It is never my intention coming to this place to write this but it's a sign of improving my writing. Although I may still make mistakes but I must write things to improve.

It's a long read o.

Ok

So my friend is cohabiting with me. Though he promised spending 60 days before getting his own apartment.

Now, I'm kind of greedy and stingy but I don't think these traits are hereditary or should I say, it's because of lack of association or maybe because of money. Currently, my salary I no dey reason am at all.
I feel shy too taking things from people or asking for help except maybe for biz

What I have not been used to is failing to keep to agreements. Before I will do anything, I will always tell you what and when it intend to last that is, coming clean.

My friend is the exact opposite. He's cunning. He told me he would stay for two months but have stayed for 4.

Our gas got finished and I had no money to refill. It's my house and I won't tell him gas has finished. I refilled the last time before now. So he offered to refill but he will be refilling with his own bottle instead of mine. His bottle was not in the house which means he is bringing it from his woman's place. Well, I accepted and he has refilled the gas and we are using it.

I travelled to Cross Rivers and stayed for a week. On my return I discovered two wraps of igbo on my table. Lol. Omo I never knew he smokes but I just wrapped it in a waterproof and kept it at a corner. I allowed two days to pass before asking about the cigarette. He said it belongs to a customer who left it on his shop. I smiled and changed the topic. After a week, I saw the remains of the cigarette in my bathroom and at my house entrance. I didn't confront and I behaved like I didn't see anything.

He will take his bath, use the toilet but won't flush. Water dey inside bathroom o. I dey flush I never reason am anything. I wanted talking to him of a place to find water if there's no water in the bathroom. I later found out he knows the place and he has been getting water from there.

He will prepare cooking stuff and won't throw the dirt away. I will have to do it.

He does clean the house and wash my clothes when washing not all the time though.

He doesnt cook regularly in the house and sometimes eats at his girlfriends place. I do sleep on empty stomach but it's not my food or money so I don't use to complain.

Am a shy person and do not know how to communicate so most times, we are always keeping quiet. I hate this.

He brought a girl to the house though he has been bringing them but that day, money I kept in my shorts got missing. I haven't confronted him about it because I don't know if he was the one that took it or the girl.

I am a part time student so my money goes to my education. I have to borrow from apps too every month and also repay when I receive salary. He maybe thinking I have money but nada. Like this month I have to settle three loan apps and I am damn broke. This my guy is owing some money which I have asked him to repay but he is dancing around.
It was tough asking him to repay because I felt he may feel am driving him away from the house but I get to ask anyways.

If he refuses to pay, na hungry be that o because I can't force him before person put something for my water.

All in all, I know he won't be parking out till January.

And sometimes, that feeling of friendship is just there for you.

Hope you enjoyed my writing.
Thank you.

I don't know how you people get into such parasitic friendship....But honestly op,if na me be you,I for don sit that guy down,talk sense into him head.......Na your house,so why you dey tolerate such nonsense abi he dey follow you dey pay the house rent...

Mtcheewww

Oga, pls summarize this thing, you don't expect me to read such long epistle

virginprincess:
Oga, pls summarize this thing, you don't expect me to read such long epistle

nobody forced you

Why not tell the guy he is inconveniency you?

I stopped taking shit long time ago

virginprincess:
Oga, pls summarize this thing, you don't expect me to read such long epistle

He has a parasitic friend who doesn't give two shits about him, the friend tends to boss him around his own house even up to the extent of owing him and making life miserable for him. And he's so shy to confront his so called friend so he's dying in silence. Baba 70 (fela) will simply say suffering and smiling.

How have you been by the way...it's been ages.

@topic.
You just have to reach out to him, let him know what you like and what you dislike. It's your house... you should be the boss, start acting like one.

Menn?

They are their own worstest airnemies. Tueh!

Let him move to his girlfriend’s house.

Magnoliaa:
Menn?

They are their own worstest airnemies. Tueh!

You’ve been waiting to use that line for a long time.

AfroKnight:




You’ve been waiting to use that line for a long time.

Lmaoo.

An expression of self-love is not to tolerate parasitic friendship, because that guy is not a friend, but a parasite. As you grow, you will meet a lot of these folks, you will also learn to be tough and greedy, not as an expression of being bad, because people like your parasite (friend) will push you to that place. I guess you are an empath, and it is natural for you to help. But don't help at your own detriment, if anyone stresses you out, cut them off. You should normalize cutting off people that don't serve you out of your life.

Sonnobax15:

I don't know how you people get into such parasitic friendship....But honestly op,if na be you,I for don sit that guy down,talk sense into him head.......Na your house,so why you dey tolerate such nonsense abi he dey follow you dey pay the house rent...

