Another question

Can't a lady genieuely be interested in the dick , as in , sexually attracted to the guy and then she desires to Bleep him ?

A valuable man sparks sexaul attraction in a lady . What he can offer is what sends the chemistry down to the coochie. When a lady encounters a valuable man she craves for , her coochie gets wet for him , hence she portray greenlight .

She wants to offer pussy in exchange for the benefits because the pussy is the value she has got to achieve that ends . Just like a man proves his love with his money when he is sexually attracted to her . The same way a lady proves her love with her pussy when she is sexually attracted to the guy .

Note: She is sexually attracted to him because of his value(benefits) . The value(benefits) is what sparks the sexual attraction not his dick . She will use her pussy in exchange of benefits(value) , it sparks sexaul attraction in her.

However there are situations where the lady goes directly for the dick .

For instance :

1. She is desperate for the fruit of the womb . The benefits of the dick gets her turned on. She wants the benefits the dick will offer and not the dick itself . That benefit of the dick can sends sexual attraction . Note : it's the benefits of the dick and not the dick itself . It will be a big turn off for knowing she only wanted the fruit of the womb.

2. She wants a guy that can satisfy her sexually because her man is not capable. Here , she wants the benefit of the dick and not the dick itself . She is tuned on because of the value the dick will offer . It is value that turns on a woman not dick.

3. She is an elderly woman who lacks abundance . This is a case of sugar mummy. She offers to pay for the service if greenlight fails her. She doesn't want the dick but what the dick can do(benefits). Broke guys can offer such service for the money .

4. A young girl who has never dated before . She gives him greenlight , sure, she wants the dick. She dates the guy with the hope of getting bleeped someday to experience what she has been fantasizing for long . Note : not the dick but the benefit of the dick . The guy must be happy in this case , he dreams to dis-flower a young girl . Even if she is coming for the benefits of the dick he will equally be happy because he needs it too.

Conclusion:
It shouldn't be misunderstood in a hurry that these categories of women are for the benefits not the dick . The only aspect that would turn the guy on is when she wants the benefits of the dick . Other aspects of benefits turn him off . Knowing that benefits turn a girl on not the dick . And if the guy discovers that the greenlight is not for his dick but benefits, he will be more logical and apply caution not to fall for all greenlights.

Some greenlights are redlights in disguise and some red light are greenlight in disguise

Only a real guy can see through a lady's greenlights ( her real intention )

Some gives greenlight to manipulate you for their mischievous intentions.

My friend's girlfriend once attempted to manipulate me with greenlight. Her plan was to seperate me and my friend.

If I fell for it , she would tell my friend about my intention . She would provide proofs and evidences . Then he would had reason to end up our friendship .

A clueless guy would fall for such manipulation.

A lady once induced her boyfriend's friend . The dummy fell for it . She told her boyfriend what his friend attempted to do .

She actually invited him with greenlight

Her boyfriend went physical combat with his friend.

Lesson :
Ladies love the pride that comes with when two guys fight over them and they can achieve that ends through greenlight . They feel valued for it.

When a lady wants to deal mercilessly with a man . Or if she determines to destroy him . One of the major strategy women use is to show him she is interested . She portrays her interest through greenlights .

It all starts with greenlight

Many men that lack the right confidence to woo ladies often depend on greenlights and that is why they will likely fall for any light - Perfect skills

Go for who you like, greenlight or not . Anti-dump says " most beautiful ladies will pretend they don't like you and refuse to give greenlight " I have experienced such situation before . Though, some would give greenlight .

Beware of greenlights and be able to see through it

Spending on women

Does a man have any other reasons to spending on women aside pussy ?

If we remove pussy from the equation, will he spend ?

I have tried much to defending men on spending on women aside pussy , however, men spend solely because of pussy is the best conclusion i came up with

Is the pussy certain for him even when he spends ? To be honest , whether the pussy is certain or not he doesn't care . All he cares about is that he wants pussy and he is willing to show his interest through is resources ( money , time, favour etc).

He may be unhappy to spend though , but what option as he got aside spending . Perhaps , if he has alternative to get the coochie he would go for it .

I've never seen a man happy and proud of spending on a girl . If am wrong in my opinion , kindly put me right .

The truth is - Men spend every time on women but often hide that aspect in their dating lives . Hardly will a man say it publicly or confide in his friends that he spends on women.

Many men can deny spending on women . Well, ain't doubting but let all men live with their consciences .

The truth is... both rich and poor men spend all the time. The only men i can wager for are monks and impotent .

Rich dudes are willing to spend to impress her . Poor dudes are willing to sell the father's land to impress her.

