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|Let's Discuss Body Count by dacblogger: 3:13pm On Aug 14|
How will you feel when a guy tells you he slept with over a 100 girls nd he is just 37
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by MufasaLion(m): 3:23pm On Aug 14|
Some have higher body counts than that, and even those that have high body counts doesn't divulge such information to anybidy especially their partner or spouse.
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by dacblogger: 3:50pm On Aug 14|
MufasaLion:Carrying alot of demons all in the name of living life...
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by MufasaLion(m): 3:52pm On Aug 14|
That's their decision to make and I don't subscribe to these demons conspiracy theory.
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|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by dacblogger: 3:53pm On Aug 14|
MufasaLion:You should cos it's real.
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by MufasaLion(m): 3:54pm On Aug 14|
Explain. Convince me.
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by dacblogger: 4:04pm On Aug 14|
There is more to sexual intercourse that the physical eyes can see
Some people carry alot of spirits and when you engage in sexual intercourse and Fluids are been exchanged,that is exactly how spirits can be exchanged.
You might sleep with a girl who is possessed or Bewitched and you start experiencing bad luck and all sorts of bad things
Some people carry bad luck dey walk up and down normally .
This is just a brief explanation, can't go into details right now
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by MufasaLion(m): 4:09pm On Aug 14|
I knew you'd say this, but however, irrespective of how many sexual partners you've had or still have, what will be will be.
We don't even commit sexual sin the way they do in the Western countries and they are still flourishing. An average citizen there is doing just fine!
Your analysis is not based on fact.
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|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by ifyken: 4:20pm On Aug 14|
MufasaLion:Most religious people don't use their brain. There is no god,satan, heaven or hell(nigeria is a close alternative to hell). You are on your own
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|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by MufasaLion(m): 4:21pm On Aug 14|
Can you also prove that too?
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by ifyken: 4:31pm On Aug 14|
MufasaLion:If it is about there not being a god read mjbolt (a nairalander) topic called 'religion is ridiculous'.
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by MufasaLion(m): 4:34pm On Aug 14|
Why can't you say something on what you believe In?
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by ifyken: 4:40pm On Aug 14|
MufasaLion:I will tell you what I believe. I believe that life is unfair, I believe life is cruel,I believe life is pain,I believe life is suffering,I believe life is merely an obstacle to eternal peace in everything just fading to black after death.
I believe if I had a choice I would not choose being born,I believe that religion is a comfortable opium I am not going to take. Anyhow life goes,we move
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|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by MufasaLion(m): 4:42pm On Aug 14|
You're not confused, you've chosen your path.
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by ifyken: 4:48pm On Aug 14|
MufasaLion:So what do you believe in
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by Petyprincess(f): 4:58pm On Aug 14|
I will break up with him, I can't marry community preek.
Men should learn to be with one woman, having countless body counts as a man should not be encouraged.
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|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by dacblogger: 5:09pm On Aug 14|
Petyprincess:What if you found out after getting married?
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by VlamesIffect(f): 5:13pm On Aug 14|
Carry your secrets to the grave bro
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by cooooooks(m): 5:21pm On Aug 14|
Do you want a husband that will be able to "show you the way" in the bedroom from day one?
Do you subscribe to the notion that one can't "make a wife out of a hoe"?
What happens to the tens of millions of Nigerian women who have 'dabbled' in runs?
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by Magnoliaa(f): 10:24pm On Aug 14|
Okurrr. Lemme attempt this. Interesting questions.
Sexual promiscuity ≠ sexual knowledge and experience? So, I can marry any kind of guy on the sexual scale, BUT if being sexually active makes him prone to cheating and such, then no, I won't like that kind of person for a husband, no matter how much he knows sexually. And yes, same applies to a woman too. Women are sexual beings as much as men are and should not be judged for it, but if a guy feels a particular woman is prone to being sexually unfaithful, he's free to not mingle with her.