Mtcheewww

Talk which sense? abi make op give am red card and tell him to fork out? I don jam eediots like the op friends, them nornally no de change. Them go be like that forever. Na those kind people you no need use juju for make them fail, because their character na juju in itself wey go make them fail.

Nazgul:

He has a parasitic friend who doesn't give two shits about him, the friend tends to boss him around his own house even up to the extent of owing him and making life miserable for him. And he's so shy to confront his so called friend so he's dying in silence. Baba 70 (fela) will simply say suffering and smiling.

How have you been by the way...it's been ages.

@topic.
You just have to reach out to him, let him know what you like and what you dislike. It's your house... you should be the boss, start acting like one.

Hey , I'm fine, just decided to stay away from nairaland for sometime.

virginprincess:
Oga, pls summarize this thing, you don't expect me to read such long epistle

SMH!

I Wonder whatbyoire doing in this forum?

Op. It's people like you that usually burden your heart with with things you might to purge out once and for all.
Just like someone said suffering and smiling.

I and the op are one
But my own na with my nextdoor female neighbor.
I dea chock

Nazgul:

He has a parasitic friend who doesn't give two shits about him, the friend tends to boss him around his own house even up to the extent of owing him and making life miserable for him. And he's so shy to confront his so called friend so he's dying in silence. Baba 70 (fela) will simply say suffering and smiling.

How have you been by the way...it's been ages.

@topic.
You just have to reach out to him, let him know what you like and what you dislike. It's your house... you should be the boss, start acting like one.

Thank you for the summary.

vibbb:
He promised of spending 60 days (2 months) before getting his own apartment but now he has stayed 4 months.; That alone is a deal breaker. Lemme ask you: His he making any effort to get his own plc ?
No, he seems very comfortable now.
It's time for you guys to talk man 2 man. #Goodluck.
Will do just that

Sonnobax15:

I don't know how you people get into such parasitic friendship....But honestly op,if na be you,I for don sit that guy down,talk sense into him head.......Na your house,so why you dey tolerate such nonsense abi he dey follow you dey pay the house rent...

Mtcheewww

No, he doesn't pay rent with me.

pansophist:
An expression of self-love is not to tolerate parasitic friendship, because that guy is not a friend, but a parasite. As you grow, you will meet a lot of these folks, you will also learn to be tough and greedy, not as an expression of being bad, because people like your parasite (friend) will push you to that place. I guess you are an empath, and it is natural for you to help. But don't help at your own detriment, if anyone stresses you out, cut them off. You should normalize cutting off people that don't serve you out of your life.

You are right. I need to collect my money first before kicking him out. He was to give me the money on Tuesday but never came back to the house. Went to the house yesterday to meet him fast asleep because I came back late. This morning, he told me his babe would be coming and I said no pro but that he should get my money ready before Saturday then he sighed.

Drsnives:
I and the op are one
But my own na with my nextdoor female neighbor.
I dea chock

Woman neighbor? Well, the only experience I had with female neighbor was coming my room at 10pm or 12pm. I parked out without letting her know my new place.

I use girl take drive one guy comot

My secondary school friend called me that his university friend will be spending a night in my house because he has something to do in my state.

This guy come carry big luggage come my house. He spend the first 3 days and told me that he will be spending 6 months here before he rent a house.

I just inform my female friend . She come dey spend the night for my house every night.

The guy sleep for hotel tire come run Comot.

virginprincess:
Hey , I'm fine, just decided to stay away from nairaland for sometime.

Eyah... welcome back

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Kick him out joor!

Stop being a mumu. Find a way to get him out.

Homeboiy:
I use girl take drive one guy comot
The guy sleep for hotel tire come run Comot.

E get one of my cousin brother. Has been trying to know my place here.

Nothing e never do. Blackmail, begging, preaching

Never shall I
***

Dearest cousin,

I rather loan you a large amount of money instead of showing you where I live.

InTheCloudySky:
Stop being a mumu. Find a way to get him out.

Could you imagine. He came to me that the key I gave him is locked in the house.

I gave him my spare key which has the gate and main door key and for days now, he said he forgot my keys in his shop.

Some people are just so wicked. I will be kicking him out this month end.

Elporo:


E get one of my cousin brother. Has been trying to know my place here.

Nothing e never do. Blackmail, begging, preaching

Never shall I
***

Dearest cousin,

I rather loan you a large amount of money instead of showing you where I live.

My dear, e no too good to harbour person o.

This thing dey cause problem