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The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Toks2008(m): 9:47pm On Feb 20
Many people have died as a result of shock or suicide due to a heartbreak, many are in psychiatric hospitals due to same reason... Many are in prison cos of their reaction due to heartbreak and I can continue to list several negative ripple effect of this avoidable phenomenon.

No matter how nice you are to someone, no matter how loyal you are, no matter the level of sacrifice you MAKE, no matter how long you have known that person...even if you die for someone, there is a big possibility that all you do can be thrown back at your face.... It is just human nature...

The main reason for heartbreak is when you have unrealistic expectations in a relationship... You expect the man or woman never to cheat on you.... You expect someone to care for you cos you truly care for them, be truthful to you because you are truthful with them, to always be there for you...but unfortunately,in the human world these are unrealistic expectations... The only guaranty in human relationship is disappointment and anything different from this is very rare so rather than expend your energy trusting I will advise you use that energy to prepare your heart for a possible disappointment...it is not about being pessimistic but that is the most realistic twist to it

If we are fortunate to be with someone who remains loyal to us then its all good but if they eventually misbehave, we will be psychologically, mentally and emotionally ready and it won't take us by surprise and we will not suffer from any heartbreak cos what the heart is prepared for can not break it.

Give your best but prepare for the worst... Love deeply but trust nobody with your heart and your sanity will always be secured.

Micah 7: 5
"Put no trust in a neighbor; have no confidence in a friend... "

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Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Toks2008(m): 9:48pm On Feb 20
Love but use your head. That is the summary.
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Nazgul: 9:55pm On Feb 20
The truth about heart break is that it comes with signs, no matter how a partner tries to pretend, you'll definitely see the red flags. Problem is that sometimes love can make one of the parties foolish thereby making them ignore these signs and end up paying the ultimate price of a devastating heartbreak.

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Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Toks2008(m): 9:58pm On Feb 20
Nazgul:
The truth about heart break is that it comes with signs, no matter how a partner tries to pretend, you'll definitely see the red flags. Problem is that sometimes love can make one of the parties foolish thereby making them ignore these signs and end up paying the ultimate price of a devastating heartbreak.

That one is no longer heartbreak..in Yoruba language we call it Afowofa mean self imposed dilemma.
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by ImaIma1(f): 10:05pm On Feb 20
We might tell our hearts not to love too deeply so that we can dust ourselves and move on quickly when the need arises. But does the heart always listen? I don't think so

While we are busy falling and loving, the heartbreak just takes us unawares. At that point, some move on quickly while some are too hurt to let go. It is what it is.
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Toks2008(m): 10:10pm On Feb 20
ImaIma1:
We might tell our hearts not to love too deeply so that we can dust ourselves and move on quickly when the need arises. But does the heart always listen? I don't think so

While we are busy falling and loving, the heartbreak just takes us unawares. At that point, some move on quickly while some are too hurt to let go.


We can learn to develop our hearts to expect the worst.

It is not impossible...
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by chatinent(m): 10:12pm On Feb 20
I don't know who wants to hear/see this, but am I the only one who doesn't feel heartbroken at all whatever becomes?

Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Truthabulabula(m): 10:13pm On Feb 20
I know of one stacyo who will go through worse.


Thumbs up,nice topic.
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Polynek(m): 10:23pm On Feb 20
chatinent:
I don't know who wants to hear/see this, but am I the only one who doesn't feel heartbroken at all whatever becomes?
No b only U bro. I hv Never fallen in love b4. And I can ever fall LOVE. Instead I love with my head not my heart
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by blinking001(m): 10:24pm On Feb 20
Heartbreak? Wetin be that one? How does it feel like?
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by DaddyRochie1642(f): 10:26pm On Feb 20
The Current Nigerian Economy has made everyone's heart more Hardened than a Rock, it's all about Survival for everybody both Male and Female...

It's only a Fool that will allow himself/herself to be Blind to things happening in his/her surrounding, all that person needs to do is to pay attention and observe with Laser Focus and that person will see that in the End, it's always about Survival.

