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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by Nostradamus: 10:28am On Apr 03
IamYourNeighbor:
I just heard from someone that "being quiet is almost same thing as being weak." What a society we live in! Being loud is taken as being strong, and being quiet is taken as being weak !

What's your assertion to this ideology people?
not really.

I'm also a naturally quiet person.

At times,when some messed with me,i do stand up to them and get very aggressive,at other times,i will just feel like ignoring.

Sometimes ago(should have been up to a year now),i got a cab driver arrested with SARS(he was at fault sha,trying to take me for a ride cos of the quiet air around me).I noticed that after that experience,peoole who witnessed it start seeing me in a new light.


Been quiet is not a sign of weakness.only that most quiet people seem to take a long while before they get angry cool

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by mmadu4: 10:34am On Apr 03
people who are quite tend to live longer . see tupac and snoop dog .
Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by Ikillbrokehoes(m): 10:36am On Apr 03
Fremantle:

True, but also I noticed from the few I've met, there re quiet pple who speak up at the slightest provocation, they tell u how it hurts dem the moment u step out of line but they are quiet, and also there's the set that wave things by or bottle up things and only react wen they can't take it anymore or u pushed them to d line and they have no choice than to react.

This set of people at bolded wen they eventually let lose they either go out of line, cry in some cases or don't last in anger after few minutes or hours they are back to their normal self. Those that fall into dis category are either nice pple or softhearted folks.

I'm a quiet person myself, too quiet to the point none of my friends in skul den saw me angry for once and dis are close friends of mine we literally do everything together and for 5yrs+ they never saw me angry not once. The day I got angry cus someone took advantage of my quietness they were all surprised and I said somethings I shouldn't have said that night.

For those that are quiet and don't speak out, I know it's not easy some might not understand y I said it's not easy..... But I'll tell u what a friend told me recently;

TRY TO EXPRESS YOUR EMOTION A LITTLE MORE

Being quiet is not a sign of weakness, it becomes one wen u let pple toss u around without doing anything about it or let others speak or fight for you wen u can stand and fight. Speak up When Needed
You said it all, I hope they listen to you.
Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by Acidosis(m): 10:51am On Apr 03
Nostradamus:
not really.

I'm also a naturally quiet person.

At times,when some messed with me,i do stand up to them and get very aggressive,at other times,i will just feel like ignoring.

Sometimes ago(should have been up to a year now),i got a cab driver arrested with SARS(he was at fault sha,trying to take me for a ride cos of the quiet air around me).I noticed that after that experience,peoole who witnessed it start seeing me in a new light.


Been quiet is not a sign of weakness.only that most quiet people seem to take a long while before they get angry cool

They're seeing you in a new light because the quiet guy they knew took action, not necessarily because you were loud. Many quiet people are usually unpredictable like you, and that's a great sign. Btw, being quiet is not docility. Docility is a weakness, not quietness. You can be quiet but full of action (or inaction).

Action here means doing what no one expects you to do.

Inaction here means not doing what everyone expects you to do as per Mr nice and quiet guy; not giving a f**k what they think.


A docile man on the other man is completely clueless in words and in actions.

Also, like I posted earlier, loudness only gets the attention of strangers. It works when you're in the midst of strangers. In the midst of people who know you so well, loudness turns a man to a joke. Agberos are a case in point. A JJC may take them seriously but a Lagos man knows too well...

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by Nostradamus: 11:47am On Apr 03
Acidosis:


They're seeing you in a new light because the quiet guy they knew took action, not necessarily because you were loud. Many quiet people are usually unpredictable like you, and that's a great sign. Btw, being quiet is not docility. Docility is a weakness, not quietness. You can be quiet but full of action (or inaction).

Action here means doing what no one expects you to do.

Inaction here means not doing what everyone expects you to do as per Mr nice and quiet guy; not giving a f**k what they think.


A docile man on the other man is completely clueless in words and in actions.

