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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Greenishland(f): 10:29pm On Nov 06, 2021

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by fineboynl(m): 10:32pm On Nov 06, 2021

NarcissistKing:

Your wife and kids first!!!

Your wife is the closest to you most especially physically and emotionally. You see her daily and spend more time with her than any member of your family. More reason many married couples use their spouse as next of kin and possibly signatory to accounts and properties.

how can you discard your blood? Wife will abandoned you but your family will remain.

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Poleski: 10:44pm On Nov 06, 2021

Write a will. Case closed

Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by zionzoe(m): 10:49pm On Nov 06, 2021

idrisaleo1:
Islam has got the answer. Practise it the way way Muhammed (peace be upon him) preached. Everyone knows what to get. No cheating here. It is a perfect religion.

How perfect is the Shia and Sunni fracas.

When an epileptic prophet speaks, you delude yourself by not thinking.

Perfect indeed.

Someone that was punished by God not to have a surviving male child.

Ali is not his blood.

Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by odimbannamdi(m): 10:54pm On Nov 06, 2021

FutureIsFemale:
Why would you marry a woman with these attributes in the first place?

You will be surprised at how much and easily people change within a short while.

Just seeing your moniker now. Shouldn't have engaged you in the first place... grin

...my bad!

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by AreaFada2: 10:59pm On Nov 06, 2021

nairaland1981:
A candle looses nothing by lightening another candle.
This issues happen when you are the only light in your family.....

Remember to that lots of people within many families prefer to be given fish to eat daily. Give them a net, they won't go and lift or mend it until it is washed away. Sense of entitlement.

It is easy to say lift family members. How do you lift people who refused to be lifted? There are rich people whose extended family members want to come eat, party, not take education seriously and become leaches. When the "rich" relative has had enough and cuts them adrift, he is called stingy.

Sure, some rich people are not generous and do not help family members in need but that's few. Most do help until they get tired. I have seen many.

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Amanda4life: 11:01pm On Nov 06, 2021

Sharatan:
The recent news about the fracas between the wife and siblings of the late Femi Osibona who died during the collapse of his 21 storey building at Ikoyi got me thinking; how does one prevent such occurrences after his or her death? because such instances occur especially when there is chunk of wealth left by the deceased.

WHETHER YOU SUPPORTED PEOPLES OR NOT.

ONCE YOU DIE AND YOUR ARE RICH,

THE GREEDY ONCE MUST DRAG YOUR WEALTH WITH UR immediate FAMILY.

WHATEVER YOU HAVE DONE FOR THEM , THEY FORGET SO SOON

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by emmnprince(m): 11:04pm On Nov 06, 2021

ouvredeparis:

I'm not saying you should compulsory fit them in... I'm only saying if there's a need to integrate a family member into the business.. make it's either your spouse or your children... Extended family members is a big no..

Ok o.

Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by temmy147: 11:18pm On Nov 06, 2021

You set boundaries by building respect. When you're good to your extended family, it will make it easier most times. No family will respect a man that is dissociating himself and his immediate from them. Yes, some families are very bad but not all. Some men are the cause of the family disputes after tgeir death.

You can't expect a family that you neglected or you didn't support while you are alive to treat your wife and kids well after your demise. I always tell people that it's good to empower your family if you have the capacity to do it. Some men are just greedy and too proud that they prefer to be the only successful person in the family.

Are you expecting Davido's aunts and uncles to be fighting over his father's property after his demise? His father is not even the richest among his siblings.,...
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You have spoken well. But remember you are not God and you cannot help all. But let me say this, Some family member can never be okay no matter how much or how well you settle them especially those that are privy to your finances (some people have this entitlement mentality) that is why you have to keep family away from business.
I used to have a friend who is now late(RIP) we started hustling together immediately after school and God answered him well in his business (not free money but he was working like a donkey) We were doing the same business initially but he was far dedicated more that me. God gave him with a good wife who also was supportive and both of them were doing well. He died of a heart attack and immediately the younger sibling accused the wife of having a hand in his death and next day they started asking for where his car was and all of that. I was shocked because I knew a little about how they were both collaborating and supporting each other. He even helped the younger siblings also in some ways. And about Davido, person wey never die no know wetin go kill am.

