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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by nairaland1981: 8:48pm On Nov 06, 2021
A candle looses nothing by lightening another candle.



This issues happen when you are the only light in your family.....

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Nobody: 8:48pm On Nov 06, 2021
Black tax....

Uplift your siblings, set boundaries between your nuclear and extended families,then a will between your children and wife....

Can't imagine my brothers I sent thru school,supported their businesses,empowered and carried them along doing this shitt to my family when I am gone

this mostly happens when the "HAVE" in the family never supported,neglected their siblings when in need....

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Aganju849: 8:49pm On Nov 06, 2021
Sharatan:
The recent news about the fracas between the wife and siblings of the late Femi Osibona who died during the collapse of his 21 storey building at Ikoyi got me thinking; how does one prevent such occurrences after his or her death? because such instances occur especially when there is chunk of wealth left by the deceased.

Every dime that bastard left behind belongs to the other people who died with him, the victims of his criminal conduct while he was building that tower.

Someone please advice them to head to Ozhekome or Falana chambers and file a class action suit ASAP.

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by tundtrex(m): 8:50pm On Nov 06, 2021
Even with your will if you don't do the proper thing by helping the other sibling in your family if you die there will be serious problem as a matter of fact if your family are so confident of the will, the extended family will result to black magic.
BarrElChapo:
Do a damn WILL

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Crunchyg2: 8:50pm On Nov 06, 2021
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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by MarketDispatch: 8:51pm On Nov 06, 2021
NarcissistKing:
If you are the only successful person in your family, make

Write a will also!!!

Could you elaborate on the set boundaries you refer to?
Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by iyke2frankeze: 8:52pm On Nov 06, 2021
BlackPantherxXx:
grin
Once you marry into a flat head family... that one is inevitable.
No be curse... no be Nollywood.

Yes it has a 50/50 chance in other cultures but their own is 101%
As been practalised here by skull minners.

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Sharatan(m): 8:52pm On Nov 06, 2021
abobote:
Death is inevitable and can happen at any time, but we human are reluctant to accept the reality, especially when we are still young.
The best thing is to accept the reality on ground and start your Will once you get married and start having kids
Have you written your own will?

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by NnamdiN: 8:53pm On Nov 06, 2021
My dad made me and my mum signatories to his account and few properties so no shaking.

He also married early, as a result; I'm taller than all of them in the family and frankly I can beat all my uncles who wpuld dare to try nonsense grin grin grin

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by RimiEmma(m): 8:54pm On Nov 06, 2021
Just make sure ur extended family have and see reasons to respect ur immediate family.
Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by fineboynl(m): 8:54pm On Nov 06, 2021
I think family first before wife.
Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by RimiEmma(m): 8:55pm On Nov 06, 2021
NnamdiN:
My dad made me and my mum signatories to his account and few properties so no shaking.

He also married early, as a result; I'm taller than all of them in the family and frankly I can beat all my uncles who wpuld dare to try nonsense grin grin grin
Ur funny na by height lol

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by BlackPantherxXx: 8:55pm On Nov 06, 2021
RightToReject:
If only the hypocritically bigoted, greedy, disingenuous, and wannabe sophisticated lots and their self-hate contentious and contemptuous fellows who are usually in the habit of peddling lies that the Igbo men and culture are the ones that do treat widows and women in general unfairly even when news and evidence every passing second like this one have continually shown the actual culprits, I would have been glad to proffer an answer.

No matter your rants...it is an indisputable fact that your kinsmen cheat their brothers wives over wills. They shave their heads and make them drink corpse water.

Deep down you know this.

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Born2conquer: 8:56pm On Nov 06, 2021
NarcissistKing:
If you are the only successful person in your family, make sure you uplift others (most especially the kids if the parents are not agile) so as not to be a burden to you. Set boundaries between your immediate and extended family and let them respect it while you are alive, but ensure love is between them all.



Write a will also!!!
The only solution is WILL, People are greedy

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by idrisaleo1: 8:56pm On Nov 06, 2021
Islam has got the answer. Practise it the way way Muhammed (peace be upon him) preached. Everyone knows what to get. No cheating here. It is a perfect religion.

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by MarketDispatch: 8:57pm On Nov 06, 2021
Crunchyg2:
I am into food / my profile

200k for 35% share of your company....if you are ready.....Dragons den

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by InvertedHammer: 8:57pm On Nov 06, 2021
Sharatan:
The recent news about the fracas between the wife and siblings of the late Femi Osibona who died during the collapse of his 21 storey building at Ikoyi got me thinking; how does one prevent such occurrences after his or her death? because such instances occur especially when there is chunk of wealth left by the deceased.
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The man has not even been celebrated and buried; they are already fighting about his assets.

Enjoy your wealth to the fullest when you can. Family members still fight even if there is a Will.
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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Sharatan(m): 8:57pm On Nov 06, 2021
GboyegaD:
Why do people struggle for wealth they did not work for? Anyways, a better way to avoid such is to write one's will and review it from time to time.
If possible dey review am every month. If person wey don dey inside d will already come Bleep up, comot him name replace am with another person own
Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by RightToReject(m): 8:57pm On Nov 06, 2021
BlackPantherxXx:


No matter your rants...it is an indisputable fact that your kinsmen cheat their brothers wives over wills. They shave their heads and make them drink corpse water.

