In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

Peace be upon you and your new family. With time you and your baby mama to be will be fine.

Just treat eachother kindly and with trust.

Lest I forget, SMA baby food is now 14k Naira plus.

Divorce!

CoronaVirusPro:
Divorce!

Una nor dey read ní...see you as you mumu yourself

CoronaVirusPro:
Divorce!

We are not legally married

Co-parenting together

Please ignore those saying you should divorce

You can never please human beings. You both know best what you m comfortable doing

ademola2017:


We are not legally married

He didn't read the post, just rushing to book space, unreasonably

ademola2017:


We are not legally married

You don’t need to be legally married to divorce.

In other terms, break the union.

silvoclaira:


Una nor dey read ní...see you as you mumu yourself

silvoclaira:


He didn't read the post, just rushing to book space, unreasonably

You both have a problem with English language.

na una sabi.... I dedicate Wedlock of the gods to them.. Great play...

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

Start loving each other except you're both cool with she been a baby mama and nothing more.

silvoclaira:


Una nor dey read ní...see you as you mumu yourself

That boy is suffering from emotional trauma from Hamas leveling. He's seeing IDF chasing him in dreams. Don't blame him, been looking for him for deliverance. I m the only one that can epp him on this site & he's running away from treatment!
CoronaVirusPro, how are you? Come and take bread and some nukes. 🍞
Na special food for mad people like you. Cane wey dey my hand na pencil. I wan use am teach you ABC!

ademola2017:


It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

You wey nor sabi how to calculate ovulation, hope you don save for DNA?
As I dey look you, you look sIMPish a little!
What if the girls dey carry you handicap?
Anyways for peace to reign, show her small love & be prepared to be sure it's your child after birth. Life is all about being prepared for dramas.
After delivery show the girl more love, she ll reciprocate. After then, formalize things & marry legally & traditionally.

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

It's better you define your relationship before settling down with another woman based on what you have been through and this time, the child involved. It's only love that encourages and strengthens a union in the face of Challenges and not respect. Otherwise, collect your pikin and face your front.

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

You guys like each other already just that you are not obsessed with each other.

Know that with respect to opposite sex, you only respect who you like and in the long, mutual respect and regards from one another is the winning code.

So, give it time, you guys will get better in treating yourselves right. Just make sure you guys are ready to be there for one another for the long term.

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

So do you plan to have an open marriage or something?

I don't understand being stuck to someone you don't love for an extended period. What happens when you grow old? How do you want your family to evolve?

Will you enjoy an ideal family setting when your children see their parents relate as mere acquaintances?
Fwiw, you should know that you'd need someone close to rely on in your old age. Someone you know, love and have come to trust.

CoronaVirusPro:


You don’t need to be legally married to divorce.

In other terms, break the union.

Trying to spin it with another off point....which union are they to break, they are just cohabiting and no expectations from each other.

Tuehh



Aru!!!!!!




Having a child with a woman you are and were not married to



Anyways detty yellow bars will support this

Mr observer, abi calculator! Do a DNA test as soon as you are able; to save you from stories that touch the heart. God has nothing to do with your fornication so forget about all that stuff.

Padipadi:

That boy is suffering from emotional trauma from Hamas leveling. He's seeing IDF chasing him in dreams. Don't blame him, been looking for him for deliverance. I m the only one that can epp him on this site & he's running away for treatment!
CoronaVirusPro, how are you? Come and take bread. Cane no dey my hand! 🍞

U no well!

I am imagining those "enforcers" in "traditional psychiatric healing centres" who are always with cane!

Padipadi:

That boy is suffering from emotional trauma from Hamas leveling. He's seeing IDF chasing him in dreams. Don't blame him, been looking for him for deliverance. I m the only one that can epp him on this site & he's running away for treatment!
CoronaVirusPro, how are you? Come and take bread. Cane no dey my hand! 🍞

Why are you addicted to highly esteemed personality?

Seems you fvcked!

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

there are two ways to it, it's either love start to creep in gradually or everything kuku kolaps after childbirth as woman usually have this post something something wahala..but I pray for the former...


Now to the issue of baby and pregnancy..
See alaye don't be a fuul ooh, a no talk say one session no fit become pregnancy ooh but DO DNA TEST OOHH..DO DNA OOH, DO DNA OOH. If u no get money borrow from lapo.

If u like carry kakulator dey kakulate ovulation period for woman like store keeper, a no want wetin happen to u for 2017 happen again ooh

I'm more concerned about the lady in question who is pregnant and already living with you. Does it mean she's got no plans for her life and wants to end up as a baby mama? What about her family and what's their take on this?

As for you, I think you are still bruised and needs healing. If the said lady is going to be just a baby mama, then why did you allow her move in with you? I think it's better to define your relationship early so she can know her place.

As for the mutual respect you think you have for each other- This is more like a lack of connection between both of you and not respect per say. It is how two strangers living together feel toward each other.

Unfortunately, this isn't a healthy relationship for someone who is carrying your baby and already living with you.

Padipadi:

You wey nor sabi how to calculate ovulation, hope you don save for DNA?

See:
https://www.nairaland.com/7923645/president-tinubu-seriously-working-achieve

.

Getting issues more complicated.
I hope this issue will be in the good side and no wrong thing will happen from it.

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

You are not normal

Yahoo yahoo family … no matters again

This is what I keep preaching to this blind men on nairaland men and they think I hate women, on the contrary I love women than the average bloke I just let them know my lifestyle , you either accept it or not but we move regardless.