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Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Dtruthspeaker: 5:55pm On Apr 25
Kobojunkiee:

You, in transmitting this to others as if right, also commit sin against God in your ignorance undecided

You Always Do This and I warned you severally such that you keep malice with me.

Have seen how it is and how it feels, now that you are complaining that someone else has done what you do?
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 5:55pm On Apr 25
felixzo1:
they will remain in your house hold if the choose and you will provide for them, but you will not have sexual relationship with the 2.you will only choose one and marry officially in the church, only the one married in the church is recognized as your wife. before officially being wedded in the church what your were doing with the 3 was fornication .only the wedding in church is legal by church tradition
Where do you get these your beliefs from cause it is obviously not according to God's own Word to you. undecided

Married in the church is recognized by whom, God? Where do you have God telling you this? undecided

You will not have sexual relationships with your own wife because of doctrines and traditions that have nothing to do with God and this somehow ends up being for God? undecided
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 5:57pm On Apr 25
felixzo1:
you are allowed to wed only one woman in Church, and only church wedding is recognized as legal. this is a case of fornication not Mardi
Allowed by whom? Men or God? undecided

Where in the bible did God tell you to wed in your churches? undecided

Where did God tell you that only your church weddings are recognized as legal? undecided

Where did God tell you that marriage to more than one woman is fornication? undecided
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 5:59pm On Apr 25
livingchrist:
If your wives have children for you, you don't need to send them away empty handed.
I believe your first wife is your legal wife, keep her but you can also take care of your other wives and children.
Where in the Bible do you find God Almighty declaring that your first wife is your "legal" wife? undecided
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 6:00pm On Apr 25
gaddafe:

The three wives are yours keep them. If you chase them away who do expect to get married to them. King David was a man after Gods heart and he had many wives and many girlfriends (concubines). Initially the Christian faith does not bother about wedding ceremony and how many wives you marry as long as the bride was not stolen or kidnapped. All these stuff started in the 17th or 18th century. Please enjoy your life you have not committed any sin. As long as they were duly married
I believe God draws the line at concubines though undecided
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Princewell2012(m): 6:03pm On Apr 25
Dtruthspeaker:


grin I am not Fighting at all, I am just going about it in a Matter of Fact way.

"Consent is The Law"! You willfully took them up and made promises to them (Contract), they have altered their Status and become liable because of the marriage eg Death from Adultery! Therefore, you bound them and they are bound to you, thus, you can not put any of them away without a reasonable good cause.

Case in point Jacob, David and the Silence, not Absence of The Law Forbidding more than one wife!

You have already broken the first Law (He made them male and female) but you need not continue breaking more Laws eg Promise/Covenant/Contract Breakers,of which the Mercy and Grace of God is that we should STOP BREAKING LAWS, For We Have Broken Them In Our Times Past, but it must not continue.

SO I CLEARLY SAY, DO NOT PUT THEM AWAY!


Hmm this is deep. God bless you.


so the right answer is to keep the three of them?.

I will meditate on these. Thanks.
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by felixzo1(m): 6:03pm On Apr 25
Kobojunkiee:
Where do you get these your beliefs from cause it is obviously not according to God's own Word to you. undecided

Married in the church is recognized by whom, God? Where do you have God telling you this? undecided

You will not have sexual relationships with your own wife because of doctrines and traditions that have nothing to do with God and this somehow ends up being for God? undecided
there are 3 forms of marriage, custom, court and church. but the church only recognises marriage held in the church as bidding for a born again Christian,any Union held outside this is not called marriage by the Church.
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 6:11pm On Apr 25
felixzo1:
there are 3 forms of marriage, custom, court and church. but the church only recognises marriage held in the church as bidding for a born again Christian,any Union held outside this is not called marriage by the Church.
I am asking you of what God Himself declared since God is the one we are called to submit to and serve. What does God Himself say of these things? undecided
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Dtruthspeaker: 6:16pm On Apr 25
Princewell2012:


Hmm this is deep. God bless you.


so the right answer is to keep the three of them?.

I will meditate on these. Thanks.

The Right answer indeed is that you should keep the 3 of them and Do the Good that you can do to them all, while asking The Lord for the Forgiveness of Sin.
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Princewell2012(m): 6:19pm On Apr 25
Righteousness2:
From the Scriptures which is our Guide, what is Permitted by GOD Almighty the institutor of Marriage is one man one wife.
See Matthew 19:4-9.
Your rightful wife is the first woman you Legally got married to. Every other woman is a Husband snatcher , Home breaker, Home Shatterer and Adulterer.

