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Hi everyone, good evening
Sorry for taking your time,I really need your advice, I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for 3 years now,he is a working class and I am a student, he is a good man except he doesn't spend on me unless I ask and I am not the type that ask which he knows too, even though I don't have much I take from the little i have to buy him gifts which in turns he buys me too,he always makes a statement that if he is to leave a relationship he will not leave it in shame,I can count how many times he has given me something and that's because I asked, I am tired of asking,am tired of being the one to make a move,am tired of being the only one trying to make amends when we have a misunderstanding,am tired of being insulted,am tired of bearing, but I love him to much to say so,am tired of being a laughing stock, he is my first and we are working towards marriage but am afraid that I am gonna continue bearing .
I know Am not good at explaining things but I need your advice urgently thanks

Nobody cares

You don't value what you have until you lose it :

My dear do wetin ur mind tell u
Problem no fit finish for this life
If u feel the need to quit then do so pls
No one here knows exactly how u feel period!

Where did Nigerian girls get this mentality that a guy must spend on them?

Anything coming from that guy to you is a kind gesture. Don't make it seem as if it's his responsibility to take care of you.

What stops you from giving him too?

Working class and student All this kind nonsense love. Date your age mate c'mon

Lovewiththehear:
Hi everyone, good evening
Sorry for taking your time,I really need your advice, I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for 3 years now,he is a working class and I am a student, he is a good man except he doesn't spend on me unless I ask and I am not the type that ask which he knows too, even though I don't have much I take from the little i have to buy him gifts which in turns he buys me too,he always makes a statement that if he is to leave a relationship he will not leave it in shame,I can count how many times he has given me something and that's because I asked, I am tired of asking,am tired of being the one to make a move,am tired of being the only one trying to make amends when we have a misunderstanding,am tired of being insulted,am tired of bearing, but I love him to much to say so,am tired of being a laughing stock, he is my first and we are working towards marriage but am afraid that I am gonna continue bearing .
I know Am not good at explaining things but I need your advice urgently thanks

Since you are working towards marriage, it is safe to say you're actively skipping the hoeing stage. I'm proud of you as a human being.

Now he's constantly giving you clues that he won't be the loser in the relationship. That's why it seems he's not committing to the point you desire. He doesn't trust you fully and that's probably because you're still a student (when women are at the peak of their hoeing stage). You have to reassure him that he's the only one in your life because trust get as e be. In marriage, you'll fight countless times compared to this boyfriend-girlfriend stage. Do something new. In street lingo, 'Burst his head'. Constantly do things that will make him unconsciously say "I love you".

If you're tired of him. End it now and don't waste both your times.

concentrate on ur studies mk ur pussy no com suffer oh hmm

People no just get problem for this life at all...of all the problems we are facing in this country, na boy friend mater you carry for head...

Don't got tried...hmmmm.You need to ask,when you are in need...OK..don't just be too demanding... What the guy is doing is right,if she spend anyhow for you,you may take him as maga..talking from experience.. Given you,when you need means,he loves you..For insult,try to talk to him,that you don't like it and more also try to avoid all the event that can cause insult...If you thoroughly like him,face your studies,have good grade,have business or handiwork,and finally be supportive to him,financially, emotionally, physically, and be intellectual enough to add values to his life..Assuming he broke up with you,you will be remembered for your contribution in his life..don't give up....

Hmmm

People no just get problem for this life at all...of all the problems we are facing in this country, na boy friend mater you carry for head...