2shuz:


kai!!! truth is always bitter sha. Enough said. be the head of your family, be firm in setting boundaries and respect is very key. I dont think she knows that you really dont like it maybe you dey tell her with a smile on your face. dont beat her sha but be very stern.

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PLS TELL HIM

So what on earth do talk about at such time of d night? If it aint business I wonder what it is then,like the other guy made mention of light and darkness aint got nothing in common, married lady and apparently single guys got nothing as far as am concerned. I think u guys really need intimate talk on that, a divorce is not necessary now except it persist after the talk. gud luck

@ I understand how u feel, i see nothing wrong with keeping male friends but atleast she should know where to draw the line. talk to her ask her to choose between her marriage and her male friends and if she refuse to change then u know what to do.

Some women could be a pain the A, s, s. and this type of thing happens when the wife is more loaded than the man, hope you understand. Anyway Tell her to stop it and if she refuses, then do likewise after all, do me and do you God no vex now.

This is just to tell you that something is going on between her and the so called male friends of hers. You have to grow up as a man and call a spade a spade. How can you be in bed by that hour of the night and she receives a call from a male partner with an explanation that, the call was a friend of hers. To me that is rubbish.

Anyway, you are too soft. Until you grow up. Remember that u are married to her and not girlfriend issue.

Some women don't deserve to be happily married. What kind of nonsense is this? The OP is clearly a mugu. God forbid bad thing!

A married woman, should know that there is a limit to ''male friendship'' outside marraige, if you do not wnat your husband to have female friends, then you don't keep one.

if i talk now some over educated people go come here dey criticize, imagine that happening in the days of our fathers and grandfathers? its not possible but now we say women shouldnt be touched because they are women, being a woman doesnt make you stupid,as for me i am a traditional nigerian man, i will warn her several times and one day i will slap her and beat the Bleep out of her, we are about to make love ! for christsake you leave my hardon to answer another man's call in my matrimonial home where i married you, you will go to the man that night cause you wont sleep in my house.Some of us come on nairaland here and will quote one dumbshyte or the other to show how educated or reserved they are even when most of them will never take this in their home , they will say sit her down and talk to her blah blah blah, IF SHE RESPECTS YOU,SHE WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU IN SUCH A MOOD TO ANSWER THAT CALL UNLESS ITS HER MOTHER ,FATHER OR SIBLINGS AND ITS AN EMERGENCY, EVEN IF NA PASTOR, I WILL KINDLY PICK THE CALL AND TELL THE PASTOR NEVER EVER CALL MY WIFE AT NIGHT ! thats why before i get married i will date very well so the lady can know what i will take and wont take so she can decide if i am an animal or not before we make it official, no come dey form rubbish when i marry u put for house, i go beat madness comot for yah head, university degree or all dose books no make me stupid, i be correct sharp bariga boy!

reverse question
how many women on here will be ok with their husbands getting calls at 1am,11pm and co from his ex-girlfriends or just some curvy friends

OracleFemi, you never see demon you don hit wall!!!!! calm down, everything is not gra!!gra!!!!. How would you feel raising your hands and letting it come down on your wife, just like that na who you marry slave?

tough one. If she knows you don't like it, she should stop taking those sorts of calls. Having said that, she's surely entitled to a life with friends. I guess it's just a case of her learning to get the balance right. He should communicate his feelings to her properly, and if she still continues, either learn to deal with it or get a divorce.

ronkebp:

OracleFemi, you never see demon you don hit wall!!!!! calm down, everything is not gra!!gra!!!!. How would you feel raising your hands and letting it come down on your wife, just like that na who you marry slave?

my belle o!!! No mind am jare. Na this kain people go they call their wife/galfrnd "baby" when them dey misbehave o. you cant win every thing with war especially if you still want the marriage

This 'male friend' nonsense yet again. Hmm.

Come to think of it, the only peaceful marriages I know in Nigeria are those in which the husband is a hardworking and doting provider (whether career person or businessman) for the family, while the wife is either a dutiful housewife or works at a 'light' job (teaching, civil service, etc.). It's strange but true. Seems impossible to enjoy a meaningful marriage with most of these 'modern' women who have been tarnished with/by all sorts of perverse orientations. I think the institution of marriage is obsolescent in a sense; its demise is around the corner. The last thing I want is to come back home after a hard day's work to engage in ego clashes with any godforsaken woman with overbloated notions of 'equality'. If peace must reign, it certainly wouldn't be at my expense.

Imagine having the audacity to hand out her phone number to some guy she meets on her way to the market or in a banking hall. Let alone being suicidal enough to pick a 'male friend's call in my presence? Chai. I reserve further comments.

^^^^^^^^^^ that ''suicidal'' part has completed your ''further comments''.

This is why i HATE gals who keep male friends. They dont know where to draw the line. Nigerian women are spoilt. Am sure women abroad wont do this. Nonsense.

No don't do anything! Abi you said she took the call by 10:30pm while you were trying to arrange for love making. The next one will be by 11pm when you are already inside, and she will push you away to take the important calls that matter to her.
She knows that you can tolerate such rubbish that is why she is doing it anyway.
My friend, open your eyes. If they are open and you still seem blind, then use onions to wash them fast.
Guys, can you imagine your wives taking a call by 10:30pm and proudly/boldly telling  you to your face that it was their ex-guy that called. I hate to imagine the action that will follow.

