has no case against Mr Fiance.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Tango123: 6:45pm On Sep 13
Moyinoluwa35:
I see how frustrated you are, and beside I told you am currently waiting for my nysc this as stop me from working, the covid19 issue holding me, you guys always claim the alpha but deep down you are broke, humble yourself please

You can sell pure water while waiting for nysc. Get off ur backside and do something

U can be a sales girl

U are sitting doing nothing, waitijg for nysc that may not happen until God knows when. How do u recharge ur phone. Probably ur so called boyfriend. Bleeding him dry already. Tufuakwa

U are a definition of liability

He is doing u a favour by even staying with u as his girlfriend. Get off ur backside and do a business u can take with u anywhere, even to nysc, and in that way u can look after yourself.

I am sorry for ny harsh words. But u need to grow up and be an adult and be able to care for yourself

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Tango123: 6:49pm On Sep 13
mikeget804:
The truth is that, d guy no get sense to be thinking of marriage with 25k take home.

You shld be d one begging for marriage not him. Let him know I said, marriage will not add any value to his life.

Infact, call the guy for me, I have something for him.

Give that thing you have for the guy (flogging) for a graduate who is sitting on her bavkside doing nothing. Perhaps watching bb naija. She deserves it more than the man

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by emmaodet: 6:01am On Sep 14
proclinician:
You earn zero currently and your situation is not your worries. You're very concerned about the 25k earned about another person and not the zero you earn. Pocohantas is not advising the men fairly.

grin grin
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by emmaodet: 6:06am On Sep 14
proclinician:


Oh I see, the covid-19 hold you down abi. Can't you blame the covid-19 for the guys situation and maybe support him instead of hanging the future you don't have on his salary? Your shame de shame me. Lol did u say I am broke? Make I no talk.

Ma guy, i dey feel u. I don dey follow u sharperly
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Raalsalghul: 7:30am On Sep 14
Moyinoluwa35:
thanks for your advise, he told me he asked save up to 300k from is work and want to start up a dry cleaning business which we can manage and I find some work to. do even the pay is small, we can manage it, look am just scared , I don't wanna suffer, but I truly love him

"You don't want to suffer, you don't want to suffer"---then look for something and do. Haba!

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by spiceadole: 7:38am On Sep 14
25k salary.

People are really out for suffering.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by chinchonglee(m): 7:42am On Sep 14
Moyinoluwa35:
am 25 years and I love my fiance and we are planing to get married next year april but am scared he is earning N25,000 as salary right now but am scared about his income but he keep telling me things will get better, but I don't wanna marry and suffer please as any one been in this show before how did you work it out..
My dear dnt marry him now but stay with him
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by DrayZee: 9:04am On Sep 14
vikkimimi:
Why are most guys on this forum so unfortunate...eh?
She came here for advice and not the trash you all are dishing on here. it's obvious most of you that commented trash are broke and pained that's why simple advice without abuse can't come out from ya'll mouths....if you've got nothing meaningful to say why not shut your mouth, she's obviously not the reason for your frustration.
Why will a guy earning 25k per month want to get married in the first place, abi him no get sense?
Isn't he aware she's waiting for NYSC and currently not working before coming up with such proposal, abi he's blind not to see she's still about to start a life...

Bae please tell oga to remove the thought of marriage from his head first biko, he should use the saved up money to start the business first while you on the other hand can look for something doing first if you can o, because the present day Naija nobody go send you till you serve finish.
Just Keep dating, and prolly you'll be serving then...shine your eyes because tomorrow when e go red for you all of this nairaland guys no go dey there... you guys should build up a little more before talking marriage because ' HAD I KNOWN IS ALWAYS AT LAST'

All of this broke-shaming should be reaching the ears of her boyfriend. The actual brokie is not hearing/reading all of this. But it's guys online that you & her don't know that you can call broke. If she was broke shaming her boyfriend the way shes broke-shaming guys here, he wouldn't have been talking of marriage, and she wouldn't have created this unnecessary thread.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by dave4rella(m): 9:13am On Sep 14
grin

You will dump him when you finally go for nysc
I have been there and I'm telling you from experience.
You should concentrate on having something doing.
My sister married her husband when he was earning 15k, they have 3kids now and about completing their own house.

My sister was a hustling business woman so she wasn't worried about the future.
though the husbands job started paying handsomely later.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Crownstar01: 9:17am On Sep 14
Moyinoluwa35:
am 25 years and I love my fiance and we are planing to get married next year april but am scared he is earning N25,000 as salary right now but am scared about his income but he keep telling me things will get better, but I don't wanna marry and suffer please as any one been in this show before how did you work it out..
What does he do for work?
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Crownstar01: 9:22am On Sep 14
Shukusheka:
Thank you o.

The babe is just asking for advice from people who are married but started with little earnings how they managed to cope.

These broke-ass kids are out in their numbers shaming her about being jobless without offering any advice whatsoever. As if she is the one proposing the marriage. Wtf.
You're right, brother. So many retardedd people on here.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Crownstar01: 9:27am On Sep 14
dave4rella:
grin

You will dump him when you finally go for nysc
I have been there and I'm telling you from experience.
You should concentrate on having something doing.
My sister married her husband when he was earning 15k, they have 3kids now and about completing their own house.

My sister was a hustling business woman so she wasn't worried about the future.
though the husbands job started paying handsomely later.
What year was that? Because 15k in this present regime is so outrageous. It will take a near miracle for someone to survive unless the person is involved in illegalities.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Dreyton36: 9:52am On Sep 14
Fvck mehnnnnnnnn

It's simple , leave him seems you don't wanna suffer
Just come to me if you're busy mehnnnnnnnn I'm a boob guy
Money ain't shit , I gat it all plus John Thomas

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