Please tell me the richest of Davido"s family if I may ask because I know them well but don't lets discuss the family here.

When you are alive, people do not have choice than to respect you but immediately you are gone, the one that is best close to you and your immediate family is the most dangerous. Keep family away from business and like you said, do your best but never have the believe that you can assist your brothers and sister to their satisfaction (except those that are expose and have the fear of God and exposure is what Davids father already gave to the kids and this is going to help them a lot)

Human being are insatiable and can never be satisfy no matter how you try to please them.

My thought....

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Kobojunkie: 11:21pm On Nov 06, 2021

Sharatan:
The recent news about the fracas between the wife and siblings of the late Femi Osibona who died during the collapse of his 21 storey building at Ikoyi got me thinking; how does one prevent such occurrences after his or her death? because such instances occur especially when there is chunk of wealth left by the deceased.

It is called a Will.... and you are never too young to have one. undecided

Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Coolgent(m): 11:25pm On Nov 06, 2021

Sharatan:
The recent news about the fracas between the wife and siblings of the late Femi Osibona who died during the collapse of his 21 storey building at Ikoyi got me thinking; how does one prevent such occurrences after his or her death? because such instances occur especially when there is chunk of wealth left by the deceased.

According to the Islamic Law Of Inheritance...

If you are a Muslim married with Kids Islam has already stated how your asset will be share among your Wife/Wives, Children and indeed your parents if they are alive.

1. Your Wife or Wives will take 1 over 8 of your all your money (assuming you have 8 millions... 1m must be given to your wife.

2. The remaining money will be share among your children Male children will get double of what female child will have.

Example: after your demise you left 8 millions, you have a wife and 3 Male Child 1 female

Your Wife will receive 1m
Each Male Child 2m
Female 1m
Total: 8m
None of your relative will receive kobo except if your children willingly decide to give them a little out of their individual inheritance.

Note: If your parents are alive father/mother will have 1 over 6.

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by BabaCommander: 11:35pm On Nov 06, 2021

Sharatan:

There's this hidden evil inside money, when e come out to operate na die

For the love of money [that is, the greedy desire for it and the willingness to gain it unethically] is a root of all sorts of evil, and some by longing for it have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves [through and through] with many sorrows.
1 Timothy 6:10

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by bdon123(m): 12:19am On Nov 07, 2021

vickydevoka:

Oga it's natural. Once ur brother is extremely rich n dies, u will be having it in mind he included u in it's will. Imagine otodola die today, that's when u will see he Hass people even children outside. Try n watch big daddy.

Bro there is nothing natural abt that.It called being a thief.Try to convert wat doesn't belong to u is stealing.I will never imagine my broda included m in his will wen he has his own family.I dont even xpect my own fada to giv me wat belongs to him....his property are for him to enjoy his life.My property are for me n my immediate family.

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Nobody: 12:30am On Nov 07, 2021

ednut1:
Get a will na. The man was doing business with his brothers . Then madam wants to come take over. How na

Because she is his wife. By Law, his wife or children will become his Next of Kin!!

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by idrisaleo1: 1:07am On Nov 07, 2021

zionzoe:

How perfect is the Shia and Sunni fracas.

When an epileptic prophet speaks, you delude yourself by not thinking.

Perfect indeed.

Someone that was punished by God not to have a surviving male child.

Ali is not his blood.

I wasn't expecting anything better from some ignorant and hate-filled characters we have on this platform. Read this:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Islamic_inheritance_jurisprudence#:~:text=In%20Islam%2C%20women%20are%20entitled,double%20that%20of%20a%20daughter's.

and tell me if you have got any better solution to the problem. In your rotten mind, a man is cursed for not leaving a male heir behind? Did you just write that?

And Islam is a perfect religion. This is not the religion of men. It is one made by God and practised by all true believers - John the Baptist, Jesus, Abraham, Muhammad, Moses, Mary (peace be upon them all). Your hatred will not stop Islam from growing.

Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by obowunmi(m): 1:19am On Nov 07, 2021

Sharatan:
The recent news about the fracas between the wife and siblings of the late Femi Osibona who died during the collapse of his 21 storey building at Ikoyi got me thinking; how does one prevent such occurrences after his or her death? because such instances occur especially when there is chunk of wealth left by the deceased.

