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Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by mariahAngel(f): 10:15am On Aug 24, 2021 |
Dailyparrot: What you and your other siblings should do is arrange for a family meeting and summon him, then you all should give him a strong warning (a very strong warning) to either sit up and mend his ways or you all will turn your backs on him(in terms of assistance and all). Even if he tries to pretend to be unaffected, that ought to get him shaken up. |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by Uyi168: 10:17am On Aug 24, 2021 |
.. No matter how you try to force it,some persons will nver be ready for life.. What were you people even thinking forcing that marriage on him?? Now the poor wife and kids will continue to suffer.. I feel bad for them. Your elder brother will continue to misbehave. I doubt if he will ever change. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by Uyi168: 10:20am On Aug 24, 2021 |
Redpillar:. Very true. Many ladies also fall into that category. 3 Likes |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by bukatyne(f): 10:27am On Aug 24, 2021 |
Redpillar: @bold: Hahahahahaha! Maybe I am very old school BUT I believe there is time for everything. I wonder what a young girl was doing with an advanced bachelor who has no future ambition. @OP: There are some things called 'blessing in disguise'. Let your brother send his wife and kids away while you establish them (since you already want to). He is committing adultery without remorse, has no sense of responsibility towards his children, physically abusive and sleeping with a widow accused of killing her husband. He clearly has no redeeming qualities so I am wondering the attraction to your sister-in-law. Before the husband's family decides that your brother was the reason she 'killed' their son and come for him. Your sister would not be spared their shenanigans. The one she has done with your brother is enough. 1 Like |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by mrsteel: 11:00am On Aug 24, 2021 |
LilMissFavvy:Why are u emphasizing on op taking the car from his brother? Do u want their family to produce another criminal? Don't u know a lot of evil can come out of an idle hand? @ Dailyparrot Please if the car is something you can leave for your brother, please leave it for him, he is your blood! Believe me u won't be happy tomorrow if he is paraded for armed robbery or kidnapping, your conscience will prick u because he is your blood. If u make him idle, u will be adding another financial burden to yourself, don't ever think u can abandon him. Every family got a black sheep. Including those telling u to take back that car, the black sheep in their family may even be doing worse than your brother. Though your bro is irresponsible, u people compelled him into marriage, that was bad & the result is what we are seeing now! Marriage should be a thing of self decision. 1 Like |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by nuelyoyo(m): 11:11am On Aug 24, 2021 |
@dailyparrot Allow your brother's wife to separate from him, this is to ensure her safety. Retrieve the Sienna from your brother, sell it, use the proceed to set your brother's wife up in any business she can start. 1 Like |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by moriss33(m): 11:11am On Aug 24, 2021 |
Well your story is a sad one...but not unusual I would advise you to 1, retrieve the car & sell it 2, use whatever profit to rent an apartment for your nephew's, nieces & dia mum. 3, then use the rest to set up a business for her. That way they won't be a burden to you and ur bro can go do whatever he wants with his life |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by dahmie2013: 12:25pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
anthonyuncle:OP, this is the advice you need. |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by mastermaestro(m): 12:32pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
mrsteel: It seems you are the only one applying discretion here. I wonder why many responders are asking him to take back the car. What a regrettable and potentially disastrous move that will be! Let him have the car for good. See it as your last contribution to help fix his broken life. With that he won't dare bother you again. As for his wife, start something for her. Very importantly also, start looking for another apartment solely for her and the kids pending when the rent of their current apartment expires. Such is life. Hold on to GOD, and fight on. 1 Like |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by ImaIma1(f): 12:45pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Since the reason you got the car was because of the wife and kids, retrieve the car from your brother. You can either sell it and give her the money to set herself up or give the car to someone else who will be remitting to you. Then you give her a portion of it monthly as it comes. But just get the car from him and let him handle himself. You guys should wash your hands off him and let him go out there like a man and hustle. You guys have babied him too much for too long. You guys have spoilt him enough and are to blame for a lot of his actions. |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by Omotakins(m): 12:49pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Dailyparrot:How can a man be so irresponsible like this? He and irresponsibility are 5 and 6. I don't even know what to tell you. It makes me want to puke! You may have to empower the wife as you intend regardless of whether he carries out the threat or not. |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by mariahAngel(f): 12:51pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
mastermaestro: Who takes up the responsibility of paying for the new apartment? Op abi? Op should leave the car for his brother! Op should start up a business for his brother’s wife! Op should rent an apartment for his brother’s wife and his children! Does the op not have his own life to live? Should he kill himself because of an irresponsible sibling? Who cares to know whether the op is married or not... 5 Likes |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by mastermaestro(m): 1:42pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
