Ammishaddai:
Op, the marriage is over. And if your in-law decides to continue with it he'll be frustrated with the memory of his wife's infidelity . This is something a lot of men cannot handle so it's best they both go their separate ways

Everyone deserves a second chance bro

Op's brother in law should follow these steps.

1. Do a D.N.A test to ascertain the paternity of the child.

2. If the child is not yours, then it most likely ends in a divorce: pity the poor innocent kid here.

3. If the child is yours, then there must be a separation : let her go to her parents'/friend's/siblings' home or an apartment if she can afford to rent one.

4. While separated and processing the hurt, decide if you can forgive her or not: this totally depends on her actions and that of her family's while you guys are apart.

5. If and when you finally decide to forgive her, do not be so trusting. Act as if you trust her with your life, but always create that room for doubt.

I don't mean you should call her every minute inquiring her whereabouts, but keep a watchful eye.

The husband in question, would remain a sadist for the rest of his life. I pray, he heals soonest from the psychological trauma.

Mood11:
While we wait for the elders to arrive let me quickly update the list of titles we should beware of ;

Daddy's friend
Uncle
Course mate
Former neighbor
Church unit leader
Colleague
Pastor
Bestie
childhood friend
Choir master
"That small boy"
Daddy GO
Boss at work
Film producer
Benefactor
Family friend
Neighbour
Facebook friend
Tweeter friend
IPOB brother
Palm wine club gyrating friend.
Endless list.
He's just my fitness trainer and he even suggested this tight training pants for me so that I can become fit in a record time.

Quote me with anyone I missed out and I'll update the list speedily

"A big head"

Lexusgs430:



He should start with DNA.........

If the child is his, and his wife is truly apologetic..... He should forgive her.......

If he refuses to forgive her, can he swear he has never cheated on his wife?.....

Ur a fool

eyinjuege:
He needs to do a DNA test on their child and if the child isn't his, let the father of the child know.
I would implore him to forgive his wife though, because the next woman may not be any better.
Even Jesus forgave the woman caught doing adultery, and asked those without sin to throw the first stone.
This is the first and only person he has caught her with, so I believe she can actually stop any communication with him.
He needs to also be very prayerful because the devil is roaming about trying to destroy marriages. Marriage is for better for worse and since there is no case of violence here, they can still work out things.
Also, get to the bottom of why she is still seeing this man after marriage, and if there's something he needs to work on, he should.
Is it money related? Is it fitness related or is her husband's bedroom game not so good? Any of these things can be worked on from his own part.
There is no marriage without it's ups and downs.
God will show you the next step to take, if you seek his face.

Well-done oo,

PraisesPblaze:
Screenshot evidences and conduct dna test secretly b4 questioning her.

I see breakfast being served. Your life needs peace, not a cheating wife

He still dey ask questions... Newly Wedded cheating this early. Just trash her and move on or continue the banging while searching for a new wife simple.

hkidola00:
Ur a fool

No be me add frustration for your life ó..........

Bros update the list:
Church Marriage counsellor
Deacon

Mood11:
While we wait for the elders to arrive let me quickly update the list of titles we should beware of ;

Daddy's friend
Uncle
Course mate
Former neighbor
Church unit leader
Colleague
Pastor
Bestie
childhood friend
Choir master
"That small boy"
Daddy GO
Boss at work
Film producer
Benefactor
Family friend
Neighbour
Facebook friend
Tweeter friend
IPOB brother
Palm wine club gyrating friend.
Endless list.
He's just my fitness trainer and he even suggested this tight training pants for me so that I can become fit in a record time.

Quote me with anyone I missed out and I'll update the list speedily

Shey I go marry like this...

Easy to condem the wife.you should also tells us how far the husband of this woman provides for her needs.
Are her legitimate basic needs being met.
A woman ,married or single is bound to show her gratitude in so many ways for the man solving problems for her.
And the internet just made it easy for women who needs help in any area if life to access help.

Failure toeets needs will have consequences when it comes to today's wives.

The choice any man must made is whether u want long life or not and wether u will take advantage of dna early enough or not.

I hate this idea of calling anybody cheats because they find solutions to their problems.

Stupid men should learn,women knows how to find solutions to problems than men and u will only kill yourself if u don't accept this fact.

BRATISLAVA:


That man is supposed to find out where he has gone wrong, not crying and involving strangers in his family matter. It is his duty to give his wife peace, some men make the home front so terrible that the woman has no choice but to seek comfort from someone ready to give it.

The unique nature of a woman is that she is moved by sight, and as such she is moved towards comfort and polyandry by nature.

