PLEASE MY PEOPLe ,my hubby has been seeing his ex-friend and they have been meeting for drinks ,this woman is divorced and still want to have contact with my man which he is encouraging by seeing her,she sometimes call his phone and they talked, even in my presence, he takes it that i understands and have no problem with that, he said there is nothing going on between them that she is an old hag and blabla, ,just today he told me he wants to visit her with our child which i allowed with out all my mind,am i wrong or is it okay ,i just hand all to God and ur opinions pls -------

I don't know whether to say it was good or bad. I mean, you could use the child as an informant? Maybe. . ?

Personally, I wouldn't have. I don't see what business his ex has with your child. If she wants to see your kid, then she can at least have the decency to be polite and come to your house.

huh? your husband is seeing his ex?

and he is going with your child? huh?


huh?


see if i was in your position my husband can't ,i repeat can't be seeing his ex for anything

not even be taking her phone calls right in front of me

not to talk of taking my child to see her

tufiakwa!

why is ur husband seeing ur ex? do they have some new kind friendship or somethin?
and to top it off he is takin ur child with him?

im so confused, has this ex of his got another child that ur child could play with?

imo,
i dont think its wrong for ur husband to be friends with his ex, but u got to ask some questions about her intentions. Why is she making an effort to contact him now?
However, i do think it is wrong to drag ur child into it.

i think going with the kid is just the man's silent way of saying 'I know who i'm with now, and even if for 1 stupid moment I forget, my little angel is all the reminding I need' I see it as a kind on insurance policy to make sure the ex doesn't try anything stupid and to show her that there is no vacancy.

I see no problems in the situation. If na naija, I for say, be careful the woman doesn't poison your kid, but i doubt if that will happen,

debosky:

i think going with the kid is just the man's silent way of saying 'I know who i'm with now, and even if for 1 stupid moment I forget, my little angel is all the reminding I need' I see it as a kind on insurance policy to make sure the ex doesn't try anything stupid and to show her that there is no vacancy.

I see no problems in the situation. If na naija, I for say, be careful the woman doesn't poison your kid, but i doubt if that will happen,

Hmmm. . .I actually have a different opinion to why he brought the child. He might have brought the kid just so the wife doesn't get suspicious. I mean. . .what could he possibly be doing with another woman if the child is with him. . .

I don't want to sound harsh oh but what type of woman allow her husband to go out and see his ex . Anyway why are you bringing your child into this mess, abeg let your husband go by himself to see the woman jare .

Your husband is smart oh using the child as a cover up so you wont think his sleeping with her , Men are smart sha, see the way his cheating on you with another woman right in your face, next thing he will be moving in with her.

I don't think a responsible woman that cherishes her loving family will allow one stupid husband to go out and see his ex.

So what kind of advice do you want oh

smells fishy, be very careful. i don't think she's got good intentions. c'mon talk to your hubby tell him how you feel. why hide your feeling within yourself and suffer?

Trust him,believe him,he shit on u Love him.

D problem is not why he is going vivisting wit ur child, d problem is why is he going visiting atall.

you have all spoken well my people ,is not that am keeping silent on this but he always sees it as am being jealous ,but it is not only being jealous but am scared cause i am alone here with him and the little kids of 2years and 3months old,the lady in question has a grandchild of 2years,lets say she is a grandma but she won#t let my man be. i called her oneday to warn her to keep away from my man and she called my man and informed him of my call,he came back asking me i denied it and i saw how disorganised he was and i later gave in,all he said was i want to hinder him from getting something from this woman, and the woman is already shaking in fear that i might come to her shop for fight and blablabla, ,i find it difficult trusting him again cos he has lied to me on several occassion,even b4 i got married to him i vowed never to lie to him i told him everything about myself cos he was my first and onlyman,but he is making me doubt the love,and am not really happy about it .he always say "you are a woman ,it is gud 4 a man to be exposed than a woman" .so what do i do next my people??

pls where is cut-ass and dablessed what can u say to this?

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Your boy husband trying to let the woman bond with your child is an indication that he is likely to get back with his ex

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It is absolutely NOT alright ! I take it that he recently started seeing her which in my opinion is fishy. If they'd remain friends, that would have been a different story ! My boyfriend and I sometimes (rarely) see his ex girlfriend because he remained close to her family. I love her family and she's a sweet girl but they don't 'hang out'. Who does that? I feel that you should talk to him about this and put boundries IF it bothers you. If it doesn't bother you, fine then ! Go see her with him or whatever. But I fail to see how this can't be bothering.

677ano:

Your boy husband trying to let the woman bond with your child is an indication that he is likely to get back with his ex

Seconded u may be on ur way out without u realizing it. The ex might just be bonding with her future step son or daughter. If u dont put a stop to thise wisely(not by fighting) u might be in for the shock of ur life.

how old is ur child and ope dey came back.