magkhan:
It’s not a norm but it’s not a taboo. But your focus should be on your personal happiness. If you are no longer happy in the relationship or marriage then take a walk.

P.S You are supposed to grow together. If you say ‘bored’ that’s more understandable.

tobechi74:
Just as a child graduates from high school into college, his priorities shift. The courses he takes become more narrow. He drops some classmates behind and retain few classmates who share the same college preference and same course. We do not go remain in high school out of loyalty to our friends.


As we age, our values, hobbies job etc changes. This is a sign of growth.one whose priority remain constant is stagnant like a child who fails to learn . Our choice of life partner also change.

..brother..if u divorce..u will get more women.. forget marraige, plenty punnnny out there sir!!(truss me)

fati2001:
NO.

tobechi74:

Whenever one wants to be with the other person.we let them embark on the journey.We communicate our feeling openly and arrive at a mutual agreement of divorce than to live in denial with all it’s lies and betrayal. A monogamous relationship does not necessarily mean we own our partner.It is not a life sentence. It is a process for growth. Letting go can become a gain rather than a loss when it leads us to our higher self.we can still retain the friendship while taking time to grow . Sticking to a union that does not lead to a higher growth can be detrimental to our wellbeing

tobechi74:
Just as a child graduates from high school into college, his priorities shift. The courses he takes become more narrow. He drops some classmates behind and retain few classmates who share the same college preference and same course. We do not go remain in high school out of loyalty to our friends.


As we age, our values, hobbies job etc changes. This is a sign of growth.one whose priority remain constant is stagnant like a child who fails to learn . Our choice of life partner also change.

magkhan:
It’s not a norm but it’s not a taboo. But your focus should be on your personal happiness. If you are no longer happy in the relationship or marriage then take a walk.

P.S You are supposed to grow together. If you say ‘bored’ that’s more understandable.

baralatie:

the golden speaks a lot of how insensitive you are when it comes to love and marriage.
wow!

tobechi74:


The best relationship is the relationship where each promise to tell the truth even when it hurts. Cheating arises when one begins to hide the truth because our partner may not be able to handle it. Not all relationship are meant to last forever. Some relationship are meant to propel us to a greater height. Some relationship brings out hidden potential in us we never new existed. Another relationship improves on that potential. No monogamous relationship is a failure. Each has one lesson to teach us. It takes wisdom to know when a relationship has served its purpose and move into a new one.

baralatie:

like I said you attitude speaks only of absolute use and dump marriage phenomenon!

tobechi74:


We should not just bail out of every relationship. We should be sure that the reason for unfulfimment in the union does not arises out of faults. Rather, we discover we no longer derive Joy in activitiess we used to . One partner has encountered a change in Religion and we cannot tolerate that .We feel lonely in the presence of our partner and alive in the presence of another without any reason . We should examine ourself to know whether we are in the union out of fear or out of love. Are we scared of what people we say when I leave? Am I scared of loosing certain previledges? We cannot truely grow in an environment of fear

baralatie:

he is not bored but is no longer interested because of improved status

his decision is no different from a classic case where a road side mechanic is married to a fellow bread seller .10 years down the line the bread seller is now a chartered accountant and works at kpmg.
now she wants a divorce because the road side mechanic is no longer upgradeable

tobechi74:
Several years ago,I was squating with a relation before I could get my own apartment. During the buisness news, the husband lamented how the market capitalisation had dropped down and how the change in government had led to uncertainty among investors. He predicted a decline in the market share price in the next few years.  His wife nodes her head like she was following only to say moments later.

I like the style of her blouse.

I could see the dissapointment in the husbands face. He found it difficult to engage in social- economic discussion with the wife. Here he was discussing serious issues and she was interested in a piece of clothing material.  Both of them were from two different worlds.

Today,I heard they were involved in divorce litigation. He was accused of committing adultery. was not surprised. She was a fashion designer with many apprentice working for her. He was a financial analyst .


The relationship was dead from the beginning. It was only a matter of time before it could manifest.We must always be in relationship with like minded individuals as this motivates us in our day to day life. Our partner shapes our life and our thoughts. When we exchange ideas and values with those who have similar goals and inspirations it plays an important role
https://tobechispeaks./2020/11/16/relate-dont-marry/

Fountainofyouth:
Yeah, dump him like a mad man.