Re: . by SarutobiEky(m): 4:00pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Pancakeey: Hello, Nairalanders. I’m really sad plus, this is the first time I’ll be telling total strangers what’s bothering me. But I thought why not?
So, I just recently became single and I’m healing or trying to cope with it. After my breakup, I realized that I had no one except my boyfriend (as a friend) Now, I’m going through a tough time, my work is stressing me out and little things just make me cry. It feels like I’m not growing like there’s no change in my life.
I guess that’s why my ass was dumped. My ex said I brought nothing to the table except feelings.
It’s worse because my work has become more demanding and I don’t think I can keep up with it. But I can’t be heartbroken and still broke. How do I keep a clear head? How do I stay strong despite all these? I have no one to talk to and I feel I’m alone.
I’m losing it. When it feels like everything is finally going right for me it turns sour again.
Long story short, I need kind words from you guys. I have so many things I want to achieve but my weak heart is failing me.
you've got a job, you're not broke. You're healthy, you're full of life. How exactly can we help you? As far as I'm concerned Op. You got no problems. |
Re: . by BigDawsNet: 4:02pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
You going through a process called Work Stress...it can be challenging and exhausting and can really drain you to the last bar...it will affect lots of things around you and people who care about you will feel the impact...
Only understanding people can flow with that feeling....
All you need is to request for a work leave ..if granted
You need to take a trip
Anywhere around Nigeria or probably west Africa
Just a holiday to clear your head And eat good food with nice atmosphere Don't forget to visit the beach ..relax and feel fresh air...
Traveling / Holiday will recharge your soul...
Good luck 1 Like |
Re: . by SarutobiEky(m): 4:03pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
All these men..consoling the Op if it was your fellow man in the same position, would you be this sympathetic to his plight? Watch how they flood the thread to pacify her. I wonder why e be like this for my gender. Who do us this thing? 2 Likes |
Re: . by jimmychang: 4:03pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Babe don't worry , everything is a Phase, nothing last forever so is your present situation And learn from your mistakes before you enter a new relationship.. God bless you ... 2 Likes |
Re: . by SarutobiEky(m): 4:05pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
BigDawsNet: You going through a process called Work Stress...it can be challenging and exhausting and can really drain you to the last bar...it will affect lots of things around you and people who care about you will feel the impact...
Only understanding people can flow with that feeling....
All you need is to request for a work leave ..if granted
You need to take a trip
Anywhere around Nigeria or probably west Africa
Just a holiday to clear your head And eat good food with nice atmosphere Don't forget to visit the beach ..relax and feel fresh air...
Traveling / Holiday will recharge your soul...
Good luck boss that woman got no problems. If I give her a glimpse of what mine looks like, she go compose sharp sharp. |
Re: . by BigDawsNet: 4:08pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
SarutobiEky: boss that woman got no problems. If I give her a glimpse of what mine looks like, she go compose sharp sharp. Bro The rich also go through pains.. She may seems like she got everything covered financially and career wise But still, stress is a bad thing And it also deal with the successful people It's better she take that trip I would have advice her to apply for a visa to any European countries but covid is an issue... All she needs is holiday and break from work... |
Re: . by SarutobiEky(m): 4:10pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
BigDawsNet:
Bro
The rich also go through pains..
She may seems like she got everything covered financially and career wise
But still, stress is a bad thing And it also deal with the successful people
It's better she take that trip I would have advice her to apply for a visa to any European countries but covid is an issue...
All she needs is holiday and break from work...
at least she rich enough to escape the madness, some of us aren't. |
Re: . by BigDawsNet: 4:26pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
SarutobiEky: at least she rich enough to escape the madness, some of us aren't. Jim Carrey Eminem Ellen Degeneres These are few celebrities with lots of networth They suffer stress which result to depression They lucky to be alive some are not .... Facts If you poor and you become rich from hustle or whatever...it's likely you won't go through depression of any kind in ur rich-life time... If you born with sliver, golden spoon, you may likely face depression in some part or time in your life... Privilege may make them less resilient since they may not be familiar with bootstrapping themselves through difficult times. 1 Like |
Re: . by leonard002(m): 4:57pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
You need something. More friends. You need to go out more and meet more cheerful people. On weekends go out to places where happy people are likely to be and spend more time there 2 Likes |
Re: . by seunak2016: 5:08pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Pancakeey: Hello, Nairalanders. I’m really sad plus, this is the first time I’ll be telling total strangers what’s bothering me. But I thought why not?
So, I just recently became single and I’m healing or trying to cope with it. After my breakup, I realized that I had no one except my boyfriend (as a friend) Now, I’m going through a tough time, my work is stressing me out and little things just make me cry. It feels like I’m not growing like there’s no change in my life.
