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Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by virtuouswoman77(f): 10:59am On Oct 05, 2020 |
toye440:for one hundred and one million time he never showed those signs when we were dating if you read earlier I mentioned he only gets drunk when he sees free drinks mostly in occasion and when we were dating we do go out but I never went to an event with him |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by virtuouswoman77(f): 11:05am On Oct 05, 2020 |
noblebaba:did you drink to stupor when you see free drinks or you drink to stupor with your money |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by Fedupman: 11:13am On Oct 05, 2020 |
lilmax: You are right boss, but don't use evil to conquer evil,it's doesn't pay! |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by Gvnl(f): 11:20am On Oct 05, 2020 |
I like the way you think. Oil dey your head. To the OP, this is one of the best advice you can get here. God will see you through. UDUJ: 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by newdawn2017(f): 11:20am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Righteousness89:Stand in which gap?? As d leader or what?? D Man is d spiritual leader of any home, what re u talking about? she should get away from such a man since he would not seek help. 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by virtuouswoman77(f): 11:20am On Oct 05, 2020 |
HRMK:what is ur problem is it that you don't know how to read or you don't understand after reading 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by newdawn2017(f): 11:21am On Oct 05, 2020 |
lilmax:Walayi! His eyes will clear straight. |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by newdawn2017(f): 11:24am On Oct 05, 2020 |
UDUJ:yes he is very correct. Because he comes home to someone who tolerate such excesses that's y he is still in it. newdawn2017: 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by uuzba(m): 11:38am On Oct 05, 2020 |
newdawn2017:2 wrongs don't make a right. You cannot correct him by being nasty yourself. What if in his drunkenness/addiction, he gets angry and just kills you? - Help him positively. Don't make yourself an object of his errors. |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by jomoh: 11:39am On Oct 05, 2020 |
virtuouswoman77: If he’s the type that passes out when drunk, just take him to the mortuary one day and tell the attendant not to release him but address him as a dead man trying to reincarnate. |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by OffsahBoye(m): 11:41am On Oct 05, 2020 |
virtuouswoman77:It seems its only when he goes to an event that there's enough drinks that he gets drunk... If that's the case, Why don't you find a way from restricting him from events, what if you come up with a story(maybe spiritual) that for the main time you've been told he'd not go to any event or party or try and frame any situation that will make him not likely attend events for the main time ,he will be forced to buying drinks himself and he'll drink around 3 bottles like you said,if its mostly on weekends that he gets drunk from outings you'll have to fill family outings to weekends to restrain him from going to where he'll get drunk In everything you do You have to find why,when,where he most likely gets those excess drinks and you can start the control method from there Praying too would help |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by virtuouswoman77(f): 11:43am On Oct 05, 2020 |
OcVoice:thanks |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by showafrica(m): 11:51am On Oct 05, 2020 |
virtuouswoman77: What does he drink, is it whisky, beer or ogogoro? If its whisky or beer, buy it and drink with him at home responsibly, make sure you bring food immidiately after guaging his limit. If he cant drink at home, over feed him before he steps out make sure he eats excessively before stepping out. When a man eats too much, beer will not be interesting. If its ogogoro, sorry there is nothing you can do than fasting and prayers or rehabilitation. |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by iamKeo(m): 12:10pm On Oct 05, 2020 |
IamD18: You said it all. ���� |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by nedzuby: 12:15pm On Oct 05, 2020 |
tripplephi: Wise, very wise advice |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by toye440: 12:55pm On Oct 05, 2020 |
virtuouswoman77:I get, he probably must be going through something or friends. Pls what you need is simply talk, dont get tired of it, its all you need not a third party. You are no doubt a good wife and a blessing to him. |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by JerryLekki: 1:58pm On Oct 05, 2020 |
He's an alcohol addict. He needs to see a psychiatrist. There is no shame in it. Admitting that he needs it is the first major step. In case you don't know, Alcohol addiction is worse than Marijuana addiction. get your pastor/imam and older family member wey get sense involved. Good luck. You will need it virtuouswoman77: |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by GboyegaD(m): 2:32pm On Oct 05, 2020 |
JIMMY1393: You don't think there could be some mental health issues here? |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by lolaluv1(f): 3:19pm On Oct 05, 2020 |
He should wear adult pampers. Unamikot. |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by Grateful02(m): 3:31pm On Oct 05, 2020 |
I don't agree to this. I suffer from depression and I've never opted for acohol. I think from the Op, he's hubby so much into acohol of which he might been indulging in it even before marriage. Habits take strong moments to quench** UDUJ: |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by UDUJ(m): 3:38pm On Oct 05, 2020 |
Grateful02: So sorry to hear this. I hope you are taking your anti depressants or at least minimising or totally eradicating all manner of stress in your life? It's tough I know but be strong. |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by Grateful02(m): 4:28pm On Oct 05, 2020 |
Unfortunately I don't take anti depressants either. music and love from loved ones keeps me going. It only gets better � UDUJ: |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by airminem(f): 4:46pm On Oct 05, 2020 |
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Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by Offpoint1: 4:51pm On Oct 05, 2020 |
virtuouswoman77:" Getting drunk is the sweetness of drink" that's some dope drinking line. Your hubby has gone passed the "God help me" stage. At this stage nothing matters to him anyone, but his bottles. The advice I will give you might seem difficult or impossible, but if you can carry it out... It works. Don't try to stop a drunkard from drinking, else you'll only end up fueling him more. Human by nature don't like being told not to do something. Remember God, Moses and the children of Israel. The moment commandments was given that was when they started misbehaving the most. (I don't know if you have any adult that can look after your kids) Instead of trying to stop him, join him. There's a reasons they said *to catch monkey you need to act like money " apply this philosophy. By joining him, I don't mean you should start drinking alcohol along with him. No!... Just lovely insist on following him to his joint, do it with love. Follow him all the time and guide him from 5 bottles to 4, from 4 to 3 and so on till 1 bottle. always do this... When you guys are back home, go heart to heart with him at late night. When he's not drunk, show him some medical effects alcohol it could have on him. Do all these with love, and smile. Make it a like a friend to friend chat. If you apply this, believe me in 3 months time you should see a drastic change. |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by sigiyaya(m): 5:02pm On Oct 05, 2020 |
Righteousness89:Dont listen to this fool or things will get worst. The man need counselling not any uselessness Jesus prayers |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by farem: 5:43pm On Oct 05, 2020 |
virtuouswoman77: Make videos of him. Whenever he is normal and sober, play these to him and let him know that he wouldn't like himself to appear like this again. If he still continue, na confirmed werey from village dey im head be that! |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by CHoccolaTE: 5:53pm On Oct 05, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: My dear some people on Nairaland have serious mental problems it's best to ignore them. 2 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by TrumpDonald2: 5:59pm On Oct 05, 2020 |
virtuouswoman77:Search on Google and show him the harmful effects of alcohol when consumed excessively. How it destroys the liver etc. Tell him that he will die soon if he doesn't stop. It might help. Good luck |
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