The man should up his romance game and give her peace of mind via money. Otherwise she should dump him. Every woman deserves peace of mind, not someone hoarding sex and money. Hopefully the man has learned his lesson. If he misbehaves, her side man will take over. It's that simple.

I wanted to reply this but then I figured you’re a woman so I pretty much know how you think and why you justified her cheating. But then it’s all good, have a nice day.

Let's hear all these male hypocrites who specialise in advising women to forgive and forget when men cheat . Lol . Now the spirit of forgiveness is gone since it's a woman involved - their fangs are out
Stupid ram heads

I think u missed Cousin

Mood11:
While we wait for the elders to arrive let me quickly update the list of titles we should beware of ;

Daddy's friend
Uncle
Course mate
Former neighbor
Church unit leader
Colleague
Pastor
Bestie
childhood friend
Choir master
"That small boy"
Daddy GO
Boss at work
Film producer
Benefactor
Family friend
Neighbour
Facebook friend
Tweeter friend
IPOB brother
Palm wine club gyrating friend.
Endless list.
He's just my fitness trainer and he even suggested this tight training pants for me so that I can become fit in a record time.

Quote me with anyone I missed out and I'll update the list speedily

chatinent:
I'm so sorry for what you are going through, OP.


Adultery is sth I strongly condemn.

I don't want to comment on this act. My comment does not favour adultery in anyway. My words will be too hard.

I don't forgive adulterous wives.

You can choose to tho if she is repentant.

but do you forgive adulterous husbands Lol

ElexObi1:
This my gender will not kill person

if the male gender with their rampant cheating has not killed people - how is it your gender that will kill person ?

she might kill ur brother one day... Most women prefer been widow than been tagged cheaters in husband house... most especially if the child is not for the main Husband

Yes I agree with this, if he can keep his composure enough to sort a DNA test, it would be good for his sanity. If he cannot afford it, then better to make it a family matter and then insist on a DNA afterwards. May God save Homes from the infidelity the Devil has spread around this days

PraisesPblaze:
Screenshot evidences and conduct dna test secretly b4 questioning her.

I see breakfast being served. Your life needs peace, not a cheating wife

his concern now should be the paternity of the child, he should make sure he go for that test, especially now the child is still small

ahnie:

Advise to MEN.always have time For your wives treat her nicely.show her love and care.stop looking down on her.improve on your sexual performances.
I think these are the reasons why women cheat and careless about the consequences.

Wow. Wise words.

I completely agree.

chiiraq802:
Its who they are.... woemen can't change, that is how they are programmed.
He should secretly conduct a DNA test on that child, confront the wife and end the marriage.

Make she go marry her Daddy's friend. Nonsense and ingredient.

If na only my type of men dey dis world, woemen for go extinct cuz ion give damn about them, accept wen its Konji time....After that nothing again. I ain't gat feelings and love for them bi*ches......

I dey miss Mosdii.

but u people are smelly hypocrites sha! The way you are talking someone will think Nigerian men are angels who don't cheat or condone men cheating at all . Hypocrisy is such a terrible disease .

BRATISLAVA:


That man is supposed to find out where he has gone wrong, not crying and involving strangers in his family matter. It is his duty to give his wife peace, some men make the home front so terrible that the woman has no choice but to seek comfort from someone ready to give it.

The unique nature of a woman is that she is moved by sight, and as such she is moved towards comfort and polyandry by nature.

The man should up his romance game and give her peace of mind via money. Otherwise she should dump him. Every woman deserves peace of mind, not someone hoarding sex and money. Hopefully the man has learned his lesson. If he misbehaves, her side man will take over. It's that simple.

Una just dey burst my head for this thread


I agree with you my dear

valentinos22:


so many things has already gone wrong When a married woman spreads for another man. Emotions, feelings, likeness, love etc have all been tilted in favour of the other man..even the risk of std, pregnancy, losing her marriage, being caught by husband, friends, family members etc she no longer considers. At that point the husband would only be seen as an obstacle to her lifes single mission...
In summary, if she could take all these risk for another deeek, killing you is a lesser risk. That she didnt kill you is because God was with you...
Forgive such a woman by running very far away from her.

You are only seeing this from one angle, what if she was just doing it for pleasure nothing attached. People love to catch fun with what they like, in this case 'sex' Men do this all the time. The lesson here is this, nobody own anybody even in marriage, we should all respect ourselves!

