We’ve been dating for sometime. He stays in Norway I live in Nigeria. He’s 38 I’m 21. We’ve never lived together even when he was in Nigeria for a visit. Now he’s saying I should leave everything and everyone I know and come live with him in Norway forever. Just like that. Do you think it’s a good idea? He’s a bit controlling and authoritative. Always like to be right and never agreed he’s wrong. The last time I wanted to start a business. He refused to help me saying I will leave him if my business goes well.

You have answered the question your self, but I'll still point it out.

He's controlling, authoritative, always right and never wrong, and doesn't want to support your growth/career.
Do you think you will be happy with him?

Listen to your heart and follow it

The only reason you keep talking to him is because he stays abroad,
If he was in Nigeria
You would have moved on

chiemmanuel:
The only thing you keep talking to him is because he stays abroad,
If he was in Nigeria
You would have moved on

Funny enough you are right, one girl no gree me hear word last year because her guy dey Ghana.

"He is a bit controlling and Authoritative "Always like to be right and never admits he's wrong" This one will beat you blue black if you misbehave! Your age tho"
Red Flag
Egungun be careful na express you dey go
ednut1 what do you have to say

Sandra430:
We’ve been dating for sometime. He stays in Norway I live in Nigeria. He’s 38 I’m 21. We’ve never lived together even when he was in Nigeria for a visit. Now he’s saying I should leave everything and everyone I know and come live with him in Norway forever. Just like that. Do you think it’s a good idea? He’s a bit controlling and authoritative. Always like to be right and never agreed he’s wrong. The last time I wanted to start a business. He refused to help me saying I will leave him if my business goes well.

What are you expecting as comments from others, that the red flags you highlighted are not red?

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Richdee1:
"He is a bit controlling and Authoritative
"Always like to be right and never admits he's wrong"
This one will beat you blue black if you misbehave! Your age tho"

Red Flag

Egungun be careful na express you dey go

ednut1 what do you have to say

she will still go and cry later

You said you have been dating him for some time and you're just 21....hmnn.... The only problem I see is that you're carried away because he is based abroad.

Pls, break up with him asap cos the red flags are visible. A man like that is capable of setting you up to be used as a sex slave when you get there.

You should marry first in Nigeria

Become legal then you can move

Sandra430:
We’ve been dating for sometime. He stays in Norway I live in Nigeria. He’s 38 I’m 21. We’ve never lived together even when he was in Nigeria for a visit. Now he’s saying I should leave everything and everyone I know and come live with him in Norway forever. Just like that. Do you think it’s a good idea? He’s a bit controlling and authoritative. Always like to be right and never agreed he’s wrong. The last time I wanted to start a business. He refused to help me saying I will leave him if my business goes well.

tell am say, you no do again... You fit move to my house.. Shey yu get Bobbi sha...

Sandra430:
We’ve been dating for sometime. He stays in Norway I live in Nigeria. He’s 38 I’m 21. We’ve never lived together even when he was in Nigeria for a visit. Now he’s saying I should leave everything and everyone I know and come live with him in Norway forever. Just like that. Do you think it’s a good idea? He’s a bit controlling and authoritative. Always like to be right and never agreed he’s wrong. The last time I wanted to start a business. He refused to help me saying I will leave him if my business goes well.

With this history be rest assured that if you go you enter one chance!
What if he is not want he says he is. He already shows authoritative attitude. He would make you a slave and deny you your freedom so you will always be indebted to him.
Who knows if he is a sexual pervert sef? Just be careful.

Tell him NoWay!!... Get it? See what I did there?

Thank y’all so much for the advice :�

Sandra430:
Thank y’all so much for the advice :�

So what was your conclusion?

I’ve decided not to go. And when I told him that, he said I’m childish and I don’t know what life is... thank you for advice. I’m glad I didn’t make a mistake

Sandra430:
I’ve decided not to go. And when I told him that, he said I’m childish and I don’t know what life is... thank you for advice. I’m glad I didn’t make a mistake

how about you give me a chance? I want to mend your broken heart

Sandra430:
We’ve been dating for sometime. He stays in Norway I live in Nigeria. He’s 38 I’m 21. We’ve never lived together even when he was in Nigeria for a visit. Now he’s saying I should leave everything and everyone I know and come live with him in Norway forever. Just like that. Do you think it’s a good idea? He’s a bit controlling and authoritative. Always like to be right and never agreed he’s wrong. The last time I wanted to start a business. He refused to help me saying I will leave him if my business goes well.

Er Han Norske? (Is he Norwegian)?

My dear thank God u didn't go there with that man
I know a lady who travelled to the states to live with a man she met here on SM, I advise her not to go but even if she decides to go let her boyfriend come to Nigeria, get married to her here before she leaves so as to guarantee her citizenship but she refused and thought I didn't want her progress
Long story short, this white man almost killed her, he was controlling infact he was a lunatic, she wasn't allowed to communicate with her family here, she couldn't go out and he beats her up including threatening to kill her and kill himself if she leaves him......
The God that helped my friend was a guy who was interested in her that she met in her church over there, the man almost killed her cos he shot her and shot himself but she survived......
They're lots of psychopaths in abroad, people who are depressed and they won't hesitate to take ur life with them especially when they know u are an immigrant so u have no where to run to and in those countries because of racism law enforcement agencies won't Believe u even if u report a case of domestic violence.....
God just saved ur Life
If u want to go abroad be patient, work hard and save enough money then japa

Sandra430:
I’ve decided not to go. And when I told him that, he said I’m childish and I don’t know what life is... thank you for advice. I’m glad I didn’t make a mistake

Sandra430:
I’ve decided not to go. And when I told him that, he said I’m childish and I don’t know what life is... thank you for advice. I’m glad I didn’t make a mistake

You'll be alright

Sandra430:
We’ve been dating for sometime. He stays in Norway I live in Nigeria. He’s 38 I’m 21. We’ve never lived together even when he was in Nigeria for a visit. Now he’s saying I should leave everything and everyone I know and come live with him in Norway forever. Just like that. Do you think it’s a good idea? He’s a bit controlling and authoritative. Always like to be right and never agreed he’s wrong. The last time I wanted to start a business. He refused to help me saying I will leave him if my business goes well.

What business or career path
is he into?

Sandra430:
I’ve decided not to go. And when I told him that, he said I’m childish and I don’t know what life is... thank you for advice. I’m glad I didn’t make a mistake

You're wise for heeding the
advice...