Fahdiga:
What makes a person is where he or she grew up

Missionaire:
This is going to be short I promise.

There is a lady I have known for a while and we have been getting along quite very well. Everything was very well between us (that should summarize a lot).

So late last year while we were discussing and then talking about relationships, she asked me my state of origin and I told her which is Cross River state while she is from Nassarawa state. Well, she said that she can't marry or date anyone from my state.

I was quite hurt, hurt because she rejected me based on factors I do not have control over.

I mean, if she had rejected me based on character, social and financial status, I would have been less hurt. Nobody choose where they come from.

And that brings me to this question:
"Are we really from where we are from?"

I ask this question because due to a number of factors like work that causes people to migrate from one region, community, state and country to another, many people are born or raise in different places from where their parents are from. Take me for example, my late dad was a police officer. Even though my both parents are originally from CRS, I, being the first born barely spent three years in CRS before moving with my parents to Delta State where I grew up. My four younger siblings were all born in Delta State.

This is very common with children of (Para) military officers. Due to postings, children grow up in different environment than where they are originally from. Now, that environment can become a part of them; the culture, languages and lifestyle would have been infused into them so much that when they become adults, they are more of where they grew up in than where they are originally from.

A person from SW whose parents bring him up in the SE can be more of an Igbo than a person from the SE who grows up in the SW or any other region. I hope you get the drift?

So, with the above explanation, what makes a person, where he comes from or where s/he grows up in?

Let us discuss.


Rocktation, farano FP please

Missionaire:

So, with the above explanation, what makes a person, where he comes from or where s/he grows up in?

Let us discuss.

Fremantle:

When u say where a person comes from, for me it doesn't really tell the whole story, I may come from a particular place and not behave like the place but since that area has made a name for itself by past experiences be it gud or bad anyone from there is tag as such.

What defines a person for me is Where s/he grows up in and that has to do with Upbringing, parenting, society.

Unfortunately for u OP the girl's mistake was not getting to know u in person.

Probably her ideology of not wanting anything to do with a Cross-riverian could b what she's heard or it was passed down to her by her parents. That's y u see cases of fathers not accepting a man cus he's from a particular tribe cus of what happened during their days(the old days).

Things are changing, civilization is here but it hasn't whipped out somany things.

Truthabulabula:
Can't tell about tribe. Nigeria is one messed up country.
People don't take me seriously when I make mention of being bi-racial.
I exhibit more of my moms nature than my dad's.


Op, you're right.
Environment is considered (example, I'm generally scared of Nigerians but, I know how to speak most of their main languages perfectly).

Cause I'm scared of Nigerians, I'll write everyone off as evil. Doesn't mean I don't know good people exist there "


Individuality matters. It's all generalization.

BigDick70inch:



Oga.......
Nah her lose be that Ooo.......
An Igbo girl rejected me.........cos am a Yoruba boy initially..........I TOLD HER POINT BLANK DAT IF SHE ISN'T DATING A YORUBA GUY......SHE'S MISSING ........I guess that put so much curiosity in her.............cos she later left her Igbo boyfriend to date and will together.........lol

Missionaire:
This is going to be short I promise.

There is a lady I have known for a while and we have been getting along quite very well. Everything was very well between us (that should summarize a lot).

So late last year while we were discussing and then talking about relationships, she asked me my state of origin and I told her which is Cross River state while she is from Nassarawa state. Well, she said that she can't marry or date anyone from my state.

I was quite hurt, hurt because she rejected me based on factors I do not have control over.

I mean, if she had rejected me based on character, social and financial status, I would have been less hurt. Nobody choose where they come from.

And that brings me to this question:
"Are we really from where we are from?"

I ask this question because due to a number of factors like work that causes people to migrate from one region, community, state and country to another, many people are born or raise in different places from where their parents are from. Take me for example, my late dad was a police officer. Even though my both parents are originally from CRS, I, being the first born barely spent three years in CRS before moving with my parents to Delta State where I grew up. My four younger siblings were all born in Delta State.

This is very common with children of (Para) military officers. Due to postings, children grow up in different environment than where they are originally from. Now, that environment can become a part of them; the culture, languages and lifestyle would have been infused into them so much that when they become adults, they are more of where they grew up in than where they are originally from.

A person from SW whose parents bring him up in the SE can be more of an Igbo than a person from the SE who grows up in the SW or any other region. I hope you get the drift?

So, with the above explanation, what makes a person, where he comes from or where s/he grows up in?

Let us discuss.


Rocktation, farano FP please

Missionaire:


Lols.....Simi song comes to mind....Love don't care about a lot of things.

aniplus:


Na lie!!!

She has a man in her life.. She just use that one discharge you.

PoloG:
Everybody should date and marry their respectives tribes.. I don't support all this intertribal bullshit cause I don't belive in black unity or nonsense one africa...
Everybody should maintain their lane