CalliDora1:


Sir, no body is brainwashing me. In fact I preach it anywhere I have the opportunity to. Premarital sex is not good. It's not as if it prevented the ones that practiced it from cheating on their spouses. So??

I been think say those who wear trousers to church are not worthy i n the house of God cos one was sent out of the church an Anglican church for this ohhh, what say you?

erico2k2:

If I talk wetin dey my mind you go vex send me PM, I no want trouble

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erico2k2:

I been think say those who wear trousers to church are not worthy i n the house of God cos one was sent out of the church an Anglican church for this ohhh, what say you?

Wearing of trousers is a personal conviction. I don't wear it to Sunday service but to weekly activities sometimes and my Church has never sent me out.

fati2001:



just save it... cuz my email account is not working.

yes Aunty

CalliDora1:


Wearing of trousers is a personal conviction. I don't wear it to Sunday service but to weekly activities sometimes and my Church has never sent me out.

But Im sure U have heard some churches preach against it yes or NO , since today is Sunday and we are in the xtian talk!

Yes it’s the key

This is completely ridiculous. We are talking about marriage here and yall bringing up religion. Now if sex is not necessary in a relationship, then spending on the lady should not be necessary at all. Using that silly logic of y'all, sex does not mean a relationship will last and SPENDING ON THE LADY does not mean the RELATIONSHIP would last. It goes either way. Everytime God this, God that..... do you think that you will really make heaven. I mean take a closer look at the new testament and ask yourself...... have I done all that Jesus christ spoke about on THE SERMON ON THE MOUNT. You only know that sex before marriage is a sin, but what about lying, bad thoughts, keeping malice, having sexual thoughts about random individuals, wasting and others. Shey na like that you go take go heaven. HYPOCRITES.

My own take is that, if you want to have sex before marriage, good for you. If you no want, good for you. Sex oo, no sex ooo, is completely unnecessary. Again of someone bring up these ridiculous religious views while you are involved in a discussion about sex in a relationship, quietly enter your room, bring out your bible and show the HYPOCRITE all that jesus said in the bible and you would see that him or her does not even have a 0.001 % chance of making heaven

Chenko001:
This is completely ridiculous. We are talking about marriage here and yall bringing up religion. Now if sex is not necessary in a relationship, then spending on the lady should not be necessary at all. Using that silly logic of y'all, sex does not mean a relationship will last and SPENDING ON THE LADY does not mean the RELATIONSHIP would last. It goes either way. Everytime God this, God that..... do you think that you will really make heaven. I mean take a closer look at the new testament and ask yourself...... have I done all that Jesus christ spoke about on THE SERMON ON THE MOUNT. You only know that sex before marriage is a sin, but what about lying, bad thoughts, keeping malice, having sexual thoughts about random individuals, wasting and others. Shey na like that you go take go heaven. HYPOCRITES.

My own take is that, if you want to have sex before marriage, good for you. If you no want, good for you. Sex oo, no sex ooo, is completely unnecessary. Again of someone bring up these ridiculous religious views while you are involved in a discussion about sex in a relationship, quietly enter your room, bring out your bible and show the HYPOCRITE all that jesus said in the bible and you would see that him or her does not even have a 0.001 % chance of making heaven

Are u an atheist??


If you are then my rationale psychoanalysis on the subject matter will b objective

Some people made strong non religious points focus on them

That's my take on the matter

Dapcity007:










Are u an atheist??


If you are then my rationale psychoanalysis on the subject matter will b objective

Some people made strong non religious points focus on them

That's my take on the matter

check very well frm page o be till now those saying massive No are shouting from the religious point of view.Non of them is logical.

Dapcity007:










Are u an atheist??


If you are then my rationale psychoanalysis on the subject matter will b objective

Some people made strong non religious points focus on them

That's my take on the matter

Well said. All am saying is that whether sex in a relationship is good or bad, I don't really think about those. I can't jump on either bandwagon because without knowing the context to which the demand is being made, I might end up on the wrong side of it. I would be really sad if I only find out that my wife is not a virgin on our wedding night after the whole NO SEX THING. I would feel deceived and how will I now trust her again? You see, it's quite bleak if you think about the negative side of it. And please don't say that "YOU HAVE TO ASK THE LADY FIRST BEFORE MARRIAGE" when you know that 99.99 percent of Nigerian ladies are liars. I mean no disrespect but if you've dealt with ladies, you would know that their words are a MYSTERY THAT CAN'T BE UNRAVELLED.