Your number 2. Bear in mind that that phrase is borne out of a sexist mindframe and judgement as usual. Such that even if a woman has slept with only one or two guys, she's tagged a hoe. It's not that the woman is promiscuous like that, no. It's simply used to judge and shame women into 'virtuousness' even in cases where it's not true (that they're 'sleeping around'). I believe when men call a woman a h*e, she's simply just being sexual as they are, so I don't believe she can't be wifed. She can like sex and still make a great partner/mother, they are not mutually exclusive.
So I'm guessing your second point ties to the first, and what you're implying is if I believe a woman can be a good wife despite her body counts, then a man can be a good husband in spite of his body counts. They can both be great partners despite their body counts. Yes. Men ordinarily do not face any obstacle concerning that. They can marry even with 200 body counts. So a woman should be able to do so too. And yes, a h*e (an average woman that likes sex) can make a great partner as much as a man who's sexually active and healthy. In these cases, it's not promiscuity.
But in actual cases where both a man and a woman are "community properties", with countless body counts and a reckless sexual life, they both cannot make "faithful and good" husbands and wives.
If a woman that sleeps around cannot be wifed, then a man that does so too cannot be 'husbanded.' (This is what Princess' point is I think).
But average, everyday women who are simply enjoying sex can get married - the same way men have been doing without hitches. You don't have to have countless partners to learn, do you? A woman with experience can teach and guide her husband as well, letting him know what she likes and doesn't.
And for number 3, realistically, some of those women will get married. The same way some fuc-kboys and co. will too. Some people will end up with them. We cannot control that. So I guess they'll be whatever kind of partner they'll be to their SOs. Whether the good or bad or abusive or less than ideal.
Being in a patriarchal society, I will not be an hypocrite if I advocate for men's faithfulness and against community preeks and I don't do same for women. Why? To speak against a woman having sex and for her closing her legs is the norm. The preaching is already being done to women, it's the norm for them. Women have already been preached to and groomed and shamed. To ignore a woman breaking out of those conditions and to face a man who's naturally been permitted and shaming him into celibacy and keeping his zips locked will not be a biased thing to do. (In that context).
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|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by Magnoliaa(f): 10:42pm On Aug 14|
"May I have a crumb of context, please?"
This is way too open-ended for me. I don't/did not feel any way when I read the question and won't feel anyway if I was told that.
This is just a sexual fact and there's no more link/information to his present self. Who I am dealing with in the present? Who is his person? (Before someone comes to accuse me of not reading between lines ), if I have no romantic interest in them, nothing about how I relate with them changes. Absolutely nothing. But if I am interested in dating them, it'll depend on whether they're still in active service. Or it's simply just a bygone era and they are rebranded and are telling me in openness. There are so many possibilities here, it's hard to latch onto one. If I don't know any of this, I don't know how I'll feel.
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by Demigod22: 10:51pm On Aug 14|
You are well inform bro. Religious enthusiasts are dangerous and they can read meaning to what doesn't have meaning, always believing that there's an enemy after their life.
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by Demigod22: 10:56pm On Aug 14|
Beautiful opinion. The Absurdity of life give people three options, either to commit suicide, accept the meaninglessness and illogicality life, leap of faith, by leap of faith the people take solace in religion, consoling theirselves with life after death. That too, is a philosophical suicide.
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by Demigod22: 11:01pm On Aug 14|
I abhors sexual promiscuity, but deep down inside of me, I always fantasize having sex with scores of girls before getting married. It is a fantasy that triggers nostalgia feelings in me.
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by cooooooks(m): 11:42pm On Aug 14|
Sexual promiscuity is literally experiencing more partners: more experience. I don't think promiscuity is necessary for a fulfilled sexual life. As long as there is respect, honesty and willingness, a healthy sex life is possible. It is for this reason that I also pay zero mind to virginity.
The post was specifically about a guy with a very high body count. Petyprincess specifically referred to him as a community prick and expressed her lack of desire for such a communal object.