My question is " why do men like to do( spend ) what they hate, in my own opinion, because Its kind of mysterious thing to get chicks without spending .

We were all taught not to spend on women. But we ain't taught how to get women without spending.

We crave to get pussy but almost impossible to get pussy without spending .

Those(society) that advise us to keep our money from girls, neglect teaching us how to get them without spending, very pathetic.

If men have the magic wand to carry out their intentions , they will get the coochie without spending a dime.

When the road becomes too hard ( when he doesn't know what to do to get her ) the next available option is to spend is resources ( money, time , favour ect) . Mindless about sending money to his parents or attends to other important things in his life, he would go ahead and send her money for her birthday, girlfriend allowance, etc.

When he gets emotional while approaching her . He becomes clueless on what to do, then, he uses his money to determine his fate.

The truth is , you either go impotent or you do her biddings . Women know that men are willing to pay, so they weaponise and monetize the pussy . He either pays or he walks away for all she cares . Afterall , she can go with Love Machine or masturbation instead of offering pussy on silver's platter to a guy unwilling to pay for it.

On spending on women , 2 things are likely to take place.
1. She will like you
Or
2. She will dislike you

Spending irritates women sometimes and it attract them other times .

3 important things as regard spending on women

1. The psychology of Nigerian women in spending

2. How to spend on Nigerian women

3. When to spend on Nigerian women

The psychology of women in spending

And she said to him " Please , I don't want your money because I have nothing to pay you back "

How does a lady behaves when a man spends , do favour or give out resources . 

She could return his money if possible but since it was an indirect transaction , she decided to conceal her intentions and played games . 

It irritates like hell when a guy spends on her. It's a polite way to say that her parents can't cater for her or she is incapable of making money on her own.

Favours from a man she doesn't like irritates, because she doesn't have something(pussy) to pay him back . For this reason , the favour becomes a burden. 

Every woman dreams to be financially buoyant and become independent of the man at early age.

But the society has indoctrinated her into believing that her life successes depend on the man she will date or marry . As time goes on , her financial propensity starts to deviate to successful men that can compliment her financial weaknesses . 

In the society where men are ready to give out favour to women for attention and pussy . What is meant to work for , she gets it from men on gold's platter .

The out fits she puts on worth much but the money is from men .

She disgusts it when men give her money or favour without any tangible reasons . She sees him as being daft and manipulative . 

Gradually, she is beginning to get accustomed with it. Whenever she wants something and she is unable to get it or rather she can... but since men are willing to give it out voluntarily , she then now have to demand it from them . This gold-digging lifestyle is beginning to have root in her character . 

Some of them are willing to trace their steps back from gold-digging lifestyle but now , it has become difficult.

In the real sense of it , it's nice guys and society that turn her into a gold digger . 

If every girl is taught to adhere to the normal ways of making money . They will find ways to becoming independent of men . Just like a man develop natural ways to making money since nobody will give it to him, women will also find a way to make money independent of men . 

Now, she sees men as a means of livelihood and is now normal to her. 

However, she avoids getting money from the man she chooses but gold-dig the ones she doesn't choose . 

In the first place she detests the money you spend on her because it appears as if you are giving her on the purpose of exchanging some values(sex) . And since she doesn't choose you it will be hard for her to involve in such indirect transaction.

She would decline the favour if directly given for an exchange of benefits (sex). But men chose to do it indirectly , they give her stuffs but never declare their real intentions. However, there is a non-verbal cue in such favour, both the lady and the man is aware of its purpose. 

Except such favour comes from the one she chooses , whom she can offer sex , it will irritate her.

Money from the man she doesn't choose(love) irritates her . This is what often happen when a man approaches a lady and starts to spend on her directly or indirectly . How would she be happy to get favour from whom she is not in love with as it is, she doesn't have anything (pussy) to give him for what he is offering.

A girl must choose you to value your resources. But until she loves you , why should you spend on her .

She sees favours from guys as manipulations and indirect transaction. And she will detest such mischievous act. Although , she won't say it , rather she will capitalise on his foolishness and gold-dig him. Little percentage of men know this .

In the attempt to impress her, he ends up irritating her because she doesn't love him . Until she loved him , favour from him will irritate her, it's seen as bribery . 

Men misplace priority when approaching ladies. Spending and offering favours, thinking that, it will earn them her love , however it often backfire . 

What he should first achieve is winning her love . Winning her love depends on if she perceives him has the man that fits her fantasy .

Every woman has the kind of man she desires and she will be attracted immediately she beholds him.

Thinking that spending on her will win her, since women love money .Yes they love money but not from someone they don't love because she has nothing (pussy) to exchange for the money he offers . Now , the favour and money should win her love ,  it irritates her rather .

