Hathor5:


Percy0006
This is the answer of a specialist. Please talk to a psychologist.

Thank you Mindlog,

I hope Percy will take care of his mental health appropriately.

The earlier, the better and should not feel shame seeking professional help.

Before mood swing

There will surely be a mind reaction that makes your mood swing

Figure out that thing that always swing your mood whenever it comes to your mind

Percy0006:


I wouldn’t say this is what bring back the happiness most time i force myself to smile to people noticing it.. about that of life I’m not suffering and I’m not living large am just another average man

I think "underachieving might be your problem perhaps you aint where you confidently envisioned yourself to be by now buh these is life where 1+1 won't alway be 2.
Money might not really be the problem, however people who feel unaccomplished are prone to live in "self-hate" cos they are constantly angry with themselves for failing, hence the mood swing.
Bro you are the antidote to yourselves, there is nothing your wife can do because you have an internal bleeding, to resolve these you need to 1st appreciate what you have no matter how small, then you have to reset & restrategize your goals within your capacity i..e using realistic approach.
The bright side is as you move on, achieving those new goals will revive/resuscitate your inner source of happiness, as a man. when life give you lemonade make a lipton out of it, your wife fit get milk

Mindlog:


The earlier, the better and should not feel shame seeking professional help.

I hope he will not. A lot of suffering could be avoided if people treated their mental health in the same way they treat physical disease.

You are highly introverted. Has nothing to do with depression or bipolar. Not everything is sickness.
Lots of people are like that naturally. The greatest inventors, problem solvers of our time were like you. They don't even understand themselves.

Your greatest asset is your mind. Engage it properly and you will bubble with excitement
Also, getting married thinking it can help solve your mood swing is a very wrong reason for marrying. Tell your wife this and seek forgiveness else your marriage will hit the rock anytime soon.

Then explain your situation to your wife. That's why she is your partner.

Be yourself. If you don't want to go out, stay in your room and sleep or do anything you desire.

As long as wifey is carried along, the day you are moody, she will let you be. Or she might give you a fantastic Mouth Action you will forget your moodiness.
Moody people love wild sex.

Kriss216:



You got married to a Nigerian girl and you're expecting extraordinary happiness all of a sudden


You must be mistaken Nigerian girls for Angels. You worsen your condition by getting married to a Nigerian girl.

Which kind yeye be this

You probably have what they call cyclothymic disorder.
Mood swings upanddan.
Seek out a psychotherapist to help you cope, and perhaps if it's really affecting your everyday functioning- see a psychiatrist who may prescribe a mood stabiliser for you

Kondomatic:
Being shy has nothing to do with having an introverted personality. They're different.

You have to find out what makes you happy and do it whenever you have this mood swing.

You can also go for a walk or call someone just to talk. It helps.

Please don't shut your wife out when it

happens, she can help if you let her in.

Thank you so much sir I really do appreciate

Timmi:
May I suggest that you open up to your wife about your mood swings. That’s when she can help you cope by engaging you in discussion because most times having someone to talk with helps. Above all pray and read the Bible together with your wife. The Lord bless you. Nothing is wrong with you my friend.

I’ll surely do this sir. Thank you sir

larryjonze:




I think "underachieving might be your problem perhaps you aint where you confidently envisioned yourself to be by now buh these is life where 1+1 won't alway be 2.
Money might not really be the problem, however people who feel unaccomplished are prone to live in "self-hate" cos they are constantly angry with themselves for failing, hence the mood swing.
Bro you are the antidote to yourselves, there is nothing your wife can do because you have an internal bleeding, to resolve these you need to 1st appreciate what you have no matter how small, then you have to reset & restrategize your goals within your capacity i..e using realistic approach.
The bright side is as you move on, achieving those new goals will revive/resuscitate your inner source of happiness, as a man. when life give you lemonade make a lipton out of it, your wife fit get milk

Percy0006:

Thank you so much

Percy0006:
I will be glad if this post get to the front page, i really dont know if this is normal, i don’t know what depression is but this has been happening to me for so long now, i do have this mood swing which i am not comfortable with some minute I’ll be happy the other minute I wouldn’t know what will take this happiness away and when this hapens i feel like just letting everybody leave me or i rather find a quiet place to sit or just wanna be alone, i got married a month ago cause i feel whenever this happens if i see her i will be happy again but it aint working, i get tired of everything whenever it happens and if my wife notice and ask I wouldn’t be able to say this is what is happening i am really tired of this.. my wife is even thinking maybe she’s not making me happy but i swear she’s the best thing that ever happened to me, i am always scared whenever this happens please help me on what to do? Please i need help

stop gambling, you once wrote about playing betnaija and you were not paid. Gambling leads to depression

Percy0006:


I’ve done this but the doctor recommend i stay with loved ones most often

Stay positive always and do things that make you happy. Also study yourself, there must be something that triggers the mood. It is well.

effect of obi cubana.

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Kriss216:



You got married to a Nigerian girl and you're expecting extraordinary happiness all of a sudden


You must be mistaken Nigerian girls for Angels. You worsen your condition by getting married to a Nigerian girl.

Na wa o

fabulous85:
stop gambling, you once wrote about playing betnaija and you were not paid. Gambling leads to depression

Are you for real? How does gambling makes someone depressed? I am a responsible gambler anyways i only gamble with what i can afford to loose

OP, you need better AZ for a start then gradually migrate to loud then adventure with friends let me see how you will not be happy forever.

pocohantas:


Stop thinking of your account balance.