You did give the opinion that such people ("community property" ) are not good 'spouse material', regardless of gender. That was my question, so thanks for answering.
I won't respond to the straw men: redefinition of 'hoe', equating liking sex to 'hoeing', etc; as that would be fruitless.
Also, there is quite a bit of generalization as to what 'men' do which I obviously do not subscribe to.
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by Magnoliaa(f): 12:02am On Aug 15|
You can know and learn and experience more sexually with one or two partners as you can learn with numerous partners. Does the former qualify as promiscuity? And then I mentioned knowledge. A virgin can know a lot about sex. These have nothing to do with sexual promiscuity. Did you not ask your first question, to imply that, more on the husband's part equates to showing the wife the way? Because Pety was talking about a community prick. Is being a community prick knowing more to lead the wife? Do you have to be a community prick to do that??
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by Magnoliaa(f): 12:09am On Aug 15|
And I'm not redefining anything. We all know how men shame women for even the slightest show of interest in sex. To them, a hoe is a woman that have sex, loves it, whether in moderation or not. Even women they've not slept with are hoes. They only need to judge you from afar. It is the guys that do that? I'm not the one doing the equation?
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by cooooooks(m): 12:11am On Aug 15|
Exactly! You do not need many partners to have knowledge of or like sex. You can have 1 partner or even 5 and have relations over 500 times in say 3 years.
This is why your redefinition of hoe to be "a woman who likes sex" does not carry water. I understand 'hoe' to be the colloquial name for promiscuous woman. By definition, promiscuous is: "having or characterized by many transient sexual relationships ."
Also, you are restating my point on virginity, there does not seem to be a disagreement there.
Now, the first question is not a personal belief but a caricature of an opinion often expressed.
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by cooooooks(m): 12:12am On Aug 15|
"We" don't "all know".
Generalizations are unnecessary. Hoe (the colloquial term) has a meaning. Promiscuous has a definition, etc. Using these words to mean something they are not is not necessary.
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by bepositive11: 12:18am On Aug 15|
Sex is meaningless for men like that
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by Magnoliaa(f): 1:09am On Aug 15|
Lol. Yes, we do. You can exclude yourself. That's fine. And maybe it's because of your perspective (valid), but it doesn't negate what I am saying about men (you can read this as being 100% as well) attaching the word 'hoe' to just about any woman that fits into the categories of women I described above. There's a social aspect to us, and any social observer can confirm some of these social 'truths.' So the 'can't make a wife out of a hoe' phrase proceeded from that biased belief. Words have social connotations as well.
Jeez. You're misunderstanding me. I'm not calling a woman who likes sex a hoe! I said it's what guys call such a woman. Because they believe a woman must not like sex, or whatever. She likes sex, but she isn't promiscuous. Guys tag her a hoe, hence she can't be wifed. Yesss, 'hoe' is the term for being promiscuous, but it's used indiscriminately now on just about any woman it's hard to differentiate. So if you're calling an otherwise great, cool, etc., girl that loves sex a hoe, that "hoe" can be married and be an awesome partner to her husband.
|Re: Let's Discuss Body Count by cooooooks(m): 1:26am On Aug 15|
I don't take generalizations as common knowledge; whether about men or women or race or etc. I, a social observer, is not confirming these " truths ". So there.
You: "To them, a hoe is a woman that have sex, loves it , whether in moderation or not."
I'm also curious as to where you're finding these 100% of men who think women are not supposed to like sex. That's not even consistent with calling a woman a hoe.
If hoe means promiscuous, then argue along those lines. These straw men (whether by you or these magical 100% of men) add nothing to the conversation. I think.
Also, I don't even think I said (as my opinion) that a hoe can't make a wife, even though I have heard of research along those lines. Why? Because even women or men that are not hoes can make terrible spouses; people may just not be compatible; people may have married for the 'wrong reasons', etc. There are so many nodes where things could go wrong, and I don't think the research has (or can) account for all these nodes.
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