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I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Dotar: 11:58am On Jan 13
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by S1MP: 12:00pm On Jan 13
drop that digits of yours and I will give you that attention you need in and out of the bed

but jokes aside, you're dating yourself

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Kingosytex(m): 12:03pm On Jan 13
My sister are you so naïve that you can't read the handwriting on the wall?

The said guy doesn't love neither does he value you, it is crystal clear.


Nobody really has time or chance, you create time for people and things you love and value.
If he values you, he must certainly make out time for you, no matter how busy he claims to be.

Is he trying to tell me that 24 hours in a day is longer sufficient for him? My sister, use your head!!!!

As long as I am concerned, the guy is not serious with you...guy man just dey use u catch cruise.

I suggest you start making another plans right now to avoid had I known.

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Millimann: 12:03pm On Jan 13
Maybe he fears for his life with all these impunities committed by military personnel all over the country (which you cannot deny).

Just give him the assurances that you will be civil with him and there will be no military interferences in your relationship.

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by InfernoNig(m): 12:04pm On Jan 13
Come to me baby. I'm all yours. Barrack or base dey hungry me to enter
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by devlishGINGER(m): 12:04pm On Jan 13
What you have is all a sign of a man that has already moved on. He probably don't like your profession or something about you.

Life is sometimes like that

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Skyfornia(m): 12:05pm On Jan 13
You are dating yourself...

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by dangermouse(m): 12:05pm On Jan 13
The message is clear here. Dude is afraid to take it further and does not want to be the one to call it quits for reasons we all can understand even while unsaid.
Move on. I pray you find another civilian with real balls and more adventurous. Good luck sis.

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by robosky02(m): 12:10pm On Jan 13
See them

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Mypeople2(m): 12:14pm On Jan 13
Sister, that guy has left that ship .You better enter another ship .A man can't be too busy for his woman all the time when they are in the same ship .Please look for another guy .Next!

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by tyup(m): 12:14pm On Jan 13
In a simple term Nigga is just scared of you and that's just it

I've experienced what it means for a female military officer to love. They usually do wholeheartedly and love so deeply. I used to have this kanuri female personnel that used to crush on me then very selfless and we do act like we're dating but her problem be say she stubborn and I stubborn to and as per lieutenant wey she be, she's proud a lil tho Humble when it comes to my side but that ease she had to order boys, I din tell her anything I stopped giving her attention and finally packed from where I used to without telling her. After a while I decided to visit my former area and the neighbors were like she wouldn't stop coming to beg them to look for me for her that she just want to see me. but me don go

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by blinking001(m): 12:15pm On Jan 13
This one na ugly military personnel oo cheesy.. op the reason he isn't taking you serious is because you're ugly....deal with it

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by PUSSYHOE(m): 12:15pm On Jan 13
Be a hoe!
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by DaddyRochie1642(f): 12:17pm On Jan 13
dangermouse:
The message is clear here. Dude is afraid to take it further and does not want to be the one to call it quits for reasons we all can understand even while unsaid.
Move on. I pray you fond another civilian with balls and more adventurous. Good luck sis.




Why won't the man be afraid,

You want the man to get his head blown off one day during argument with her grin grin

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by CalliDora1(f): 12:18pm On Jan 13
Who initiated the relationship?

Now, you both are not a good match because one, he's an extrovert and you're an introvert. so, there's no way your being together is gonna work.

Another thing ive come to discover is, most men are not so much into military women for reasons known only to them. Yeah, I've heard that a couple of time. your man may be in that category and its reason I first asked, who initiated this relationship. If it was you, please kindly call it quits but not before sitting him down to find out if he's still interested or wants a break.( Not breakup) . If he says he needs a break, know for sure he wants a breakup then break up with him and move on. Life is too short to be in a one-sided relationship.

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by majamajic(m): 12:21pm On Jan 13
CalliDora1:
Who initiated the relationship?

Pls how beautiful are u , I like your moniker
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Fvckyouall: 12:21pm On Jan 13
@Dotar Army people both the men and women are heartless pieces of shit cause of the training they went through go and date your fellow army man and leave civilians to date civilians abeg.

