zexy2030:

In my study about relationships for years now realized these are relationships that lasts for life time bonding: Pls don't copy my i-property, it's years of studying life and relationship

1. Same tribe and language: in the days of our parents, we realized inter tribal marriages were not common and if it existed it would have been full of chaos from siblings and that relationships makes one of the couple suffer so much rejections. Making the marriage of inter tribal so full of conflicts that only separation could resolve especially after the demise of the husband or wife.

2. Referral: as funny as it sounds from very very close persons; siblings, bossom friends or parents. But sometimes you need to understand the person you are referred to in person, otherwise saying yes, could be catastrophic and leading to untimely breakup.

You need to ensure two of you have common similarities like beliefs, ideas, lifestyles and school of thoughts. Otherwise one of the partner would only accept the other based on sympathy which is dangerous for a relationship that would work. But if there is something exciting about you two in that relationship and there are compliments, that marriage would be bliss. Find a balance of interest after being referred.

3. Goal/vision similarities: if you say yes to man or woman you find in the field of your ambition, after sometime you realize you share same ambition, that's a perfect union for you. That kind of marriage worked and still works. There are so many examples in the society today. You could be a teacher and your wife/hubby to be has desired owning a school, if you two marry that ambition will make the marriage more exciting and full of love. The union will be blissful. Others are clergy, ensure your partner latently have same interest from childhood. Find out while discussing. Otherwise he/she will drive you backward while chasing your dreams.

Most marriages don't work because they are visionless that marriage becomes boring and loses tastes soonest after having kids.


4. Family background: checkout her family background: raised by single parent? Ask what happened. Parents old and still living together? Parents living apart ? Siblings are girls only? Siblings are all male? Find out all these have after math effect on your relationship after a while but true love can overlook theses details but ensure you love what you see in his/her background before agreeing to tie knot.


5. Level of knowledge: it is advisable for a man to chase a woman who looks up to him. While a woman should settle down with a man she can boost of among her friends, but she should be shrewd otherwise her friends become jealous.


6. Marry someone with few words but transparent and does not get easily provoked either as a lady or as a man. People of few words have some perfections in built in them. But accept their proposal after seeing and observing their life for like 2 months plus.

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MrBrownJay1:
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zexy2030:
Hello just look n pass, not compulsory u comment ogbeni

MrBrownJay1:


you wrote so much garbage, how could i?!

1) it doesnt matter what tribe you are or even what language you speak... it has all to do with UNDERSTANDING. so long as you dont try to force your spouse to change into what they are not and/or what they havent been all through your dating period. keep family out of your biz and you will be fine.

2) whether you meet someone in the street or get referred by someone, you ALWAYS need to make sure that this person is right for you. who in this day and age would marry a total stranger (unless for clout/likes and trending)?

3) so long as your union has UNDERSTANDING, then it doesnt matter what you do and what your plans are in life. if you guys are happy/compatible while you are hardworking and she is a lazy person then so be.

4) a person's family background has absolutely no value upon the success of marriage...again its all down to UNDERSTANDING/COMMUNICATION

5) and 6) complete utter pile of garbage