Have a will.

Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Judolisco(m): 4:12am On Nov 07, 2021

Na lazy people dey fight over property

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Bigpapi: 4:45am On Nov 07, 2021

elganzar:
Omo _na to will everything to one dog or cat

make dem too go hustle

You're a cow

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by abbey621(m): 4:59am On Nov 07, 2021

bdon123:

Bro there is nothing natural abt that.It called being a thief.Try to convert wat doesn't belong to u is stealing.I will never imagine my broda included m in his will wen he has his own family.I dont even xpect my own fada to giv me wat belongs to him....his property are for him to enjoy his life.My property are for me n my immediate family.

You're not being realistic, there's no way your father would be Dangote and you wouldn't expect him to leave you anything! Even if na goat or dog, there should be an expectation of some form of inheritance grin

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by gabbytabby: 5:04am On Nov 07, 2021

Always write a will at least it gives an idea about your wishes and would form the basis of any resolution by any fair minded family members who seeks equity and justice for all.

Nigeria is an anyhow country so even when there is a will, greed and covetousness will mean that those who seek to steal will still use every opportunity to disenfranchise others. Also teach, observe, guide those around you especially your children with the spirit of charity, fairness, family loyalty, empathy etc so that they will desire to be a fair human being and just maybe they will honour your wishes.

My father left a will but greed has meant that for a long time greed has meant there were 2 groups those who seek to covert and disenfranchise others and the disenfranchised.

A lot of people are more concerned about being seen as good people than being actually good. This story has encouraged me to allow posterity to correct some ills in our society because our people are diabolical so watch this space.

Sharatan:
The recent news about the fracas between the wife and siblings of the late Femi Osibona who died during the collapse of his 21 storey building at Ikoyi got me thinking; how does one prevent such occurrences after his or her death? because such instances occur especially when there is chunk of wealth left by the deceased.

Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Jaqenhghar: 5:19am On Nov 07, 2021

NarcissistKing:
If you are the only successful person in your family, make sure you uplift others (most especially the kids if the parents are not agile) so as not to be a burden to you. Set boundaries between your immediate and extended family and let them respect it while you are alive, but ensure love is between them all.

Write a will also!!!

Write a will? In Nihggeria if you siggest that they will say you are enemy of progress and wants to kill the person. Rich people dont die in Niggeria

Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by gabbytabby: 5:23am On Nov 07, 2021

vickydevoka:

Oga it's natural. Once ur brother is extremely rich n dies, u will be having it in mind he included u in it's will. Imagine otodola die today, that's when u will see he Hass people even children outside. Try n watch big daddy.

Na as them born you na so them born your brother so it is for you to make your own money. Except your brother desires to make provisions for you in his will, your brothers wealth belongs to his children (and wife or husband and parents if necessary) if the children choose out of family loyalty and charity to favour you then it is their prerogative but not your entitlement.

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by gabbytabby: 5:47am On Nov 07, 2021

While you need to let your family know you have a will, nobody need know the content of the will until you die.

I believe court houses and banks provide for you to lodge your will with them.

Jaqenhghar:

Write a will? In Nihggeria if you siggest that they will say you are enemy of progress and wants to kill the person. Rich people dont die in Niggeria

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Goldbw122(m): 5:48am On Nov 07, 2021

NarcissistKing:

You set boundaries by building respect. When you're good to your extended family, it will make it easier most times. No family will respect a man that is dissociating himself and his immediate from them. Yes, some families are very bad but not all. Some men are the cause of the family disputes after tgeir death.

You can't expect a family that you neglected or you didn't support while you are alive to treat your wife and kids well after your demise. I always tell people that it's good to empower your family if you have the capacity to do it. Some men are just greedy and too proud that they prefer to be the only successful person in the family.

Are you expecting Davido's aunts and uncles to be fighting over his father's property after his demise? His father is not even the richest among his siblings.

You are right, helps comes from where you invest on. nice one.

Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by FutureIsFemale(f): 5:55am On Nov 07, 2021

odimbannamdi:

You will be surprised at how much and easily people change within a short while.

Just seeing your moniker now. Shouldn't have engaged you in the first place... ...my bad!

