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Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by deniyor: 6:23pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
Great contributions guys. I will like what you all think on involving friends in this thread too https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=637759.msg8050737#msg8050737 |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by Lax75(m): 6:24pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
talina:. Well, both people have to have the desire to work hard at the relationship and make it work. I know a couple who divorced simply because the wife was married to her family and NOT her husband. How about another family who was trying to oust the wife and encourage the husband to marry his "mistress." Why? Because the husband would go demonizing his wife to his evil father all the time. Or another couple who broke up because she would go telling her parents their business. In return, she got some bad counselling because of the way her parents felt about him in the first place: He was Igbo, and they didn't care for igbos period). You see where I'm going with this? |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by MrsChima(f): 6:27pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
deniyor: It applies to all relationship but marriage is more serious in my opinion than dating relationship. I don't believe in divorce and think families should let husband and wife BE HUSBAND AND WIFE. I know shocking! All Americans doesn't support divorce unless it is life threatening. I will not stay with Mr. Chima if he is threatening to kill me. Come on! Mr. Chima isn't like that so I am not worrying about nothing. A woman can do that when she knows she got a good man. |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by Nobody: 6:32pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
deniyor: Like I said, its hard to find an objective person. A brutally honest friend if your lucky to have one. Or even being honest with ourselves can go a long way. Being open minded,comprimising, and respectful, with your partner, not confrontational, sure helps. Ive been in relationships. |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by deniyor: 6:32pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
Mrs.Chima: |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by Nobody: 6:34pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
Lax75: Yes, I see |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by MrsChima(f): 6:35pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
Lax75: Now you see why I said FAMILIES need to let HUSBAND AND WIFE be husband and wife? My husband and I do not share anything personal between us to our families. We do not want our families take side and if Mr. Chima and I have a disagreement WE KEEP IT BETWEEN US and work it out. I was raised with married women who always tell me when you get married MAKE IT WORK and do not divorce unless it is life threatening and your spouse going around screwing anything and everything. Other than that MAKE IT WORK is the married women in my region motto. MAKE IT WORK. That's why people need to get to know whom they are marrying before they sign the contract and know the weaknesses and strengths not just strengths. Marriage requires WORK and DESIRE to be in it FOR A LONG TIME but the moment one ball dropped it is over. If you don't have stamina for work you will not have stamina for marriage or relationship for that matter. |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by MrsChima(f): 6:36pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
deniyor: You think a Nigerian man or woman with COMMON SENSE will stay in a marriage if their spouse is threatening to kill them literally? You know you won't! |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by deniyor: 6:40pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
Mrs.Chima:I do agree with you on the life threatening and incessant cheating. Its just I've seen so many marriages crumble for the most frivolous of reasons. |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by Lax75(m): 6:40pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
@ Talina : Being open minded,comprimising, and respectful, with your partner, not confrontational, sure helps. - You hit the nail on the head. If both partners had these characteristics, there would be no temptation to go off on a sounding board. Why do people involve outsiders in the first place? Because they feel they can't talk to their partners. Why? Becuase they lack these characteristics. Very important that your partner feel comfortable enough with you to talk to you about anything. Be a good listener. |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by deniyor: 6:41pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
@Talina have you ever had a partner confide in private things to friends and/or family before? If so how did you deal with it? |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by Nobody: 6:44pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
Lax75: Exactly! |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by deniyor: 6:49pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
talina:. You never got mad enough to throw a tantrum before or are you always the cool headed type no matter what? |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by MrsChima(f): 6:52pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
deniyor: I hate Divorce Court with a passion. I wrote to Judge Toler on the show that she should encourage people to STAY MARRIED if it is over the dumbest shit. She wrote me back saying that she agree but she is trying but people do not listen. I wrote back saying TRY HARDER! Divorce laws should be STRICT. |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by Nobody: 6:52pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
deniyor: Yes I have. How did I deal with it? Well in my case, I felt kinda betrayed because I needed my partner to be talking to me but he wasnt mature enough to face our issue head on. I felt like biased conclusions were being drawn without me being there to speak. Everyone needs to be heard! I couldnt deal with it because he wasnt willing to so we are no longer together. Gotta tell your partner how this makes you feel and then see what happens. Its all you can really do. |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by Lax75(m): 6:57pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
;d |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by deniyor: 7:05pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
Mrs.Chima: LMAO Oh girl you sure are one crazy one. Respect |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by Nobody: 7:26pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
deniyor: Oh I didnt see this! Hmmm, Ive gotten mad before of course.I am not always cool headed. I just strive to do things better. |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by Pweety4me(f): 7:31pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
Only one WOMAN every been so close to me. |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by Nobody: 7:47pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
deniyor: Well, my mother likes to give me general relationship advice. She's never advised me on any relationship. I'm very independent on that sense. She's open-minded in comparison to other mothers and fathers I've heard of, but she's not as open-minded as I'd like lol. For that reason, I deal with things myself. |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by deniyor: 8:09pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
talina:Whew!!! That makes you more human to me. Being cool headed all the time is quite scary, you never know when the person might lose it, and when they do, no where is good enough to hide the offending party. I agree, the idea is always to try to improve. Did you make it to the stampede this year? |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by Nobody: 8:13pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
deniyor: Yes, too cool all the time makes one wonder, I didnt go to the stampede this year. Its not really my kind of thing.Have you been before? |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by deniyor: 8:24pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
talina:I've been around a lady who maintain her cool no matter what. I try goading her to see if she will lose it. I was quite disappointed and bored. Yeah I have been to a stampede couple of years ago. I quite enjoyed it apart from the inavailability of hotel rooms. Whats your kinda thing to do in Calgary? |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by Nobody: 8:30pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
deniyor: Haha! @ disappointed and board! I havnt spent much time in Calgary these days. I was going to go to a music festival there this summer but it didnt happen.I think Id rather just drive past Calgary and continue on to the mountains. |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by deniyor: 12:29am On Aug 15, 2011 |
talina:Sounds like a farm girl. |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by Nobody: 12:51am On Aug 15, 2011 |
deniyor: I do love nature and wild places |
Re: To What Extent Will You Involve Your Close Family Members In Your Relationship? by Nobody: 12:36am On Sep 03, 2012 |
deniyor: Again not unless I am serious about that person and know that they want me and take the relationship serious as well. Otherwise they would still be considered a total stranger to my folks so no need to explain my family issues with someone who in the end may not be part of my family. Gotta play it smart. |
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