As for me , it's because of what our girls have turned it to be .I'm afraid of there billing. Meeting a girl and after two day she bill me 50k for her traveling expenses. Na so I just japa


Guys and girls why are you afraid of marriage and relationship

For me I just usually get bored and tired of girl im used to

I don't just know why...
As days pass by,the more I get bored and they begin to look ugly to me...
I really can't tell why

Escabado:
As for me , it's because of what our girls have turned it to be .I'm afraid of there billing. Meeting a girl and after two day she bill me 50k for her traveling expenses. Na so I just japa


Guys and girls why are you afraid of marriage and relationship

Depends on how you talk to her or how you present yourself to her.....

Only a stupid man will buy a cow when he can get the milk for free..

ValCon888:
Only a stupid man will buy a cow when he can get the milk for free..

I pray he gets the meat free too

Not all girls are the same, we still have ladies that don't demand much, it takes one to be matured to make the move.

Seriously our boys are turning into something else, nowadays you rarely see a man that love a woman guinuely, all they are after is sleeping with the lady, i don't think i can cope with that.

virginprincess:
Seriously our boys are turning into something else, nowadays you rarely see a man that love a woman guinuely, all they are after is sleeping with the lady, i don't think i can cope with that.

You are not totally correct my dear, that thing called is not appealing to some men if you care to know. There are millions of men that lives genuinely but most ladies that thoes men for granted and more so, relationship and marriage is transactional to most ladies, talking from different experiences

Several years ago,I was squating with a relation before I could get my own apartment. During the buisness news, the husband lamented how the market capitalisation had dropped down and how the change in government had led to uncertainty among investors. He predicted a decline in the market share price in the next few years.  His wife nodes her head like she was following only to say moments later.

I like the style of her blouse.

I could see the dissapointment in the husbands face. He found it difficult to engage in social- economic discussion with the wife. Here he was discussing serious issues and she was interested in a piece of clothing material.  Both of them were from two different worlds.

Today,I heard they were involved in divorce litigation. He was accused of committing adultery. was not surprised. She was a fashion designer with many apprentice working for her. He was a financial analyst .


The relationship was dead from the beginning. It was only a matter of time before it could manifest.We must always be in relationship with like minded individuals as this motivates us in our day to day life. Our partner shapes our life and our thoughts. When we exchange ideas and values with those who have similar goals and inspirations it plays an important role in our


Have you ever wondered why most men get involved in an affair with their co- worker. This is because both spend time sharing their thoughts on similar project. They are like partners. From official discussion to semi- official discussion. From there , It leads to personal discussion. From there, It leads to relationship discussion. He is more open to her than he is to the wife . The affair did not start the day they had their first kiss. Then he says ” If I had met you earlier, I would not have gotten married to my wife.


That sounds harsh but it is reality . He was moved by her beauty when he met her but today, he has learnt that there is more to physical appearance. He desires one he can communicate freely on issues of similar interest.Their work-life and interest are miles apart. Nothing brings them together.


Relationship is no longer about two individuals who want to get married and raise kids.because they have come of age or teaming up to meet our basic need of food, shelter, sex etc Relationship is about one person who is on a mission and discovers another person who is on a similar mission and they team up to embark on facing the challenges together .Relationship is a journey not a destination.Your partner inspire you to become a better version of your self. Not all relationship should lead into marriage. A relationship Should make you better version of yourself while pursuing the mission. The mission is the focus of the relationship and not the partner. You do not complete your partner or look for a partner to complete you. No, you focus on something outside yourselves .


The mission could be to render legal services to those who cannot provide one or to design a more efficient way of generating electricity or reform the lives of ex convicts or to impact values and principles to preteens or to spread the Marxist philosophy to the world or to build a mediation center for conflict resolution or to speak for the freedom of the oppressed.You grow with your partner. When the mission is a long term mission of over twenty years , They may decide to get married. Marriage should never be the mission for any relationship. Marriage may be introduced for long term journey .


If you discover you are on a different path from your partner,do not hurriedly leave the relationship. Ask her  to list her  about twenty activities she likes to do. List twenty hobbies you enjoy too .Find the hobbies you both enjoy together. If  it is music, start singing together. Compose a song Individually and sing it on your anniversary. The point is consciously create a life by engaging in activities together. Ensure It is something you both enjoy so no one feels burnt out. Reignite the spark.

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frankkydee:










You are not totally correct my dear, that thing called is not appealing to some men if you care to know. There are millions of men that lives genuinely but most ladies that thoes men for granted and more so, relationship and marriage is transactional to most ladies, talking from different experiences

You are speaking from experience, i am also speaking from experience, i know there are very few good men out there, but majority of you people(men) are only after sex and nothing more, even some of there comments on nairaland shows it.

virginprincess:
You are speaking from experience, i am also speaking from experience, i know there are very few good men out there, but majority of you people(men) are only after sex and nothing more, even some of there comments on nairaland shows it.

Well, different strokes for different folks

Variety is the spice of life.
If you eat flesh and eat some bone, you enjoy the meal)
You get the point now ?

frankkydee:











Well, different strokes for different folks

Exactly.

virginprincess:
Exactly.

It is well, this generation is something else. The matter weak me

frankkydee:










It is well, this generation is something else. The matter weak me

Nor be small, seriously i am afraid for the future,like how is it going to be.

virginprincess:
Nor be small, seriously i am afraid for the future,like how is it going to be.

That's called fear of the unknown, but worry your head with all of those thought because que sera sera!

Escabado once upon a time around last year I still remember vividly a broke ass bitch bill me and instantly on a spot I started feeling headache like I don't understand how it happened
So ever since then the distance between me and Nigerian girls is 1,567,762 miles

Seriously for me, am scared of the responsibility that comes along with it.

Most Nigerian girls see relationship as a meal ticket, it is really a sad one indeed. At times you just want a girl that would always be there for you, stick with you through thick and thin, but you can barely find any these days as we most have gold diggers parading as girls these days.. It is a sad one indeed.