Havesomesense:
I'm in a relationship with a girl i like very much, she's a good girl, she takes good care of me, I take care of her bills but the issue is that she's broke.

she's not lazy but she's too nice and not business minded like me.

she's relaxed and comfortable with what i provide for her

I'm tired of taking care of her, i have other important things to do with my money.

Another thing I don't like is that, i feel too comfortable in the relationship, i added weight, big stomach, I lost my good shape.

Also, I haven't saved much since our relationship started, i like her a lot but i want to quit the relationship so I can invest more on myself because I believe that if i were a broke ass she wouldn't have fallen for me



what do you think ?

Havesomesense:
I'm in a relationship with a girl i like very much, she's a good girl, she takes good care of me, I take care of her bills but the issue is that she's broke.

she's not lazy but she's too nice and not business minded like me.

she's relaxed and comfortable with what i provide for her

I'm tired of taking care of her, i have other important things to do with my money.

Another thing I don't like is that, i feel too comfortable in the relationship, i added weight, big stomach, I lost my good shape.

Also, I haven't saved much since our relationship started, i like her a lot but i want to quit the relationship so I can invest more on myself because I believe that if i were a broke ass she wouldn't have fallen for me



what do you think ?

Havesomesense:
I'm in a relationship with a girl i like very much, she's a good girl, she takes good care of me, I take care of her bills but the issue is that she's broke.

she's not lazy but she's too nice and not business minded like me.

she's relaxed and comfortable with what i provide for her

I'm tired of taking care of her, i have other important things to do with my money.

Another thing I don't like is that, i feel too comfortable in the relationship, i added weight, big stomach, I lost my good shape.

Also, I haven't saved much since our relationship started, i like her a lot but i want to quit the relationship so I can invest more on myself because I believe that if i were a broke ass she wouldn't have fallen for me



what do you think ?

Nonexistent:
If you have chopped her finish, dump the olosho. Nice or not, they are all the same. That you have not seen that ugly side of her till now is because she still depends on you. Dump the bitch nigga when you have fuccked her enough.

lovelybugs:
You not saving money has nothing to do with her. It has more to do with you. Set a budget and do not go above it. It can be N0 , N10,000 , N20,000, etc. No one can force you to spend your own money.

Yusufisraelj:


You sound like a sociopath, I hope same is done to your sister or a close friend.

@OP I have been in your shoes, but this what I did differently, I told the lady to list her aspirations in life and where she wants to contribute to society, upon that list what skill does she have, that is good enough that if she put to use people would value and pay her for? For the lady it was teaching, long story short I told her to start applying for teaching jobs and she did get one with a fair pay.

Every relationship is an opportunity for growth and I think the focus should be what you can contribute to her life not what you can get. If she really loves you she would change and do those things she has always envisioned and contribute significantly to your life as well, else there is no growth and you would have to end things but make her understand why you are ending the relationship, so that she comes out a better person.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Kudos man! Decent response

Yusufisraelj:


You sound like a sociopath, I hope same is done to your sister or a close friend.

@OP I have been in your shoes, but this what I did differently, I told the lady to list her aspirations in life and where she wants to contribute to society, upon that list what skill does she have, that is good enough that if she put to use people would value and pay her for? For the lady it was teaching, long story short I told her to start applying for teaching jobs and she did get one with a fair pay.

Every relationship is an opportunity for growth and I think the focus should be what you can contribute to her life not what you can get. If she really loves you she would change and do those things she has always envisioned and contribute significantly to your life as well, else there is no growth and you would have to end things but make her understand why you are ending the relationship, so that she comes out a better person.

SimpDetector:


A simp advising his fellow simp.

@bolded. A man's focus should always be on himself and on what value a woman can add to his life. A man should always view himself as the prize and his needs should come first. The attention he is giving to the woman in exchange for sex is enough. If she isn't okay with that then she can fuçk off.

How does a human being pay the bills of another human being just because he is dating her? I mean let's take away the genders and look at this from a purely neutral perspective. Isn't this stupidity? What is she bringing to the table other than pussy? Only simps pay "pussy salaries."

It's people like you and the OP that make these women feel entitled. You can't blame the bitçh though, she is being paid for doing nothing because she found herself a rich simp.

That's why I always say that money isn't everything. You can still have money and be a simp. And bitches will milk you dry and dump your ass when your money is finished. Never invest financially on pussy.