Poco I love you seriously. Let's talk

Percy0006:
I will be glad if this post get to the front page, i really dont know if this is normal, i don’t know what depression is but this has been happening to me for so long now, i do have this mood swing which i am not comfortable with some minute I’ll be happy the other minute I wouldn’t know what will take this happiness away and when this hapens i feel like just letting everybody leave me or i rather find a quiet place to sit or just wanna be alone, i got married a month ago cause i feel whenever this happens if i see her i will be happy again but it aint working, i get tired of everything whenever it happens and if my wife notice and ask I wouldn’t be able to say this is what is happening i am really tired of this.. my wife is even thinking maybe she’s not making me happy but i swear she’s the best thing that ever happened to me, i am always scared whenever this happens please help me on what to do? Please i need help

Hey op, I’m just like you. Started when I was a teen and it would last weeks. Now as an adult, it lasts at most half a day. I can get triggered by someone else’s mood and then I’d feel quite blue till hours later or the next day. Especially if someone I care about is sad, angry, having a bad day and I feel helpless or responsible. The worst part is not the mood for me. It’s the thoughts that I keep ruminating on. Frankly I think it’s connected to ocd. Often people think it’s about being clean when it’s more about anxiety and intrusive thoughts (Google pure ‘o’). What has helped me is reading Stanley Rosenberg book “accessing the healing power of the vagus nerve". The exercises are basic and are designed to get you to engage the sensory nerves and let your brain know that it’s ok, it moves you from flight, freeze or fight state to a more engaged relaxed state. Sometimes your mood swings are caused by emotions or trauma stored in the body. It’s not just when your life is physically threatened that you get traumatized. Sometimes chronic stress, repressed emotions etc get stored and eventually affect the body. There’s a whole branch of medicine that deals with how our mind and its state affect our physical health eg psychoneuroimmunoendocrinology, etc. if you are not like me and do not enjoy reading medical books for fun ( it does get technical in the book above), Google Rosenberg basic exercise (takes two minutes max and relaxes me), the polyvagal theory, vagus nerve exercise and even somatic meditation. Check all these on YouTube instead for visual learning and excellent demonstration. Somatic meditation can be done for less than fifteen minutes and just helps shift your awareness from your ruminating thoughts to the sensation in your body. Honestly there’s a lot of tools out there. Mind you, the goal is not to eliminate it but to be able to manage it. To feel it, process it and let go without attaching to the mood swings. Now it lasts below three hours for me and doesn’t come For a month or more. In time I expect it will be gone completely. You may not know why but your body does, let it pass through. From experience when I let myself get talked into feeling shame and guilt and then suppress the moods, lol , the day I don’t have the strength to suppress it is the day the Tiger awakens. The mood then lasts for days! I learnt the hard way when I suddenly bursted into tears at work at no provocation in 2019. lol. All the best to you as you learn how to work through your emotions. I can recommend a few more books if you’d like like Dr Gabor Mate “ when the body says no” which is riveting.

DoingBetter:


Hey op, I’m just like you. Started when I was a teen and it would last weeks. Now as an adult, it lasts at most half a day. I can get triggered by someone else’s mood and then I’d feel quite blue till hours later or the next day. Especially if someone I care about is sad, angry, having a bad day and I feel helpless or responsible. The worst part is not the mood for me. It’s the thoughts that I keep ruminating on. Frankly I think it’s connected to ocd. Often people think it’s about being clean when it’s more about anxiety and intrusive thoughts (Google pure ‘o’). What has helped me is reading Stanley Rosenberg book “accessing the healing power of the vagus nerve". The exercises are basic and are designed to get you to engage the sensory nerves and let your brain know that it’s ok, it moves you from flight, freeze or fight state to a more engaged relaxed state. Sometimes your mood swings are caused by emotions or trauma stored in the body. It’s not just when your life is physically threatened that you get traumatized. Sometimes chronic stress, repressed emotions etc get stored and eventually affect the body. There’s a whole branch of medicine that deals with how our mind and its state affect our physical health eg psychoneuroimmunoendocrinology, etc. if you are not like me and do not enjoy reading medical books for fun ( it does get technical in the book above), Google Rosenberg basic exercise (takes two minutes max and relaxes me), the polyvagal theory, vagus nerve exercise and even somatic meditation. Check all these on YouTube instead for visual learning and excellent demonstration. Somatic meditation can be done for less than fifteen minutes and just helps shift your awareness from your ruminating thoughts to the sensation in your body. Honestly there’s a lot of tools out there. Mind you, the goal is not to eliminate it but to be able to manage it. To feel it, process it and let go without attaching to the mood swings. Now it lasts below three hours for me and doesn’t come For a month or more. In time I expect it will be gone completely. You may not know why but your body does, let it pass through. From experience when I let myself get talked into feeling shame and guilt and then suppress the moods, lol , the day I don’t have the strength to suppress it is the day the Tiger awakens. The mood then lasts for days! I learnt the hard way when I suddenly bursted into tears at work at no provocation in 2019. lol. All the best to you as you learn how to work through your emotions. I can recommend a few more books if you’d like like Dr Gabor Mate “ when the body says no” which is riveting.

You’re hitting my point sir, i feel guilty of something I’m not aware of and always want to be there for everyone.. you got my point sir.. i will look through the books as you said.. thanks a lot

Oyindidi:
Na wa o

Ignore the kid

pocohantas:


- He rented an apartment two months ago.

- He married a month ago.

Some wicked guests at his wedding must have sprayed him N20 after all the money spent.

That is enough to cause mood turbulence sef.

Poco ehn

What you need is cleansing and deliverance I also happen to me years back until