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Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Dtruthspeaker: 5:55pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee: You Always Do This and I warned you severally such that you keep malice with me. Have seen how it is and how it feels, now that you are complaining that someone else has done what you do? |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 5:55pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
felixzo1:Where do you get these your beliefs from cause it is obviously not according to God's own Word to you. Married in the church is recognized by whom, God? Where do you have God telling you this? You will not have sexual relationships with your own wife because of doctrines and traditions that have nothing to do with God and this somehow ends up being for God? |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 5:57pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
felixzo1:Allowed by whom? Men or God? Where in the bible did God tell you to wed in your churches? Where did God tell you that only your church weddings are recognized as legal? Where did God tell you that marriage to more than one woman is fornication? |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 5:59pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
livingchrist:Where in the Bible do you find God Almighty declaring that your first wife is your "legal" wife? |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 6:00pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
gaddafe:I believe God draws the line at concubines though |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Princewell2012(m): 6:03pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Dtruthspeaker: Hmm this is deep. God bless you. so the right answer is to keep the three of them?. I will meditate on these. Thanks. |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by felixzo1(m): 6:03pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee:there are 3 forms of marriage, custom, court and church. but the church only recognises marriage held in the church as bidding for a born again Christian,any Union held outside this is not called marriage by the Church. |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 6:11pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
felixzo1:I am asking you of what God Himself declared since God is the one we are called to submit to and serve. What does God Himself say of these things? |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Dtruthspeaker: 6:16pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Princewell2012: The Right answer indeed is that you should keep the 3 of them and Do the Good that you can do to them all, while asking The Lord for the Forgiveness of Sin. |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Princewell2012(m): 6:19pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Righteousness2: I sighted you when you just peeped and disappear, I was trying to call you back, thank God you are back. So you mean I should sent the remaining two away, is it not wickedness, since they did not offend me and they were legally married. Will God be happy with that decision? if you are in my shoes can you send them away? what happened to their children? If anyone marry them did he not commit adultery according to the word of God? Thank you. |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by felixzo1(m): 6:26pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Princewell2012:legally married in Church or where. only church wedding is legal for a born again, if you are only married by customary law , you are not married, you can not marry more than 1 woman by court wedding. which form of legal wedding are you talking about |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 6:28pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
felixzo1:Where is any of what you have said found in your Bible? |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Dtruthspeaker: 6:38pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Righteousness2: The offence has already been fully accomplished and it can not be restored! By what means shall he pay for the damages sustained for deprivation of marriage, loss of marriageable quality, depreciation, loss of time, placing upon them the burden of Shame for Rejection, Shame for lowering of her souls worth, Shame from scorn and ridicule, etc.all these spanning all the years of their lives: And this is just the list of offences against him from the wives alone I have not added those, of the children, her relations, neighbours, her True Male, (his own case worsens his charges), suitors etc $200 Billion would still not cover all his damages and of course he does not have $200 Billion to begin to upset all those offences! |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by gaddafe(m): 6:44pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee: and yet the man that was after his heart had many of them. Did you read any part where it states that God was angry with any of those Kings because they had many concubines? The reason why concubines is wrong today is because it's against the African culture |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by gaddafe(m): 6:51pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
felixzo1: All the wives that David and Solomon married, were the wedding ceremony in the church? And I want you to answer this last one . Do you think David is going to hell fire considering he married many wives? |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by felixzo1(m): 7:00pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
gaddafe:I am not God to judge. his ways are different from the ways of men. he fed the Israelites in the desert with man, but does not do same now. that does not mean he is not the same God |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Princewell2012(m): 7:03pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
felixzo1: So you mean a woman I paid her bride prize is not legally married unless I married or get wedded in the church? |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by gaddafe(m): 7:07pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
felixzo1: who told you God cannot feed people in the desert now? anyway let's leave that. Since you are not God to judge then you cannot also judge this OP as there is no evidence even in the Bible that he is acting wrongly by marrying the three wives. thanks |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Righteousness2(m): 7:14pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Princewell2012:You cannot be in sin and you Please GOD. you are Displeasing GOD in sin. You need to do the right thing to please GOD Eternal Life is a Personal Race. Run your race. Take every Hinderances away. They are not your wives . They were only your son Partners. so they are free to marry their own husbands.. |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 7:15pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
