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The Problem With ‘friends With Benefits’ On Campus by ijustdey: 8:33am On May 03
By Gbemisola Adesola


Undoubtedly, the term ‘Friends with benefits’, also known as FWB, has become a common trend in our institutions of learning.

According to Merriam Webster, ‘Friends with benefits’ is a friend with whom one has casual sexual relations without commitments. It involves sexual partners that usually enjoy the freedom of having constant sex when needed without any relationship commitment.


The male partner involved tends to enjoy regular sex benefits while the lady involved also enjoys material things in return on a mutual ground. The aim is to satisfy each other’s needs.

During my year one in school, I witnessed something like that. A close friend of mine got involved in relationship with various guys due to lack of contentment. She felt she was not getting enough from home and she also wanted to top the list of the “Bigger girls” on campus. It later ended on sad note because she lost concentration and had to leave school in her third year because of numerous carryovers and sexually transmitted diseases.

Ignorance, financial dependency, lack of parental guidance, academic dependency, comfort, peer pressure, loneliness, social influence,among others, are some of the factors responsible for such.

Financial dependency is also a major factor that leads one into this bad relationship. Lack of basic school needs can make a student toe that wrong path. These sets of students do not want to be committed, but they only see the relationship as the best option to get what they want. The saying: “You use what you have to get what you need” sums it up.


Also, lack of parental guidance is a factor. Some students misbehave when they have access to freedom outside home. Some parents neglect their children once they gain admission into higher institutions, they feel there is no need for frequent monitoring of their children while in school.

Academic dependency has also been identified as a factor. Most female students tend to rely on male students for good academic performance. Hence, female students pay back with what they can offer like sex, performing some domestic chores, washing of their partners clothes etc. The two partners involved most times are not ready to take responsibility, so they opt for abortion.

And frequent abortions can result to damage of the uterus and sometimes death for the female partners. It can also lead to damages that can’t be repaired or fixed for life.



The act has also led to domestic violence and abuse between the partners involved.The female partner is always at the receiving end.

Indeed, ‘Friends with benefits’ relationship on our campuses is a threat to good moral conduct among youths, especially students.

However, to curb this act, parents have a lot to do. They should endeavour to instill good attitudes into their children because a child that is well trained will be cautious and will not be wrongly influenced.

Also, proper upbringing of a child by the parents is necessary. Parents should follow-up on their children even while in school. They should monitor their activities and also check on them frequently without informing them. Parents should also provide basic needs for their children in school.

The school authorities should also set regulations, and disciplinary measures that will guide the conduct of students, especially those who stay off campus.

The school authority should also try to provide enough hostels that will accommodate all students to aid their effective monitoring.


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Re: The Problem With ‘friends With Benefits’ On Campus by AbabaExpert: 8:34am On May 03
grin I remember those days
Re: The Problem With ‘friends With Benefits’ On Campus by Nobody: 8:37am On May 03
do it right n it won't b a problem

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Re: The Problem With ‘friends With Benefits’ On Campus by PissfulProtester: 8:40am On May 03
Hmmmm....

On and off campus, what moves the market of the pharmacist is no other than abortion pills...

Some girls abort as many as 6 intakes before convocation...damn!

Some go abort so tey it will lead to complications that will make them remove the womb..chai!

Surprisingly, na these Kain girls dey dance pass for their wedding..

So many women of easy virtues in school then..small talk, dem don open legs like scissors

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Re: The Problem With ‘friends With Benefits’ On Campus by Oowel(m): 9:07am On May 03
Lemme ask but both parties get satisfied at first...
Re: The Problem With ‘friends With Benefits’ On Campus by Karlifate: 2:10pm On May 03
Good article.

**From the male's POV: he derives sexual pleasure.

**From the female's POV: she gets material pleasure.

In another light, some FWB might turn to [i]couple's life[i] which has become a norm these days. Even though it didn't start today, it's now like a competition among students, to the extent that if you don't practise it, you'll be viewed like an outcast.


This is usually common among those that stay off campus.
Re: The Problem With ‘friends With Benefits’ On Campus by NobleDeSage001: 2:58pm On May 03
musicproducer:
do it right n it won't b a problem

As far as FWB is concerned, it is very difficult to do it right.
It usually leaves one person seriously hurt.

I have been able to figure out why most people in FWB relationships get hurt.
I captured the experiences of some persons who had been in it and what it felt
like for them.

Click the first link on my signature to get the FWB book.
Re: The Problem With ‘friends With Benefits’ On Campus by Kobicove(m): 5:25pm On May 03
NobleDeSage001:


As far as FWB is concerned, it is very difficult to do it right.
It usually leaves one person seriously hurt.

I have been able to figure out why most people in FWB relationships get hurt.
I captured the experiences of some persons who had been in it and what it felt
like for them.

Click the first link on my signature to get the FWB book.

Na book you come sell for here? undecided
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Re: The Problem With ‘friends With Benefits’ On Campus by BKsoul(f): 7:57pm On May 03
PissfulProtester:
Hmmmm....

On and off campus, what moves the market of the pharmacist is no other than abortion pills...

Some girls abort as many as 6 intakes before convocation...damn!

Some go abort so tey it will lead to complications that will make them remove the womb..chai!

Surprisingly, na these Kain girls dey dance pass for their wedding..

So many women of easy virtues in school then..small talk, dem don open legs like scissors


and the men that was mounting the legs are me of hard virtues abi

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