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Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Polynek(m): 10:28pm On Feb 20
DaddyRochie1642:
The Current Nigerian Economy has made everyone's heart more Hardened than a Rock, it's all about Survival for everybody both Male and Female...

It's only a Fool that will allow himself/herself to be Blind to things happening in his/her surrounding, all that person needs to do is to pay attention and observe with Laser Focus and that person will see that in the End, it's always about Survival.
Exactly Bro
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by donbachi(m): 10:29pm On Feb 20
Taste
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by NwaEje: 10:48pm On Feb 20
Toks2008:
Many people have died as a result of shock due to heartbreak, many are in psychiatric hospitals due to same reason... Many are in prison waiting for execution cos of their reaction to a heartbreak and I can continue to list several negative ripple effect of this avoidable phenomenon.

No matter how nice you are to someone, no matter how loyal you are, no matter the level of sacrifice you MAKE, no matter how long you have known that person...even if you die for someone, there is a big possibility that all you do can be thrown back at your face.... It is just human nature...

The main reason for heartbreak is when you have unrealistic expectations in a relationship... You expect the man or woman never to cheat on you.... You expect someone to care for you cos you truly care for them, be truthful to you because you are truthful with them, to always be there for you...but unfortunately,in the human world these are unrealistic expectations... The only guaranty in human relationship is disappointment and anything different from this is very rare so rather than expend your energy trusting I will advise you use that energy to prepare your heart for a possible disappointment...it is not about being pessimistic but that is the most realistic twist to it

If we are fortunate to be with someone who remains loyal to us then its all good but if they eventually misbehave, we will be psychologically, mentally and emotionally ready and it won't take us by surprise and we will not suffer from any heartbreak cos what the heart is prepared for can not break it.

Give your best but expect the worst... Love deeply but trust nobody and your heart will always be secured.

Micah 7: 5
"Put no trust in a neighbor; have no confidence in a friend... "


Thank you


Trust nobody


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NuXQyvXQfus
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by otherway: 10:51pm On Feb 20
Toks2008:
The only guaranty in human relationship is disappointment and anything different from this is very rare so rather than expend your energy trusting I will advise you use that energy to prepare your heart for a possible disappointment...it is not about being pessimistic but that is the most realistic twist to it

If we are fortunate to be with someone who remains loyal to us then its all good but if they eventually misbehave, we will be psychologically, mentally and emotionally ready and it won't take us by surprise and we will not suffer from any heartbreak cos what the heart is prepared for can not break it.

Give your best but expect the worst... Love deeply but trust nobody and your heart will always be secured.

Words on Marble.

Respect

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Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by 300wayne: 1:03am On Feb 21
You loose more energy in not trusting and not expecting your partner being there for you ......I mean what then is "relationship" about

Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Esebrena3: 1:12am On Feb 21
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Toks2008:
Many people have died as a result of shock due to heartbreak, many are in psychiatric hospitals due to same reason... Many are in prison cos of their reaction due to heartbreak and I can continue to list several negative ripple effect of this avoidable phenomenon.

No matter how nice you are to someone, no matter how loyal you are, no matter the level of sacrifice you MAKE, no matter how long you have known that person...even if you die for someone, there is a big possibility that all you do can be thrown back at your face.... It is just human nature...

The main reason for heartbreak is when you have unrealistic expectations in a relationship... You expect the man or woman never to cheat on you.... You expect someone to care for you cos you truly care for them, be truthful to you because you are truthful with them, to always be there for you...but unfortunately,in the human world these are unrealistic expectations... The only guaranty in human relationship is disappointment and anything different from this is very rare so rather than expend your energy trusting I will advise you use that energy to prepare your heart for a possible disappointment...it is not about being pessimistic but that is the most realistic twist to it

If we are fortunate to be with someone who remains loyal to us then its all good but if they eventually misbehave, we will be psychologically, mentally and emotionally ready and it won't take us by surprise and we will not suffer from any heartbreak cos what the heart is prepared for can not break it.

