I have been reading Post on nairaland since 2010, but decided to open an account this year.

To my story. I asked a lady out for a relationship. Although,we were friends before I caught feelings. Everything was mutual, but since I started wooing her I noticed that I was the only one doing everything. She said she can't date me because she is not ready and she is incapable of loving right now. She really want the friendship to continue.

I was not benefitting anything from the friendship. I do the calls, I help her with her assignments, I listened to her boring stories, I was always there for her to lean on when she is down. Then one day after she visited me, I told her that the friendship is not healthy for my emotional health. I discovered myself, I deserve better, I should never settle for less, I should know my worth. I told her that if I ever become a second option in her life then she shouldn't choose me.

She was hurt by my decision, she told me she is embarrassed and disappointed in me. But despite my simpism, I thank God that I came out healthier. It was my love that made her extraordinary in my eyes, now she is very ordinary. When you love a person, you exaggerate the person, you are excited over their flaws. When you let go and you get healed you will realize that you deserve better.

"Opp. Chop knocle"

Thank God your eyes were opened on time. You would have been wallowing in stupidity called love. Congrats bruh

Congratulations bruh...

u should be singing dt Amazing grace song..."Amazing grace how sweet thou art...I was once LOST but now I'm FOUND..."

Ororo dey ur Head

You said you were not benefiting anything from the friendship, can you elaborate?

What were your expectations?

Gals have different dude or male friends in their life

1 ) lover
2) male friend
3) gossip friend
4) bestie
5) fwb (friends with benefits


You fell into that male friendship

Deicide:
You said you were not benefiting anything from the friendship, can you elaborate?

What were your expectations?

As friends, I expected her to call me as much as I call her. Anything she calls me she must be looking for a favour. I practically call her everyday, and it's been a week today that I stopped calling her, yet she didn't care to call me to know what is wrong. She is just expecting me to call and explain why I have not been calling. True friendship should be mutual, not one sided.

Hezzyluv:
"Opp. Chop knocle"

LoL, thanks to nairaland for exposing to some things. In fact, I am dedicating my school project to nairaland.

Demigod22:


LoL, thanks to nairaland for exposing to some things. In fact, I am dedicating my school project to nairaland.

Just dey thank your stars

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The OP was blind but could now see clearly! Hallelujah somebarry!!

That doesn't mean he can't be blind in love again though.

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Mr. Nice Guy

Welcome back to the real world boy. You need this joint to keep your mind coordinated.
Now go and Simp no more

Good decision, people should never be with people who only take. It works both ways, men and women.
Personally, I feel there is no much benefit in having friends of the opposite sex. It's usually one sided and the man is usually worse for it.

Reminded me my first girl back in sec school days, I virtually did everything for her till I got to know that she was using me and as wicked as I have always been, I got the redpill broke up with her, used a different approach to retoast her again after a year, all I do is make a call we meet up and we fkk. Then I disappear, once in awhile I send her love text, next time we meet she will be hearing another excuse then we fkk again.

Life must go on.

Demigod22:


As friends, I expected her to call me as much as I call her. Anything she calls me she must be looking for a favour. I practically call her everyday, and it's been a week today that I stopped calling her, yet she didn't care to call me to know what is wrong. She is just expecting me to call and explain why I have not been calling. True friendship should be mutual, not one sided.

my guy... You are not over her yet hahaha