Also, like I posted earlier, loudness only gets the attention of strangers. It works when you're in the midst of strangers. In the midst of people who know you so well, loudness turns a man to a joke. Agberos are a case in point. A JJC may take them seriously but a Lagos man knows too well...

exactly!!

That's what happened.

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by Saig: 12:15pm On Apr 03
It's not weakness, it's strength. Not everyone can control their emotions when stepped upon. Just learn to address the necessary ones in an appropriate way

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by Ishilove: 12:22pm On Apr 03
pryme:


Quiet people use actions to say what they mean, and their actions are often the loudest cos it comes full of surprises.
Very correct. I am quiet and I look quiet, so it always comes as a surprise when I start changing it for people when they cross me. A tiger does not announce its tigritude.

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by Ishilove: 12:26pm On Apr 03
kalu61:
Yes, as in introvert l will say it's a weaknesses somehow because you let go of so many things but one dengaroue thing about it is that, when your anger builds up, even Satan go surprise by your action.

However, there a big difference between being quiet and being weak.

Have you head Chinesse president rant on TV like his American counter parts. Asians are generally quiet but not weak.

I remember one day, my mum called and said, "People said they are afraid of you because you don't friends, you don't visit anybody and mind my business"

l just laugh. l told her, it's better that way grin
Not the ones in my vicinity. Those ones are very lousy

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by bigcee(m): 12:28pm On Apr 03
blazepascal:
yes pple that are quiet are very weak i use to be in that shoe before pple use to take advantage of quiet people pple will step on ur toes you won't talk you will be cheated you won't talk you will be bullied you won't talk all this are sign of weakness
Sad truth.
Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by jantman(m): 12:30pm On Apr 03
@IamYourNeighbor

Meankness is the right word to be used, although foolish human see meakness as a sign of weakness but it is really the source of a spiritual strength against all odds

Those who cannot control the spirit of anger becomes slaves to the spirit of anger. He who can suppress anger has more strength.

To be meak you must learn to break your will in many things. To live in ghettos or poverty communities, you must endure all things without complaint, and to persevere faithfully is not an easy thing.

Meakness is actually the elder brother of humility, i mean meakness is a higher virtue than humility.

If you would persevere in seeking perfection, you must consider yourself a nobody and be meak. If you would become meak, you must be content to seem like a fool in this life

He who seeks to be like God, to have perfect and Godly characters will find only
trouble and grief in this world.

Meakness and gentleness is actually a substance in the spiritual realm

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by IamYourNeighbor(m): 12:44pm On Apr 03
jantman:

@IamYourNeighbor

Meankness is the right word to be used, although foolish human see meakness as a sign of weakness but it is really the source of a spiritual strength against all odds

Those who cannot control the spirit of anger becomes slaves to the spirit of anger. He who can suppress anger has more strength.

To be meak you must learn to break your will in many things. To live in ghettos or poverty communities, you must endure all things without complaint, and to persevere faithfully is not an easy thing.

Meakness is actually the elder brother of humility, i mean meakness is a higher virtue than humility.

If you would persevere in seeking perfection, you must consider yourself a nobody and be meak. If you would become meak, you must be content to seem like a fool in this life

He who seeks to be like God, to have perfect and Godly characters will find only
trouble and grief in this world.

Meakness and gentleness is actually a substance in the spiritual realm


Very well said, My good man.

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by IamYourNeighbor(m): 12:48pm On Apr 03
Nostradamus:
not really.

I'm also a naturally quiet person.

At times,when some messed with me,i do stand up to them and get very aggressive,at other times,i will just feel like ignoring.

Sometimes ago(should have been up to a year now),i got a cab driver arrested with SARS(he was at fault sha,trying to take me for a ride cos of the quiet air around me).I noticed that after that experience,peoole who witnessed it start seeing me in a new light.


Been quiet is not a sign of weakness.only that most quiet people seem to take a long while before they get angry cool


Thank you for this, My good man.
Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by kalu61(m): 2:01pm On Apr 03
Ishilove:

Not the ones in my vicinity. Those ones are very lousy
grin They are exceptions sha but I'm convinced they aren't Japanese.
Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by healthbing(f): 2:10pm On Apr 03
For me it's a sign of maturity in most cases..
As you grow older u discover that there are somethings that don't necessarily deserve your attention or response.