As long as the First woman you got married to is alive, she is your wife.
Now that you are Saved, you have to call them together, Probably with their parents or family representatives. You let them know that based on your Repentance and belief in God's word, you want to make things right.

You settle 2nd , 3rd, 4th and so on. You send them to their home of their Parents. The kids are your kids so they remain under your care.

The first woman you married is your wife.

Pleasing GOD is the most important thing to do in all our decisions if Making Heaven means anything to you



I sighted you when you just peeped and disappear, I was trying to call you back, thank God you are back. So you mean I should sent the remaining two away, is it not wickedness, since they did not offend me and they were legally married. Will God be happy with that decision? if you are in my shoes can you send them away? what happened to their children? If anyone marry them did he not commit adultery according to the word of God?

Thank you.
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by felixzo1(m): 6:26pm On Apr 25
Princewell2012:


I sighted you when you just peeped and disappear, I was trying to call you back, thank God you are back. So you mean I should sent the remaining two away, is it not wickedness, since they did not offend me and they were legally married. Will God be happy with that decision? if you are in my shoes can you send them away? what happened to their children? If anyone marry them did he not commit adultery according to the word of God?

Thank you.
legally married in Church or where. only church wedding is legal for a born again, if you are only married by customary law , you are not married, you can not marry more than 1 woman by court wedding. which form of legal wedding are you talking about
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 6:28pm On Apr 25
felixzo1:
legally married in Church or where. only church wedding is legal for a born again, if you are only married by customary law , you are not married, you can not marry more than 1 woman by court wedding. which form of legal wedding are you talking about
Where is any of what you have said found in your Bible? undecided
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Dtruthspeaker: 6:38pm On Apr 25
Righteousness2:
From the Scriptures which is our Guide, what is Permitted by GOD Almighty the institutor of Marriage is one man one wife.
See Matthew 19:4-9.
Your rightful wife is the first woman you Legally got married to. Every other woman is a Husband snatcher , Home breaker, Home Shatterer and Adulterer.

As long as the First woman you got married to is alive, she is your wife.
Now that you are Saved, you have to call them together, Probably with their parents or family representatives. You let them know that based on your Repentance and belief in God's word, you want to make things right.

You settle 2nd , 3rd, 4th and so on. You send them to their home of their Parents. The kids are your kids so they remain under your care.

The first woman you married is your wife.

Pleasing GOD is the most important thing to do in all our decisions if Making Heaven means anything to you

The offence has already been fully accomplished and it can not be restored!

By what means shall he pay for the damages sustained for deprivation of marriage, loss of marriageable quality, depreciation, loss of time, placing upon them the burden of Shame for Rejection, Shame for lowering of her souls worth, Shame from scorn and ridicule, etc.all these spanning all the years of their lives:

And this is just the list of offences against him from the wives alone I have not added those, of the children, her relations, neighbours, her True Male, (his own case worsens his charges), suitors etc

$200 Billion would still not cover all his damages and of course he does not have $200 Billion to begin to upset all those offences!
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by gaddafe(m): 6:44pm On Apr 25
Kobojunkiee:
I believe God draws the line at concubines though undecided

and yet the man that was after his heart had many of them. Did you read any part where it states that God was angry with any of those Kings because they had many concubines? The reason why concubines is wrong today is because it's against the African culture
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by gaddafe(m): 6:51pm On Apr 25
felixzo1:
legally married in Church or where. only church wedding is legal for a born again, if you are only married by customary law , you are not married, you can not marry more than 1 woman by court wedding. which form of legal wedding are you talking about


All the wives that David and Solomon married, were the wedding ceremony in the church? And I want you to answer this last one . Do you think David is going to hell fire considering he married many wives?
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by felixzo1(m): 7:00pm On Apr 25
gaddafe:



All the wives that David and Solomon married, were the wedding ceremony in the church? And I want you to answer this last one . Do you think David is going to hell fire considering he married many wives?
I am not God to judge. his ways are different from the ways of men. he fed the Israelites in the desert with man, but does not do same now. that does not mean he is not the same God
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Princewell2012(m): 7:03pm On Apr 25
felixzo1:
legally married in Church or where. only church wedding is legal for a born again, if you are only married by customary law , you are not married, you can not marry more than 1 woman by court wedding. which form of legal wedding are you talking about

So you mean a woman I paid her bride prize is not legally married unless I married or get wedded in the church?
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by gaddafe(m): 7:07pm On Apr 25
felixzo1:
I am not God to judge. his ways are different from the ways of men. he fed the Israelites in the desert with man, but does not do same now. that does not mean he is not the same God

who told you God cannot feed people in the desert now? anyway let's leave that. Since you are not God to judge then you cannot also judge this OP as there is no evidence even in the Bible that he is acting wrongly by marrying the three wives. thanks
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Righteousness2(m): 7:14pm On Apr 25
Princewell2012:


I sighted you when you just peeped and disappear, I was trying to call you back, thank God you are back. So you mean I should sent the remaining two away, is it not wickedness, since they did not offend me and they were legally married. Will God be happy with that decision? if you are in my shoes can you send them away? what happened to their children? If anyone marry them did he not commit adultery according to the word of God?

