Women Love Their Son Than Daughter Until He Becomes A Husband

Most families always want a son. Women have been encouraged to continue to have babies until the first son is born. You can tell from the face of the father after each birth by his wife if it is another girl or finally a boy. The celebration after the birth of that son is grander. But different from the Indian culture of dowry for a man.

We must wonder why parents love and respect the sons more than the daughters. But when the same sons become fathers, they are less favored and appreciated than daughters as mothers. We accept that women are better at multitasking and more flexible than men. As women get older they are more useful to their children's families. They get closer and jealously protect their own creations than men.

Come to think about it, daughters are more useful, empathic and never actually leave the family emotionally even when married compared to the sons. You would think that with all the accolades, encouragement and investment in boys, they will return as much love as girls. The surprise or readjustment usually comes from the daughter. She contributes more in kind if they cannot do so financially. You can rely on them most of the time. They hardly leave their mother alone. A lady followed both parents to see their family doctor. Both parents asked their daughter to come in as an open family. While there, the father asked for Viagra. The daughter objected: daddy don’t kill my mother. The mother told her daughter to mind her business!

However, we place so much responsibility on the son especially if he is the first born. This same responsibility is expected of him once he gets married, though they gradually get absorbed by their new family. Indeed, the debate is who deserves to be more comfortable if you have to make a first choice as a man: your mother or your wife. Many people think the first house or the first car should be for your mother before your wife. Nevertheless, it may be understood if you have a family with children to provide for; your immediate immediate family comes first. Children from rich homes look at this differently. The sons may excuse their preference by claiming their fathers already have houses and their mothers have cars.

So why do we invest more on sons when we, especially the mothers, get more in returns from the daughters? There used to be a time when parents would rather send sons for further studies than daughters. Circumstances have changed. Daughters are better educated today, financially capable and better at multitasking than they have ever been. It may be that cultural expectations linger. Female teachers were surprised when recorded in a study: they were inadvertently encouraging more boys in their classrooms than girls.

There are more girls in the universities these days than boys. If it is not for affirmative action, more of the girls would be in professional schools at home and abroad. There are more of them in the universities already. Actually, a good number of the professional ladies bring more money home than their partners. Believe it or not, their partners may not know. Something changed about sons that made them less favorable once they became fathers. The mothers would become the preference of the children.

The problem is when mothers go overseas thinking they are going on vacation. Mama, the vacation abroad is not easy o! When children feel like rewarding or sending parents on trips at home or abroad, you can bet it has to be the mother. Their tickets are left unused if they do not want to leave the husbands alone; until the children plead and persuade mum to help make up her mind.

The fact that mothers can live with their son in law is not a big deal and understandable because she is more useful in their home than the father. Fathers hardly help around their homes not to think of their children's house. Compared to the mother that multitasks. Recently, we saw a mother's celebration on one of the social media, stolen from her husband because her daughter had invited her overseas for a "holiday".

When she landed, she was dancing shoko. Most of the comments congratulated her on this "great feat" in her life. Mummy, the excitement of going overseas will change after a couple of months. You will miss your husband back home, even worse he may find solace in the bosoms of others. In the first place, it can be very lonely for the elders or grandparents apart from the shivering cold overseas. it is not a place you can easily interact with those you know and others you hardly know.

The children you longed so much to bond with are not easily available. You will find out that one and in most cases both husband and wife work almost throughout the day or night. By the time they get home, they will be so tired, you will pity them. Indeed, you will be asking them if they had eaten or what they would want to eat. It means, you would start cooking for them even if they do not ask you.

Since you are at home not doing much, you might as well help them babysit their kids. It will save them a bundle of money. The cost of babysitting one or two kids can take most of the salary of one of the couple. So do not be surprised if they offer you a token as pocket money. Some of the mothers that know how much they are saving their children are appreciated; with minimum wage. It is good money when you get back home.

By the time grandmother started babysitting for a while, she would come to realize how big a task it is to take care of those fresh, rude and stubborn kids. They do not listen to grandma and you cannot hit them for any reason. If you do, they will call the Police! Actually some of them may play some pranks, hide and seek on you. Once their parents are back home, they may behave and start their pranks when the parents leave home.

Ma'am, do not get frustrated if you did not train or had their parents abroad. It is part of life there. Before the six months of your original intended stay; you may be itching to go back home to your neglected husband and friendly environment. Too much loneliness, cold, little time with your hardworking children and their lack of time for "normal life". Please do not ask them how they could live like that. They are "enjoying" oyinbo country.

The bottomline is that if Grandma decided to go back home early, she would put them in debt. If you do not know, they are still paying for your ticket. Even, the money you saved them by babysitting will not cover their expenses on you if you leave too early. They were planning to buy you presents and gifts for siblings and relatives back home if you stayed longer. A few months is simply not enough. They may have to find or make another arrangement for daycare. Mama nor fall their hands o!

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STOP USING YOUR FAMILY PROBLEM TO GENERALIZE ISSUES. I LOVE MA DAUGHTER DIE. AND SHEZ MA 1ST BORN

Cause male child respect dia parents and don't bring pregnancy home

Which country is this guy from?

