hello everybody in the house,i want you to advice me on this issue?This happen to be like dis that i met a man some years back who claim to love me and have me has is lover but what make me scared then is that the man is a married man,father of one and later i met the guy that i.m dating now i.m in love with him and is so caring and loving,but some years back now is not with me,his in abroad although we communicate everyday,now what make me post this is that the man i met years back has come back to me now that is lonely that her wife is in abroad also that he want me to keep him warm and to be candid the man is okay i.m in love with him but what scared me is that the man is married and i too is in a serious relationship that my guy must not know about this yet is not around now, but i.m in love with both now should i quit the relationship between i and this man or should i been doing it secretly PLEASE i need YOUR advice on this you nairalander

@poster you can love two man at the same time, what if the man wife come back to nigeria after the man has already settle down with you what wil you do?what if your man come back and you have settle down with another man what will you do?try to conclude in your self

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in a  nut shell
you are  bleeping one and intending to bleep  a married man also in the near future?
one who you are in a relationship with and who is single and cares for you
and the other who  is married( with an absence wife) does not care for you but needs you to keep him warm
right?

i don't think you need to come on nairaland to ask advice
the writing is so clear on the wall
if the single guy you are in a relationship with does not cut it for you, end it and move on to someone you can have a bright and blessed future with
if you love the guy stay in the relationship and be faithful to him
The married guy is just a user, and because  you have made yourself so readily available for him he will use you and use you and use
if you want this for yourself continue
if i were you i would tell the married fool that our initial dating was a mistake i really regret and tell him to get lost
thank  you

@toyez thanks you so much

Firstly, it's not possible for you to love two men at a time. You are simply having crush on one of them and I'm sure it's on the selfish married man. Secondly, the guy categorically asked you to just 'keep him warm' till his wife comes back, of which I don't know what you stand to gain. If at all you also need someone to 'keep you warm', does it have to be a married man? Lastly, I don't think you are even in love with your main guy; cos if you do, you won't even think of cheating on him(although I myself don't believe in all these long-distance relationships).

op
just go ahead and date d married man and have babys 4 him.

You don't have to run back that married man for 'servicing' anymore. i can fill in the space na.

You don't have to run back that married man for 'servicing' anymore. i can fill in the space na.

although the married man claim he love me so much but if my guy detect out that i.m going out with the man it may lead to the end of our relationship,but the man was the one i met first and i.m in love with him but the clause there is because his married.what should do now and i also love my guy

If you are a good Christian girl, you wouldn't dare go with the married man. He aint yours, dont be his pleasure unit!!