Get someone who was impregnated and her education destroyed to come and talk to her. That’s all you need, apart from prayers.

Drakkernoir:


And too little pressure and enough freedom..you push the child into the waiting hands of wolves, pedophiles, drug users, destiny spoilers without the necessary tools to adapt. The rate of immorality in this present generation is really a pandemic.

True

drlateef:
Get someone who was impregnated and her education destroyed to come and talk to her. That’s all you need, apart from prayers.

lol..Terror 101

CivilzedTyger:
Do u know u are a big fool? Not a small one. So u now as a Christian if ur sister or daughter is out there sharing nudes like an indecent star you'll applaud her and buy her more data cos you're the liberals right,? No wonder majority of online nudists are Christians.

That dude is one of the things that are wrong with this country. Imagine attacking Islam over an issue that is headache for many parents all over the world! I wonder what he will say if a Christian raise the same issue tomorrow?

Solsix:

Hahahaha e pain you

Shut up and stop making a fool of yourself

Apply Sharia law ASAP


Cut one of her fingers and ban her from any form of digital device for the rest of her life

Solsix:
Isllam and force are like 5 and 6. You don't force a way of life on an individual, you ask God to help the individual make the best of choice.
For those quoting me,if someone does not understand why he or she should live a way of like the person will not make the necessary changes no matter how strict the parents are. It will only lead to hypocritic life.

oh I see how Christians dominat BB naija and porn industry

TundeWX:


Seizing her phone will solve nothing if she has full access to her friends,thats why I emphasised on curbing surrounding friends

Giving her back the phone just like that doesn't solve the problem either. Parents can seize phones temporarily for many reasons and this one happens to be on the top of the lists. Why rushing to give her back the phone?

The coming of social media has rendered so many home training useless.

It can not be stopped, but rather delayed, so there is no use seizing her phone unless you have decided she will not use phone again throughout her lifetime.

She has been exposed, and it takes the grace of God for her to be cautious.

Public flogging or behead her , after all na Una de form practice of sharia law

Eriokanmi:
I've seized my daughter's phone several times too. She wasn't feeling good at all. On one occasion I seized it while she was chatting with her friends on WhatsApp. All I saw was gists, gists and gifts with her study group and female friends. I saw some messages sent by boys too, especially romantic words. Some would even type messages which could fill up a fullscap sheet but my daughter didn't respond to any of these , more than the "hi" after bois typed "hello".

Since then, I had stopped seizing her phone but I do monator her chats by sitting close to her and asking her to show me what she's doing with her phone. A good girl will be a good girl and a wayward one too will go that route. But as parents, we can draw them back by talking to and monitoring them. Many might not understand the consequences until they're told. Teenage addiction and peer pressure are normal amongst them and they'd pass the stage but the onus is on us to not allow only them to pass the stage all alone without grooming, monitoring and guiding them and ensure they don't fall down along that path. We were once there too.

Best way to go Sir, caging a child is even worst because in the long run the child will not be able to relate well with his peers and will miss out on very vital information that is peculiar to her generation which will help such child in his or her progress in life. Phone is a must in this dispensation, but they must be guided in a friendly manner, monitored like you are doing and try to caution when necessary or even ask questions like how will they handle some situations when they are faced with the side attractions from boys, uncles and men that lurk around. Same goes to the boy child. In all let them communicate with their peers.

prettysassygirl:
Please let her be,it's a phase,she would be out of it in no time

so if she gets pregnant before the end of the 'phase" nko?





I guess you are just as the same age as the girl in context

Heryormilekan:



Hope you try to check the size of the borehole has been drilled beneath her?

my dear every woman got holes. Ask your mama to show you. That's where you passed through. Respect

RAFFIZY:
Good day everyone, I want to raise an issue that has been bothering me as a sibling, and also to my parents.

My sister who has just finished her SSCE exams has been engaged in indecent chats with various people on her phone, we were brought up under strict muslim parents, honestly they have done a good job parenting so far, for the fact that my mum knew something was fishy because she is always with her phone.

Her phone has been seized, since this happened yesterday she has refused to greet my parents or even assist in helping my mum cook and also refused to eat as well. Both parents have tried the best they can to enlighten us about social media and how to moderately use it, but my sister wouldn't care to listen, it's as if she is possessed because it has happened more than once under my parents watch.

Parents on this forum, kindly suggest ways to treat this matter urgently.

The simple truth is Jesus Christ is the only way.

Matthew 11:28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

Who didn't chat with the opposite sex at adolescent?

Is not your sister fault but blame your parent, your parent caused all these by purchase Android phone for her because nowadays Android phone and internet spoil our girls than any other things.... but honestly i support your parent on this action they took

TundeWX:
Its just a phase,the latter teen stages where rebellion and peer group pressure takes the centre stage in ones fight for individuality....she'll grow out of it eventually,just let her be because the more opposition you create,the greater the rebellious attitude,just talk to her in an even but stern tone about her choice of friends.

