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Please I Need Your Advise by Moyinoluwa35(f): 11:36am On Sep 13
am 25 years and I love my fiance and we are planing to get married next year april but am scared he is earning N25,000 as salary right now but am scared about his income but he keep telling me things will get better, but I don't wanna marry and suffer please as any one been in this show before how did you work it out..
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by JONNYSPUTE(m): 11:38am On Sep 13
Moyinoluwa35:
am 25 years and I love my fiance and we are planing to get married next year april but am scared he is earning N25,000 as salary right now but am scared about his income but he keep telling me things will get better, but I don't wanna marry and suffer please as any one been in this show before how did you work it out..
....What do you do for a living?

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Jack005(m): 11:39am On Sep 13
What are you doing to support him? Or are you a liability?

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Moyinoluwa35(f): 11:40am On Sep 13
JONNYSPUTE:
....What do you do for a living?
I just graduated am currently doing nothing waiting for my nysc, am really scared what if I accept is marriage, how we gonna feed and pay house rent
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Nopanties: 11:44am On Sep 13
Jack005:
What are you doing to support him? Or are you a liability?
She's definitely a liability.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Moyinoluwa35(f): 11:44am On Sep 13
Jack005:
What are you doing to support him? Or are you a liability?
am not a liability, have never for once ask him for money, but am scared of the future, I just graduated and waiting for my nysc
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by proclinician: 11:46am On Sep 13
You earn zero currently and your situation is not your worries. You're very concerned about the 25k earned about another person and not the zero you earn. Pocohantas is not advising the men fairly.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Bikochi: 11:46am On Sep 13
Why then are you rushing to marry? Are you pregnant, or age is no longer on your side? Or he's afraid of losing you?
You both are obviously not ready financially.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Jack005(m): 11:47am On Sep 13
Moyinoluwa35:
am not a liability, have never for once ask him for money, but am scared of the future, I just graduated and waiting for my nysc
What is your man currently doing now and where are you guys located at?
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Moyinoluwa35(f): 11:47am On Sep 13
proclinician:
You earn zero currently and your situation is not your worries. You're very concerned about the 25k earned about another person and not the zero you earn. Pocohantas is not advising the men fairly.
please if you don't have any reasonable information stay off my post,

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by JONNYSPUTE(m): 11:48am On Sep 13
Moyinoluwa35:
I just graduated am currently doing nothing waiting for my nysc, am really scared what if I accept is marriage, how we gonna feed and pay house rent
....To be honest,both of you shouldn't be talking of marriage now.

No need rushing into it and later both starts regretting.

Tell him you love him and wish to spend the rest of your life with him but he should first allow you to get something meaningful so as to be a help mate to him.

Both of you should also understand that marriage has its ups and downs and with such amount he receives as salary,I doubt he can wither the storm when it comes because it is a must.

How old is he? I asked because sometimes people mistook infatuation for love but when eyes opens, regrets sets in.

In all,you both should shelve the idea for now.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Nobody: 11:48am On Sep 13
Moyinoluwa35:
I just graduated am currently doing nothing waiting for my nysc, am really scared what if I accept is marriage, how we gonna feed and pay house rent
Miss Op— don't expect what you can't offer...
To be honest, can you marry someone who Just graduated, and currently doing nothing waiting for his nysc?,
You are lucky that you found someone who is even receiving 25k monthly undecided

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by MAGG0T(m): 11:48am On Sep 13
Liability at it's peak

Worry about ur self instead...the Guy's income isn't the problem here

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by proclinician: 11:50am On Sep 13
Moyinoluwa35:
please if you don't have any reasonable information stay off my post,

You're very very unfortunate. Shouldn't the guy worry about marrying a woman that's too lazy to earn a living? He's even patient enough to calm ur silly nerves with reassuring words left for me, someone like me has nothing absolutely to do with a liability like your ass. Get the fvck off and go find a job. Guy man is earning 25k, what is your ass earning, zero. Yet your biggest worry about your nonexistent future is another persons salary shame on you.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Moyinoluwa35(f): 11:52am On Sep 13
JONNYSPUTE:
....To be honest,both of you shouldn't be talking of marriage now.

No need rushing into it and later both starts regretting.