And you are asking if am an atheist? Well I go to church, just because it's something that have been indoctrinated in me. If I was born a Muslim, I believe that I would also be worshipping in a Mosque. So about that..... RELIGION IS A SYSTEM BROUGHT BY THR RICH TO MAKE THE POOR FEEL A SENSE OF BELONGING. Don't try to argue this, because in as much as you are defending Christianity, the Islams are defending theirs and the same also applies to the Buddhists. You don't want to start this argument believe me

Chenko001:


Well said. All am saying is that whether sex in a relationship is good or bad, I don't really think about those. I can't jump on either bandwagon because without knowing the context to which the demand is being made, I might end up on the wrong side of it. I would be really sad if I only find out that my wife is not a virgin on our wedding night after the whole NO SEX THING. I would feel deceived and how will I now trust her again? You see, it's quite bleak if you think about the negative side of it. And please don't say that "YOU HAVE TO ASK THE LADY FIRST BEFORE MARRIAGE" when you know that 99.99 percent of Nigerian ladies are liars. I mean no disrespect but if you've dealt with ladies, you would know that their words are a MYSTERY THAT CAN'T BE UNRAVELLED.

And you are asking if am an atheist? Well I go to church, just because it's something that have been indoctrinated in me. If I was born a Muslim, I believe that I would also be worshipping in a Mosque. So about that..... RELIGION IS A SYSTEM BROUGHT BY THR RICH TO MAKE THE POOR FEEL A SENSE OF BELONGING. Don't try to argue this, because in as much as you are defending Christianity, the Islams are defending theirs and the same also applies to the Buddhists. You don't want to start this argument believe me

I'm going to see her unclothedness before marriage

If u want to keep ur virginity till marriage pls don't collect anything from ur boyfriend as long as is not ur broda or father, because many guys believe that if dy spend on u even do u didn't marry dem at least u give him sex, den he no say dir money no waste. My advice if u no u can give sex don't collect money from guys wen marriage reach now & u say ur pastor talk say or ur father or mother talk say omo such story dy pain ooo

how it started is important

Misslilbootay:


If she doesn't indulge in a relationship, how will she get married?

To me I feel sex is not important as much as the demand for cash or kind is not important.

Interesting.

izuu20:
*#VERY SIMPLE#*.... YOU CAN'T GO AROUND FIRE EXPECTING NOT TO SWEAT.

Are you a Lil wayne Fan?

Ovaltine:
A close friend recently broke up with his gal.
The babe no be virgin but e no gree make my friend touch am.
This was a 2 years sweet and money spending relationship. He got her phone, laptop and helped her land her first job, plus a position at an international organization. Apart from this, he got her an apartment to live (till now), and so many others as I don't know the extent to which he spent on this lady. I don't interfere nor do I poke nose to know everything.

But it happened! He suspected, monitored and then caught the gal with e padi (I no sabi the guy). She confessed to it since he has evidence and it was over. I no fit put mouth as the girl no call me make I elp am beg.

I can tell you vividly that my guy was faithful. I know how he kept other ladies away. 2 years wasted. Devotion, time and Money. GONE.

Experience is such a teacher. How will he react if the next girl brings up such rules?

yea many ladies use the format on no sex b4 marriage as a means to obtain the guy when dem no dey attracted to the guy.There many signs to tell the guy dat the girl is not attracted to him but then many of us always believe that with money everything is solved.If a girl no like u but u get money she can use the format on u.no amount of money or gifts u will give a girl will make her to fall in love with u when the interest is not there initially.ur close friend has learnt it the hard way

erico2k2:

I been think say those who wear trousers to church are not worthy i n the house of God cos one was sent out of the church an Anglican church for this ohhh, what say you?

so some churches in nigeria still harrass women on trousers?
dis is so funny when actually in biblical times men and women were both wearing skirts

as long as u decently dressed in the church why would someone be freaking out if a lady is wearing a pair of trousers

Sex is very important in a relationship. It’s as important as breathing.