Why?

Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by HabaHaba: 6:14am On Nov 07, 2021

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Brushless: 6:33am On Nov 07, 2021

mightyhaze:
This guy death touch me ..

Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Nobody: 6:49am On Nov 07, 2021

NarcissistKing:

Lol

Dodorima to you..hope you had a good night rest?

Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by vickydevoka(m): 7:14am On Nov 07, 2021

gabbytabby:

Na as them born you na so them born your brother so it is for you to make your own money. Except your brother desires to make provisions for you in his will, your brothers wealth belongs to his children (and wife or husband and parents if necessary) if the children choose out of family loyalty and charity to favour you then it is their prerogative but not your entitlement.

That's our generation. Then when a man makes money he invest in his village n brings his brothers close, some of them tell their brothers all their properties n investment, bcus de don't trust women. Even for Igbo land when man die na de wife be de first suspect. I hate that practice , buh u see that practice it has help the men to stay Longer. That's y I see Igbo lady stay in marriages more than any other tribe ( I'm not Igbo o).

Buh the truth is that when u are extremely rich just write a will abeg. Most rich men have hidden stuffs. Their wife hardly know anything about them. Most men especially this generation don't trust women. Women has made or obvious is money de want not u. Once de money is no longer there they are done, such thing will make u not to trust them

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Ayodele20(m): 7:56am On Nov 07, 2021

I can be a Multi-billionaire and I will not for a second, think about writing a will.Why? This is because Islam got me covered.Islam the solution to the problems of humanity.
ISLAM is a religion with a clear,clean structural guidelines and this does not exist in any other faith on the face of the earth.Islam teaches us how to get married,how to seek for knowledge,how to divorce and how to share inheritance.It teaches us how to establish a social and political system(Theocracy ; Islam,its values and the Shariah) and an economic system(Islamic banking and commerce).You want to learn how to do trading? Islam tells you how to do it.Want to practice medicine? It tells you its principles.Islam has it all for it is a perfect religion ; and everything is contained in the Qur'an and the traditions of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh).This religion is not lacking for the Creator Himself Has Perfected it!

I think it's time seekers of knowledge learnt about Islam and looked up its Inheritance Laws. ISLAMIC INHERITANCE LAWS- this is a specialty that one can specialize one.You die, leaving behind great wealth? You don't have to worry about disputes.Did you leave your loving mother and or father behind? You don't have to worry about them not getting their fair share after your death. What about your siblings? What about your faithful and loyal wife/wives and children - you fear they'll be cheated? What about a wife who died leaving behind large amount of wealth? You don't have to worry about all of that because Islam will do justice as God Himself taught us how to share it,without cheating anyone,for He Allah(SWT) is Just and Merciful.

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Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by vickydevoka(m): 8:15am On Nov 07, 2021

Amanda4life:

WHETHER YOU SUPPORTED PEOPLES OR NOT.

ONCE YOU DIE AND YOUR ARE RICH,

THE GREEDY ONCE MUST DRAG YOUR WEALTH WITH UR immediate FAMILY.

WHATEVER YOU HAVE DONE FOR THEM , THEY FORGET SO SOON

Didn't he write a will. I believe If he did all dis wahala no go dey. He must include everybody I know that, his wife n kids plus brothers will get something.

When my dad passed, he only had 3 houses so no body struggle bcus we are 5 boys. Buh if my dad has 100 houses, me my self will give my uncle's like 5 houses each, simple. My brothers n I will have 20 each. Bcus my unclea contributed in one way other other for the growth of my dad. Though we have greedy uncle dat will like to take everything. Bcus it happened to my friend from Beni though den he was very small that's y ( he was n orphan

Re: How To Avoid Family Disputes When One Dies by Timmy087(f): 8:18am On Nov 07, 2021

Sonnobax15:

Africans,we still get like over 2 centuries before we go begin think and act like whites...

Ordinary one small yahoo boy wey die last month for my area,you need to see the kind heavy wahala wey the money wey the small boy die leave dey cause among him family members.....Like say the boy wey die no pain them

If I may ask , Wetin kill the Boy ?
Na Bad Walka , him Walka?

Or Inevitable Natural Causes

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