Adviser of the century

Solsix:
Isllam and force are like 5 and 6. You don't force a way of life on an individual, you ask God to help the individual make the best of choice.
For those quoting me,if someone does not understand why he or she should live a way of like the person will not make the necessary changes no matter how strict the parents are. It will only lead to hypocritic life.

Did you read in this post anywhere he mentioned force? Why can't you people read before vomiting trash? For your notice I'm not a Muslim

Beebah2000:
Na because she be girl na.
If na boy them no go even bother sef.
Na wa ooo

And your stupid self support her behaviour?

RAFFIZY:
Good day everyone, I want to raise an issue that has been bothering me as a sibling, and also to my parents.

My sister who has just finished her SSCE exams has been engaged in indecent chats with various people on her phone, we were brought up under strict muslim parents, honestly they have done a good job parenting so far, for the fact that my mum knew something was fishy because she is always with her phone.

Her phone has been seized, since this happened yesterday she has refused to greet my parents or even assist in helping my mum cook and also refused to eat as well. Both parents have tried the best they can to enlighten us about social media and how to moderately use it, but my sister wouldn't care to listen, it's as if she is possessed because it has happened more than once under my parents watch.

Parents on this forum, kindly suggest ways to treat this matter urgently.

Are you Sufi?

RAFFIZY:
Good day everyone, I want to raise an issue that has been bothering me as a sibling, and also to my parents.

My sister who has just finished her SSCE exams has been engaged in indecent chats with various people on her phone, we were brought up under strict muslim parents, honestly they have done a good job parenting so far, for the fact that my mum knew something was fishy because she is always with her phone.

Her phone has been seized, since this happened yesterday she has refused to greet my parents or even assist in helping my mum cook and also refused to eat as well. Both parents have tried the best they can to enlighten us about social media and how to moderately use it, but my sister wouldn't care to listen, it's as if she is possessed because it has happened more than once under my parents watch.

Parents on this forum, kindly suggest ways to treat this matter urgently.

Kuku give her a Nokia torchlight phone

Qatar2022:

And your stupid self support her behaviour?

Oga, I am not supporting her behaviour.

Post her ohine number here.

She will.be re parented within 5 days sharp sharp. She is got sine talents to heavily explore.

Your parents have done their best.

RAFFIZY:
Good day everyone, I want to raise an issue that has been bothering me as a sibling, and also to my parents.

My sister who has just finished her SSCE exams has been engaged in indecent chats with various people on her phone, we were brought up under strict muslim parents, honestly they have done a good job parenting so far, for the fact that my mum knew something was fishy because she is always with her phone.

Her phone has been seized, since this happened yesterday she has refused to greet my parents or even assist in helping my mum cook and also refused to eat as well. Both parents have tried the best they can to enlighten us about social media and how to moderately use it, but my sister wouldn't care to listen, it's as if she is possessed because it has happened more than once under my parents watch.

Parents on this forum, kindly suggest ways to treat this matter urgently.

Omoluabi16:
She's at THAT stage of her life where she thinks she has it all figured out. She needs to be properly and carefully guided. You can't beat her, or leave her to her fate. Moreover, it's quite extreme refusing to greet your parents or help with chores. What a shame. Seizing her phone was the right step.
When I start raising children, I would totally control their social media until they're 18, or get their admission.

Lewl. I agree with some here...

Solsix:
Isllam and force are like 5 and 6. You don't force a way of life on an individual, you ask God to help the individual make the best of choice.
For those quoting me,if someone does not understand why he or she should live a way of like the person will not make the necessary changes no matter how strict the parents are. It will only lead to hypocritic life.

This applies to adults. So if shes old enough biko let her make her choice.
All you can do is let her know the pros and cons and know that you love her all the same.

Actually bro i feel for u.but the wayout is prayer.just pray for her and every humanbein have their own test perhaps thats her own

Magnoliaa:

Lewl. I agree with some here...

Oya now which one do you disagree with

Send her to a university in Afghanistan

Omoluabi16:
Oya now which one do you disagree with

Strict control of your children's SM use until they are 18 or so... or unless you explain what you mean/how...

Allow her use her phone, please. Some of you did nasty things with 2go, Blackberry Messenger, Etc. If chatting with boys is the issue, all you have to do is to guide her! No allow hijab f00l you, nearly all young teenagers want to chat/interact with the opposite sex.

Beebah2000:
Na because she be girl na.
If na boy them no go even bother sef.
Na wa ooo

Na Una dey spoil the world, you guys need to caution else our world will burn.

Solsix:
Isllam and force are like 5 and 6. You don't force a way of life on an individual, you ask God to help the individual make the best of choice.
For those quoting me,if someone does not understand why he or she should live a way of like the person will not make the necessary changes no matter how strict the parents are. It will only lead to hypocritic life.

most of you with this backwards thinking, some of you guys will be worst than Buhari if Una mistakenly get to power, just because the dude stated de are Muslim, you don twist religion jargons out of the issue. So back to the real issue, this is way typical African parents handle issues like this either they are Muslim or Christian or traditional woshiper