That nigga is scared as fvck dating a wicked ticking time bomb abeg free the guy, he can't tell you to breakup cause you might shoot/kill him or arrange military men to beat him up abeg go to your barrack and fvck your fellow army men leave the sane people alone.
Why do you guys exist sef you guys cower before Boko Haram but keep forming power for civilians. Spits

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by tyup(m): 12:22pm On Jan 13
blinking001:
This one na ugly military personnel oo cheesy.. op the reason he isn't taking you serious is because you're ugly....deal with it

No all, take a short trip to any Barracks that's if and only If you got military friends. there are lot of fresh clean yellow like paw paw military babes, the funny thing is lot of them are friendly esp those you meet in the cantonment Bar/ chilling area but you gaz be with a real Sojoji nigga man
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Fvckyouall: 12:22pm On Jan 13
majamajic:


Pls how beautiful are u , I like your moniker

If I stone you
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Iceberg9496(m): 12:23pm On Jan 13
Seriously its quite unfair the way he is treating u dear, u have to end the relationship cus the signs says it all so as to avoid stories that touch.. You deserve someone better and not some unappreciative dude.. So sorry 4 all the hurt he made u pass through.. Well incase u ar in enugu, u can beep me up lets be friends, i have wished to have a female military personnel as a friend for so long.. My number is 09035168459

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by 44Bulldog(m): 12:23pm On Jan 13
Reciprocate keh!

Make u blow his brain out one day undecided
That's what u guys are actually known for cool
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by majamajic(m): 12:24pm On Jan 13
Fvckyouall:


If I stone you


Look for another one na

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Fvckyouall: 12:26pm On Jan 13
majamajic:



Look for another one na

I go let you take this one this time
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by lefulefu(m): 12:26pm On Jan 13
double wahala for bloody civilian wey go dey date female soldier cheesy

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Fvckyouall: 12:27pm On Jan 13
Iceberg9496:
Seriously its quite unfair the way he is treating u dear, u have to end the relationship cus the signs says it all so as to avoid stories that touch.. You deserve someone better and not some unappreciative dude.. So sorry 4 all the hurt he made u pass through.. Well incase u ar in enugu, u can beep me up lets be friends, i have wished to have a female military personnel as a friend for so long.. My number is 09035168459

Ok but if you die in the process don't forget you were warned

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by CalliDora1(f): 12:28pm On Jan 13
majamajic:


Pls how beautiful are u , I like your moniker

Don't bother.

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by dairykidd(m): 12:43pm On Jan 13
lefulefu:
double wahala for bloody civilian wey go dey date female soldier cheesy
Reminds me of one beautiful airforce lady back then for Abj. Na so i dey admire am turn her friend but i noticed other airfoce personnels i know go just greet from afar and position themselves if me and am dey chill out somewhere not until she mess up one senior airfoce man when i respect so much for public bar I come understand say she high for rank and dey very harsh and abusive.. Bro the slap no gree finish and na over little matters oo and this my bros still dey plead and beg ontop i gat to leave the place before she transfer aggression come my side.. since then i give her chance oo grin

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by Iceberg9496(m): 12:43pm On Jan 13
Fvckyouall:

Ok but if you die in the process don't forget you were warned
Aight.. Thanks 4 the warning bt am stil hell bent on being friends with her..
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by nniero11: 12:45pm On Jan 13
CalliDora1:

Don't bother.
Don't be shy now! He might be for real. But this is really funny though.
I hope you two get along very well.
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by CalliDora1(f): 12:50pm On Jan 13
nniero11:


Don't be shy now! He might be for real. But this is really funny though.

I hope you two get along very well.

Guys who chyk ladies openly are kiddos. Most of them here are small boys. Trust me.

I joke and play around here with almost every one and I want it to stay that way. I believe he's also joking.

Thanks.

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Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by DIAMANTE1759: 12:51pm On Jan 13
go for someone who makes u smile cos its only a smile that makes a dark day seems bright
Re: I Am Female Military Personnel In Love With A Civilian But He Isn't Reciprocatin by chinchonglee(m): 12:52pm On Jan 13
Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.
Listen young lady/officer!
Most guys dnt like being involved with female military personnels because it is of our opinion that you are already fvcking ur ogas at the office/barracks(oga food). No sane man will love a female military personnel wholeheartedly. It is too risky.

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