My own advice was, she should go ahead. But the way and manner she's hurting and talking is displeasing to me.
She's like a younger sister to me. Her wedding is comming up ending of this month. The guy is a great guy, good and loving according to her, but the issue is, he's addicted to betnija.
As soon as any money enters his hand, is like a force, he must finish all on betting, otherwise, he will not rest. Sometimes, he even uses her own money to bet.

Invitation cards are everywhere already, she's 36yrs old, they both have a 9yrs old son together, all eyes on her in the family and she wants to settle down from all the insult and humiliation of having a child outside wedlock.

What would you advise? Any experience person who can advise on this?

Dunno

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No need for any advice here, she is 36 and doesn't want to answer single mum anymore so the wedding must hold by fire by force

As soon as any money enters his hand, is like a force, he must finish all on betting, otherwise, he will not rest. Sometimes, he even uses her own money to bet.

Let her put the wedding on hold please, she shouldn't start what she can't continue, so that one day he will not sell their child to play betting or she will never have any savings, na him go steal everything. Arugun omo

ITbomb:
No need for any advice here, she is 36 and doesn't want to answer single mum anymore so the wedding must hold by fire by force

my thought too, but seriously look so depressed when she telling me.

Bola146:

As soon as any money enters his hand, is like a force, he must finish all on betting, otherwise, he will not rest. Sometimes, he even uses her own money to bet.

Let her put the wedding on hold please, she shouldn't start what she can't continue, so that one day he will not sell their child to play betting or she will never have any savings, na him go steal everything. Arugun omo

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. After inviting everybody, venue, published. Too bad

She must marry him by fire by force jus to upgrade her societal status.


One day the husband will use the his entire salary plus money for upkeep for the house to bet.


He could one day use her meeting money or money someone gave her to keep to bet, then everywhere go scatter.


She should better remove "the hand of a chimpanzee from the pot of soup before it turns to a human hand".

If he has always been capable of footing his financial bills and that of his son despite his betting addiction, then she can marry him......, but she has to keep her money far from him after marriage. She should never let him know how much she earns, otherwise he will keep begging and squander her money. She hasn't mentioned any other bad character, so she may consider him. However if he has been squandering her money and can't foot his bills/his child's bills, she better dump him fast.

They should visit a counselor

You are using both him and she
I don't even know who u are referring to again are u talking about the woman or the man?
Well whoever dat is involved, e no concern me
My advice is applying self control in everything u do in life.
I do play bet but am not addicted to it, I don't play virtual soccer tho, only play live match's during the weekend.
The secret is always bet the amount u can afford to loose and it won't pain U if the game cut, dax how I do my own.

Which wedding again, after how many years, why do we like deceiveing ourselves like this, just go to registry and sign the papers, as per the betting, he needs close marking big time...

Does she have any decent choice? Of course none. Marrying someone with gambling habit is serious red flag.

In the marriage she must be very careful with money issues. Hide income and savings from him. When he makes money follow him up bumper to bumper.

The woman must be strong.

That's a huge red flag. Let her call off the relationship if she doesn't want to regret in the future.

No responsible man indulges in gambling. Thats a very bad and strong addiction that most people find difficult to break free from and he'll only end up miserable and impoverished. So, tell her to back out of any marriage plans with him otherwise that will mark the beginning of the end of her happiness and joy. Not a curse but a warning.