Come to think of it, if money is what she needs to give out her love to you . It implies that every man that offers her money will have her pussy , period !!!

And why do you think your money will win her heart ? Knowing that some men have been spending before you met her . She can't offer all of you herself , Instead, she tries to play all of you .

Men should stop offering money , women will still have sex because they need it as men do. But when they see that men are willing to offer money, they weaponize and monetize pussy .

If men stop paying for sex . We won't have prostitutes in brothels . All women will engineer their financial inclination towards creativity in making money . 

It's a big turn off to do favour or spend on a girl, she will see it as a manipulations and gold-dig him.

How to spend on (Nigerian) women


The best way to spend on a girl is to spend what you can afford to lose

The idea of spending or not spending on girls is more confusing than we may admit .

It's risky to spend any resources ( money ,time, emotion etc) on girls ,one may not reap the fruit of his labour.

In the dating world , its more of gambling to spend on women .You either lose or gain when you spend . But there are more chances that one will lose .

Should a man avoid risk or take the bull by the horn ? To void risk is more to me like a coward move . There is a popular saying " its not good to avoid risk but calculated risk is the best "

In Nigeria the norm of dating warrants to spend something to get pussy. I don't think anyone can change this fact ,unless we deceive ourselves .

Men often spend on women but they do it secretly to avoid mockery . The only way to avoid spending on girls is to go your own way

As far as you want pussy , you may not spend much but spending nothing is what I can't assure you

Let us look into some scenarios for better understanding .

Pretty ladies

Though, we may agree that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder but much percentage of men will agree that those girls posted above are pretty girls

Average looking ladies

Below are average looking ladies

let's use those ladies above to represent ....
Average looking women

Ugly ladies

Below are pictures of ugly ladies

Although, ladies have the tendency to gain or reduce in beauty . But let's use the ladies above to represent Pretty ladies , average looking ladies and ugly ladies .

The situation at which a man meet the girl and the beauty of a woman may influence our spending decisions

Its wise to understand that what we consider to spend on beautiful girls might not worth spending on average or ugly girls.

And what we may spend when we fall in love with the girl might not worth it when not in love . That is why women augment their beauty to get men to love up . When he falls in love he will spend his money easily. He feels the money to spend on her is nothing even when its beyond is capacity.

Note :
If he is never in love , he won't dare spending .

His pocket capacity may determine how he spends .

If he has 100k , spending 10k on her may be easy to risk . But he will never risk it on a girl he is not in love with . A man who is in love with a girl like those in the picture above won't mind spending 30% which is 30k out of 100k .

It will be worst if he's a nice guy . He can spend more than half percentage of his pocket .

Let's look into other scenario

Why are men scared to spend on women

Why are men scared to spend on women

Because, pussy is not certain . He may spend and get nothing in return.

Men would spend any amount on a prostitute that fits his sexaul fantasy if he has the money. His spending decision was based on certainty

If he worth 100k giving an harlot 10k won't be a problem, because getting the pussy is certain .Even a man with 20k won't mind spending 10k on hoe because he will surely get the pussy - No risk of losing money without getting the pussy.

If getting Nicky Minaj's pussy with 50k is certain. To be honest , many will borrow from Lapo( Microfinance organisation) .

A man with 1m would mindless spending 200k to 500k on Nicky Minaj's pussy only because he will certainly gets it .

However , no man will risk his money on Nicky Minaj's pussy if it's certain he won't get her pussy .

For a prostitute he may mindless spending 10k out of 20k because he is sure he will get her pussy . But for a beautiful decent girl, he may be scared to spend because at the end he may not get her pussy .

Let's be honest with ourselves . If spending on girls will guarantee the pussy , many men won't mind spending their hard earned money.

no man will find spending offensive and risky If women offers pussy when the man spends.

Large percentage of men will gladly spend any amount on Nicki Minaj's and the categories of pretty ladies above because the pussy is sure.

Spend on girls what you can afford to lose

When we advise men not to spend on girls , he would rebel behind secretly, the same thing happens when his heart is broken , he won't move on even if advised to , he would secretly go behind and reach out for her . So, it's a waste of energy advising him not to spend on girls. Instead , we advise him to spend on girls what he can afford to lose . However, he may avoid spending on girls he doesn't have feelings for , but spending on the ones he has feelings for is inevitable.

Spend on girls what you can afford to lose.

Notwithstanding, when in love , he would think he can afford to lose the money he thinks . 20k out of 50k will become nothing, in his state of feelings , he can afford it . Removing the feelings(love) , he'd discovered he can't afford even 1kobo

Spending on girls is a risky investment



We shouldn't allow ourselves to fall victim of spending because  we have been advised to spend what we can afford to lose or spend on girls to reward her for good behaviour or when she works for it.


