osuofia2:
Would people rather prefer the collapse of the marriage? human are naturally insatiable especially Nigerians.
To the best of my knowledge Governor Orthom has played his part by intervening in the crisis. God is a against divorce.
Matthew 19:6. ''Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

kendrick93:
So the woman should continue receiving beatings all in the name of trying to save a marriage.
You disgust me,
I pity anyone who hands over his daughters to you and your likes..
Marriage kee u dia....
Marriage is no do or die affair..
Under no circumstance should domestic violence be condoned,
and yet you are spouting absolute nonsense about marriage...
How can a country move forward when people like you still reside in it?
tufiakwa

alizma:

And the children moved to your house right, how much child support have you agreed to render to assist the woman take care of the children feeding, school fee and clothing while the man is behind bars?
Put him behind bars, put him behind bars. At most he will be behind bars for hitting his wife for 6 months or at most 1year. Pls tell me how much support you have planned to render when the family is separated. Rather than talking about putting him behind bars, why not talk about counseling on how to handle the family finance, love and respect for each other? Don't you think 4children with the guy and his wife is enough responsibility to get a fragile man frustrated? Probably you think the guy earns his salary in millions?

Farki:


She's a doctor, she has a job, or if he should kill her now and go to jail who will take care of the children.

The way some men on this forum reason is sick.

kmst1:


Please and please I've been on this forum for years I've never insulted anyone
Dont go personal cos you don't even know me

When your daughter gets married and has issues you can go ahead and preach divorce to her instead of trying to see how you can help

The guy has agreed to stop the stupid thing
The lady has agreed to keep loving him if he stops so what's your problem again
No be your marriage

You can move on with your single mother life generation while sane parents who have had experience with marriage try to teach these young ones how it should be
People keep growing as time goes on in marriage
Some couples went through hell but later realized how to handle themselves better

Like i said you can go ahead and preach divorce to your daughter let her come back to your house and stay with you

I dispise people who at any instance a problem springs between them and other people the first suggestion they have is hate and breakup or divorce (marriage being the case)
Cant you reason beyond that?

kmst1:


She's a doctor so
She has a job so
Did she tell you she wants your so called single mother life?
Both parties have to settle the dispute and continue their marriage and the husband has promised to never try the rubbish again
Why you come dey carry am for your head

E be like say husband and wife matter never put you for trouble
They maybe somewhere enjoying themselves now and you are here saying they must divorce
Na you wed them?

Splitmind:


Don't you have empathy at all?

This woman is being brutalised and if she didn't come online we would not have known. You seem more concerned with keeping up appearances than her wellbeing. This isn't a minor problem like her refusing to get him a cup of tea, this is a serious issue and I am seriously wondering if some men on this forum are OK mentally after going through this thread.

Farki:


Just say you hate women I will understand.

If she dies now you will he happy abi? How can you say there is love in this marriage after looking at the marks on her face? After seeing her like that? If you were in her shoes would you be happy?

If a boss should hit his worker on the head with a plank should we just be looking?

abbey621:


What will a human rights lawyer in Nigeria, someone that is still hungry do? Worse comes to worst, they will land the man in jail right? Does this solve the problem that most women are still over reliant on their husband for survival? This case is different because the woman is a doctor but for many women suffering domestic violence the solution is not very simple.

Until human rights organizations or government can guarantee this women a secure form of livelihood after leaving their husband, these women would prefer to die at home than to LEAVE! As a nation, we have to start tackling the root cause instead of the symptoms, we have to support these humanitarians and NGOs as well because even if they have the resources for one or 10 people, can they handle the thousands of cases in 9ja?

Godbless3:


What i meant was social media is not the rolution.
You can't just sitdown and assume NGO's or human right can't handle these issues but try and lets see.

abbey621:


What will a human rights lawyer in Nigeria, someone that is still hungry do? Worse comes to worst, they will land the man in jail right? Does this solve the problem that most women are still over reliant on their husband for survival? This case is different because the woman is a doctor but for many women suffering domestic violence the solution is not very simple.

Until human rights organizations or government can guarantee this women a secure form of livelihood after leaving their husband, these women would prefer to die at home than to LEAVE! As a nation, we have to start tackling the root cause instead of the symptoms, we have to support these humanitarians and NGOs as well because even if they have the resources for one or 10 people, can they handle the thousands of cases in 9ja?

Godbless3:


We all knows what elders/pastors gonna say abt abusive marraige.
Whats your take, post it on SN? or just sitdown and pray?
We just hv to do something.

Chii59:
Would Gov Ortom reconcile his daughter with a wife beating husband? I doubt.
The way we romanticise evil.
We forgive polithiefcians, silence rape victims and victims of domestic violence.
We respect and defend sexual predators in our religious institutions... The list is endless.
The Nigerian society is a dysfunctional one.

abbey621:


The onus will always be on victim. You can't help someone that does not feel they need help. The court can only assist when a clear case i brought before it. Victims of domestic abuse running to NGOs who later abandons them after 2-3 years are much more likely to return to their abuser or enter into another abusive relationship. The matter deep pass what we are thinking!

Friend22:
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I quite agree with you that Nigeria society is dysfunctional because busy bodies like you won't learn to shut their trap than be doing the job of an unsolicited judge.

Don't move on with your life and be splitting your hair over what's none of business.[/s]

Godbless3:


There is no domestic abuse case that last 2-3years in court. NGO or human right lawyers will provide a platform for court proceeding while social media is just for name calling, insult and clout chasing.
You just sitdown and discredit these NGO's like they have no relevant which you're wrong.
Stop assuming things and get close to some ngo's that has a good int'l link.
Or are you saying pastors and elders/governore give a better councelling tn abuse?
Explore lifes and stop assuming from your home.