Tell him you love him and wish to spend the rest of your life with him but he should first allow you to get something meaningful so as to be a help mate to him.

Both of you should also understand that marriage has its ups and downs and with such amount he receives as salary,I doubt he can wither the storm when it comes because it is a must.

How old is he? I asked because sometimes people mistook infatuation for love but when eyes opens, regrets sets in.

In all,you both should shelve the idea for now.
thanks for your advise, he told me he asked save up to 300k from is work and want to start up a dry cleaning business which we can manage and I find some work to. do even the pay is small, we can manage it, look am just scared , I don't wanna suffer, but I truly love him
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Moyinoluwa35(f): 11:55am On Sep 13
proclinician:


You're very very unfortunate. Shouldn't the guy worry about marrying a woman that's too lazy to earn a living? He's even patient enough to calm ur silly nerves with reassuring words left for me, someone like me has nothing absolutely to do with a liability like your ass. Get the fvck off and go find a job. Guy man is earning 25k, what is your ass earning, zero. Yet your biggest worry about your nonexistent future is another persons salary shame on you.
I see how frustrated you are, and beside I told you am currently waiting for my nysc this as stop me from working, the covid19 issue holding me, you guys always claim the alpha but deep down you are broke, humble yourself please

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Angelacruz: 11:55am On Sep 13
Hmmmm
Ghost8889:

Miss Op— don't expect what you can't offer...
To be honest, can you marry someone who Just graduated, and currently doing nothing waiting for his nysc?,
You are lucky that you found someone who is even receiving 25k monthly undecided
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by JONNYSPUTE(m): 11:57am On Sep 13
Moyinoluwa35:
thanks for your advise, he told me he asked save up to 300k from is work and want to start up a dry cleaning business which we can manage and I find some work to. do even the pay is small, we can manage it, look am just scared , I don't wanna suffer, but I truly love him
....If he has planned and taken care of all these eventuality,then it is left for you now to look for something doing to help him.

You can't just sit,doing nothing and still make him look as if he is the lazy and unserious one here.

The guy is hardworking from what you ve just said so you should get your ass up and go learn a thread or any business before your nysc comes up.
Don't be a liability

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by proclinician: 11:58am On Sep 13
Moyinoluwa35:
I see how frustrated you are, and beside I told you am currently waiting for my nysc this as stop me from working, the covid19 issue holding me, you guys always claim the alpha but deep down you are broke, humble yourself please

Oh I see, the covid-19 hold you down abi. Can't you blame the covid-19 for the guys situation and maybe support him instead of hanging the future you don't have on his salary? Your shame de shame me. Lol did u say I am broke? Make I no talk.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by JONNYSPUTE(m): 12:02pm On Sep 13
Moyinoluwa35:
I see how frustrated you are, and beside I told you am currently waiting for my nysc this as stop me from working, the covid19 issue holding me, you guys always claim the alpha but deep down you are broke, humble yourself please
....Better calm down.Is like you have a temperament too.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by JONNYSPUTE(m): 12:03pm On Sep 13
proclinician:


Oh I see, the covid-19 hold you down abi. Can't you blame the covid-19 for the guys situation and maybe support him instead of hanging the future you don't have on his salary? Your shame de shame me. Lol did u say I am broke? Make I no talk.
....Nwanne wayo.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by vikkimimi(f): 1:20pm On Sep 13
Why are most guys on this forum so unfortunate...eh?
She came here for advice and not the trash you all are dishing on here. it's obvious most of you that commented trash are broke and pained that's why simple advice without abuse can't come out from ya'll mouths....if you've got nothing meaningful to say why not shut your mouth, she's obviously not the reason for your frustration.
Why will a guy earning 25k per month want to get married in the first place, abi him no get sense?
Isn't he aware she's waiting for NYSC and currently not working before coming up with such proposal, abi he's blind not to see she's still about to start a life...

Bae please tell oga to remove the thought of marriage from his head first biko, he should use the saved up money to start the business first while you on the other hand can look for something doing first if you can o, because the present day Naija nobody go send you till you serve finish.
Just Keep dating, and prolly you'll be serving then...shine your eyes because tomorrow when e go red for you all of this nairaland guys no go dey there... you guys should build up a little more before talking marriage because ' HAD I KNOWN IS ALWAYS AT LAST'

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Shukusheka(m): 1:42pm On Sep 13
Too many dullards on this forum, it is nauseating. angry angry angry

Op, your fiance isn't ready for marriage and neither are you. N25k salary is too meager to sustain a family, and you currently being jobless would make things worst for your new family.