For every man has a parameter to measure when a lady deserves his money, as a result , many men will fall victim of female manipulate as regard spending. Because Ladies are willing to give whatever it takes to get your money with fake love. She has ways to play on men's fantasy and convince him she deserves his money.

Sometimes , she won't demand money . But, just by showing him she loves him , gbam , he becomes convinced to please her with his treasures .

Don't spend unstrategically because you have been advised to spend what you can afford to lose

Note:
The money he thinks he can afford to lose on the beautiful girls above might not worth losing. What he feels for her at that particular time may influence his spending decision . Normally, he won't try it when never in love with her, neither will he spend the same money on the ugly girls above

If scaled those pretty girls above back to normal girl size whom he has no feelings for, you'd see that she may not worth the money he may feel he can afford to lose on her .

For instance: By looking at the Nicky Minaj's picture above , one is likely to catch feelings for her but If you are to scale Nicky Minaj back to normal human girl size , you will discover that she doesn't worth the money you may think you can afford to lose on her .

Majority of the pretty girls above are average looking girls but IPhone, camera, Samsung, Snapchat and the way nice guys flock around and hype them make them elevates their worths

They have the same pussy with ugly girls and prostitutes in the brothels . Perhaps, what triggers that love is probably because of the beauty , now he feels she deserves his money.

Below are techniques and parameters to determine what you can afford to lose on girls

Currently, the money you can't afford to buy that nice cloth you admire doesn't worth spending on a girl

Currently the money you can't afford to pay in a bar with your friends

Currently, the money you can't afford to buy a quality charger when the current one gets spoilt doesn't worth spending on a girl .

Underline the word currently in those statements

The money you can afford currently to do any of the things mentioned above is the money worth spending, because you can afford to lose them without emotional attachment.

As the capacity of ones pocket varies from time to time . The size of your pocket currently
should determine if you can lose the money on the things mentioned above.

There are times in a man's life , he has the money to do certain things he can afford to lose .
For example :
A man that has 100k won't mind losing 5 to 10k in a bar with pals . This can/should help him determine what he can lose on any girl .

A man can afford to lose 5k at a particular time on something but can't afford it at another time . This should give him an idea of what he can afford to lose at that particular time .

He can also mindless losing 50k in some period of his life . For such a man he must have worth millions. Nothing wrong if he spends such money on the girl he desires to Bleep . Even , if he chooses to spend less , but at least , for the fun of it . What he does in this situation largely depends on his instinct

Spend what you can afford to lose on girls not because you are catching some feelings or she has been giving you fake love

The reason why he must spend only what we can afford to lose will be illustrated in the stories below

Anonymous said : I met a girl and she gave me her number . She wasn't picking my calls for some times .

Some days later , she called and told me she was sick . Immediately, I hurried to get her some stuffs, medicine and also gave her 3k .

Thereafter she stopped picking my calls . I insisted on calling until her number started telling me "number busy" then I decided to use my friend's phone just to clear my doubt. To my greatest surprise, my number was on her blacklist .

Now, anonymous asked

Anonymous : " please guys what could be the problem ? Do you know that ladies are ungrateful ? "

The two men in the screenshot above and stories in the write up have things in common , the money they spent on those girls at that current time wasn't affordable and they became emotional attached afterward

Another thing is , they started feeling entitled to the pussy, else they wouldn't have come to public forum to express their grievances . For now, we ain't going to focus on entitlement but affordability .

So, talking about the money they spent . They might not be able to afford to lose such money currently . Perhaps, the feelings caught deceived them into believing they could afford it . The situation would be different if they worth 500k or millions.

To avoid emotional attachment, don't spend on a girl the resources you can't afford to lose.

Those men above in the stories had probably investment more than they could afford to lose . Else , no one would see their complains on a public forum

The thing is.... many that read the stories would hardly decipher their angers. If they worth far more than the money they spent , they won't be moved an inch and unapologetic

People don't like to lose where they invested, hence, giving it up becomes hard and spending more will become inevitable .

But if he can afford to lose that money , he can easily back-pedal

However . The rule of spending on girls what he can afford to lose can be neglected . One can choose to spend nothing , less or more .

There are times in dating when spending triggers a woman's feeling in favour of the guy . If he understands female mind dynamics , he would know when exactly to spend, spend less or spend nothing . Sometimes, spending kills attraction, other times it triggers it.

He got scared away from spending because the pussy might not be certain to get. If he knows the appropriate time to spend ,his seed will germinate and he will reap the fruit of his labour.