If a man needs to sit a girl down and "make her understand" that bringing just pussy to the table isn't enough reason for him to keep paying her bills, then that man is a big fool. You don't negotiate this, you simply dump the bitch and find some other pussy to smash.

Like I've said before, I'm not a fan of committing to just one woman. It makes you do stupid things like the op is doing. If you are having sex with multiple pussies, you won't have time to pedestalize one pussy to the point of paying it salary.

And calling the guy a sociopath for being reasonable seems funny to me. Women naturally exhibit sociopathic traits. They lie, manipulate and deceive men everyday without remorse or guilt, and feel justified doing these things.

Yusufisraelj:


Your reply shows the bankruptcy of balance you need for a loving relationship, a man should never be a doormat at the same time must never see a woman as an object.

Read well, I never called anybody a sociopath, your challenge is comprehension

Havesomesense:
I'm in a relationship with a girl i like very much, she's a good girl, she takes good care of me, I take care of her bills but the issue is that she's broke.

she's not lazy but she's too nice and not business minded like me.

she's relaxed and comfortable with what i provide for her

I'm tired of taking care of her, i have other important things to do with my money.

Another thing I don't like is that, i feel too comfortable in the relationship, i added weight, big stomach, I lost my good shape.

Also, I haven't saved much since our relationship started, i like her a lot but i want to quit the relationship so I can invest more on myself because I believe that if i were a broke ass she wouldn't have fallen for me



what do you think ?

Benitam:

jawalis:
Focus not on what you earn, focus on how you spend what you earn. Strength, Courage, Mastery, and Honor are the alpha virtues of men all over the world. It’ll be good and better for you to leave that leach and parasite you called girlfriend before she send you back to village. How can you even stay with a lady whom you know fully well she’s comfortable spending your money and this had nothing in her upstairs. Damn.
And I can see you are carried away by the delicious meal she cooks for you. You just have to man up and let those things go.
Before you go on in that relationship, pls ask her these questions;
1. What are her financial goals?
2. What are her financial fears?
3. What are her Non-Negotiable items?
4. How she’ll blend her finances?

lovelybugs:
You not saving money has nothing to do with her. It has more to do with you. Set a budget and do not go above it. It can be N0 , N10,000 , N20,000, etc. No one can force you to spend your own money.

frozen70:


You spent so much on both of you that's why you are running down with cash

You find it difficult to teach her how to be business contious

Now you want to leave her despite the goodies in the relationship that gave you peace of mind
.
Is it that when you make more money, you go back to her or you move on

For once be a man and tell her what she needs to hear

Havesomesense:


She's a very good cook, sometimes she bake bread, cake, fry chin chin, make ice cream etc

As for the questions I'll ask her

Havesomesense:


She's a very good cook, sometimes she bake bread, cake, fry chin chin, make ice cream etc

As for the questions I'll ask her

SimpDetector:


A simp advising his fellow simp.

@bolded. A man's focus should always be on himself and on what value a woman can add to his life. A man should always view himself as the prize and his needs should come first. The attention he is giving to the woman in exchange for sex is enough. If she isn't okay with that then she can fuçk off.

How does a human being pay the bills of another human being just because he is dating her? I mean, let's take away the genders and look at this from a purely neutral perspective. Isn't this stupidity? What is she bringing to the table other than pussy? Only simps pay "pussy salaries."

It's people like you and the OP that make these women feel entitled. You can't blame the bitçh though, she is being paid for doing nothing because she found herself a rich simp.

That's why I always say that money isn't everything. You can still have money and be a simp. And bitches will milk you dry and dump your ass when your money is finished. Never invest financially on pussy.

If a man needs to sit a girl down and "make her understand" that bringing just pussy to the table isn't enough reason for him to keep paying her bills, then that man is a big fool. You don't negotiate this, you simply dump the bitch and find some other pussy to smash.

Like I've said before, I'm not a fan of committing to just one woman. It makes you do stupid things like the op is doing. If you are having sex with multiple pussies, you won't have time to pedestalize one pussy to the point of paying it salary.

And calling the guy a sociopath for being reasonable seems funny to me. Women naturally exhibit sociopathic traits. They lie, manipulate and deceive men everyday without remorse or guilt, and feel justified doing these things.

Havesomesense:


I gave her oil perfumes to sell,

i told her not to do free stuffs for casual people cus she's dexterous and her friends and other people would take advantage of her niceness.

I told her that she's relaxed and feels too comfortable with me and i don't want that..

the thing is if I let her go, i may not see her type again, she's everything i want in a woman but she's broke and her immediate family too is broke.