NeoWanZaeed:
STOP USING YOUR FAMILY PROBLEM TO GENERALIZE ISSUES. I LOVE MA DAUGHTER DIE. AND SHEZ MA 1ST BORN

I would have read it if only it was short. boring

Interesting read

It's an extension of female materialism. They know that one day, the husband will be old and unproductive, so they groom their sons to be their future providers when that happens.

A woman will never support her mother financially in old age. She may certainly bring gifts once in a while, and visit to gist about their respective 'useless' husbands, but that is where the amity stops. No daughter will consider putting her parents on a monthly allowance until their demise; like a responsible son would. For women, bizness is bizness; mother or no mother.

RisenPhoenix1:
It's an extension of female materialism. They know that one day, the husband will be old and unproductive, so they groom their sons to be their future providers when that happens.

A woman will never support her mother financially in old age. She may certainly bring gifts once in a while, and visit to gist about their respective 'useless' husbands, but that is where the amity stops. No daughter will consider putting her parents on a monthly allowance until their demise; like a responsible son would. For women, bizness is bizness; mother or no mother.

Is this what you think? Seriously? Whoa!

I'm lost for words! Choiiiiii!

RisenPhoenix1:
It's an extension of female materialism. They know that one day, the husband will be old and unproductive, so they groom their sons to be their future providers when that happens.

A woman will never support her mother financially in old age. She may certainly bring gifts once in a while, and visit to gist about their respective 'useless' husbands, but that is where the amity stops. No daughter will consider putting her parents on a monthly allowance until their demise; like a responsible son would. For women, bizness is bizness; mother or no mother.

@bold:



No daughter around you has put her parents on monthly allowance?

Toor!

bukatyne:


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No daughter around you has put her parents on monthly allowance?

Toor!

That comment hurt me on behalf of all daughters.

It hurts to read comments such as that on a daily basis on this platform. Who raised these men?

you will be alright.let love lead.

Its a reflection of their lives and upbringing. They continue to relieve the horror of it and cannot accept that better situations exist.
This is their cry for help.

Mariangeles:


That comment hurt me on behalf of all daughters.

It hurts to read comments such as that on a daily basis on this platform. Who raised these men?

bukatyne:


@bold:



No daughter around you has put her parents on monthly allowance?

Toor!

Do you genuinely know one who has? I'll believe you.

Kestolove:
Cause male child respect dia parents and don't bring pregnancy home

God go bless you well well. You talk truth

Kestolove:
Cause male child respect dia parents and don't bring pregnancy home

Who causes the pregnancy to happen?

RisenPhoenix1:
It's an extension of female materialism. They know that one day, the husband will be old and unproductive, so they groom their sons to be their future providers when that happens.

[s]A woman will never support her mother financially in old age. She may certainly bring gifts once in a while, and visit to gist about their respective 'useless' husbands, but that is where the amity stops. No daughter will consider putting her parents on a monthly allowance until their demise; like a responsible son would. For women, bizness is bizness; mother or no mother.[/s]

It is widely known and confirmed that female children care and provide monthly stipends for their parents even if they are married, whereas married sons care less courtesy of their wives influence, this however, cannot be said for every home,

The fact that your sisters, relatives fall in the category you mentioned doesn't make it a fact, don't project your personal experience on others.

RisenPhoenix1:


Do you genuinely know one who has? I'll believe you.

You're obviously bitterly pained by behaviours of your sisters and females around you that you refuse to acknowledge the fact that women as such exists, you will be fine.

Biglittlelois:



You're obviously bitterly pained by behaviours of your sisters and females around you that you refuse to acknowledge the fact that women as such exists, you will be fine.

Lol. Have you ever wondered why females always resort to ad hominem attacks whenever they feel slighted? It's cute, but like all cute things, dumb and childlike.

And yes, my sisters and females around me are women. So they behave the way all women fundamentally behave. I wasn't exempting them. But believe me, my assertion was based on a considerable larger sample size than my sisters alone. But you'll get over it.

RisenPhoenix1:


Lol. Have you ever wondered why females always resort to ad hominem attacks whenever they feel slighted? It's cute, but like all cute things, dumb and childlike.

And yes, my sisters and females around me are women. So they behave the way all women fundamentally behave. I wasn't exempting them. But believe me, my assertion was based on a considerable larger sample size than my sisters alone. But you'll get over it.

No, your assertion can never apply to a large number of women in Nigeria, talk more of abroad, cos your large number isn't up to half of half of half of 1 billion women or thereabout around the world, not to talk of half or quarter of 200 million people in Nigeria, so no, your minute female example isn't a tiny bit large.

Unlike a daughter, a son's freedom is not limited after marriage because he is at liberty to do whatever he pleases even tho he's married. Hence in a better position to carry his family along.

Biglittlelois:



No, your assertion can never apply to a large number of women in Nigeria, talk more of abroad, cos your large number isn't up to half of half of half of 1 billion women or thereabout around the world, not to talk of half or quarter of 200 million people in Nigeria, so no, your minute female example isn't a tiny bit large.