This is a good one. I wanted to know if you have read the below books on soul tie by David Cross.
quote author=Nuttella
post=97001956]Fornication is a deadly sin, flee from it. The consequences are brutal. Any man that wants to sleep with you while dating you does not actually love you and when he gets tired of you, he will move on to the next lady. Stop sharing your body, your body is the temple of the holy spirit which dwells in you. Stop creating soul ties with strange men, you will regret it later by the time sexual demons start tormenting your life, that is why many men and women have spirit husband and wife.[/quote]

Jefferic:
This is a good one. I wanted to know if you have read the below books on soul tie by David Cross.
quote author=Nuttella
post=97001956]Fornication is a deadly sin, flee from it. The consequences are brutal. Any man that wants to sleep with you while dating you does not actually love you and when he gets tired of you, he will move on to the next lady. Stop sharing your body, your body is the temple of the holy spirit which dwells in you. Stop creating soul ties with strange men, you will regret it later by the time sexual demons start tormenting your life, that is why many men and women have spirit husband and wife.

No, I haven't.

lefulefu:
so some churches in nigeria still harrass women on trousers?
dis is so funny when actually in biblical times men and women were both wearing skirts

as long as u decently dressed in the church why would someone be freaking out if a lady is wearing a pair of trousers

yes Anglican

Op, Ladies Are D Ones Making Demselves So Low B4 Men. Laziness, Financial Dependency On Men & D Love Of Money Has Made Many Of Dem Lose Their Value To Men, Yes. Many Ladies Av Made Demselves So Cheap Because Money. I Av Already Created A Related Topic To Dis. Do U Know Why It Would End Up In Giving Him Sex? Guy Has Been D Only One Doing 4 Her. D Guy Has Been Spending On Her Without Her Doing Anything In Return 4 Him. No Wonder, A Guy Said Here Dat Ladies Av Nothing To Offer Guys In A Relationship Rada Dan Sex. She Hasn't Done Any Remarkable Thing In D Guy's Life. All She Has Been Doing Is Just Taking 4rm D Guy & Say I Love U. If She Had Been Reciprocally Supportively, D Guy Won't Av Been Pressuring Her 4 Sex. Even If Sex Would Happen, It Would Av Been At Her Own Will, Yes.

Misslilbootay:
I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.

Do not awaken Love when it's not yet time

CalliDora1:



Why are some of you acting like sex is the only thing required for a relationship and marriage to work? It is this high expectations some people go into marriage with that causes problems. Expecting your man to perform like your ex or your woman like a porn star and when they dont, you start going out to get it.

Do you want to tell me most marriages that crashed didn't practice premarital sex or enjoyed good sex in the marriage? But still it crashed and your Almighty SEX couldn't salvage the marriage.
You meet someone and the next thing you start rushing yourselves with sex and forget to look out for other red flags. Then the next thing marriage ( cos sex is good). Afterwards, you'll begin to see the red flags and you want out.

To your question,.. since sex is not my major drive for going into marriage, if I meet a "carrot" sized man I wont bother because One...I didn't mess myself up so he'll meet me there with his size.
Two...if you truly love someone and are committed to him, whether or not he satisfies you, you won't bother.

Love is what conquers all. Not sex. In my opinion though.

U see u are not yet married and u wouldnt understand.Y us infidelity or adultry rate so high in Nigeria if sex isnt as important as u claim? This is d major reason y all these overly church people do suffer setbacks in their marriage cos u all take certain things for granted and in turn those things turn back to hunt themso hard.U see marriage should be enjoyed more than being endured and if u think that only bible will do the work,my sister ur in for a big shock.Go and learn various ways of spicing up marriages b4 its too late

Verysmart101:

U see u are not yet married and u wouldnt understand.Y us infidelity or adultry rate so high in Nigeria if sex isnt as important as u claim? This is d major reason y all these overly church people do suffer setbacks in their marriage cos u all take certain things for granted and in turn those things turn back to hunt themso hard.U see marriage should be enjoyed more than being endured and if u think that only bible will do the work,my sister ur in for a big shock.Go and learn various ways of spicing up marriages b4 its too late

What you mean by spicing up is giving a man excessive sex, that is only when marriage can be spicy? Story.

The thing is a lot of you are chasing shadows. As in... you don't really know what you want and that is why a 5 mins madness called "sex" still can't keep you in marriage even when you have an overdose of it.

What do you men really want? You clearly don't know. Please find out.

CalliDora1:



What you mean by spicing up is giving a man excessive sex, that is only when marriage can be spicy? Story.

The thing is a lot of you are chasing shadows. As in... you don't really know what you want and that is why a 5 mins madness called "sex" still can't keep you in marriage even when you have an overdose of it.

What do you men really want? You clearly don't know. Please find out.

When u get married,u will certainly understand but now,i cant talk to a novice like u

lefulefu:
...ur close friend has learnt it the hard way

yes, the hard way.