Liliantalks:
this is the biggest fear .

I will encourage you to look into it holistically, it is possible to work it out, I am not ruling out the possibility, but the tendency is cloudy. What leads to issues in marriages are actually not big stuffs but minor things that were not properly thought through.

shege45:
so a woman with an Msc should not marry a man with a Bsc? una funny

if you decide to put it like that .. yeah.

Are you married ?

If yeah then you should know better ... but if no then you should know better ... I hope it's funny enough.

Crossroad1:
how will she tell her friends her man has no degree! Really?
But it won't matter if he is an obi Cubana, dangote or otedola right?

those names u mentioned can’t marry someone like her, she won’t accept

No, don't marry him. Bury him

adexpa:
I have been to few countries where education is not a factor but not in our own part of the world( Nigeria). You have to look into every possible outcome because what turns out to be problem in some marriages are just minor/trivial things that were no holistically put into consideration from onset. Educational differences is a big deal in Nigeria settings and must be thoroughly looked into.

YES i fully agree that education is important in Nigeria, but i fully disagree that this will have any value to a couple who've known each other, dated each other, decided to propose and finally are thinking of marriage. furthermore, i seriously doubt that a wife would cheat on her husband due to his lack of degree... i mean, its not like the husband will suddenly lack something he had on the day of marriage...but hey, everything is possible in this day and age.

MufasaLion:
Well, you got my point wrong!
Most men in such situation will always feel insecure and their ego will be bruised most times because the wife will definitely be meeting with men of all kinds that are well educated. She's gonna be doing businesses and all sorts mostly with educated men and any mistake by the wife would always be seen as being disrespectful or being proud or whatever by the husband.

i think you keep assuming a bit much, as a respectful spouse wouldnt do the above and/or a fully secure man would simply understand that this is his wife's job and as he TRUSTS her, he would have nothing to worry about. its the insecure low self esteem men with misplaced ego who will have a problem with such wife (and sasdly, Nigeria and Africa is full of them).

I never berated any uneducated men. I only stated the fact! Even educated men still feel insecure about their women especially if the lady is doing better than them talk less of uneducated men. It's natural thing even if the woman is not doing well as the husband.

Yes African men look down on such women, i give you that... but that is only the result of insecure low self esteem men with a misplaced ego. if they'd only focus on whats best for the FAMILY, most men would rejoice that they have such wife, and so would the wifey for having a loving husband (educated or not). but then again, with IFs, BUTs and MAYBEs we could go on and on.

MrBrownJay1:


i think you keep assuming a bit much, as a respectful spouse wouldnt do the above and/or a fully secure man would simply understand that this is his wife's job and as he TRUSTS her, he would have nothing to worry about. its the insecure low self esteem men with misplaced ego who will have a problem with such wife (and sasdly, Nigeria and Africa is full of them).



Yes African men look down on such women, i give you that... but that is only the result of insecure low self esteem men with a misplaced ego. if they'd only focus on whats best for the FAMILY, most men would rejoice that they have such wife, and so would the wifey for having a loving husband (educated or not). but then again, with IFs, BUTs and MAYBEs we could go on and on.

At least I'm still right.

MufasaLion:
At least I'm still right.

yes you are right in your assumptions, just like i could assume that the babe could be a respectful woman who wont use her degree do be disrespectful to her husband and/or that the "degreeless" dude would be secured enough in his own skin to not see anything his wife does as just LIFE.

now again, answer the simple question: can a degree holder marry someone with no degree?!?!

Yes ...at the man peril...My uncle with no degree not even secondary certificate. Got married to a MSc holder from a UK university. My uncle no fit even speak better English at the wedding. But man is hot though.

MrBrownJay1:


yes you are right in your assumptions, just like i could assume that the babe could be a respectful woman who wont use her degree do be disrespectful to her husband and/or that the "degreeless" dude would be secured enough in his own skin to not see anything his wife does as just LIFE.

now again, answer the simple question: can a degree holder marry someone with no degree?!?!

Of course, yes.

MrBrownJay1:


YES i fully agree that education is important in Nigeria, but i fully disagree that this will have any value to a couple who've known each other, dated each other, decided to propose and finally are thinking of marriage. furthermore, i seriously doubt that a wife would cheat on her husband due to his lack of degree... i mean, its not like the husband will suddenly lack something he had on the day of marriage...but hey, everything is possible in this day and age.

The choice is hers to decide bro. She is already having doubt for her to come here and ask. Let us leave the choice for her. We are to tell her possibilities

adexpa:
The choice is hers to decide bro. She is already having doubt for her to come here and ask. Let us leave the choice for her. We are to tell her possibilities

...and the above i posted are some of the possibilities. a respectful woman coupled with a secure man min his own skin will easily dismiss the issues raised in this thread.

MufasaLion:
Of course, yes.

then let us stay positive about this issue and wish them the best.

flokii:


I disagree with this.. the money and prestige some of these so called men without degrees have, some PhD holders don't have.
I think the degree she is talking about here is level of education and refinement which the person can get through part-time and distance learning programmes.

the guy is not a millionaire, just a normal guy