You are sooo funny, but at least you make yourself clear and draw the boundary lines very clear too. Very important in relationships.

ronkebp:

^^^^^^^^^^ that ''suicidal'' part has completed your ''further comments''.

Lol. At least you get the idea.

When you become married, ALL males should be regarded as enemies. There is nothing like "Male Friends"


Guys need to quit disturbing married women when their husband is trying to get his freak on tho.

That's called c/o/c/k-blocking  

pro01:

This 'male friend' nonsense yet again. Hmm.
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Imagine having the audacity to hand out her phone number to some guy she meets on her way to the market or in a banking hall. Let alone being suicidal enough to pick a 'male friend's call in my presence? Chai. I reserve further comments.

I tend to concur with my friend with a point of View Succinctly put. Ore kini aja ba ekun she? (yoruba adage)
The Man Loves the "woman so much" and he "believes" she loves him too, haha he is not sure, some believed Yar adua was God sent too.
Abeg make we leave story, this matter get K leg.
Some Household wont even receive call after 10pm. I mean even inlaws included o, not some third party nonentity.

I dont advocate Violence any more against such behavior but any woman that remotely disrespects me to my face
will cause the day she met me. This whole saga if true leaves a bad taste in the Mouth,  A la tishe lo ma mo atishe ara e (yoruba adage)

bigdoo:

If you know that you have not cheated on her and that you have been faithful to her all the time  of your marriage, then it is left for you to decide if you can put up with her behaviour or not.  I don't know who is the bread winner in the family.  Women tend to take their husbands for granted when they start to earn substantial income.  It gets into their head so much and sometimes some of them forget that they came into the marriage with absolutely nothing.

JN MOST CASE

badesco:

Some women could be a pain the A, s, s. and this type of thing happens when the wife is more loaded than the man, hope you understand. Anyway Tell her to stop it and if she refuses, then do likewise after all, do me and do you God no vex now.

CASE CLOSED

Everybody is entitled to his or he own opinion. As for me I see no justification for keeping CONSTANT touch with your ex. But if the lady is the type that is so concerned about her personal development which is what I like. I'll allow her but set limits so that things don't get out of control. No man ever sits down and plan to rape his daughter, things just get out of control. Don't toy with your marriage, it's communication that brings affection. I'm not surprise by some comments on this post because I know many people support same sex marriage and are still right in their own way. You know what you want, and you have your senses to help you.

dplordx:

My own current girlfriend for Lag even has such issues. She keeps getting calls after calls. Friends, thats what she calls them.
I recently made up my mind shes not getting my ring, and I had to recently go for an HIV test just to be sure im still safe.
Since this past couple months, Ive been sleeping with her with my condom on, and you know what: I just decided I need a better replacement.

to all ladies reading this:

if you intentionally do this to make a man jealous, i think thats an extremely wrong move. if he loves you, i think that should do.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Did i hear you saying, you abi na your friend,that you never dated b4 marriage? Was it an angel or the devil that married her to u?

I dont normally judge people by their names or usernames. But bros, no offense, don't you think your username is affecting you? Check it out - "EvilSpirit"! Of all the usernames in the world, why go by that? I know this sounds irrelevant to the subject matter.

I advise you to do two things, find out if she has a history of keeping male friends. Ask her mom, her female friends, school mates, and all the people who knew her before you. If she has that history, then you should understand why she's like that. If not, then that calls for some investigation.

Secondly, you need to learn how to talk to a woman. Make her understand that its hurting you.

Divorcing your wife becos she picks calls from guys doesn't make any sense to me at all.

Which state is the woman from?

chima12:

Which state is the woman from?

she's 4rm sabatica. . . . Lol

obongproff:

I dont normally judge people by their names or usernames. But bros, no offense, don't you think your username is affecting you? Check it out - "EvilSpirit"! Of all the usernames in the world, why go by that? I know this sounds irrelevant to the subject matter.

I advise you to do two things, find out if she has a history of keeping male friends. Ask her mom, her female friends, school mates, and all the people who knew her before you. If she has that history, then you should understand why she's like that. If not, then that calls for some investigation.

Secondly, you need to learn how to talk to a woman. Make her understand that its hurting you.

Divorcing your wife becos she picks calls from guys doesn't make any sense to me at all.

lol, wetin u go talk bout 'molobo' (dats in yoruba). . . Na wa o!

Na vex dey catch me now sef. Women who don't value committed, loving, caring, every-woman's-dream kind of husbands are usually the ones getting them. And some of the ones who truly are the worthy-to-be-emulated-wives get the opposite. God forbid bad thing.

Male friends my foot. A married woman having male friends should be a type of friendship that is open, completely platonic and have set boundaries. The boundaries should even start from the fiance/fiancee stage when she is sure the man is serious about her. I will always continue to praise and admire our mothers in the days of our forefathers. They would have spat in disgust if they heard this. Modernization, reorientation, civilization, my foot. Marriage is a serious thing. Children and the unmarried should rever it and be in awe of it. Instead u see immature, people pleasing, unserious peeps with absolutely no clue as to what it entails, rushing to the altar.

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