Sammysolution:
The heart of so many women is full of wickedness, even after marriage, they still finds it difficult to stay away from their ex boyfriends ,their sugar daddies, that random guy that gives them the fucking of their life, that area guy suck them to orgasm, and they Will introduced them to you , with name tags like, my dad's friend, my father's Senior brother In-laws brother, and so on, and the most crazy part of it, mostly all of her family will know about it, and the best they can do in your support is to tell her to be careful. The marriage has officially ended, what advice is
he looking for again.

eeyah , pele . If the heart of women is full of wickedness pls what is the ueart of men full of Looooooool

TWLifestyle:
but u people are smelly hypocrites sha! The way you are talking someone will think Nigerian men are angels who don't cheat or condone men cheating at all . Hypocrisy is such a terrible disease .

Dont mind them

See how they keep dishing what they cannot take?

I am just happy many women are responding by blaming the man the way men usually blame wives of cheating husbands.

joyandfaith:


Daddy friend has been sleeping with her even before the wedding. Paternity test and divorce. Cheating partner is a killer.

lol , but when the cheating partner is the male one - he is just polygamous , right ? Lol . You people deserve every terrible thing women do to you .

He is worried about the father of the child cos according to him, his wife had visited the man shortly after their wedding.


Ok some one should tell me why would she wanna get married when she vividly knew that she can't stay in her matrimonial home.

Oya mind your business crew over to una

Ammishaddai:
Op, the marriage is over. And if your in-law decides to continue with it he'll be frustrated with the memory of his wife's infidelity . This is something a lot of men cannot handle so it's best they both go their separate ways

So once u cheat it is over??

tenry:
Please don't mind my grammatical blunders .My brother in law called my wife and I tonight sobbing profusely and confused about what to do.

He caught his wife cheating on a man erroneously believe to be her daddy's friend.

It all started when his wife's phone was bad and he gave him to repair it for him while coming from work. Engineer repaired the phone and on his way home, he curiously checked his wife's phone and discovered sex chat his wife had with the man she called her daddy's friend.

His wife snapped her private parts and sent to the man. They exchanged so many dirty videos including pornography . All the wife's family members (mother, sisters) all knew the man introduced to the husband as dad's friend.

Her dad is late. Their wedding is one year this month with a three month old girl child.

He is worried about the father of the child cos according to him, his wife had visited the man shortly after their wedding.

My wife and I have been disturbed seriously on this matter. The husband called for advice on the step to take.

Please I need your advice cos we are in shock as we didn't expect that from the lady.

The scenario u painted here is more common than u think. It just doesn’t get discovered or talked about.

Steps to take.
1. Find out when it started(probably b4 she even meet her husband)
2. Ask how it started and why
3. Why she continued even after meeting and marrying her husband.
4. Now it’s discovered what does she want to do? Resolve the issue or go with the fathers friend or divorce? Let her speak
5. If u want to resolve if and if the man has th capacity to forgive her errors then let her start a process to retrace her steps. She might have been naive to get into such a relationship in the 1st place.

Mood11:
While we wait for the elders to arrive let me quickly update the list of titles we should beware of ;

Daddy's friend
Uncle
Course mate
Former neighbor
Church unit leader
Colleague
Pastor
Bestie
childhood friend
Choir master
"That small boy"
Daddy GO
Boss at work
Film producer
Benefactor
Family friend
Neighbour
Facebook friend
Tweeter friend
IPOB brother
Palm wine club gyrating friend.
Endless list.
He's just my fitness trainer and he even suggested this tight training pants for me so that I can become fit in a record time.

Quote me with anyone I missed out and I'll update the list speedily

Abeg just add this one.... Used by my friend's ex girlfriend
MENTOR

princewarri1985:
Tell him to man up and stop crying like a lil bitch and do the right thing by sending the hoe back to her parents house and take her daughter for DNA test, and after that he can come over to join our club of barchelors that are single and not searching, NO WIFE NO PROBLEM, this is why the thought of marriage scares me to death, there is a way you sleep at night with peace knowing there is nobody somewhere cheating on you, last night i prepared better eba and egusi soup myself, who need a wife when i cook better than all these women

You will still have something to do with women whether you decide to have a babe mama or girlfriend, similar results unless you're gay sha

Most men endure rubbish like this because they consider all their financial and emotional commitments, some even ask themselves "where do I start from?" They should know that no loss is greater than keeping a cheating girlfriend let alone a cheating wife. I loathe such women with all the energies in me.
My ex cheated on me, and since then, I don't know if it was a psychological thing, she started smelling to me, she was never beautiful again, I saw her flaws at all at once which was too much for my mind to contain. I hated seeing her calls, I couldn't regard her as a woman anymore. What's better than simply walking away from a cheat?

forgive her as jesus forgives you. remind the husband of that.


Also na those kain women remain outside.

you get yansh you get bress u be wife material.

porn industry no too dey sell again sef. tiktok na soft porn already