First of all I'll like to appreciate God for nairaland, many of you won't know how seeking for advice from this forum has helped us countlessly. Please guys I need your sincere advice on what I'm about to share with you all.

I met my wife in January 2016 and we started dating, during the time of dating I've been a very busy person that hardly have time for her. In no time she got pregnant for me and I hurriedly married her around June same year, she gave birth to a baby boy in 2017. And then gave birth to the second baby in December 2020. But the problem is this, ever since she gave birth to the first child, I've always known that he isn't my child and till date it is still bothering me, people who have passed through this know how turturing it is, sleeping and waking up everyday knowing fully well that a child is not yours. I'm planning on doing a DNA test soonest but i know it is just a waste of money because I'm 85% sure he isn't my blood. He doesn't look like me, he possess some traits that are not in me nor the mother. I have no doubt in the second child. But one thing I know for sure is that she loves me so much that she can do anything in this life just to see me happy, she can do anything just for me, she fair and very beautiful infact anytime I'm walking with her you will see men looking atbher anyhow regardless of the fact that she is walking with her husband. But this child issue is always torturing me no matter how I try to forget it. People especially women tend to see men as wicked when a man ends a marriage after finding out the paternity of a child but my question is, when she was busy sleeping with men up and down, didn't she think of pregnancy? Then why will a man continue to cater for a child when his father is still alive and probably doing financially better than me?

Pls I really need an advice on what to do...

Op,why you dey claim say your wife love you, whereas she still dey hide the true paternity of her son away from you? . True love knows no secrets,talk more of hard secrets like this wey fit plunge guyman into a total state of depression and relegation

Well, op,I go like to advise you to still go ahead with your plan of doing the DNA test... Because e go so much better say you get exhibit for hand than mere assumptions.....

Las las,that kid doesn't deserve the torture, because it isn't his fault that he's being the victim of all these wahala.......

Na my advice to you be this, op..........Any ways, everything wey go dey under my roof must go for DNA test, even my dogs and their puppies won't be an exception at all

Damnnn niggar

Sorry niggar....it is what it is

Record has it that the first child in most family doesn't belong to the husband

Ti e ba e.


#yoruba proverb

Am not married

But I came to learn from our own elders.

nairalander2020:
Am not married

But I came to learn from our own elders.

There is no need for elders on this one, it's very clear. Brother, go for DNA test to confirm your fears. If your fears are confirmed, send the child to his father to cater for. After that, to forgive or not to forgive your wife is your prerogative. God forgives, I don't and because of my fear and respect for God, I leave that right exclusively for him. If a woman loves her husband and wants his happiness, she will not open her legs, moan at the hard dick thrust of another man and come back to impose a bastard child on husband.

Meektunz:
First of all I'll like to appreciate God for nairaland, many of you won't know how seeking for advice from this forum has helped us countlessly. Please guys I need your sincere advice on what I'm about to share with you all.

I met my wife in January 2016 and we started dating, during the time of dating I've been a very busy person that hardly have time for her. In no time she got pregnant for me and I hurriedly married her around June same year, she gave birth to a baby boy in 2017. And then gave birth to the second baby in December 2020. But the problem is this, ever since she gave birth to the first child, I've always known that he isn't my child and till date it is still bothering me, people who have passed through this know how turturing it is, sleeping and waking up everyday knowing fully well that a child is not yours. I'm planning on doing a DNA test soonest but i know it is just a waste of money because I'm 85% sure he isn't my blood. He doesn't look like me, he possess some traits that are not in me nor the mother. I have no doubt in the second child. But one thing I know for sure is that she loves me so much that she can do anything in this life just to see me happy, she can do anything just for me, she fair and very beautiful infact anytime I'm walking with her you will see men looking atbher anyhow regardless of the fact that she is walking with her husband. But this child issue is always torturing me no matter how I try to forget it. People especially women tend to see men as wicked when a man ends a marriage after finding out the paternity of a child but my question is, when she was busy sleeping with men up and down, didn't she think of pregnancy? Then why will a man continue to cater for a child when his father is still alive and probably doing financially better than me?

Pls I really need an advice on what to do...

attention seeking mofoeee


we don't believe youuuuuuuuuu

Suspicion is not enough. Do the test. It will cost you money but you will get answers. I’d suggest doing it for the two children. The one you think is yours may not be yours.

Or both could be yours.

Don’t let doubt, anxiety and uncertainty continue to rob you of peace of mind.

AfroKnight:
Suspicion is not enough. Do the test. It will cost you money but you will get answers. I’d suggest doing it for the two children. The one you think is yours may not be yours.

Or both could be yours.

Don’t let doubt, anxiety and uncertainty continue to rob you of peace of mind.

Bro, truly you've spoken well, I swear I can't go good one hour without thinking of this issue. That's how it has been for over 3years now.

Sonnobax15:

Op,why you dey claim say your wife love you, whereas she still dey hide the true paternity of her son away from you? . True love knows no secrets,talk more of hard secrets like this wey fit plunge guyman into a total state of depression and relegation

Well, op,I go like to advise you to still go ahead with your plan of doing the DNA test... Because e go so much better say you get exhibit for hand than mere assumptions.....

Las las,that kid doesn't deserve the torture, because it isn't his fault that he's being the victim of all these wahala.......

Na my advice to you be this, op..........Any ways, everything wey go dey under my roof must go for DNA test, even my dogs and their puppies won't be an exception at all

Trully your advice is legit.... I just want exibit at hand but I'm sure he isn't my child.

The future is DNA

Find out now! Tomorrow may be too late.

Truvelisback:
Find out now! Tomorrow may be too late.

sincerely I'm trying my best to make it soon bro.... I've been living in depression.

The future is DNA test.

The Future is Female DNA Test

Meektunz:
Bro, truly you've spoken well, I swear I can't go good one hour without thinking of this issue. That's how it has been for over 3years now.

3 years of thinking! Bro it’s not healthy to go on like this. You’re strong that’s why you’ve not broken down mentally.

Wish you all the best.

Another paid thread to bash women....now now e go reach frontpage.

xxxtedyxxx:
Ti e ba e.

#yoruba proverb

Yoruba proverb kee you there

Meektunz:
People especially women tend to see men as wicked when a man ends a marriage after finding out the paternity of a child but my question is, when she was busy sleeping with men up and down, didn't she think of pregnancy? Then why will a man continue to cater for a child when his father is still alive and probably doing financially better than me?

Pls I really need an advice on what to do...

I am not entirely sure why you created this thread when you already know what you ought to do since you are happy in your relationship as it is.

As for the questions in bold, why not direct them at your wife who you believe chested on you and burdened you with a child that is not yours?

Let me guess, you are afraid that if you let her go, there are other men out there who will take her and you want to possess her instead?

If the kid is indeed not yours and she hasn't come clean to you by now after four years (and is still passing him off as yours, which is uber deceitful), she obviously won't. For your own peace of mind, get the DNA test done, then confront her about it.

InTheCloudySky:
If the kid is indeed not yours and she hasn't come clean to you by now after four years (and is still passing him off as yours, which is uber deceitful), she obviously won't. For your own peace of mind, get the DNA test done, then confront her about it.

True sir, Do you know the funny part? There was a time she asked if I still have doubt about the paternity of this child and I told her No just for peace to reign. She asked that question because there was a time we had an issue and I told her that I'm not even sure I'm the father of the child. Sincerely once the DNA test confirms my doubt. I'm ending the marriage immediately. The child in question even has one deep voice that neither me nor the mother has.

Carry your cross or do dna
Don’t come here and be doing like mufu