Give your best but expect the worst... Love deeply but trust nobody and your sanity will always be secured.

Micah 7: 5
"Put no trust in a neighbor; have no confidence in a friend... "
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by ImaIma1(f): 1:17am On Feb 21
Toks2008:


We can learn to develop our hearts to expect the worst.

It is not impossible...


It could be possible. My heartbreak never lasted long. I would cry hard for 4 days and listen to all the heartbreak songs and reminisce. After two weeks, that person has been purged from my system.
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Uyi168(m): 1:36am On Feb 21
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Ogun kee love. angry
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Mikester(m): 2:08am On Feb 21
Nazgul:
The truth about heart break is that it comes with signs, no matter how a partner tries to pretend, you'll definitely see the red flags. Problem is that sometimes love can make one of the parties foolish thereby making them ignore these signs and end up paying the ultimate price of a devastating heartbreak.


Most people live life in such a manner wherein they get externally affected each day yet aren’t able to overcome their desires & expectations.

Love is like the measles; we all have to go through it. Only the broken-hearted know the truth about love. The heart will break, but the broken live on.

The key is to expect more from yourself and less from others as not everyone is as dedicated as you and one sided expectations will mentally and in some cases, physically destroy you. Learn the truth about love and never give yourself excessively to those who don't do the same then and only then, you are good to go.


Nice write Toks2008




ImaIma1:
We might tell our hearts not to love too deeply so that we can dust ourselves and move on quickly when the need arises. But does the heart always listen? I don't think so

While we are busy falling and loving, the heartbreak just takes us unawares. At that point, some move on quickly while some are too hurt to let go.

Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Cholls(m): 4:04am On Feb 21
My brother, I learnt that placing your expectations on someone else, tends to end badly.




Dogs are a great companion for the lonely. If I pass out on the floor, my dog sleeps right next to me. If I go to bed normally, my dog sleeps right next to me. I love that dog.

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Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Tajbol4splend(m): 4:05am On Feb 21
I kinda agree, but even that may destroy your marriage as well, unconsciously showing less concern because of the disappointment you are expecting.
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Toks2008(m): 7:30am On Feb 21
Tajbol4splend:
I kinda agree, but even that may destroy your marriage as well, unconsciously showing less concern because of the disappointment you are expecting.

No it won't. You will do your best to make it work but it is about preparing your mind.

You will build yourself to love without having high expectations.

And mind you, all I wrote up there are just an elucidate on the scriptures.

Micah 7 vs 5

"Do not trust a neighbor; put no confidence in a friend. Even with the woman who lies in your embrace guard the words of your lips."

That scripture simply suggests caution so if the Bible says that then we better learn how to swallow the pill.
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by mosdii(m): 7:37am On Feb 21
Avoid Typical Naija Farm Tools because Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

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Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Toks2008(m): 10:06pm On Feb 23
mosdii:
Avoid Typical Naija Farm Tools because Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

This terminology cracks me up anytime i see it.

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Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by Monogamy: 10:12pm On Feb 23
grin

Someone without a heart can never have heartbreak
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by zexy2030(m): 4:41am On Feb 24
From the beginning, cain killed Abel with a stone. Abeg trust no one.
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by OmovuduTheBeast(f): 4:53am On Feb 24
Tell us something else.
We are tired of love matters
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by MsFaith: 8:08am On Feb 24
After the first relationship, I made up my mind never to fall deeply in love with any man again until after he marries me.
Re: The Number One Reason For Heartbreak and how to prevent it. by freethesheeple(m): 8:16am On Feb 24
Nazgul:
The truth about heart break is that it comes with signs, no matter how a partner tries to pretend, you'll definitely see the red flags. Problem is that sometimes love can make one of the parties foolish thereby making them ignore these signs and end up paying the ultimate price of a devastating heartbreak.

Two things makes the brain to stop working!!
..
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1. When a man Falls in love
2.When a woman has Church /Religion at heart!!!

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