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Getting Over A Break Up by Morray(m): 9:53pm On Jan 10
Hello guys. I am really going through a lot right now.

I have only had two serious relationships. I didn't actually love my first girlfriend so breaking up with her was less drenching emotionally. Perhaps because I found out she was a 'runs girl' and a big liar. Same thing can't be said about my next girlfriend whom I discovered months later and happens to be my second. Believe me guys when I say this girl was all I ever wanted in a lady. Pretty, affectionate and supportive. We planned on getting married and settling down once things kick into gear but unfortunately, things aren't going as planned. It's unsurprising how she consciously browses through social media showing me pictures of her friends and cousins who were beginning to get married. Coupled with the frequent reminder from her family about bringing home a man. This became too much for me as my mental health was becoming a mess. Consequently, I sat her down and told her point blank that she should be more open minded to potential suitors rather than buying into the dream of us settling down when things kick into gear. Of course no one knows when this will happen. She was disgusted by my submission and I felt terrible knowing this was someone that loved me dearly.

To cut the long story short. We're no longer on talking terms and it's been on for more than 3wks. I take full responsibility for instigating this. My reason is that I want her to get married quickly as that is what her family wants for her and age is beginning to catch up (she's in her mid 20s). I'm also unable to meet most of her financial desires(she's contented with what I offer).

It's not been easy for me going through this emotional breakdown. I think about her everyday and wish things were a bit different. I've lost my appetite during this breakup window. I feel every urge to return and continue the relationship but I won't be doing her any good. I've tried all sort of distractions to tilt my mind further away from her but it feels like it won't go away. Please what do I do guys?
Re: Getting Over A Break Up by Iamziggy: 10:12pm On Jan 10
She is under pressure of getting married...since u know u can't settle down with her now. My advice for u is to let her go. To avoid "HAD I KNOW"


Re: Getting Over A Break Up by Mayannar(m): 10:55pm On Jan 10
One thing I'll never do in my lifetime is...

*To bring a Suitor for my daughter*. Never.. I mean.. Never will I do that shit. IDC if she marries at 50yrs old. It's her life. Her choice.

I know this thinking might suck but I think that's what I want. Don't preach to me bout seeing my Grandchildren. There are some people who didn't own a child throughout their lifetime (I didn't wish that for them �) atleast so far I'm privileged to see my child doing well.

This kind of heartbreaks sucks. I know how u feel.

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Re: Getting Over A Break Up by Princeofasia: 12:34pm On Jan 14
i say your post and i will be interested. how old is she
Re: Getting Over A Break Up by Stacyomolola(f): 1:31pm On Jan 14
i say your post and i will be interested. how old is she

In her mid 20's
Re: Getting Over A Break Up by Nazgul: 1:54pm On Jan 14
Her family wants her to get married ASAP, but your current financial status isn't equal to the task to effect their demand, so why are you killing yourself, you did the right thing. Your decision to let her go shows that you aren't selfish and geninuely love her.

Just work hard till you attain financial stability, and I believe that you'll get someone who will love you much better.


Re: Getting Over A Break Up by Morray(m): 3:40pm On Jan 14
i say your post and i will be interested. how old is she
Re: Getting Over A Break Up by Bola146(f): 3:46pm On Jan 14
Broken relationship is better broken marriage. She doesn't love you, her parents are pressuring her to get married on time embarassed Op, kindly come back to your senses, always know what you really want, don't let someone push you to a situation where you will regret later.

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Re: Getting Over A Break Up by baralatie(m): 4:03pm On Jan 14
I have been saying it to you guys.if you are not ready to settle down.then stop booking space in women's love life.
you just cause orishi rishi road block for ya selves

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