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|What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Billybe1: 11:55am On Jan 10|
Okay guys I'm not that good at writing but I would make it brief.
I dated a girl for 8years, she(nikky) said no sex before marriage I agreed thinking maybe with time our romance will get to the next level. 1,2,3 years past by I start asking her questions if she was attracted to and why denying sex, despite the time we have been together. Tho we had quite a long distance relationship which she do come to Lagos twice or once a year. I got fed up and I told her I can't continue. I found another girlfriend(iyabo) we dated for 2years . But doing that period this my ex(nikky) in long distance keep disturbing. I ignore her after I break up with my ex (iyabo) we had the best intimate relationship just that she ain't truthful and we do have lot of misunderstanding. I took (nikky) and she continue with no sex without marriage. I stop giving her time and even ignoring her hoping she will leave since I have giving her the red light.. The mistake I make was introducing her to my family. She do visit even without me knowing .despite I block her. So one day I visited my family and my mom told me she came. I was surprise. I have to tell her to leave that we don't have anything in common we are not compatible. She left and do you believe she find a way and start calling my number and messaging. That she want us to be friend. I told her clear I'm not interested. Now she keep bombing me with calls and messages that she cared. Bla bla bla that I'm angry she refuse to make love to me I should give my life to Jesus. Pls guys which app or how can I block her entirely I feel she is stalking me and is disturbing me. 10 missed calls and lots of silly messages just today.
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by NextD18: 11:57am On Jan 10|
While she's possibly fvckin bad guys around, she's at the same time trying so hard not to loose you who is a simp and Mr nice guy to her.
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Billybe1: 11:58am On Jan 10|
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by NeoWanZaeed(m): 12:00pm On Jan 10|
She will never let you go. . She wil leave u alone when you are married
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Xenry: 12:03pm On Jan 10|
Alright, this is actually what happens when you are being controlled by emotions in a relationship, — the girl would easily influence your actions and thoughts with little or no efforts.
The first mistake you made was to accept the relationship without agreeing to her "not having séx before marriage" idea, even though you know she was serious about it. Then, at that point, it was your job to decide which way the relationship should go. But you didn't, because you were carried away by emotions.
In addition to that, you cheated on her without officially breaking up with her. Why not finish one race before entering into another?
Now, back to blocking her and stuffs. All you have to do is; IGNORE HER. Girls likes attention, but when they can't get it, jealousy and it's likes are sure to come. Ignore her and you would be fine. But before ignoring her, make sure you made it clear and obvious to her that you guys aren't dating anymore.
Now, to avoid making such mistakes in the future. 1.Never continue with a relationship at the initially stage, if and only if you don't agree with the terms and conditions. It's very important to stick to this simple advice/tip, because not all terms and conditions can easily be broken or changed. Watch out! Before it (the terms and conditions) break your heart instead.
2.Try not to cheat unless you are totally done with her, and also, try to make it clear to her that it's over. No heart is worth breaking without a warning.
3.Don't and never allow yourself to be emotionally attached to anything, not just people, anything at all can be dangerous. Why should you not allow that? Because it is a 'focus killer'. Remember, you need focus to keep working/walking and to keep living in greater ways.
That's all for now, I wish you the best of luck. Just ignore her and you would be fine. But next time, make sure to be more careful before agreeing to any terms and conditions!
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|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Organsmuggler(f): 12:04pm On Jan 10|
NeoWanZaeed:I agree with you, OP come and marry me
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Billybe1: 12:04pm On Jan 10|
NeoWanZaeed:but why? What will I tell her to leave me alone, I don't want to insult her. Just want a word that would make her free me.
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by fati2001(m): 12:04pm On Jan 10|
change your line (SIM)
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Starz825(m): 12:04pm On Jan 10|
Give your life to Christ Oga..
registering your life in Christ book of Life doesn't stop you from doing whatever you want to do(at least for now..as time goes on you will learn how to stop the bad ones)... including avoiding her totally.
she's an angel...give your whole to HIM
having said that;
one thing is important, she might be seeing you as God's will for her...you can ask her about it....
instead of running away from her why don't you just sit her down and discuss...you are matured now
Abi you be chop and clean mouth ...i thought u said you liked her and wanted her at first...