Remember, the no 1 reason for divorce globally and in Nigeria isn't cheating but finance.

Don't marry now and set your marriage up to fail. There is no need to rush.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Truvel(m): 1:43pm On Sep 13
Moyinoluwa35:
am 25 years and I love my fiance and we are planing to get married next year april but am scared he is earning N25,000 as salary right now but am scared about his income but he keep telling me things will get better, but I don't wanna marry and suffer please as any one been in this show before how did you work it out..
Op, Don't Just Fold Ur Alms & Watch Him Do Everything Himself. Stop Complaining, Co-operate With Him & Support Him With D Little U Can. If U Are Not Working, U Better Get A Job 4 Urself. I Don't Know Why Naija Ladies Feels Dat In Marriage It's D Man Dat Suppose To Do Everything Without D Help Of D Woman Even When Dey Know D Financial State Of D Man. Like I Said B4 Don't Just Fold Ur Alms & Look At Him. U Won't Suffer, If Dat's Ur Fear. Just Do D Needful.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Shukusheka(m): 1:47pm On Sep 13
proclinician:
You earn zero currently and your situation is not your worries. You're very concerned about the 25k earned about another person and not the zero you earn. Pocohantas is not advising the men fairly.
Ghost8889:

Miss Op— don't expect what you can't offer...
To be honest, can you marry someone who Just graduated, and currently doing nothing waiting for his nysc?,
You are lucky that you found someone who is even receiving 25k monthly undecided
How old are you both?

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Shukusheka(m): 1:50pm On Sep 13
Truvel:
Op, Don't Just Fold Ur Alms & Watch Him Do Everything Himself. Stop Complaining, Co-operate With Him & Support Him With D Little U Can. If U Are Not Working, U Better Do Better Get A Job 4 Urself. I Don't Know Why Naija Ladies Feels Dat In Marriage It's D Man Dat Suppose To Do Everything Without D Help Of D Woman Even When Dey Know D Financial State Of D Man. Like I Said B4 Don't Just Fold Ur Alms & Look At Him.
How have you answered her question with your directionless post?
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by themaestro08(m): 1:50pm On Sep 13
Moyinoluwa35:
am 25 years and I love my fiance and we are planing to get married next year april but am scared he is earning N25,000 as salary right now but am scared about his income but he keep telling me things will get better, but I don't wanna marry and suffer please as any one been in this show before how did you work it out..


First things first. Do you have a job? If yes, how much do you earn? What job does he do?

However, I think regardless 50k alone is not enough to fully sustain an adult for a duration of a month let alone a meagre 25k. Think twice before tying the knot. Sometimes you have to use your head and look at things reasonably and rationally, doing so will make you avoid phrases like "had I know'.

Modified: so you are currently jobless shocked, and you are embarking on marriage? You better abort that mission.

My 2 cent.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by merieam16(f): 1:56pm On Sep 13
Bikochi:
Why then are you rushing to marry? Are you pregnant, or age is no longer on your side? Or he's afraid of losing you?
You both are obviously not ready financially.
I think i like this comment
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by proclinician: 2:00pm On Sep 13
Shukusheka:

How old are you both?

I am "shut-up-simp" years old.

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by merieam16(f): 2:02pm On Sep 13
dacillin:
Op, are u male or female? U posted dis in 2017 https://www.nairaland.com/3561596/looking-serious-relationship#52637480.
Neva belive any story NL
The guy is a transgenderedcheesy

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by dacillin: 2:04pm On Sep 13
Op, are u male or female? U posted dis in 2017 https://www.nairaland.com/3561596/looking-serious-relationship#52637480.
Neva belive any story NL

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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Tajbol4splend(m): 2:07pm On Sep 13
Nopanties:
She's definitely a liability.



For a responsible man, your woman is your responsibility instead of liability, if she has a job of her own fine, at least she hasn't forced the marriage on him, a man who is proposing marriage already knows his fiancee doesn't have a job of her own and he's willing to forge ahead so spare them breathing space sometimes

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