I guess that’s why my ass was dumped. My ex said I brought nothing to the table except feelings.
It’s worse because my work has become more demanding and I don’t think I can keep up with it. But I can’t be heartbroken and still broke. How do I keep a clear head? How do I stay strong despite all these? I have no one to talk to and I feel I’m alone.
I’m losing it. When it feels like everything is finally going right for me it turns sour again.
Long story short, I need kind words from you guys. I have so many things I want to achieve but my weak heart is failing me.
which state you base? |
Re: . by Nobody: 5:18pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
SarutobiEky: All these men..consoling the Op if it was your fellow man in the same position, would you be this sympathetic to his plight? Watch how they flood the thread to pacify her. I wonder why e be like this for my gender. Who do us this thing? It has nothing to do with gender, I advised a fellow man the same last week, when you are constantly working and have nobody to talk to, e dey affect person. It is a common feeling for people. 2 Likes |
Re: . by Chummynoni(m): 5:20pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
You need replacement. Make another friend. Be strong sister 1 Like |
Re: . by Sixfeetbelle: 5:50pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
light099:
From those points I was able to pick out from your post, it's obvious what you really want but somehow along the way, you still managed to maneuver and wear an entirely different garment on your intention at the end, in order to give a right impression of your wrong motive. Well, every other person on the thread might be carried away but you and I really know that kind words are the least thing you desire at the moment, that is why I canceled it out. What you really need is a cheerful giving maga who could bankroll your broke ass on a steady, while at the same time he would put up with your inability to contribute anything to the parasitic relationship and your unavailability because of your tight work schedule. Whenever you're ready to be useful to yourself and others in life, getting good friends is the least of your problems but a parasite has no friends. Bitter souls like you will keep on showcasing your bitterness in all you do/say. 3 Likes |
Re: . by luminouz(m): 5:53pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
BigDawsNet: You going through a process called Work Stress...it can be challenging and exhausting and can really drain you to the last bar...it will affect lots of things around you and people who care about you will feel the impact...
Only understanding people can flow with that feeling....
All you need is to request for a work leave ..if granted
You need to take a trip
Anywhere around Nigeria or probably west Africa
Just a holiday to clear your head And eat good food with nice atmosphere Don't forget to visit the beach ..relax and feel fresh air...
Traveling / Holiday will recharge your soul...
Good luck Somebody who said she is broke should now tour Nigeria and west Africa? You wan give her the money or what? |
Re: . by luminouz(m): 5:55pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
You dey mind them. Calling her dear dear upandan and already like 7milliom don send her PM. If na man now, na 'huzle huzle' oooo we go dey hear upandan SarutobiEky: All these men..consoling the Op if it was your fellow man in the same position, would you be this sympathetic to his plight? Watch how they flood the thread to pacify her. I wonder why e be like this for my gender. Who do us this thing? |
Re: . by luminouz(m): 5:55pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle:
Bitter souls like you will keep on showcasing your bitterness in all you do/say. You here again!!!! Oya goan cook dinner!!! |
Re: . by Pancakeey(f): 6:00pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Thanks everyone for some of the nice and not so nice replies.
I really appreciate all your replies. |
Re: . by NATIONALPASTOR: 7:02pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Pancakeey: Hello, Nairalanders. I’m really sad plus, this is the first time I’ll be telling total strangers what’s bothering me. But I thought why not?
So, I just recently became single and I’m healing or trying to cope with it. After my breakup, I realized that I had no one except my boyfriend (as a friend) Now, I’m going through a tough time, my work is stressing me out and little things just make me cry. It feels like I’m not growing like there’s no change in my life.
I guess that’s why my ass was dumped. My ex said I brought nothing to the table except feelings.
It’s worse because my work has become more demanding and I don’t think I can keep up with it. But I can’t be heartbroken and still broke. How do I keep a clear head? How do I stay strong despite all these? I have no one to talk to and I feel I’m alone.
I’m losing it. When it feels like everything is finally going right for me it turns sour again.
Long story short, I need kind words from you guys. I have so many things I want to achieve but my weak heart is failing me.
Fear not. Its nothing new. Its been happening. You need that experience for your development in life. That experience will prepare you properly and make you more stable and fully balanced in your future relationships. Remember that A BROKEN FRIENDSHIP/COURTSHIP IS FAR BETTER THAN A BROKEN MARRIAGE ... FINALLY, THE GUY LOVED YOU BUT I LOVE YOU MORE... JUST CHILL LETS TOAST TO A BETTER LIFE FOR YOU. DON'T FORGET TO BE STRONG FOR YOURSELF. 1 Like |
Re: . by SarutobiEky(m): 7:02pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
luminouz: You dey mind them. Calling her dear dear upandan and already like 7milliom don send her PM.