Being quiet actually means strength to me because it's not easy to overlook certain things.

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by Ishilove: 2:20pm On Apr 03
kalu61:
grin There are exceptions sha but I'm convinced they aren't Japanese.
100% Chinese cheesy
Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by iamyemiakins(m): 4:20pm On Apr 03
Xenry:
It's a sign of strength.
Na bacteria and fungi full this guy face
Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by Basic123: 6:05pm On Apr 03
IamYourNeighbor:
I just heard from someone that "being quiet is almost same thing as being weak." What a society we live in! Being loud is taken as being strong, and being quiet is taken as being weak !

What's your assertion to this ideology people?
Its is a sign of weakness to few people. Unfortunately those few people are lousy!...so foolish people think its the truth.Being quite is a sign of maturity and intelligence.
They think before speaking, and after weighing being silent and speaking out on most occasions they have discovered that SILENCE IS GOLDEN.

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by Basic123: 6:18pm On Apr 03
Nazgul:
It depends.

Let me use myself as an example, I'm a quiet person, I hate unprofitable and unnecessary arguments/conversations but that doesn't mean that if you trample on my rights of try to cheat me I'll play the mute role on you. It's then you'll know that I'm a tamed mad man.

Weakness in my own opinion can be defined as inability to speak up for yourself admist oppression.
not all the time one needs to speak.One needs to be strategic.Yorubas will say,if one haven't getting a hold on well sharpened cutlass one doesn't challenge the person that kills one's father. They will just kill someone too.

One of the wise,diplomatic and intelligent principles that made some people see yoruba as been coward anyway.

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by IamYourNeighbor(m): 6:18pm On Apr 03
Basic123:

Its is a sign of weakness to few people. Unfortunately those few people are lousy!...so foolish people think its the truth.Being quite is a sign of maturity and intelligence.
They think before speaking, and after weighing being silent and speaking out on most occasions they have discovered that SILENCE IS GOLDEN.


Aptly said !

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by IamYourNeighbor(m): 6:26pm On Apr 03
Personally I'm really learning a thing or two from the comments so far.

In some occasions, I've been expected to use brute force or exert my physical strength, but I chose discretion and rationality.

Seriously, "I can't just leap before looking."

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by Fash20: 6:37pm On Apr 03
I'm quite, I'm an introvert and i think I'm weak also. I hate it but i can't help it.

I hardly get angry, I forgive easily and I can go berserk when i can't take some sh!ts anymore.

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by AdeOri99: 10:27pm On Apr 03
Amarahly:



I'm a quiet person, I'd say it's weakness (IMO) cause I've had people step on my toes and walk away ...
Then you turn it to strenght...

I was like though, until i discovered that it will destroy me, then i train the army within me.

I can bring down an empire silently, without anyone pointing an accusing finger at me.
Because i will do everything mostly passively and selflessly.

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by AdeOri99: 10:29pm On Apr 03
Amarahly:



1st sentence: Very true

How exactly is letting people mess with me an attribute of strength embarassed it could be true in a way but It's not the kind of strength I'll like to possess
If you don't want it then, i can give you some practical training
Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by AdeOri99: 10:47pm On Apr 03
anochuko01:

This sums up all my thoughts.

The moment a quiet person reacts, even the loudest ones would stand and look in awe.
Makes me remember a day i went to a bank, the lady that was supposed to attend to me was just being very unreasonable, and takes me for granted as i am quite young and look homely.

I was asked to submit a document a third time, due to her carelessness

This ignited the flame in me (i hate my anger)

I followed everything diplomatically, subtly establishing a strong presence around the banking hall while looking for my witness (even the security men where very cautious, seeing my stance and look)

Omo, when i finally explode, the whole auditorium was at stand still, no one dare stop me, the lady in question became very apprehensive and resolve my issue there and then.