Thank you.
You cannot be in sin and you Please GOD.
you are Displeasing GOD in sin.
You need to do the right thing to please GOD

Eternal Life is a Personal Race. Run your race. Take every Hinderances away.

They are not your wives . They were only your son Partners. so they are free to marry their own husbands.
.
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 7:15pm On Apr 25
gaddafe:

and yet the man that was after his heart had many of them. Did you read any part where it states that God was angry with any of those Kings because they had many concubines? The reason why concubines is wrong today is because it's against the African culture
God declared that David was a man after His heart even before David was anointed King as a youth. That does not then imply that all that David did throughout the rest of his life was pleasing in the sight of God, nor does it mean that God changed his mind about sexual sins as defined in the old Covenant. undecided

God never made special laws for Kings so be sure that David will be judged by the Old Covenant, just as everyone of His people before and after Him. That God did not complain or send a prophet to him for every sin he committed even as king does not imply that God changed His mind about sin. undecided

As for concubines being against African culture, this is the first I have heard of that. undecided
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Princewell2012(m): 7:15pm On Apr 25
felixzo1:
legally married in Church or where. only church wedding is legal for a born again, if you are only married by customary law , you are not married, you can not marry more than 1 woman by court wedding. which form of legal wedding are you talking about

may be legal might not be the right word here. Yet that's depending on your understandingon legal a woman who I paid her full dowry and her parents are happy to give her to me in marriage what do you call that?
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by felixzo1(m): 7:17pm On Apr 25
Princewell2012:


So you mean a woman I paid her bride prize is not legally married unless I married or get wedded in the church?
you are not married, was there any legal documents to this effect? court marriage certificate or church wedding certificate for the 3 women. if not you are not legally married.
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Princewell2012(m): 7:26pm On Apr 25
Righteousness2:

You cannot be in sin and you Please GOD.
you are Displeasing GOD in sin.
You need to do the right thing to please GOD

Eternal Life is a Personal Race. Run your race. Take every Hinderances away.

They are not your wives . They were only your son Partners. so they are free to marry their own husbands.
.

hmm don't you think it is a very hard decision to take? sending away two women you rightfully and properly married? Righteousness is Holy Ghost comfortable with this your suggestion, or you are just speaking from your mind. This is a very serious issue. I want you to pray about it and be very sure of what you re saying, because this is a public forum. So that we wouldn't be misleading others.
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 7:27pm On Apr 25
felixzo1:
you are not married, was there any legal documents to this effect? court marriage certificate or church wedding certificate for the 3 women. if not you are not legally married.
Open your Bible and tell us what God said about this marriage thing. How can you declare a man not married in the eyes of God to his own wives? undecided
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Righteousness2(m): 7:28pm On Apr 25
Princewell2012:


hmm don't you think it is a very hard decision to take? sending away two women you rightfully and properly married? Righteousness is Holy Ghost comfortable with this your suggestion, or you are just speaking from your mind. This is a very serious issue. I want you to pray about it and be very sure of what you re saying, because this is a public forum. So that we wouldn't be misleading others.
Young man don't Deceive yourself! Follow GOD'S Word and do what it says

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Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Princewell2012(m): 7:36pm On Apr 25
Hmm I think am more hooked in between. Righteousness2 said I should send the three of them away, that they are not my wife, and onother person suggested that I should keep the three of them since they are properly married. I think I need the Holy Spirit to help me out to get things right. mind you am not the person in particular someone brought it up to me to address.
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 7:39pm On Apr 25
Princewell2012:
Happy Sunday brethren.
Let me go straight to the point.

If I have three wives when am still in the world and the 3 of them are legally and fully married.
All of them have children 6,4, and 2 children respectfully.

And today am now a born again.
And the word of God only permit only wife.
.so in this case what do I do.

1 should I sent two of them away and stick with only one.
2 should I sent the three of them away.

