Am a guy in my early 30s, gainfully employed with a reasonable income. Though initially I had not given thought to getting married, but my perspective changed after seeing most of my friends whom we finished school together married and had a child or two.
The urge to get married reach it crescendo last week after my GM charged me to get married between now and the next two years, he advised me that now is the perfect time for me to get married.
But the major obstacle is that I don't have a girlfriend or a fiancee, so how can I get married? Another problem is that I don't easily fall in love with a woman and most times I usually get bored in a relationship and I don't know why.
Given all this circumstances, how can I get married When is the appropriate time to get married in one's life
Guys I need honest answers. Thanks in anticipation

Have Faith. Buy yourself a wedding suit and believe this Saturday you'll get married

illmatic101:
Have Faith. Buy yourself a wedding suit and believe this Saturday you'll get married

Seconded..

No worry, god dey ur back

Get married when u r ready

Fourteen90:
Am a guy in my early 30s, gainfully employed with a reasonable income. Though initially I had not given thought to getting married, but my perspective changed after seeing most of my friends whom we finished school together married and had a child or two.
The urge to get married reach it crescendo last week after my GM charged me to get married between now and the next two years, he advised me that now is the perfect time for me to get married.
But the major obstacle is that I don't have a girlfriend or a fiancee, so how can I get married? Another problem is that I don't easily fall in love with a woman and most times I usually get bored in a relationship and I don't know why.
Given all this circumstances, how can I get married When is the appropriate time to get married in one's life
Guys I need honest answers. Thanks in anticipation

Until you are mature financially, emotionally and sexually.

Emotionally, you are not there yet. No near marriage until you are there

you are not ready for marriage bro

Fourteen90:
Am a guy in my early 30s, gainfully employed with a reasonable income. Though initially I had not given thought to getting married, but my perspective changed after seeing most of my friends whom we finished school together married and had a child or two.
The urge to get married reach it crescendo last week after my GM charged me to get married between now and the next two years, he advised me that now is the perfect time for me to get married.
But the major obstacle is that I don't have a girlfriend or a fiancee, so how can I get married? Another problem is that I don't easily fall in love with a woman and most times I usually get bored in a relationship and I don't know why.
Given all this circumstances, how can I get married When is the appropriate time to get married in one's life
Guys I need honest answers. Thanks in anticipation

Wahala no too much.

A rich person won't creat a thread like this...

Which yeye boss be that one..

Nonsense

At this stage, you should just ask people to introduce you to women who want to get married. Like 4 or 5 women. You’ll make your choice among them.

Going out there to hunt will always bore you. You won’t take sh!t cos you actually don’t have time for nonsense. Go for girls who come recommended and who meet up with your basic requirements which your people will bear in mind while recommending babes. It’s less stressful that way.

Just the way they know you and your preferences, they also know the girls and their preferences. It saves you time on the talking stage.

Also, be decisive. If she has a trait you cannot accept, end things immediately.

Chloraseptic:
A rich person won't creat a thread like this...

Lol. A comfortable man who is avoiding mistakes may create a thread like this.

Any wrong relationship will waste the next 3 years. That’s something he cannot afford to waste now.

I envy you my brother.

On a serious note, I will advice you to cancel such thoughts and focus on making more money first. Marriage is sweet but can be terribly dangerous if you mistakenly choose someone that didn't understand you.

Pls don't rush into marriage































I'm talking from experience

I won't say much, Just don't marry the wrong person. Your age, your weak barrier against society pressure & your emotional make up is setting you up for an epic fail if you allow them rush you. Tread carefully. It's the major reason most humans never achieve their life callings.

And again, always have backups. Very important.

After you finally get a woman Sha buy agbo

udoji2021:
I envy you my brother.

On a serious note, I will advice you to cancel such thoughts and focus on making more money first. Marriage is sweet but can be terribly dangerous if you mistakenly choose someone that didn't understand you.

Pls don't rush into marriage































I'm talking from experience

If he only focuses on making more money, he'll remain where he is

Simply put geeeee

No problem No Dilemma but you want to enter prison .

Bro i was like you, flexing life, travelling from one place to another, not until i ask God to give me a wife and boom! before a month time, he gave me a wife, mother to my babies, sister and all i never asked for...

Our Wedding is almost 3 years now with a beautiful girl and a baby boy of a month now...
i feel like i have not even married because my wife is my good friend and she understands me.

Have an agreement not to live with your wife after marriage, then you won't get bored. try to find someone that meets up with your spec, stand at a busy busstop, get drunk or tipsy to have courage, when you find her, get a good pastor or alfa to pray about it. don't bother about the character most of them don't have one.
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bepositive11:


If he only focuses on making more money, he'll remain where he is

Exactly

9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them!

Savedday:
9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them!

The way some of you type self, I wonder if you don't have sisters, neices or grandmother. Guy, just like there is day and night, so are there good women and bad women.

It is disgusting for you to classify all women as *****. Forget what you see, or hear, and try an develop positive outlook.

@OP,

You might end up going through the "recommendation route" rather than "dating route".

In recommendation route, you will be introduced to women who are young and have outlook towards marriage. They abound everywhere and mostly could be your colleagues sister, your friend's nieces, your boss elder sister female child.

Try and follow up. Early marriage with raising children when still young is the best. No need waiting till old age before thinking of getting married. May the universe and God make it easy for you,
Amen.

Fourteen90

I'm not against marriage brother, infact I married recently but those motivational talks you are seeing up there will push you to another world (world of Lamentations) if you are not careful.

First, you admit finding it difficult to keep a relationship and easily get bored, hehe, I want to tell you that marriage is a life time thing even if you divorce, that person you married before is still attached to you Spiritually, physically etc.



Secondly, the way most girls use to pretend when you are dating them will make Satan jealous (no offense ladies). I can tell you that 60% of girls are fake from there face (make ups) to their body shape and behavior. If you are not lucky and choose from the 60% I just described, just know that rest and peace of mind will depart you from all the days of your life.


I still repeat that you should focus on making more money first, a good woman will come to you when it's time.




Like I said earlier, I'm talking from experience

My brother advising him to make more money, always remember money is not everything. He is comfortable and can afford to take extra mouth.

It is easier for him to find wife now than when he becomes stupendously rich. Chances of him finding good person reduces drastically as he get richer. May he not be unfortunate to get woman who only sees him as retirement base rather than companion.

DAramis:
My brother advising him to make more money, always remember money is not everything. He is comfortable and can afford to take extra mouth.

It is easier for him to find wife now than when he becomes stupendously rich. Chances of him finding good person reduces drastically as he get richer. May he not be unfortunate to get woman who only sees him as retirement base rather than companion.

Amen.

Money without woman no dey sweet.. .so Op you are on point