The problem of men is that , they spend out of ignorance, thinking that money is the only aspect to make her fall in love ....? no, it will be liken to a seed fell on the ground full of stones

For an average man. It will be good to abide by the rule " spend what you can afford to lose " to avoid stories that touches the heart.

2 stages in dating

1. Before the relationship
2. During relationship

The first stage is when he hasn't succeeded in making love to her . In this stage, ladies are in their logical state of mind . She will try all her best to manipulate the man to spend on her directly or indirectly . In this stage , he is dating himself until he makes love to her.

No matter what he does , how many months or years , money he spends on her yet he is dating himself because in dating, NIGERIAN ladies don't recognise the man until she has sex with him .

So, if he spends above what he can afford to lose in this stage , she may decide to quit . Then , he will get stocks because of his investment.

2. During relationship

In this stage . He has succeeded making love to her. Do we still advise him to spend what he can afford to lose ? YES . Because until he marries her , she doesn't deserve what he can't afford.

However, he can do whatever he wishes in this stage . If the girl is of good behaviour, why not do what pleases him .

When to spend on ladies

No doubt, spending and favours have its own share in attraction, yet he must spend strategically. Nice guys spend solely to attract girls.

It will also be prudent to know when he should spend.

When exactly should he spend on girls ?

It's not enough to know that he should spend what is affordable . He should also know when to spend else there will be no return on investment

Spending is like taking risk , he shouldn't take a careless risk rather , calculated risk is the best . Because , avoiding risk is a coward move unless he decides on his own to go his own way .

Spending kills attraction in the sense that women detest it . She wants it actually , but buying her off is a turn off.

Broke guys impress ladies with money . In another term - men that are not financial confidence impress girls with money . It's absurd and abnormal to do so. And also, any love built on money will often depend on the it to thrive .

Women are attracted to rich dude. note : not because of his money , but because being rich is clear signal of a real man. Sure , she will appreciate his money but not when he impresses her with it.

The thing is... when a rich dude beholds the girl he admires he will be engineered to spend on her . It seldom kills attraction , therefore she turns him to ATM .

Being rich is not enough to attract girls . He should possess the rich men game to his advantage .

We often have misconception about the rich men and women . A rich man is no better than broke ones, they both tend to catch feelings for a particular girl(oneitis)

Often times , we see ladies become daft around rich dudes, we most times don't pay attention to the girls the rich dudes are daft over, we will hardly see them

The truth is that rich men are daft when they catch feelings(fall in love) . No one would know he bankrolls on some random girls because he will keep it secret .

Rich dudes are no better than broke ones - they tend to catch feelings . They spend on impulse when in love.

Like we said previously that he should spend on girls what he can afford to lose . But I tell you this fact " when he catches feelings he's liable to afford to lose anything for her sake "

A rich dude already possesses the value she desires . But he must also understand how to sell those value to her

She must perceive him as a valuable person to be attracted . Sadly enough , rich dudes don't know how to sell their values , they depend on their money which blocks their sense of reasoning when they catch feelings. Hence they priority spending instead of focusing on selling the value first .

A broke dude is no different. When he catches feeling, he can sell his father's land to impress the girl .

Value comes before spending. If she is yet to see his values spending will yield little or no result. It will appear as if he's impressing her .

Women hate it when a guy tries to show off with money . And she often capitalises on it to gold-dig him. Until she is done seeing his values and become attracted , he shouldn't spend.

When he's supposed to spend the little he can afford is when he has succeeded showing her the alpha materials he's made of

By nature ,women don't date down and they tend to go with higher valuable man than the present one .

Determine the value of a woman

Women rate men based on the previous men they had dated . She will accept you only if see perceives you to be higher in value than the previous guys.

As much as you are below the highest previous guys - you are not her level - fact . In this case she will reject you - she can't stoop low to Bleep you.

A lady won't date down until she runs out of options

Perhaps , you think she is broke and you are richer than her in many ways . Poor you, you are below her in as much she'd dated men above you previously or currently .

This also facilitates why some rich dudes can't attract some chick in most cases - the girl had dated men richer than him , hence she rejects him .

She may give him attention, says naughty stuffs with him, but she will constantly deny him sex for the fact that he's not up to her level.

Just like a lady that had dated Dangote will reject any rich dude not as rich as him unless she runs out of Dangote kind of rich dudes .

Portray the value that surpasses hers

Note :
Value is in many forms .

Masculinity
Money
Dick game
Appearance
Etc

But the highest value goes with money and masculinity .

Study her and portray the value that surpasses hers, hence attraction .

When attraction takes place on this aspect of dating then your spending will yield result .