gaddafe:God declared that David was a man after His heart even before David was anointed King as a youth. That does not then imply that all that David did throughout the rest of his life was pleasing in the sight of God, nor does it mean that God changed his mind about sexual sins as defined in the old Covenant. God never made special laws for Kings so be sure that David will be judged by the Old Covenant, just as everyone of His people before and after Him. That God did not complain or send a prophet to him for every sin he committed even as king does not imply that God changed His mind about sin. As for concubines being against African culture, this is the first I have heard of that. |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Princewell2012(m): 7:15pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
felixzo1: may be legal might not be the right word here. Yet that's depending on your understandingon legal a woman who I paid her full dowry and her parents are happy to give her to me in marriage what do you call that? |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by felixzo1(m): 7:17pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Princewell2012:you are not married, was there any legal documents to this effect? court marriage certificate or church wedding certificate for the 3 women. if not you are not legally married. |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Princewell2012(m): 7:26pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Righteousness2: hmm don't you think it is a very hard decision to take? sending away two women you rightfully and properly married? Righteousness is Holy Ghost comfortable with this your suggestion, or you are just speaking from your mind. This is a very serious issue. I want you to pray about it and be very sure of what you re saying, because this is a public forum. So that we wouldn't be misleading others. |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 7:27pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
felixzo1:Open your Bible and tell us what God said about this marriage thing. How can you declare a man not married in the eyes of God to his own wives? |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Righteousness2(m): 7:28pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Princewell2012:Young man don't Deceive yourself! Follow GOD'S Word and do what it says 1 Like |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Princewell2012(m): 7:36pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Hmm I think am more hooked in between. Righteousness2 said I should send the three of them away, that they are not my wife, and onother person suggested that I should keep the three of them since they are properly married. I think I need the Holy Spirit to help me out to get things right. mind you am not the person in particular someone brought it up to me to address. |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 7:39pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Princewell2012:God has given no commands whatsoever against what you have now so there is no need to live worrying over that which God Himself has not condemned. He gave no direct commands against polygamy to begin with so do not mistake the opinions of men for God's word in this or anything else. Your born-againism is meant to be onto God and not onto men. If God wants you to change your living arrangement for whatever reasons, He will let you know but be sure that God will never go against His own Word, Jesus Christ, when telling you what to do. So it is best you spend your time learning and obeying the teachings and commandments of Jesus Christ so you can know His Truth and are not then easily swayed by the lies of men. |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Praxis758: 7:41pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
There's no scripturally justifiable ground to put any of them away. You married them before being saved, so you marital covenant with the three of them stand. The caveat to marrying one wife is applicable to those who are still single still searching. The issue of one man, one wife does not apply to you in the case. Divorcing it sending any of them away will amount to you releasing them to commit adultery. Though you didn't bring any of them to the church for marital vow, but the bride pride you paid on them stands before the lord. You need mature godly counsel to walk the journey of your faith and bornagainism together you all the three of them. I'm a bible teacher so I understand what I'm saying. The only embargo on you is that you can't go ahead and marry the 4th wife under andy guise. And bible does not encourage people who are in your category (multiple wives) to hold any office in the church. This is neither punishment, stereotyping nor victimizing, but a scriptural injuction to set standard and discipline for others in the church. I encourage you to keep on with the faith, be fervent and more commitment to the assignment of the Kingdom. Don't be moved or discourage by the exampling or stereotyping anyone may throw at you I also encourage you to be prayerful, build an atmosphere of unity among them, design a timetable for weekly bible study and have a strong family alter for the three of them. |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 7:44pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Princewell2012:What does it mean to be "properly" married? According to God, a man and woman simply need to agree to become one for them to be one. God never said anything about getting permission from parents, bride prices, weddings, certificates and the whole shebang that is the wedding industry of today. There were no others present when Adam and Eve chose go become husband and wife then. And God never changed His mind about what marriage is between a man and a woman. |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Praxis758: 7:44pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
The real marriage that stands in the register of God is the consent of the parents and paying bride price. Though making vow before the alter is good, but the former is more accepted by God and biblical than the later. felixzo1: |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by gaddafe(m): 7:45pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee: it would have been nice if you are clear with your points though. When you say sexual sin, I hope you're not referring to David committing any sin by having wives because he was not the only one that did that then. infact it was a common practice then. whether you are a king or commoner. And if David had sinned by marrying wives don't you think he would have known just as he knew about the Uriah wife. and yes concubine is a western culture which is frowned at in most African cultures. It doesn't mean people don't have them though. |
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 7:45pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Praxis758:Where is the law against his marrying another wife declared in your Bible? |
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