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| Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by macjive01: 6:07pm On Apr 30, 2011 |
I'm confused my wife of 10 years is beginning to act funny. She walks around the house unclothed but avoid any kind of physical contact with me. I'm 49 she is 35. I luv her and still lust over her, if I suggest let's hv an early night she wud rather stay up late- watching home videos ! She has also avoided kiss or cuddling. The last we had sex was at Christmas. I do everything for her. I cook, clean and iron, buy her nice expensive things, yet. I paid for her mum's n sister's ticket to visit us last Xmas despite I was skint, I now hv so much debt that I will never be able to pay back. I hv never had a reason to suspect my wife of infidelity but at this point i'm getting confused. I summoned the courage and spoke to her mum abt it, she suggested I "show my wife more love n shower her with more goodies", as if I wasn't doing enuf, that it cud b she is having mid-life crises. I don't know but I think I buy her a lot already. I can't remember the last time I went shopping for myself. Im really tired but I can't afford a divorce at this age. Is ther any married man out there having/had same or similar experience ? Kindly advise me . |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by neily(f): 8:41pm On Apr 30, 2011 |
sorry for that. but no comment. |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by nanidee(f): 10:38pm On Apr 30, 2011 |
awww, you sound like you really love her. Have you tried seating down and talking to her about this? Maybe you should try this, and let her know exactly how you feel about this. Try to reach her deep down inside, so you know exactly what is causing this. She may be going through stuff, you know? |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by yiboboy: 10:43pm On Apr 30, 2011 |
macjive01: Good question, 90% of posters on here are not married, most are barely out of their diapers. For this kind of question NVS is more apt. But we go try advice u 2 the best of our abilities. Is she gainfully employed? Are there goals and aspirations she feels she's yet to fulfill? Money nor be everything oooh! Communication, communication and more communication. . . obsereve her when she's not aware, what are those little, purportedly insignificant things u used to do together that is now missing? You da man, go with your instinct, mine never fails me. |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by harakiri(m): 10:55pm On Apr 30, 2011 |
I have commented earlier on the duplicate of this thread in the family section. There is a sickening trend i've noticed in these forums. . . Whenever a guy comes around talking about issues about his partner, everybody jumps the bandwagon to ask him if "he has sat her down to talk" and all that. Reading the thread alone is enough to tell you that he has done all he could before deciding to consult her mother (who apparently had nothing useful to contribute). @Poster. . . Read my comments in the family section and visit this website to help yourself : www.womensinfidelity.com |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by yiboboy: 11:00pm On Apr 30, 2011 |
^^^^ Shuo, na fight? Na where people experience reach na hin dem discuss na! What else u expect from a site predominantly populated by youngsters? Ogbeni, bu omi suru mu oooh! |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by nanidee(f): 1:33am On May 01, 2011 |
harakiri: drink a cold glass of water and relax.While you are at that, listen to some cool stress-relieving music. No one is fighting or arguing with you. |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by HighChief4(m): 2:09am On May 01, 2011 |
@OP You might not get what is the actual problem directly from her, but if there is someone you knw she listens to, maybe your pastor/Rev/Imam you can have the person talk to her. Women most times are so deep that we barely understand them. I feel your pains bro |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by MMM2(m): 8:44am On May 01, 2011 |
op just pray 2 GOD. |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by 190: 8:48am On May 01, 2011 |
harakiri: Splendid advice! But why would she walk around naked and keep temptin you  |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by fawazbruce: 10:39pm On May 01, 2011 |
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| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by r231(m): 10:45pm On May 01, 2011 |
try marriage counselling or if you guys have a pastor, you might wanna talk to your pastor good luck |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by MrsChima(f): 10:49pm On May 01, 2011 |
Pastors got issues too. |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by Nobody: 3:39am On May 02, 2011 |
^^ In the same way a psychiatrist can also have mental issues too. Doesn't change the fact that they can still help. \It's generally easier to wash someone's back than your own. |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by esteduca(m): 2:37pm On May 02, 2011 |
Since somebody said you spoke with your wife, you should let us know how she justified this new behaviour. From what you say I don't think she is cheating you, but maybe, she is under the attention of somebody. |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by Goldieluks: 2:49pm On May 02, 2011 |
Aww i feel for you,it is good you don't want to divorce her. My advise for you is first of all,pray to God,and fast if possible,ask God to bring your wife back to you.maybe she might be having a bit of mental breakdown(please no offence),or she may be depressed, why not do a research on mid-life crisis,just to be sure.  |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by 190: 2:51pm On May 02, 2011 |
Goldieluks: Na wa ooh!! @Post! Yes follow her advice |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by macjive01: 6:30pm On May 02, 2011 |
So if I pray God wud shift his attention from the 6billion plus" other people he is watching to focus his attention on my wife. I appreciate ur response but let not involve God in this please. |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by ayanfemy(f): 7:00pm On May 02, 2011 |
it happens in most marriages, identify what catches her fancy, those little things u did wen courting her, or d ''harmless'' comments she passes while watching home videos, with that u may discover what she really want, definitely she doesnt need d gifts u bought 4 ha on credit, whatever u discover no matter how 'foolish' it seems start doing them, walking around naked  ? she is passing messages' read btw d lines n act fast b4 a guy out there will ''understand'' her!!!!!!!!! and please dont ignore d power of a loving husband so pray to God 4 direction!!!!!!!!!!!! |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by Nobody: 7:28pm On May 02, 2011 |
walking around naked, yet not agreeing to hammering. Sounds like your wife has a rape fantasy  |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by Goldieluks: 7:50pm On May 02, 2011 |
macjive01: God is the maker of good marriages,if you deny his help, you will remain unhappy,go to Him and cast all your cares upon him. cheers |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by agabaI23(m): 8:00pm On May 02, 2011 |
I don't know if you guys read where he said in one of his replies that she plans on going on a holiday with the 'girls' and she wants him to pay for it but the bobo has refused. This I think is used as an excuse but there is something happening underground. She has gone without for 4 months at 35. She be wood? She is actually punishing the guy deliberately and/or seeking for an avenue to get a ra.pe so that she could call the cops on him . . . so many things come to mind ma na o gbaro aka |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by Nobody: 8:01pm On May 02, 2011 |
macjive01: And this right there is the root of all your marital problems. |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by Welder(m): 12:15pm On May 04, 2011 |
^^^Seconded Goldieluks: Tell him  |
| Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises ? by BabaH1: 7:12pm On May 04, 2011 |
Haba its absolutely wrong for a woman to deny her husband of sex for 4months. Bible condemns it, even if she is fasting she has to seek your consent, that means there must be a mutual agreement, she will eventually push the man into having an extramarital affair  , I see sex in marriage as an obligation, It's not what you do when you feel like, Partner should see it as a responsibility that there spouse are sexually satisfied, I can't deny my wife even after a hard day at work, It's my duty because if she may go outside and bring HIV or any other STD home. Sit her done and explain to her the implication of what she is doing maybe she doesn't know, But if she refuses to listen, O boy you have to look for a safe way to satisfy your sexual orgies outside, Remember, body no be fire wood!!!!! you can't retire at 49, Play save, AIDS is real  |
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