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She is not your wife,keep on searching

The answer you seek is glaring to you but love wnt make you go with it... Compatability is necessary in marriage, if its nt there, let it go... You both are not compatable but jus trying to force it. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage

Hmmmm

Just call off the introduction and end the relationship. It may be difficult and painful now, but you will be thankful years later that you put the relationship to an end.

How could you have waited for 10yrs before knowing what you want? After you have had enough cruise, you want to leave her. According to you, this very month you promised her you will go for her introduction by the end of the year, why did you make such promise? You are not mature. From what you narrated above, you both are not compatible, but the relationship can be salvaged if both parties are ready to work on it, like the issue of accommodation, is she ready to yield to the house you are able to afford, etc.

I see a lot of speculations in your write up, you think this and you feel that. You feel that you will have a lot of manly validations (financial) to carry out if you marry her, according to you, you don't provide enough, yet she's quiet, but you think she will complain in future, you think she's usually not comfortable to have you in her office, you think she's not proud to show you off, you both had deep pasts hurts, and you think she will bring it up in future, you think she is cheating, you feel she is usually not comfortable when you visit her home, and you don't feel comfortable with her as well, hope the problem is not with you, it doesn't just sound right.

Check yourself thoroughly, have you ever been compatible with any woman in the past? Or it is it usually issues/complaints. if you are sure you are not the problem, then you can call it off, but it's really wicked of you to have wasted her time, 10good yrs, if only ladies will read and learn, say no to prolonged relationships.

Someone should pls summarize what op wrote

LilMissFavvy:
How could you have waited for 10yrs before knowing what you want? After you have had enough cruise, you want to leave her. According to you, this very month you promised her you will go for her introduction by the end of the year, why did you make such promise? You are not mature. From what you narrated above, you both are not compatible, but the relationship can be salvaged if both parties are ready to work on it, like the issue of accommodation, is she ready to yield to the house you are able to afford, etc.

I see a lot of speculations in your write up, you think this and you feel that. You feel that you will have a lot of manly validations (financial) to carry out if you marry her, according to you, you don't provide enough, yet she's quiet, but you think she will complain in future, you think she's usually not comfortable to have you in her office, you think she's not proud to show you off, you both had deep pasts hurts, and you think she will bring it up in future, you think she is cheating, you feel she is usually not comfortable when you visit her home, and you don't feel comfortable with her as well, hope the problem is not with you, it doesn't just sound right.

Check yourself thoroughly, have you ever been compatible with any woman in the past? Or it is it usually issues/complaints. if you are sure you are not the problem, then you can call it off, but it's really wicked of you to have wasted her time, 10good yrs, if only ladies will read and learn, say no to prolonged relationships.

I don't think you read till the very end. Anyways, thank you for looking at it both ways. I really tried on my own path and I didn't plan to waste her time. It's something that kinda happened while I was busy trying to meet her standards of life, accommodation and needs. Also, did you read where I mentioned we had started making all necessary moves early 2018 till I discovered somethings. It is well sha.

Assumptabeke:
Just call off the introduction and end the relationship. It may be difficult and painful now, but you will be thankful years later that you put the relationship to an end.

Thank you. That's what I plan to do. I really appreciate.

Do you have to bring saga into this?

Decharger:
She is not your wife,keep on searching

It's just really hard buy I guess I have to follow thru with it and live with it.

Carchoice:
Do you have to bring saga into this?

Jeez, I didn't even see that coming �. Jeez. Saga kwa

I didn't read everything till the end, yet I saw that you promised to go for her introduction before the year ends? So why didn't you call it off in 2019. Truth is always bitter. You need to appologise to her after you call it off. Good luck.

seanaddy:


I don't think you read till the very end. Anyways, thank you for looking at it both ways. I really tried on my own path and I didn't plan to waste her time. It's something that kinda happened while I was busy trying to meet her standards of life, accommodation and needs. Also, did you read where I mentioned we had started making all necessary moves early 2018 till I discovered somethings. It is well sha.