Deep down you know this.

Yours is the typical opinion of a hypocritically bigoted, greedy, disingenuous, and wannabe sophisticated element. Only small-minded people like you and your ilks live on hearsay.

Now scram and direct your further mention to small-minded people like you.

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Sharatan(m): 8:58pm On Nov 06, 2021
BlackPantherxXx:


No matter your rants...it is an indisputable fact that your kinsmen cheat their brothers wives over wills. They shave their heads and make them drink corpse water.

Deep down you know this.

Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by BlackPantherxXx: 9:00pm On Nov 06, 2021
RightToReject:


Yours is the typical opinion of a hypocritically bigoted, greedy, disingenuous, and wannabe sophisticated element. Only small-minded people like you and your ilks live on hearsay.

Now scram and direct your further mention to small-minded people like you.

grin

After using half of your dictionary to write...

You and I know that I stated a simple fact.

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by olaitann93(m): 9:00pm On Nov 06, 2021
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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by GboyegaD(m): 9:02pm On Nov 06, 2021
Sharatan:

If possible dey review am every month. If person wey don dey inside d will already come Bleep up, comot him name replace am with another person own

Every month might be challenging and not feasible. May be twice annually.

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by babythug(f): 9:05pm On Nov 06, 2021
All kinds of things cause these sorts of disputes. Even when property is well shared and extended family is well empowered sometimes greed causes such fracas .

A brothet can lay claim because he was the one the funded the deceased while in schools , the wife can decide the extended family always hated her and thus don’t deserve anything. The first child can feel he has the right to all for eg . All sorts of reasons can pop up, I’ve heard of someone who said she borrowed thier mum money to buy the only property left behind and as such it should go to her.

You can’t imagine or assume how people will behave after the demise of their loved one

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by NamelessOGBENI(m): 9:07pm On Nov 06, 2021
abobote:


That aside, imagine having Buhari as your president, and Ole Gunar as your coach, you will never find a reason to be happy. That's where I found myself right now
Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Nobody: 9:07pm On Nov 06, 2021
NarcissistKing:
If you are the only successful person in your family, make sure you uplift others (most especially the kids if the parents are not agile) so as not to be a burden to you. Set boundaries between your immediate and extended family and let them respect it while you are alive, but ensure love is between them all.


Write a will also!!!
You don't speak as your name implies..nice one man..
Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by odimbannamdi(m): 9:08pm On Nov 06, 2021
FutureIsFemale:
TB Joshua's wife is trying to retrive her husband's properties from the family and church.

I believe once a man is dead, his properties are automatically his wife. But men should learn to write their will anything can happen.

Write your will and will everything to your wife. She is the only one that will take care of your children when you die.

What if she isn't a good woman? What if she instigated and caused his death? What if she isn't prudent? What if she remarries to a manipulative man that takes all the properties, leaving his children to suffer?

It is better to will his properties to his children. If the kids are yet to turn 18 or a age where they can make good decisions, then the properties should be managed by a Trust board and the proceeds used to cater for the wife and kids

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by NarcissistKing(m): 9:08pm On Nov 06, 2021
Born2conquer:

The only solution is WILL, People are greedy

Exactly! But you must know that Nigeria is a lawless country. Will don't do justice always.
Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by NarcissistKing(m): 9:09pm On Nov 06, 2021
Rydermaverick:

You don't speak as your name implies..nice one man..

Lol

Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Tranquility2345: 9:10pm On Nov 06, 2021
NarcissistKing:


You set boundaries by building respect. When you're good to your extended family, it will make it easier most times. No family will respect a man that is dissociating himself and his immediate from them. Yes, some families are very bad but not all. Some men are the cause of the family disputes after tgeir death.

You can't expect a family that you neglected or you didn't support while you are alive to treat your wife and kids well after your demise. I always tell people that it's good to empower your family if you have the capacity to do it. Some men are just greedy and too proud that they prefer to be the only successful person in the family.

Are you expecting Davido's aunts and uncles to be fighting over his father's property after his demise? His father is not even the richest among his siblings.

Which of Davido’s father’s siblings are richer than him? You go just open mouth waaaa….

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by BarrElChapo(m): 9:11pm On Nov 06, 2021
tundtrex:
Even with your will if you don't do the proper thing by helping the other sibling in your family if you die there will be serious problem as a matter of fact if your family are so confident of the will, the extended family will result to black magic.

Lolz.. like there's a rule that says you must help your extended family, knowing mostly the have this entitlement mindset.

Well I gat you though but still it's better do die with a will than without cos with a will even at the death of the administrators/executors it is easy for the dead person to be substituted and it keeps on devolving than the rancor caused by one dying intestate.

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by BarrElChapo(m): 9:12pm On Nov 06, 2021
Tranquility2345:


Which of Davido’s father’s siblings are richer than him? You go just open mouth waaaa….

Better waaaaah ooo grin

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