Yes, for better and worse, but would you have your partner's back when he/she is obviously at fault in an issue that degenerates into a shouting match or a brawl? Is it morally right/justifiable?

Calm them down and share your opinion where you're together. Having someone's back doesn't necessarily mean joining them in attacking the other party. And the keyword here is "opinion" cause no one is a perfect judge of what is wrong or right. If I'm the one having issues with someone, I'd definitely understand such a behavior from thier partner.

WoundedLamb:
Calm them down and share your opinion where you're together. Having someone's back doesn't necessarily mean joining them in attacking the other party. And the keyword here is "opinion" cause no one is a perfect judge of what is wrong or right. If I'm the one having issues with someone, I'd definitely such a behavior from thier partner.

But I get this feeling that, say, 2 women are having a shouting match and one of them is your wife, and she is at fault, it could be extremely difficult to not take sides with her or show some solidarity at that moment. Abi...

demolinka:


But I get this feeling that, say, 2 women are having a shouting match and one of them is your wife, and she is at fault, it could be extremely difficult to not take sides with her or show some solidarity at that moment. Abi...

I don't really think so. In fact, regardless of who is right, I wouldn't join my partner in fighting a fellow a lady except the lady's husband becomes aggressive. In that case, I'd be forced to protect my spouse. I think the ideal thing is to calm her down.

My wife is fighting and she's clearly the one on the wrong side? na divorce straight !!!!!!!

Okay lemme calm down. No divorce.

But I'll try to stop the fight, then give the other person on the right side his/her due depending on the situation like an apology or whatever's gonna suffice. Then I'll take my wife inside and advise her severely against every action of unruliness and disorderliness.

No matter someone's relationship to me, I'll definitely not support oppression or wrongdoing.




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WoundedLamb:


I don't really think so. In fact, regardless of who is right, I wouldn't join my partner in fighting a fellow a lady except the lady's husband becomes aggressive. In that case, I'd be forced to protect my spouse. I think the ideal thing is to calm her down.

Word. I see ur point. Still feel lots of spouses would want their SO's on their side, whether or not at fault, though.

In line with what WoundedLamb has said.. I'd say you should not come in between them at that point in time, let them trash it out themselves unless you are called upon ofcourse.. That way, you get to hear them out, try to calm them down and then subtly give your own opinion(how best you understood the situation), try to ease off the tension as well..

When you & your spouse goes inside and you're 100% sure that she's calm and all, you could tell her where she missed it or got it wrong and then help her understand how she could've handled it better.. I, for one, won't be mad but it all depends on the individual.. You know your spouse better than we do, if she wouldn't want to hear about it after it's been resolved publicly then please don't bring it up again, you could find a way to tease her after many weekss, months orrr not.. While stating your opinion, be as neutral as possible, so as not to be seen in a wrong light which often leads to disrespect.

demolinka:
Yes, for better and worse, but would you have your partner's back when he/she is obviously at fault in an issue that degenerates into a shouting match or a brawl? Is it morally right/justifiable?

I will side him in public and try to calm things down, but indoors, will chastise the hell outta his quarrelling ass

Ishilove:

I will side him in public and try to calm things down, but indoors, will chastise the hell outta his quarrelling ass

This na one of the paradox wen dey marriage o! In this moment of decision one must ditch morality for solidarity...

It is eell

demolinka:


This na one of the paradox wen dey marriage o! In this moment of decision one must ditch morality for solidarity...

It is eell

We present a united front in public because we know how to handle ourselves in private.

My partner is in a brawl, even if he is wrong, i will still support him ooo, when we get home, we can now discuss it, and point out his wrongdoing, but at that point, we will join the fight together, if they will beat us, make them beat us together. For better for worse, i cannot betray him in public.



My own two cents.

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