mariahAngel: Leave all this your bravado aside. You think blowing hot air solves family problems. The mess on ground was created by the same family. He should not have been pressured to marry especially when he showed all signs of irresponsibility and unwillingness to do so. The strength they had contributing to fund his wedding, that same strength must be recalled to clean up whatever horror the marriage is spilling out now. Again the same OP for whatever reason doesn't want this brother to end up in the village. Now we see what his stay in the city is amounting to. Whether you like it or not, if his stupid brother kicked the bucket today as a result of his illicit relationship with the said widow whose husband died of an undisclosed illness within a week, the OP alongside his relatives will still have to shoulder those left behind. Worst case scenario, let his brother murder his wife today, the same burden, the same burden (I deliberately repeated the line). I know you want to sound tough. I can bet that you have never faced or be caught up in this kind of family mud. It's easy to dish out tough measures when you are not an actor in a distressing drama as this. I am being realistic. Tough measures like taking back the car will worsen this whole trouble. Do they have other better, more realistic options than setting up a business and finding her a safe place to stay before the lunatic brother kills her? I await your response. 1 Like |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by kayceelawrence: 4:06pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
I wil strongly advise u let d wife go..if possible get a small apartment 4 her n kids.its really terrible 4 young kids at dat age to experience so violence from their father.it might affect d girl view to men in d future n d boys relationship wit women in d future,therefore its best dey stay away frm him.,secondly let d woman (ur bro wife) learn a trade even if its 4 6months then u can set her up on always mentor her as d business grows...lastly ur brother is stil ur brother.pls leave d car 4 him.see it as ur own part to settle him n make him a better person. Wen he realise himself by d time d widow is dont wit him,then u can allow him relocate to d village....finally in al things pray 4 him n his family....on a personal note i need a job wit d glad if u can help |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by Gerrard59(m): 5:25pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
The mistake was forcing him to marry. I'm probably sure you family members termed him an "irresponsible man" for being a bachelor in his mid-30s. Not knowing that one's marital status has nothing to do with the person being a responsible human being. That said, your brother is an irresponsible and useless man! |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by baby124: 6:02pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Take the car from him and sell it. Tell him you are still paying off the loan on the car and since he can’t remit enough to cover the amount owed on the car, you have to sell it. As for husband and wife matter, tell the wife if she’s ready to leave him you will support her. Otherwise, you will stay out of their business. If he kills her, let no body call you to come and help with any court case for your brother. Please wash your hands off this situation and support your nieces and nephew financially from afar with the little you can. You guys put that poor, desperate girl in this mess. |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by Karleb(m): 6:25pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Try to convince the woman into putting some or all of the children up for adoption and allow the man to divorce his wife, then your brother should go to the village for a while. Don't be surprised if the wife goes behind everybody's back to have sexx with your brother again and if she doesn't, she's still gonna marry another scumbag like your brother. Women like her are like pigs, they will always go back to the mud. Of course she's the problem here, I mean, who gets pregnant for an irresponsible jobless man without having a means of survival? As for you, oga! Face your front o. No go dey do pass yourself. 1 Like |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by kayceelawrence: 6:33pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Karleb:This advice is so misleading...if he has d financial capability 2 care 4 his brother's children why den put 4 adoption...i bet u dnt have kids yet...pls lets b guided 3 Likes |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by Karleb(m): 6:38pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
kayceelawrence: So he should raise another person's children abi? Make some people dey fucck make another person dey bear the consequences, right? Whatever you do OP, don't take any of those kids under your custody. Let them be with either of the parents or be adopted. |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by mrblessed(m): 6:45pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Marriage is incapable of changing a man or woman who has refused to accept change. I think your family erred by forcing an unwilling, irresponsible man to get married simply because he put a lady in a family way. It's even difficult for his wife now that he has gotten a side chick and lavishes his money on the woman and her children. I am sure your disposition would have been different if the lady in the middle of the storm is your sister. I think it's better to let him do his wish, if it will bring emancipation to his wife. All that is required is to establish a business for the woman, and get your siblings to support her in anyway possible. It doesn't make sense that you and your siblings dread financial responsibilities that would on your laps, while your irresponsible brother routinely abuse his wife and children. Are you guys waiting for the day he kills the woman before doing what is required of you? Therefore, to speedily support him to be separated from the woman and children is a duty you must champion now. I am cocksure he will surely come back to senses later, and crawl back in shame begging for forgiveness. |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by CaveAdullam: 7:09pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