You think that an appropriate sample size can only be half of half of half of one billion women (why didn't you even just say 125million women?)? Interesting. Is that the sample size normally used to conduct social behavioural studies or did you just pull the number because it seemed huge to you? Your comments are very amusing.

RisenPhoenix1:


Lol. Have you ever wondered why females always resort to ad hominem attacks whenever they feel slighted? It's cute, but like all cute things, dumb and childlike.

And yes, my sisters and females around me are women. So they behave the way all women fundamentally behave. I wasn't exempting them. But believe me, my assertion was based on a considerable larger sample size than my sisters alone. But you'll get over it.

No, women don't behave the way they do. Don't be surprised.
The way we're raised determines our character.

RisenPhoenix1:


You think that an appropriate sample size can only be half of half of half of one billion women (why didn't you even just say 125million women?)? Interesting. Is that the sample size normally used to conduct social behavioural studies or did you just pull the number because it seemed huge to you? Your comments are very amusing.

And your comments are irritating,

If you cannot provide a reliable source and link to your baseless assertions, then accept the fact that your female circle is 0.0000099% of females in Nigeria,

I will not accept your opinion as fact cos people read, digest some of these assumptions, see it as the truth, and see every female child or adult around them as what you wrote in your first comment,

Accept that you are wrong and move on.

Biglittlelois:



And your comments are irritating,

If you cannot provide a reliable source and link to your baseless assertions, then accept the fact that your female circle is 0.0000099% of females in Nigeria,

I will not accept your opinion as fact cos people read, digest some of these assumptions, see it as the truth, and see every female child or adult around them as what you wrote in your first comment,

Accept that you are wrong and move on.

I am wrong because you used some made up figures to disprove me? Logic and reason seem to be farther away from you than even from the average woman. But that is beside the point. I wasn't trying to prove anything to you in particular, my comment was a response to the op, so you could have just presented your own point of view and passed my 'irritating' comments by. I'm sure that neither of us would have been the worse of for it.

I stand by my statement. Beyond some insignificant gift every now and then, women in general do not contribute financially to their parents' upkeep. That 100% of the women that I've asked do this goes way beyond coincidence. Observation is absolutely an acceptable reference, even in scientific research.

RisenPhoenix1:


I am wrong because you used some made up figures to disprove me? Logic and reason seem to be farther away from you than even from the average woman. But that is beside the point. I wasn't trying to prove anything to you in particular, my comment was a response to the op, so you could have just presented your own point of view and passed my 'irritating' comments by. I'm sure that neither of us would have been the worse of for it.

I stand by my statement. Beyond some insignificant gift every now and then, women in general do not contribute financially to their parents' upkeep. That 100% of the women that I've asked do this goes way beyond coincidence. Observation is absolutely an acceptable reference, even in scientific research.

You are beyond redemption,

For those reading, note that this moniker's opinion is a figment of his imagination and limited to his female enclave, therefore, it should be disregarded as baseless and not a statement of fact, not even a little.

Biglittlelois:



You are beyond redemption,

For those reading, note that this moniker's opinion is a figment of his imagination and limited to his female enclave, therefore, it should be disregarded as baseless and not a statement of fact, not even a little.

Lol. You couldn't wait for them to form their own opinions, could you?

Do you think you're much smarter than other people on NL are? Just curious. I've heard that some people tend to have grandiose delusions, but I've never really met anyone like that.

RisenPhoenix1:


Lol. You couldn't wait for them to form their own opinions, could you?

Do you think you're much smarter than other people on NL are? Just curious. I've heard that some people tend to have grandiose delusions, but I've never really met anyone like that.

Your type here goes about proclaiming delusions as fact,

I am trying to make you see that your generalisation about women is wrong, yet you pride yourself in being ignorant in your limited baselessness, to you now, you're smart by half with your irritating comments abi? Ask yourself if you're alright.

Biglittlelois:



Your type here goes about proclaiming delusions as fact,

I am trying to make you see that your generalisation about women is wrong, yet you pride yourself in being ignorant in your limited baselessness, to you now, you're smart by half with your irritating comments abi? Ask yourself if you're alright.

Lol. @the bolded. I did, and my answer was yes.

@ the first part of the sentence. This part is a bit jumbled and not very intelligible. Could you reword it please? Or maybe your misuse of punctuation marks is to blame? I couldn't really make sense of it. Especially the "pride yourself in being ignorant in your limited baselessness" part. What was that about?

RisenPhoenix1:


Lol. @the bolded. I did, and my answer was yes.

@ the first part of the sentence. This part is a bit jumbled and not very intelligible. Could you reword it please? Or maybe your misuse of punctuation marks is to blame? I couldn't really make sense of it. Especially the "pride yourself in being ignorant in your limited baselessness" part. What was that about?

Nice try, just go away.

Biglittlelois:



Nice try, just go away.

Hmm. Let me see. That sounds like a good enough apology, presented in your own unique way. Alright, I accept your apology.

Goodnight.