There is this this girl in my life that I intend getting married to as soon as possible. But she keeps growing fatter and fatter by the day. In fact her burst is like a burden on her (that is from my own observation). Fellow landers what is the solution to this? I really love her

Solution? There can only be a solution, if there's a problem, and I can't see one. Isn't she still the same person you fell for? We'll all change at some point.

One thing that tends to remain constant, is our personalities, so, unless that changes, what exactly is the problem??

Take her to the gymnassium, some jogging might help and other exercises, I think Nescafe too might help.

I would say That Thunder should fire your mouth, but that would be very unlady-like of me.

You love her, but you believe she's FAT?!?!
What in the name of God and Mankind is that?? Talk about arrant nonsense!!

Hunnie if you love her, you would love every inch and corner of her. Every deep and valley in her body. You think you love her, but I'm sorry to burst your bubbles because you don't sound like a man who loves the woman he's about to marry completely.

It's perfectly alright to notice changes in your partner. But the way you sound (i mean write), doesn't show that you Love your woman. Imagine "She keeps growing fatter and fatter". I still feel the urge to say that Thunder should fire your mouth, but I won't do that!

Now listen. . . If you "love" this woman as you claim to love her, you can talk to her as lovers do. Talk to her with all the love you have for her showing in your eyes, and tell her that you feel she's gaining weight. Hell!! ask her if it's all the preparation for the wedding that is getting to her.
Tell her you could work out with her, because you also want to be in top shape, so that you'll have enough strength to carry her on your wedding day.

THAT alone, would make her reason with you, and want to lose some weight. You'll say it in a way that doesn't make her feel embarrassed!

Don't go about telling people to "HELP!!!! because your wife-to-be is Overwieght"! What the blip?!

ah ah! She no fat when you toast her?

@hot-angel
your comment is highly appreciated for the love I have for my woman; though u almost invoked thunder to fire ma mouth

@hot-angel
I believe the poster loves his girl dearly, that's why he's looking 4 ways that she'll good 4 him. It is no longer news that in modern times, people seek 4 ways to improve their ways of looking good and 'portable'.

@poster
I'll suggest u take her through some exercises and advice her 2 watch what she eats. U could even see a nutritionist.

hot-angel:


It's perfectly alright to notice changes in your partner. But the way you sound (i mean write), doesn't show that you Love your woman. Imagine "She keeps growing fatter and fatter". I still feel the urge to say that Thunder should fire your mouth, but I won't do that!

Now listen. . . If you "love" this woman as you claim to love her, you can talk to her as lovers do. Talk to her with all the love you have for her showing in your eyes, and tell her that you feel she's gaining weight. Hell!! ask her if it's all the preparation for the wedding that is getting to her.
Tell her you could work out with her, because you also want to be in top shape, so that you'll have enough strength to carry her on your wedding day.

THAT alone, would make her reason with you, and want to lose some weight. You'll say it in a way that doesn't make her feel embarrassed!

Don't go about telling people to "HELP!!!! because your wife-to-be is Overwieght"! What the blip?!

Right on Sister

@Ajengogo
Broda it's not a big problem. I'm assuming your girl has always had extra flesh so you must have know that she had the tendency to get even bigger. The question is why does it bother you? is it 'cause of her health or 'cause you're embarassed?

If its the former then you can gently encourage her to work on her weight, you can assit her by joining a gym and exercising toghether. Walking is a very good form of exersice that tones down the body from head to toe, alot of people don't know this, so you guys can take long walks toghether you know.

If its the latter then you should really examine your feelings for this Angel of yours. I mean man, real love is all encompassing

Is she on a birth control becos most women usually gain weight throught that. Why don't u get her a membership card to work out at the gym. If she runs on a threadmill for at least 30mins per day for 2wks, I bet she will look good.

omoeko i wish i cud believe that ooooo,got a friend who's always spending about 2hrs a day in the gym. . .she goes having a jog with her guy like every sat morning yet she hasnt lost any stone yet. . .do you know some other thing that can help?
Tell me if you know. . .

Well u re right that going to gym doesn't have some. But she can change re eating habit, less carbohydrate and starch but more protein.

hot-angel:

I would say That Thunder should fire your mouth, but that would be very unlady-like of me.

He is just stating the facts. No thunder shall fire him from saying the truth!

hot-angel:

You love her, but you believe she's FAT?!?!
What in the name of God and Mankind is that?? Talk about arrant nonsense!!

Love isn't blind my dear. It'll be pretty worse if he tells her she is OK while inside him he thinks she is just disgustingly huge.

hot-angel:

Hunnie if you love her, you would love every inch and corner of her. Every deep and valley in her body. You think you love her, but I'm sorry to burst your bubbles because you don't sound like a man who loves the woman he's about to marry completely.

He might have been blunt in the way he said it but that doesn't change the fact that he is losing interest. It's quite shallow to say but physical appearance plays an important role in a relationship. Imagine how this woman might turn into as soon as she wears the wedding ring. He didn't meet her like that, so her looks also payed their role. Now she is changing into something else. it's not irreversible so there is nothing to worry about. All he has to do is find the right way to tell her. If she also loves him she'll make an effort. If she complains in a near future he is cheating on her, i won't for one second blame him.

hot-angel:

It's perfectly alright to notice changes in your partner. But the way you sound (i mean write), doesn't show that you Love your woman. Imagine "She keeps growing fatter and fatter". I still feel the urge to say that Thunder should fire your mouth, but I won't do that!

Sometimes diplomacy doesn't show the situation as it really is. No matter how he had said it he would still be attacked just for the simple fact that he is losing interest in a woman just because of her size. Let's be fair.

hot-angel:

Now listen. . . If you "love" this woman as you claim to love her, you can talk to her as lovers do. Talk to her with all the love you have for her showing in your eyes, and tell her that you feel she's gaining weight. Hell!! ask her if it's all the preparation for the wedding that is getting to her.
Tell her you could work out with her, because you also want to be in top shape, so that you'll have enough strength to carry her on your wedding day.

C'mon. The woman ain't a fool. She'll understand where he is getting at. Fine! She'll appreciate the way he was able to talk gently to her, but she'll still be hurt. In this case be direct and tell her what the problem is. Going around won't solve anything.

hot-angel:

THAT alone, would make her reason with you, and want to lose some weight. You'll say it in a way that doesn't make her feel embarrassed!

he can only make her feel less embarrassed because the embarrassment shall exist no matter the circumstances in which he eventually tells her.

hot-angel:

Don't go about telling people to "HELP!!!! because your wife-to-be is Overwieght"! What the blip?!

I guess he just worried because she is just the wife-to-be. Who knows what she might look like when she becomes the wife!

Well, if she's changed, the relationship too should change. Abeg we all wish our partners will always remain the way they were.

Did you marry her

Ajengogo:
There is this this girl in my life that I intend getting married to as soon as possible. But she keeps growing fatter and fatter by the day. In fact her burst is like a burden on her (that is from my own observation). Fellow landers what is the solution to this? I really love her

It’s about 16years now

Drop the girl ,she'll be lazy after marriage ,check her family genes for your own good ,I'm saying this because she'll not marry you when you so fat ,and after giving you a child she'll get fatter that's my 2cent ,

Another fact ,marry her if you got no options ,cos real niqqis don't ask your kinda question ,that's Pucci assss ajuju