3. or should I keep the three of them?
what should one do in this condition?
Somebody asked me this question and I don't know what to reply him.

Please who can give us a reasonable answer biblically?

I will be very happy if it can be pushed to the front page. God bless you all.
God has given no commands whatsoever against what you have now so there is no need to live worrying over that which God Himself has not condemned. undecided

He gave no direct commands against polygamy to begin with so do not mistake the opinions of men for God's word in this or anything else. undecided

Your born-againism is meant to be onto God and not onto men. If God wants you to change your living arrangement for whatever reasons, He will let you know but be sure that God will never go against His own Word, Jesus Christ, when telling you what to do. So it is best you spend your time learning and obeying the teachings and commandments of Jesus Christ so you can know His Truth and are not then easily swayed by the lies of men. undecided
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Praxis758: 7:41pm On Apr 25
There's no scripturally justifiable ground to put any of them away. You married them before being saved, so you marital covenant with the three of them stand.

The caveat to marrying one wife is applicable to those who are still single still searching. The issue of one man, one wife does not apply to you in the case.

Divorcing it sending any of them away will amount to you releasing them to commit adultery. Though you didn't bring any of them to the church for marital vow, but the bride pride you paid on them stands before the lord.

You need mature godly counsel to walk the journey of your faith and bornagainism together you all the three of them.

I'm a bible teacher so I understand what I'm saying. The only embargo on you is that you can't go ahead and marry the 4th wife under andy guise.

And bible does not encourage people who are in your category (multiple wives) to hold any office in the church. This is neither punishment, stereotyping nor victimizing, but a scriptural injuction to set standard and discipline for others in the church.

I encourage you to keep on with the faith, be fervent and more commitment to the assignment of the Kingdom. Don't be moved or discourage by the exampling or stereotyping anyone may throw at you

I also encourage you to be prayerful, build an atmosphere of unity among them, design a timetable for weekly bible study and have a strong family alter for the three of them.
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 7:44pm On Apr 25
Princewell2012:
Hmm I think am more hooked in between. Righteousness2 said I should send the three of them away, that they are not my wife, and onother person suggested that I should keep the three of them since they are properly married. I think I need the Holy Spirit to help me out to get things right. mind you am not the person in particular someone brought it up to me to address.
What does it mean to be "properly" married? undecided

According to God, a man and woman simply need to agree to become one for them to be one. God never said anything about getting permission from parents, bride prices, weddings, certificates and the whole shebang that is the wedding industry of today. There were no others present when Adam and Eve chose go become husband and wife then. And God never changed His mind about what marriage is between a man and a woman. undecided
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Praxis758: 7:44pm On Apr 25
The real marriage that stands in the register of God is the consent of the parents and paying bride price.

Though making vow before the alter is good, but the former is more accepted by God and biblical than the later.






felixzo1:
they will remain in your house hold if the choose and you will provide for them, but you will not have sexual relationship with the 2.you will only choose one and marry officially in the church, only the one married in the church is recognized as your wife. before officially being wedded in the church what your were doing with the 3 was fornication .only the wedding in church is legal by church tradition
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by gaddafe(m): 7:45pm On Apr 25
Kobojunkiee:
God declared that David was a man after His heart even before David was anointed King as a youth. That does not then imply that all that David did throughout the rest of his life was pleasing in the sight of God, nor does it mean that God changed his mind about sexual sins as defined in the old Covenant. undecided

God never made special laws for Kings so be sure that David will be judged by the Old Covenant, just as everyone of His people before and after Him. That God did not complain or send a prophet to him for every sin he committed even as king does not imply that God changed His mind about sin. undecided

As for concubines being against African culture, this is the first I have heard of that. undecided

it would have been nice if you are clear with your points though. When you say sexual sin, I hope you're not referring to David committing any sin by having wives because he was not the only one that did that then. infact it was a common practice then. whether you are a king or commoner.
And if David had sinned by marrying wives don't you think he would have known just as he knew about the Uriah wife.

and yes concubine is a western culture which is frowned at in most African cultures. It doesn't mean people don't have them though.
Re: Am now a born again, should I sent my three wives away? by Kobojunkiee: 7:45pm On Apr 25
Praxis758:

I'm a bible teacher so I understand what I'm saying. The only embargo on you is that you can't go ahead and marry the 4th wife under andy guise.

And bible does not encourage people who are in your category (multiple wives) to hold any office in the church. This is neither punishment, stereotyping nor victimizing, but a scriptural injuction to set standard and discipline for others in the church.

Where is the law against his marrying another wife declared in your Bible? undecided

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