This knowledge above on spending and it's psychology is gotten from experience with Nigerian ladies what you do with it is up to you .

Nigeria girls WhatsApp status game

The status game

The status game is a means ladies use in manipulating gullible men on their WhatsApp status to do their biddings .

Scarcity of employment in the country. For the little job available, ladies can't endure 1 month to get paid .

Even men could only do little to endure let alone ladies that see men as an opportunity to survive instead of job .

An average salary earner earns 20k per month . And what if she can get a man to give her 20k per month, what's the need to bother about menial job which the take home pay can't really take her home .

Supposing she could get just 2 men to pay her 20k each . If she succeeds in getting 3 men. Common!!... she is made already. What is the need to pay attention to jobs . 60k per month aside miscellaneous gift and outing she will enjoy in the process .

This ideology has set many Nigerian ladies to see men as a means of livelihood instead of taking responsibility and face their financial well-being.

Instead of facing their fears by providing solutions to it, they depend on men to achieving successes in almost all ramifications of their lives .

Not minding the consequences this act might mete on them . They resorted in certain strategies to manipulate men to take responsibility of their financial well-being.

One major arena they use is WhatsApp status .

The status game is very effective because many men hardly avoid checking WhatsApp status - the WhatsApp status is everyone's 2nd tv .

Whatsapp status has tools to limit those that can view it . Whoever she wants , she will add to view her status .

The status game strategies

1. Uploading screenshots of money sent to her for others to see . As we all know , people like to do what others are doing . This will induce her crushers to jealous and send more than what the other guys are doing so to be in her good book .

2. She uploads her nude pictures( putting on cloths that open the delicate parts of her body . She also uploads vulgar videos to get men Hot . This way , the man will be thinking how to taste what he sees on her status . Soon he will be inviting her where he will spend his money to have her .

3. They bring their personal problems to the status . Like a. " I want to buy new phone " b." who will buy this cloth for me " c." my birthday is next week " etc.

In this case, any serious man will like to help her to be in her good book

4. They post pictures, where they are gallivanting , in the swimming pool or in the nice car and editing the dude from her targets not to see it . This is done to make her target see the good life she is living thereby considering her worthy of his money.

5. They like to upload high status guys , like rich gee guys etc, with good attires and nice rides. This will make men viewing her status to feel inferior , therefore , he would want to use his money to prove his worth in her eyes

Note :
Some of those high status and good looking guy they post are not even familiar in any way . Sometimes they steal those pictures from other people's status or download them from the internet.

They play the game this way - By restricting any guy ( prospect ) the status might affect. Like , when she wants to upload the screenshot of money send to her , she will block the guy that sent it from seeing the status .

Their major boyfriends are often restricted from seeing those classic guys they upload to avoid quarry unless it's for the purpose of getting him jealous .

The major guys allowed to see nude pictures and videos are the targets that have not yet paid her .

Any guy that shows seriousness to date, by spending and caring can be restricted to view the status because he may mistake her for a hoe because men don't like to date or wife a hoe .

When nice guys fall victims of ladies status game . He thinks, other people are also viewing the status like him, he never understood that he is the only one viewing the nudes.

Many boyfriends don't even know they are often restricted from viewing some vulgar pictures and videos of their girlfriends status


Often times , the targets view the status and others are restricted.

Las Las we go all dey alright.

PATERNITY FRAUD

Prevent paternity fraud


A man who spends all his life training a child that is not his has wasted his life as a childlessness man and the consequences awaits him inevitably either now or when he leaves for the world beyond .




Sitting under a tree with well shadded leafs , I beheld a lady with a man whom my instinct told me he _wasn't_ her husband .

I'd bought snacks beside the lady's shop several times where we made an acquaintanship. She delivered a twins in addition to her 2 children after our meeting.

Although, I haven't seen her husband before but the man I saw with her under the tree didn't possess the characteristic behaviour of a husband , rather he was more like a male friend.

My thought - he was the lady's manfriend who was having secret affair with her . From all appearances , something unholy was deduced from such affair .

The lady saw me, that was the first and last day I saw them together in that place . Prolly , they stopped coming there to avoid me .

I had experienced a case where one woman was threatening the other because she was accusing her of having an issue for her husband. Funny enough ,the accused is married , that means she cuckolded on her husband

This story was true . I confirmed it because I was very close to the accused .

During the period when paternity leave was announced - The price of DNA was slashed by 70% . A paternity programme was anchored on radio . You needed to see the discomfort and unease in the countenance of the married women listening to the programme . One of the women was abusing the Nigeria government that they neglected the important issues in the country for a useless attention (NDA price slash).

