mentally or emotionally.

It is impossible but with God, it is effortless

We need serious training on this.
There was no cheating in the beginning when God created the first couple and settled them in a big garden filled with everything they needed.
The woman initiated absolute freewill due to influence from a third party and today all of us are witnesses of the consequences of their rebellion.
God's only begotten son later told us that for our future to be bright and blissful we must return to how God arranged the family circle IN THE BEGINNING! Matthew 19:8

BigBashiru:

mentally or emotionally.

There has always been a reason why they have always asked us as young christians to stay away from pre marital sex. Apart from unwanted pregnancies and STD.

You see when a man in his youth has slept with somany girls and now finally settles down, it will be hard, peradventure he married an amateur when it comes to sex that is when the problem starts. He begins to compare and contrast her with the ladies he has slept with. And now she might now be a religious type.
Certainly, he will opt to try outside to get that adventure he once enjoyed. Hence the cheating.

SAME GOES TO THE FEMALE FOLK

You perfectly grasp the reason why God forbids fornication!
You've said it all. God bless you!

Jentle244:

There has always been a reason why they have always asked us as young christians to stay away from pre marital sex. Apart from unwanted pregnancies and STD.

You see when a man in his youth has slept with somany girls and now finally settles down, it will be hard, peradventure he married an amateur when it comes to sex that is when the problem starts. He begins to compare and contrast her with the ladies he has slept with. And now she might now be a religious type.
Certainly, he will opt to try outside to get that adventure he once enjoyed. Hence the cheating.

SAME GOES TO THE FEMALE FOLK

If men know this, do they understand the same about women?

Cos to my best of understanding, na men dey jealous pass

BigBashiru:
mentally or emotionally.

Or sexually.

I think I agree a bit with this because there's this married man in my church ( they are new in my parish), a believer o. He's always stealing glances at me. It got so much that I think the wife noticed and stopped greeting me.

What's my own, I bone them. So one evening after Bible study he now came to my seat and was telling me not to mind what pastors wife said because She was yabbing me to get another Bible version which I didn't take personally. So he just seized the opportunity to get close and I became worried.

Last week, he sat directly behind me and after service, as I stood up to leave, he engaged me again in another convo. Hian! And the wife was there. I say God abeg o. This man should just face front.

Very rich and handsome man for that matter with cute botish wife and children.

It takes the grace of God for men of God not to fall.
May God strengthen every married man in Jesus name.

CharisEleos:
I think I agree a bit with this because there's this married man in my church ( they are new in my parish), a believer o. He's always stealing glances at me. It got so much that I think the wife noticed and stopped greeting me.

What's my own, I bone them. So one evening after Bible study he now came to my seat and was telling me not mind what pastors wife said because She was yabbing me to get another Bible version which I didn't take personally. So he just seized the opportunity to get close and I became worried.

Last week, he sat directly behind me and after service, as I stood up to leave, he engaged me again in another convo. Hian! And the wife was there. I say God abeg o. This man should just face front.

Very rich and handsome man for that matter with cute botish wife and children.

It takes the grace of God for men of God not to fall.
May God strengthen every married man in Jesus name.

you are young.... men cherish youth...... youth is sexy. his wife is prolly one of those that got married at an older age.

they say anuta agbogho achupu agadi - which means when a young wife is married the older wife is driven out....

men should try to marry a young woman if that's what they want....

CharisEleos:
I think I agree a bit with this because there's this married man in my church ( they are new in my parish), a believer o. He's always stealing glances at me. It got so much that I think the wife noticed and stopped greeting me.

What's my own, I bone them. So one evening after Bible study he now came to my seat and was telling me not mind what pastors wife said because She was yabbing me to get another Bible version which I didn't take personally. So he just seized the opportunity to get close and I became worried.

Last week, he sat directly behind me and after service, as I stood up to leave, he engaged me again in another convo. Hian! And the wife was there. I say God abeg o. This man should just face front.

Very rich and handsome man for that matter with cute botish wife and children.

It takes the grace of God for men of God not to fall.
May God strengthen every married man in Jesus name.

Even if the man doesn't approach you physically he might still imagine things with you lol.

BigBashiru:
mentally or emotionally.

It is because men are immersed into this Powerful Wickedness and are not told that there is another Way.

And that way tells you that if you Truly intend to be faithful to thy wife, like Noah, Joseph, Isaac, Job, you can Truly do it.

There is Another Way!

Personally, I don't have issue with men cheating. It's your life. My issue is with women that crushes their purposes, their dreams and their ambitions because of these same men who are polygamous by nature.

It is that time for me to say this again. Your husband and children are not your only purpose in life. There are lives attached to you fulfilling your other purposes in life.

luvmijeje:
Personally, I don't have issue with men cheating. It's your life. My issue is with women that crushes their purposes, their dreams and their ambitions because of these same men who are polygamous by nature.

It is that time for me to say this again. Your husband and children are not your only purpose in life. There are lives attached to you fulfilling your other purposes in life.

this is quite powerful.... for example, they say married women should not talk to other men....really?

that's one easy way to kill purpose.

BigBashiru:


this is quite powerful.... for example, they say married women should not talk to other men....really?

that's one easy way to kill purpose.

Really o! There was even one news that I read on Nairaland front page, a story about a commissioner who resigned because she wants to protect her marriage. She resigned as a Commissioner!!!! A position of 4 years.

She crushes opportunities. She crushes lives that depends on her fulfilling her purposes. She crushes dreams of young girls who wants to be where she is. By doing what she did, she elevate men who never sees their wife's success as our success. Women in position of authority are rare so when any woman gets there, see it as an opportunity to inspire others.

BigBashiru:


you are young.... men cherish youth...... youth is sexy. his wife is prolly one of those that got married at an older age.

they say anuta agbogho achupu agadi - which means when a young wife is married the older wife is driven out....

men should try to marry a young woman if that's what they want....

The wife is not that old but you know when a woman has given birth, the difference will be there no matter the packaging. But she's ok.

The man is not a young Bobo like that but hes just like all those Usifo Ataga them set. A few whites beards here and there but he is more reserved and responsible.

Men are flirtatious in nature.

BigBashiru:


Even if the man doesn't approach you physically he might still imagine things with you lol.

That's his headache. Though I don't think he would.

Sometimes I try to figure out why most cheat, it's just natural because I have seen someone that married a young girl infact their age difference is like 8_9 and still cheat on her with someone of his own age....... Good behaviors or any other thing know to be good doesn't matter to some men. It's just in their blood. And honestly some married women are so loyal that to even talk to a man at their place of work is problem as if the husband is there but still the husband will still cheat, this sometimes make me sad. But it is well sha

"For with God nothing will be impossible.” - Luke 1:37

It is not in the nature of men to cheat, rather it was our ancient african society that gave the african men the right to cheat and marry plenty wives. White men respect marital vows, they hardly cheat on their wife. But here, the nigerian man doesent see any wrong with cheating. Also some married women allow their men do it due to low self esteem.

You talk as if the men do not also grow old, if a woman can cope with an aging husband, why cant the husband also cope with his aging wife? This anomally is only found in africa, all due to ignorance.

BigBashiru:


you are young.... men cherish youth...... youth is sexy. his wife is prolly one of those that got married at an older age.

they say anuta agbogho achupu agadi - which means when a young wife is married the older wife is driven out....

men should try to marry a young woman if that's what they want....

Cuttycool:
You talk as if the men do not also grow old, if a woman can cope with an aging husband, why cant the husband also cope with his aging wife? This anomally is only found in africa, all due to ignorance.

I agree 100% with you. it's GREED on the part of men.... I wasn't blaming gals....just stating the facts....