I can bet on my scrotum that the same girl is using that data to have video sex with some other dude..[/quote] That part got me cracking up...op is such a dummy to have endured such a parasitic relationship for more than a year in the first place. He should kuku go ahead and marry her,shebi na liability him dey find....mtcheew
Ekomatrix1: I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.
she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.
Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?
Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness but no improvement .
what should i do?
A friend of mine just ended a similar relationship two months ago, it ended in tears. This one you just explained will end in premium tears should you not abort this ship mission. Just park this ship somewhere and jump out
quote author=drlateef post=103574855]The signs are there. There’s no real love in her heart. She just wants to turn you to ATM. Did you brag to her about how rich you were at the early stage? May be she wants to test the waters and see how true that is.
Ekomatrix1: I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.
she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.
Big red flag.
Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?
Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness but no improvement .
You're a fool and she's enjoying it. You never see woman for your life before abi her toto too sweet you say you no get common sense again.
You date a woman for four years, bros 4 years no be 4 days oh. You no marry am since or give am belle make she carry your pickin.
She sees you as a person who is not serious and therefore doesn't take your relationship seriously.
And as long as the money keeps coming, she will fall in line but her soul is not with you oh. Believe me, dis girl go dey nack akpako for school well well.
If you get sense, better run for your life before you end up like Usifo Atagah
Ekomatrix1: I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.
she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.
Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?
Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness but no improvement .
Ekomatrix1: I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.
she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.
Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?
Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness but no improvement .
what should i do?
You dating a typically 9ja liability girl..they are like that nothing to offer only the hole between their legs.Guy she is a gonna be a selfish and stingy wife.. if I were you I will discharge her.it's 2021 no time for nonsense.
Ekomatrix1: I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.
she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.
Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?
Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness but no improvement .
Ekomatrix1: I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.
she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.
Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?
Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness but no improvement .
Ekomatrix1: I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.
she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.
Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?
Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness but no improvement .
what should i do?
Why must you marry a student, are you not aware that she is cheating on you already with boys in school
Why would she be spending her data doing video call with an old man like you when she has her mates to video call and talk about the next cinema show with
In Nigeria, if you want peace of mind as a man, don't marry any girl that's still schooling. Allow her finish school and search for job and develop some sense and realize that making money is not easy.
If you want a healthy marriage as a Nigerian man, marry ladies between 28 to 36yrs of age. Don't ever dare marry a girl below 28yrs, and a student to even think of. Nothing good comes from them aside sex when they feel like.
As your fiance she was supposed to be the one pestering you for video calls out of excitement.
She doesn't care about you talk more of love.
Dump her asap and don't listen to any advice. Anybody telling you that you can't find a better lady is lying to you, go for working class ladies above 28yrs, there are lots of them in Lagos, stop believing that all Lagos ladies are spoilt.
Stop believing that any lady above 28yrs is an evening newspaper, some of them are still virgins for real, you just need to befriend as many of them as possible and in the process you will meet a lot of quality ones. I wished I could dash you some quality ones to open your eyes that you have been dating a foolish leech
The only class of men that can marry girls of 18yrs to 26yrs and have no issue with them are rich men above 50yrs, who will use their money and authority to get the girl committed and submissive. And such men don't need any girls financial contribution to run a family, all they want is a young, sexy, hot, energetic girl to take around to functions and have hot sex sections, nothing more, which are what Nigerian girls below 27yrs are only good for sadly
Ekomatrix1: I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.
she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.
Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?
Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness but no improvement .
what should i do?
This one na double red flag o.
selfie and entitled at the same time. this one is very strong o. My bro, if you decides to leave, best wishes. If you decides to stay and endure, best wishes too Lol.
Ekomatrix1: I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.
she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.
Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?
Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness but no improvement .
what should i do?
I can't believe this your story is true. Even if you are completely blind, handicapped by love you ought to have made a sensible decision without asking for help
Hmm , with the rate at which marriages are breaking up these days for some reasons out there, I'd advice you don't take this risk man, the signs are already there.
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Ekomatrix1: I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.
she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.
Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?
Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness but no improvement .
what should i do?
If she behaves like this before marriage, how will she behave after?
Ekomatrix1: I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.
she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.
Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?
Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness but no improvement .
what should i do?
You do know that there would surely be those times in life where you could be at a low and need your partner to hold things up for the family, bills, etc....sometimes for extended periods? Now ask yourself, can a woman like this support you at such times, or is she more likely to gossip away and drive you into depression? In the end it's your choice, but marriage isn't something you enter with a scarcity or 'one-ity' mentality, plus and minus well.
Ekomatrix1: I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.
she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.
Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?
Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness but no improvement .
Ekomatrix1: its a red flag definitely for most people they cut and run, but it manageable for others, so ask yourself can you manage it or not -sharaaaaaaah
You have a very sensible advice there. But He can’t fake losing his job cos he still has to go to work. How does he explain his unavailability during working hours? The best he can do is delay the marriage until she has a change of heart. Tell her you lost your life savings to some deal that went sour or to 419ers/kidnappers. Her behaviour afterwards would determine if she is wife material or not.
Losing his job excuse can be done when he takes Annual Leave or Casual Leave that will warrant he be away from work. Your idea of him giving excuse that he made a deal that went sour and he lost all his savings is quite Okay too. However, no need to go too far, that girl is not a wife material at all. She is a liability and her eyes don too open for money. Some of these girls that are managing life in their parents house will come and be making outrageous demands on a man. When a man who intends to marry a lady starts to sense he is under financial pressure from the lady, there is trouble ahead o. That kind marriage don't ever work because the man will be building up bitterness inside him ( Just as OP is beginning to feel even when he never marriage the lady).
ReneDaniels: She's gluttony in nature, let her know her faults. Believe it or not u have taken 4years of her life and it doesn't just come and goes. I propose u both have an 'ADULT' CONVERSATION, if she doesn't show any form of 'REMORSE' then end it. But if u notice changes follow ur heart.
Ekomatrix1: I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.
she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.
Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?
Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness but no improvement .
what should i do?
You know what to do but are you man enough to do it.
Unless you want to create a longer thread when you marry her.
You are in a relationship, a very parasitic one and no one needs a parasite as a life-partner except a masochist who loves to shed premium tears.
You see her as your potential wife but she sees you as her meal ticket and will milk you till your balls go dry. Sadly, your type will not stop despite all the signs because you need her validation as you can't help loving her even when loving you seems a chore to her.
I can bet on my scrotum that the same girl is using that data to have video sex with some other dude.
Now your question is if you should still marry her despite the red flags on the gate and bold writings on the wall. I think you should, so that other people can use you as a reference as to how dumb love is.
izzou: If everybody starts to type the cons of their partners, nobody go marry.
My point is: Can you carry this cross, or would you love her despite her selfishness?
If no, please end it and move on.
Some flaws can be managed but not this one as it can cause death. Someone that can't sacrifice money, will never sacrifice her blood nor even give you a treat on your birthday nor even send you shishi or lend a helping hand when you are stranded or in a dilemma.
Marriage without companionship is that one marriage?
Someone I know is suffering it from his wife and it's not funny.