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Seandisputed(m): 12:05pm On Jan 10|
Where do you guys even meet ladies like this.
Trust me, you like the attention and enjoying it.
There's a way you'll give her a very stern warning that to even dial your number again would become a herculan task.
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Billybe1: 12:07pm On Jan 10|
Organsmuggler:nne make buhari rule finish first. And I can't be persuade to marry cos of only sex. We have to understand one another and also be attracted to each other.
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by ShenTeh(m): 12:07pm On Jan 10|
You are looking for app to block a girl that is committed to chastity and you.
Seat yourself down. 8 years and severally cheating on her and you want to run.
Give her a chance. At least tell her you can't continue without having sex with her and let her have an opportunity to review her stand. Don't just go blur on the hopeful girl.
There's more to life than sex. Your Iyabo gave you sex and took your peace.
By the way, what's stopping you from being married?
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|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by NeoWanZaeed(m): 12:14pm On Jan 10|
Billybe1:8 years. . U xef wicked. . Just tel her that the distant relationship killed ur relationship with her. U have an0ther n0w. BEG HER SHA. cause u know its distant relationship and yet u engage in it for years. U ARE GUILTY
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by NeoWanZaeed(m): 12:16pm On Jan 10|
Organsmuggler:Is ur name iyabo? Lol
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Organsmuggler(f): 12:17pm On Jan 10|
Billybe1:no wahala sweetie, i go wait but how we go take know one another for this NL, shey u go email me or take my number from my profile, I no go remain single this 2021
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by captainbangz(m): 12:18pm On Jan 10|
@OP, "if she Isn't F*cking you, she Is fucking Someone Else!" lol
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by DaddyRochie1642(f): 12:39pm On Jan 10|
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by coming2america: 1:00pm On Jan 10|
What stops you from simply blocking her right from your phone. Why do you need an app to do that?
And why do you have to come and ask us. So, if you dont know any app, you cant block her from phone contact?
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Unik3030: 1:09pm On Jan 10|
if she isn't a virgin then u are on the losing end guy
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by efficiencie(m): 1:11pm On Jan 10|
This op will have paternity issues...sleeping with girls before marriage will open the door to ladies who can successfully execute paternity fraud. Well we are here to read about your impending misery...
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Bennysam: 1:18pm On Jan 10|
Starz825:Discuss what, can someone say I don’t want in this part world and people will let him or her be?
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Regex: 1:18pm On Jan 10|
You are very silly with this your advice. Get out!
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Saviolamemphix(m): 1:22pm On Jan 10|
Xenry:That number one hit me so hard. Never enter a relationship with emotions rather logic.
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by pcguru1(m): 1:23pm On Jan 10|
Haba 8 years thats wickedness
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Xenry: 1:25pm On Jan 10|
Saviolamemphix:Yes! That is very important. .
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Xenry: 1:28pm On Jan 10|
DaddyRochie1642:Noted. We all make mistakes, but it's never too late to change and do the right thing. I hope the OP has learnt one or two things there.
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Michelle55(f): 1:28pm On Jan 10|
Organsmuggler:You serious ni
Op wife don land oh, no waste time.
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by ShenTeh(m): 1:28pm On Jan 10|
An advice on a www is like an old hunter amongst dogs: some will honour him for who he is, some will bark at him like the dogs that they are.
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Kobicove(m): 1:28pm On Jan 10|
You have not had sex with her and she's this clingy I wonder what will happen if you do!
Whatever you do make sure you don't have sex with her otherwise she will become a bone in your throat which you will not be able to swallow or spit out
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|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Regex: 1:29pm On Jan 10|
There are actually men who were chastised yet are victims of paternity fraud.
|Re: What Have I Gotten Myself Into. by Skmoda360(m): 1:29pm On Jan 10|
Organsmuggler:Why so funny
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