1. Hardly to convince an adult out of his current mentality to another except by his own volition or luck or chance. 2. Sometimes, gentility cannot solve problems, tough hands do. And in this case, matching dominance to counter arrogance is needed. All assistance must be withdrawn and channeled to good sources. Too bad for the wife and kids because your brother will still haunt them and will see them as the tool used to witch-hunt him rather than his foolishness and bad demeanor. They should be set aloof from him to discourage easy accessibility or to an unknown location. The whole marriage process started on a bad note but for the sake of your niece and nephew, help the mother in possible ways you can. 3. Involving law enforcement agency is of utmost paramount in whatever decisions the family decides to take, because when apprehended or dealt with within the family circle, he will always come back for revenge. Nobody is really safe in that circle/family. 4. Loopholes can also be set for him to fall into so that he can't easily point fingers or go into any serious altercations with anyone. Your brother must be dealt with a rod, and if all fails, throw him into prison. Thanks. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by LilMissFavvy(f): 7:29pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Yes, if he is arrested he would be better off in the prison, his wife will be better off without him around, people like him need to spend a good number of years in the prison so that they become sober and have sense. mrsteel: |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by mrsteel: 7:34pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
LilMissFavvy:U are only sounding this way because he is not your brother! Will u wish for your blood brother to be in prison? Be honest with yourself! Mind u prison doesn't change people, it makes them worse! All the criminals we have around were once prisoners. Prison corrupt! |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by sisisioge: 7:42pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
OP....this matter is simple o. 1. Let them separate. That's the best option for the wife and kids. Otherwise, something untoward will happen to one of the parties. 2. Collect your car back and sell it. 3. Let the wife learn a trade and give her proceed from the car to start her business. This is what happens when you push people to marry just because duty calls. You create monsters! Good luck to them. |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by faithfull18(f): 8:14pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Dailyparrot:Your first statement not true. I think you should withdraw the car from him, let him hustle to live and pay for his irresponsibility. Set the wife up either by building a thriving business or skill. Let them separate please because if he kills her, the kids will be motherless and they are partly fatherless at the moment. |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by Ishilove: 8:53pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
When he got home with his wife, he beat the woman to stupor that blood started coming out of her nose. She got hospitalized and all the money she spent treating herself, she bore the cost.Issokay. Iron Mike Tyson. |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by Lamanii22(f): 9:08pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Awwww you're really a kind person but your brother is super cruel.... Please just separate the both of thenm. It is the woman that needs more help. Collect your car aswell |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by Ishilove: 9:18pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Dailyparrot:And you and your sibs pushed somebody's daughter into this trap? You have a good share of the blame 1 Like |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by Ishilove: 9:20pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
The lesson here is this: ladies, if you must do skin to skin with a man, make sure he is not an unfortunate fellow in disguise 3 Likes |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by Naybahood(m): 9:37pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
I’m glad this is coming from the husband’s side. Withdraw the car from the man , sell it and give a wife like 400 to 700k to start up a business. Den make dem separate. The man na bid disgrace to men . |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by NaBanga: 6:39am On Aug 25, 2021 |
The race of black men (not all) are very useless beings. It's why black countries offer nothing to its citizens. It all starts with the black man being highly irresponsible. I notice a seed of selfishness and greediness among black men throughout the world. It's not all, but the majority. You are a good brother, but you are definitely being seen as a fool by that brother of yours. Withdraw your assistance and direct it to the wife and her children. Your family is the one who pushed your lazy brother into marriage. Your family should be the one to help the woman now that you have added to her condition. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Cheating Brother Wants To Send His Wife Away! by BabbanBura(m): 8:21am On Aug 25, 2021 |
Guy my advise is for you to do everything possible to get that woman and her kids away from harms way, set her up to fend for herself and the kids and withdraw that vehicle from that irresponsible 'BOY' because it is the extra change from the poor remittance to you that he is using to misbehave with, besides there is no longer any reason for him to have that vehicle. 1 Like |
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