In the radio program, countless of women called the presenter on their opinions on paternity leave , but only one woman supported it. Then ruminated.... if large percentage of women are not guilty of paternity fraud. Why were they worried about it , a clear conscience fears no accusations .

According to Mr Abiodun Salami - geneticist ‘‘From experience in DNA testings, most firstborns are not fathered by the husbands at home, because these ladies have a prior relationship before getting married. Most times, they continue with that relationship, they don't leave it after marriage…’’

Very pathetic

The bitter truth is that most of the children around are not the biological child of the father .

The paternity fraud occurrences shouldn't stop us from getting married unless we choose to go our own way. The awareness of it should only put us on guard to prevent falling victims of paternity fraud instead of avoiding marriage.

Paternity fraud amass because of the ignorance of men . The mind of nawalt ( not all women are like that ) propense many men to neglect the woeing tendency of the woman they want to marry . How would a man marry a lady he doesn't trust in the first place - This mindset prevents many men from the real issues of life .

The punishment of not vetting your woman is inevitable if you neglect it.

If you fall victim of paternity fraud, it's your fault as a man. The first step to prevent paternity fraud in your marriage is to create the awareness with your woman . Many men shy away from discussing such topic with the wife or wife to be .

Prevent paternity fraud.

We mostly fall victim of circumstances because we aren't aware of its consequences . This is also applicable to women .

The same way a woman becomes careless into getting pregnant when she is not married is the same way she is careless in cuckolding ( paternity fraud ) when she gets married.

A woman that avoids contraception , risking herself into pregnancy when she hasn't marry will also avoid contraception when having sexual intercourse with her secret lover , then risking paternity fraud when she gets married.

If only she knows that the danger of paternity fraud in marriages is more disastrous than the danger of pregnancy in her singlehood she would avoid it by all means. Perhaps , she is aware but the pleasure of the sex carried her away .

Bleep !!! The attitudes of men contribute immensely to why ladies cuckold in marriages . He often show her - everything will be well in the marriage . Therefore, the lady feels too reluctant to prevent cuckolding .

If a lady was taught about paternity fraud and it's consequences by her father or husband to be , even if she has the intension to cheat on the husband she will always use contraceptions - she won't be able to risk it no matter how sweet the cheating is .

The interesting and dangerous part is that many women determine to cuckold in the marriage. They have a child for their prior lover who they love so much before getting married . The child will serve as relic of the great lover.

Even if we can't prevent cheating, but to some measure we can prevent the danger( paternity fraud) it wields .

The following ways will help us to prevent paternity fraud .

1. While dating or courting. Make it compulsory to talk about paternity fraud in marriages .

Use one of your unknown uncle or relatives as reference.

You : could you believe that one of my uncle fell victim of paternity fraud ?

Her : tell me you don't mean it

You : he later sent the wife away and married another one . No man can afford to train another man's child when he his aware that the child is not his offspring

Her : some ladies are very wicked , very bad

You : the issue of paternity fraud is disastrous .

Note :
You haven't married her , but now she knows what is involved in paternity fraud and even if she cheats she will make sure she uses contraception or prevent paternity fraud.

While on the discussion . Tell her

You : the issue of paternity fraud is critical .

You : do you know that most child are changed in the hospital diliberately and sometimes indeliberately .

Her : how ??

You : some women do buy babies from the doctor . May be they need a particular gender . For example . If she haven't given birth to a male child. She will bribe the doctor to get one for her incase she still deliver a girl . Now the doctor will help her to switch the girl to a boy with someone that delivers a baby boy in the hospital and the mother of the boy won't even know .

Her : Jesus . Some people are heartless

You : hmm, that is why , as I am , I will make sure I do DNA test for all my children to avoid falling victim of baby switching in the hospital . In this life anything can happen

Her : it will be good to do that to avoid catering and raising someone's offspring

Note :
You have effortlessly make her aware of paternity fraud and the mistakes one can make when giving birth and the danger of avoiding NDA test .
This discussion won't have much meaning to her because you haven't married .

However , this communication will linger in her memory . It will put fears into her and she will by all means never make the mistake of getting pregnant for another man and then bring it for you to cater .

Even if she makes the mistake while cheating and gets pregnant she will abort it without your knowledge . Unlike when a woman is impregnated by another man , she then now make her husband sleeps with her so to pin it on him( cuckolding) .

2. Deal with her sisterhood

Make sure you also discuss paternity fraud with her best friend and women that is very close to her the same way you did with her .

Because, women are fond of confiding in their best friends when they get into big issues like paternity fraud . Several times , it's their friends that do advise them to sleep with the husband and pin the pregnancy on him .