If na man now, na 'huzle huzle' oooo we go dey hear upandan
Lmao. you ehn...them just dey fall my hand as if the dear go make her consider them. |
Re: . by Sixfeetbelle: 7:03pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
luminouz:
You here again!!!!
Oya goan cook dinner!!!
I just finished dinner I'm a romancelander. I should be here! 1 Like |
Re: . by SarutobiEky(m): 7:04pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
pcguru1:
It has nothing to do with gender, I advised a fellow man the same last week, when you are constantly working and have nobody to talk to, e dey affect person. It is a common feeling for people. Constantly working Abi? No be her fault sha. Shebi Na because she get job. Anyway all of una wey dey depress anyhow Na ajebo sha. Come my hood, depression sef go tire for u. |
Re: . by Nobody: 7:09pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
SarutobiEky:
Constantly working Abi? No be her fault sha. Shebi Na because she get job. Anyway all of una wey dey depress anyhow Na ajebo sha. Come my hood, depression sef go tire for u. hood ke, those days of hood don dey over for us nau. every class get him own depression. |
Re: . by Pancakeey(f): 7:26pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
NATIONALPASTOR:
Fear not.
Its nothing new.
Its been happening.
You need that experience for your development in life.
That experience will prepare you properly and make you more stable and fully balanced in your future relationships.
Remember that A BROKEN FRIENDSHIP/COURTSHIP IS FAR BETTER THAN A BROKEN MARRIAGE ...
FINALLY, THE GUY LOVED YOU BUT I LOVE YOU MORE...
JUST CHILL LETS TOAST TO A BETTER LIFE FOR YOU.
DON'T FORGET TO BE STRONG FOR YOURSELF. Lol, thanks Your I love you more line made me smile I know I need this experience to grow. I’m just struggling to adapt It’s all fresh in my mind |
Re: . by luminouz(m): 7:32pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle:
I just finished dinner
I'm a romancelander. I should be here! Serve mine quick. I'm starving |
Re: . by luminouz(m): 7:33pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
SarutobiEky:
Lmao. you ehn...them just dey fall my hand as if the dear go make her consider them. Consider them for what? They dont know if she is pretty or not but I guess they wanna help a damsel in distress. I.wish her the best though. Naija hard as it is 1 Like |
Re: . by cristy149: 7:35pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Pancakeey: Hello, Nairalanders. I’m really sad plus, this is the first time I’ll be telling total strangers what’s bothering me. But I thought why not?
So, I just recently became single and I’m healing or trying to cope with it. After my breakup, I realized that I had no one except my boyfriend (as a friend) Now, I’m going through a tough time, my work is stressing me out and little things just make me cry. It feels like I’m not growing like there’s no change in my life.
I guess that’s why my ass was dumped. My ex said I brought nothing to the table except feelings.
It’s worse because my work has become more demanding and I don’t think I can keep up with it. But I can’t be heartbroken and still broke. How do I keep a clear head? How do I stay strong despite all these? I have no one to talk to and I feel I’m alone.
I’m losing it. When it feels like everything is finally going right for me it turns sour again.
Long story short, I need kind words from you guys. I have so many things I want to achieve but my weak heart is failing me.
I understand ..what you living now is a provincial life..if you could ask for a few weeks break from work..or even days.. travel out of your city ..go to some serene environment where you meet new people it would help 1 Like |
Re: . by SarutobiEky(m): 7:44pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
luminouz:
Consider them for what?
They dont know if she is pretty or not but I guess they wanna help a damsel in distress.
I.wish her the best though. Naija hard as it is Hahahahaha...rotfl. boss you just hit the nail on the head. Most of us have got more serious issues to deal with. As far as I'm concerned she ain't got nothing to worry about. She go dey alright. |
Re: . by 2dice01: 7:46pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
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Re: . by FahBuLous: 7:48pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
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Re: . by 2dice01: 7:48pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
SarutobiEky: All these men..consoling the Op if it was your fellow man in the same position, would you be this sympathetic to his plight? Watch how they flood the thread to pacify her. I wonder why e be like this for my gender. Who do us this thing? Everybody turn Jesus ASAP |
Re: . by SarutobiEky(m): 7:50pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
pcguru1:
hood ke, those days of hood don dey over for us nau. every class get h ;Dim own depression. Haha. 'cause the boys in the hood are always hard, You come talkin' the trash, we'll pull your card Knowin' nuthin' in life, but to be legit Dun't quote me boy, 'cause I ain't said shit. |
Re: . by SarutobiEky(m): 7:51pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
2dice01: Everybody turn Jesus ASAP
Lmao. Them don retire Jesus sharp sharp |