It was after i calmed down before people are able to ask me if everything is now ok.

I just smiled and get out, lol.

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by MuhMubRaj(m): 11:07pm On Apr 03
It's a meekness not a weakness. Meek people will inherit the world
Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by Nikes(m): 12:01am On Apr 04
You think getting physical as a way to get back at someone who has wronged you is a show of strength? Nahhh...real strength doesn't lie in the muscle, neither is it determined by how loud you get when wronged.
I'm naturally quiet, prefer to stay away from trouble and drama in general; infact, you could step on my sjoes intentionally without saying sorry and I'll let you go.

I think true strength comes from the mind. One important thing about a strong mind is its ability to discern between fights to take up and those to ignore. Pouring water on my shirt doesn't take shit out of me, so I'll ignore. There's where you touch me that I'll take more than a week planning on your case and when it happens, you'll have no idea what hit you, and by whom. It's that simple

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by kelvinrhs(m): 3:50am On Apr 04
Kondomatic:
This is just like saying that introverts are shy people, it's not always true.



It's one thing to be quiet and another thing to be quiet and weak.


Allowing someone who stepped on your toes to walk away is strength sometimes

Me when someone step's on my toes (In the picture below)

But I agree with you, Anger is the strongest feeling in this world and been able to control it is a show of strength (Because e no easy)

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by phazotron(m): 10:30pm On Apr 04
Quietness isn't a sign of weakness

Na how you respond after the situation go determine if you weak or strong.
Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by SeunDobo(m): 4:38pm On Apr 07
IamYourNeighbor:
I just heard from someone that "being quiet is almost same thing as being weak." What a society we live in! Being loud is taken as being strong, and being quiet is taken as being weak !

What's your assertion to this ideology peopleii?

Yes you can be quite but when you see that they want to take you for granted , you must talk and let them know you no be fool unless you would be bully for long time be quite ...am introvert , gentle but I can be crazy sometimes .. that's how it's supposed be

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Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by Reuben700: 8:28pm On Apr 07
Draught:
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In Nigeria mostly "YES"

just sometime ago i was in a queue for something essential..as soon as I arrived, I noticed two elders come after me but were ushered to the front of the line.. angry

Now this queue was no beans! When it finally came to me being the next to be attended to, two people older than me came and stood by me neglecting those behind me.. The attendant begged me to please let him attend to them first, i said 1 yes but 2 no because this is now close to 45 mins waiting, i raised my voice while voicing my displeasure on why is it so hard for organization to reign in this part of the world.. Some female attendants now started saying "Oga you no respect your elders"? Even some ppl behind me said young man calm down... I mean what could i do, the ppl that actually supported my tirade didnt talk but just told me calmly "pls dont vex soon it will be your turn".. angry

Alas it was now my turn.. But a lady came and was given higher priority than me because of she was a staff or connected somewhat.. I was seething..

Now the attendant now said to me pls can ypu allow this old Mama (another person) , i said NO!!!

ppl were just looking at me like look at this disrespectful person.. I didn't give 2 fxuks..

As it would be.. The female attendant that told me that i dont have respect previously now told the attendant that after me and the mama, the man should close up shop!!!

Lol can you imagine.. The ppl at the back now started groaning but the madam said sorry that its already late that they should come very early tomorrow morning to resume..

So you see my brother if I had not been a lil bit aggressive for my rights i would have been told to come back the next day after waiting about more than hour to get attended to..

So you see my brother, if you're right, stand up for your right, if you like keep quiet there, nobody will bat an eye at you.. Patience is not a virtue that most Nigerians have..

Well that’s it as for me I have always allows people to walk away after stepping on my toes I do keep mute I later realize I wasn’t helping my self I became a bit aggressive
Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by femi4: 4:29pm On Apr 08
Buhari is both.... quiet and weak
Re: Is Being Quiet A Sign Of Weakness by Lasky2000: 4:34pm On Apr 08
Quietness is just like a time bomb that can explode anytime, just be watchful when someone around you is always quiet.

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