But, in the situation where by you have once discussed paternity fraud with her best friend and assert that nothing will make you to avoid DNA test on all your children even if it will cost you millions, you will do so to avoid baby switching and other related dangers. It will make her friend to advise her against the intention of pinning the pregnancy on him
In your communications with your women before marriage . Don't neglect discussing paternity fraud with her.

If you avoid such discuss . By the time you get married to her , any discussion of that nature will communicate meaning of accusations and lack of trust

But if you discuss it with her now she will have no issue with it when you marry her because you have asserted your intentions before marriage. And she will never become careless by avoiding contraception if at all she attempts cheating .

The first DNA test matters a lot . If you do the DNA of the First Child , she will believe you will do the rest and she will never try or risk cuckolding of any kind in the marriage .

The paternity fraud seems to be exaggerated because large percentage of men that go for DNA test are victims . Many factors contribute to it .

1. Baby switching in the hospital

2. When a lady is unable to conceive , she would assume pregnancy. Then adopt a child which will later be shown to the man as his child

3. Child trafficking . This is when one illegally wants to take a child abroad , a DNA test may be demanded to confirm if she is the biological mother. But DNA test will prove it wrong . And this also contribute to why the percentage of DNA test shows the man is not the biological father.

4. Human error . This is a rare case though . When the doctor makes mistake during the DNA test .

5. Most men that went for DNA test had suspected their wives before going to the hospital for DNA test, which makes it possible for the women accused to be guilty of paternity fraud .

But, in the case whereby both suspected women and unspected women should be forced to go for DNA test . The percentage of victims won't be up to the current record of paternity fraud .



However, in any case . Men should assert on the woman the intention on DNA test before going fully into the marriage to avoid ............

Men are scarce

This statement is largely used to emphasize the fact that ladies run out of options when the time ripes to settle down or we have more single ladies than single men .

Also , people admit that most ladies are unmarried because men are scarce .

Among cluessless dudes and female ideology, tatistic holds that we have more female babies than male ones, this could be true though but let's read further

Research over hundreds of years has consistently found that boys naturally outnumber girls at birth.

The ratio of male to female births, called the sex ratio, is about 105 to 100, according to the World Health Organization (WHO).

However, the statement " Men are scarce, which is why many of them are unmarried " is made on empirical evidence rather than rational evidence

I postulate. Many ladies are unmarried or singled for these reasons

1.

In Nigeria , we have 240 prisons occupying estimated 68,000 inmates of which ratio of male to female is 85:15. In Nigeria prison , male inmates outnumber females inmates with large percentage. This contribute to why most ladies run out of men in the society.

2.

Most of our men are on the hustling ground . The sailors for instance , they travel out with ships for months or years before returning . Our men are millitant who die in the battle field and it reduces the number of men we have . Also , some of them would travel to the remote areas for hustling where most ladies won't have access to them . I have a friend who would travel to other state , there, he doesn't have time for himself let alone women. This situation makes men scarce and contribute to why some ladies remain single or struggle with other ladies for few men available.

3.

Men go to their graves early because of daughters of eve who want the man's property. Running the family responsibilities could also send a man to early grave . Minus this situation , at least there will be more sugar daddies around which most of the ladies will engage .

4.

No 4 Holds the ground-breaking reason why men seems to be scarce and leaves many women single and unmarried .

I know you can't wait to hear it

If all the reasons above are insignificant . This last reason has much to do to why many ladies are single and unmarried.

In our society, many men are invisible to ladies, why because , ladies focus on few succeful men neglecting outrageous numbers of unsuccessful ones .

Yes , every lady craves to date or marry bankers , lawyers etc and managers in the big firms . The truth is that these men are scarce commodity among females.

When a lady says " men are scarce " in the real sense of it , she isn't seeing a high value men among the ones in her life or around her .

A lady would have plenty of guys in her friendzone. Yet , she complains she is single or she says " men are scarce "

Why won't men be scarce when she's waiting for that guy with nice car and affluent to come and propose or marry her

The male colleague , okada man who might even be a graduate that collected her number the other day , the bus drivers , that her broke dude who might be her neighbour or classmate are all invisible to her .

The fact remains that we have few successful men at a time who ladies focus on, with large numbers of men still struggling with life who are invisible to ladies . Therefore , she concludes that " men are scarce "

Men are not scarce , it's her choice that is scarce ._
When a lady is prepared to marry she starts looking for successful men which leaves the unsuccessful ones invisible . Then she goes by the dogma " Men are scarce "

The pretty ones want to date a successful guy with nice ride while the broke dudes around her becomes invisible .

Men are everywhere , it's her choice that is scarce - Perfect skills

The man that looks unsuccessful might be the successful husband. Be wise !!!